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By *abyblues2023 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at

This is a very hard subject to talk about for me... I was just wondering if anyone else has been diagnosed with a mental health condition?

I have eupd/bpd but the quiet type I don't get angry with it

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng


"This is a very hard subject to talk about for me... I was just wondering if anyone else has been diagnosed with a mental health condition?

I have eupd/bpd but the quiet type I don't get angry with it

"

Not currently but I had quite serious depression for many years.

You should feel no more shame in having a mental health condition as having a broken arm. But I know from experience it is all well and good saying that. Feeling it is something else.

I am not familiar eupd/BPD enough to give advice but reach out to charities, support groups and any help you can get from anywhere.

Therapy saved my life and in time then I created a life for myself.

You are not alone with having mental health issues. And you will not be alone in having BPD/EUPD. You are not your condition. You just have this condition.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Exactly what Amber said goes for me too.

You’re brave to talk about it and I hope you can get the right kind of support.

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By *abyblues2023 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at


"This is a very hard subject to talk about for me... I was just wondering if anyone else has been diagnosed with a mental health condition?

I have eupd/bpd but the quiet type I don't get angry with it

Not currently but I had quite serious depression for many years.

You should feel no more shame in having a mental health condition as having a broken arm. But I know from experience it is all well and good saying that. Feeling it is something else.

I am not familiar eupd/BPD enough to give advice but reach out to charities, support groups and any help you can get from anywhere.

Therapy saved my life and in time then I created a life for myself.

You are not alone with having mental health issues. And you will not be alone in having BPD/EUPD. You are not your condition. You just have this condition. "

That's true, its just a condition it's not Me. There's a stigma attached no Matter how hard we try to pretend there's not.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

There are often mental health support threads in the lounge, you have stepped into the right place

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Anxiety

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By *abyblues2023 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at


"There are often mental health support threads in the lounge, you have stepped into the right place "

I will have a search then thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have many mental illnesses some of which have ruined my life lol

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"There are often mental health support threads in the lounge, you have stepped into the right place

I will have a search then thank you "

They pop up most weeks, usually titled something like checking in

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By *abyblues2023 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at


"Yes I have many mental illnesses some of which have ruined my life lol "

I am the same

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"Yes I have many mental illnesses some of which have ruined my life lol

I am the same "

Self care Saturday thread running now

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Yes I have cPTSD. I am told it is too complex for therapy. I guess I broke the system: winning!! To be fair I cope quite well with it. I tend only to experience hypo-arousal and dissociate when I am triggered. So I don't explode, which obviously we can't have as that would be a social faux pas. Display of emotion that just won't do! (Sarcasm)

My partner was diagnosed with EUPD: Borderline.

There's a lot of stigma around the diagnosis, but attitudes have improved significantly within MH services. Last time I checked the NICE guidelines literature suggests around 50% of people with BPD reach a stage of recovery where they no longer meet the criteria for diagnosis. It is being recognised as being treatable.

My partner had a torrid time, but she learnt to cope really well with it and we had a really good relationship. One of the things there's a lot of stigma about. MBT and DBT helped her with emotional regulation significantly. And challenging intrusive thoughts.

Like you say, it's an illness it doesn't have to define you. A big part of it is other people in your life understanding how it affects you.

I do wish you well, I know how challenging BPD can be.

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By *abyblues2023 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at


"Yes I have cPTSD. I am told it is too complex for therapy. I guess I broke the system: winning!! To be fair I cope quite well with it. I tend only to experience hypo-arousal and dissociate when I am triggered. So I don't explode, which obviously we can't have as that would be a social faux pas. Display of emotion that just won't do! (Sarcasm)

My partner was diagnosed with EUPD: Borderline.

There's a lot of stigma around the diagnosis, but attitudes have improved significantly within MH services. Last time I checked the NICE guidelines literature suggests around 50% of people with BPD reach a stage of recovery where they no longer meet the criteria for diagnosis. It is being recognised as being treatable.

My partner had a torrid time, but she learnt to cope really well with it and we had a really good relationship. One of the things there's a lot of stigma about. MBT and DBT helped her with emotional regulation significantly. And challenging intrusive thoughts.

Like you say, it's an illness it doesn't have to define you. A big part of it is other people in your life understanding how it affects you.

I do wish you well, I know how challenging BPD can be. "

I'm starting dbt soon so I'll see how that goes

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By *abyblues2023 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at

Just to clarify doesn't mean I don't need good sex

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Just to clarify doesn't mean I don't need good sex "

There's always one, I'm sorry!

I've had a few diagnoses over the last 25 years. The stigma is definitely less than it used to be, although it's not where it should be

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By *abyblues2023 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at


"Just to clarify doesn't mean I don't need good sex

There's always one, I'm sorry!

I've had a few diagnoses over the last 25 years. The stigma is definitely less than it used to be, although it's not where it should be "

I agree sorry for lowering the tone

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Just to clarify doesn't mean I don't need good sex

There's always one, I'm sorry!

I've had a few diagnoses over the last 25 years. The stigma is definitely less than it used to be, although it's not where it should be

I agree sorry for lowering the tone "

Oh, I assume you had a private offer lowering the tone. Happens to a lot of us

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By *abyblues2023 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at


"Just to clarify doesn't mean I don't need good sex

There's always one, I'm sorry!

I've had a few diagnoses over the last 25 years. The stigma is definitely less than it used to be, although it's not where it should be

I agree sorry for lowering the tone

Oh, I assume you had a private offer lowering the tone. Happens to a lot of us"

No private offers here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have depression and anxiety. I know people worth BPD.

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

I’ve been diagnosed with Anxiety, though going through therapy to bring myself slowly out of it and get back to who I once was.

Medicated for 2 months, in conjunction with therapy, it’s helped. A lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. You're not alone, don't ever forget that. A stigma does surround mental health but it's good to talk and there is nothing to feel ashamed about. You are surrounded by so many who are dealing with the same thing.

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By *abyblues2023 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at


"Yes. You're not alone, don't ever forget that. A stigma does surround mental health but it's good to talk and there is nothing to feel ashamed about. You are surrounded by so many who are dealing with the same thing. "

I'm glad I opened up now

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By *r.SJMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough


"This is a very hard subject to talk about for me... I was just wondering if anyone else has been diagnosed with a mental health condition?

I have eupd/bpd but the quiet type I don't get angry with it

Not currently but I had quite serious depression for many years.

You should feel no more shame in having a mental health condition as having a broken arm. But I know from experience it is all well and good saying that. Feeling it is something else.

I am not familiar eupd/BPD enough to give advice but reach out to charities, support groups and any help you can get from anywhere.

Therapy saved my life and in time then I created a life for myself.

You are not alone with having mental health issues. And you will not be alone in having BPD/EUPD. You are not your condition. You just have this condition.

That's true, its just a condition it's not Me. There's a stigma attached no Matter how hard we try to pretend there's not. "

It's something to be proud of, taking hold of it and speaking openly as well and any chance of therapy is always worth a shot but, without being the pessimist... don't put everything on it. I've been seeing a psychologist for nearly a year and we've had some long and deep discussions about mental health and how one box doesn't fit all. I've learnt from her, same as she has me.

I've suffered varying degrees of depression and anxiety over the years and now awaiting a referral for autism (taken this long to be recognised as a possibility) and she also thinks a dose of ptsd. On a day to day basis, I try and find my own ways of dealing with and getting on... some days harder than others but, it is what is.

Being here is a good thing though, just try not to let it get to you. As a bloke abs regard the sex or getting meets, it doesn't really happen and sometimes I'll withdraw rather than let it get to me but, generally, they're a good bunch and it's nice having people in my phone... even if I barely interact. Hopefully you can find that balance and the good side of things too.

Regard stigma, which I could argue against it and maybe things are getting better but, I feel it. I missed the Beast from the East due to being in an induced coma for a week after an overdose... and this is one of the few times I've ever mentioned it but hopefully in my doing so, you'll realise it's OK.

And being localish... if you ever want a coffee or a natter, can always drop me a dm.

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By *uke_silverMan
over a year ago

London

I have never understood the stigma surrounding mental health. Mental health IS health, and people aren't shy when talking about other organs - what makes the brain taboo? Unfortunately, as much as I may not understand it, I know it still exists - so much so that some people actively avoid seeking help from mental health professionals even when it is in their best interests. Well done OP for being open, I think it'll help reduce the stigma for anyone who sees this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm glad you spoke out and see that you're not alone.xx

Inbox open if you want a chat OP

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By *abyblues2023 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at


"This is a very hard subject to talk about for me... I was just wondering if anyone else has been diagnosed with a mental health condition?

I have eupd/bpd but the quiet type I don't get angry with it

Not currently but I had quite serious depression for many years.

You should feel no more shame in having a mental health condition as having a broken arm. But I know from experience it is all well and good saying that. Feeling it is something else.

I am not familiar eupd/BPD enough to give advice but reach out to charities, support groups and any help you can get from anywhere.

Therapy saved my life and in time then I created a life for myself.

You are not alone with having mental health issues. And you will not be alone in having BPD/EUPD. You are not your condition. You just have this condition.

That's true, its just a condition it's not Me. There's a stigma attached no Matter how hard we try to pretend there's not.

It's something to be proud of, taking hold of it and speaking openly as well and any chance of therapy is always worth a shot but, without being the pessimist... don't put everything on it. I've been seeing a psychologist for nearly a year and we've had some long and deep discussions about mental health and how one box doesn't fit all. I've learnt from her, same as she has me.

I've suffered varying degrees of depression and anxiety over the years and now awaiting a referral for autism (taken this long to be recognised as a possibility) and she also thinks a dose of ptsd. On a day to day basis, I try and find my own ways of dealing with and getting on... some days harder than others but, it is what is.

Being here is a good thing though, just try not to let it get to you. As a bloke abs regard the sex or getting meets, it doesn't really happen and sometimes I'll withdraw rather than let it get to me but, generally, they're a good bunch and it's nice having people in my phone... even if I barely interact. Hopefully you can find that balance and the good side of things too.

Regard stigma, which I could argue against it and maybe things are getting better but, I feel it. I missed the Beast from the East due to being in an induced coma for a week after an overdose... and this is one of the few times I've ever mentioned it but hopefully in my doing so, you'll realise it's OK.

And being localish... if you ever want a coffee or a natter, can always drop me a dm. "

Thank you same to you dm me anytime

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By *abyblues2023 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at


"I have never understood the stigma surrounding mental health. Mental health IS health, and people aren't shy when talking about other organs - what makes the brain taboo? Unfortunately, as much as I may not understand it, I know it still exists - so much so that some people actively avoid seeking help from mental health professionals even when it is in their best interests. Well done OP for being open, I think it'll help reduce the stigma for anyone who sees this."

I hope it does

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By *abyblues2023 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at


"I'm glad you spoke out and see that you're not alone.xx

Inbox open if you want a chat OP"

Thank you so Much

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

I have depression and anxiety.

It is fairly well managed, but I struggle more in winter.

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By *abyblues2023 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at


"I have depression and anxiety.

It is fairly well managed, but I struggle more in winter."

Christmas is hard as your 'supposed to be happy'

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
over a year ago

your head

Yeah, anxiety mostly. It's generally under control but can rear it's ugly head the wrong situations. You're not alone OP, Feel free to pm if you ever want to talk

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante


"I have depression and anxiety.

It is fairly well managed, but I struggle more in winter.

Christmas is hard as your 'supposed to be happy' "

Very. I hate it, but hide it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have depression and anxiety.

It is fairly well managed, but I struggle more in winter.

Christmas is hard as your 'supposed to be happy'

Very. I hate it, but hide it."

Nrw Year always hits me hard

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By *r.SJMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough


"I have depression and anxiety.

It is fairly well managed, but I struggle more in winter.

Christmas is hard as your 'supposed to be happy' "

God this fucks me off (excuse the language) but the whole "supposed to be" really screws my head and is just another example of society passing judgement and setting expectations that only fuel the feelings of those that fall outside the box.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Antisocial personality disorder, Disassocitive disorder, BPD and depression.

Just a heads up for any guys out there on Antidepressants. Citalopram delays ejactulation but not in a good way, after 12 weeks it should go back to normal.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I have depression and anxiety.

It is fairly well managed, but I struggle more in winter."

I find a sunlight lamp and a sunrise alarm clock help me a lot

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

Talking about it and getting some help is key.Friend of mine shot himself at the beginning of July,aged 75,no physical illness diagnosed,reason unknown.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Talking about it and getting some help is key.Friend of mine shot himself at the beginning of July,aged 75,no physical illness diagnosed,reason unknown."

Sorry for your loss

One reason am glad don't have access to guns

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,


"Talking about it and getting some help is key.Friend of mine shot himself at the beginning of July,aged 75,no physical illness diagnosed,reason unknown.

Sorry for your loss

One reason am glad don't have access to guns "

Glad he did it this way instead of walking in front of a train,jumping off a viaduct,wrist slash or booze and pills.He had the forethought to shoot himself through the heart,sparing his wife the agony of identifying a headless corpse.Glad I have that option too should I ever need it,terminal illness such as motor neurone disease.

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