FabSwingers.com forum: Your judgement

By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

Do you think you have good judgement when it comes to choosing people to spend time with?

Any examples of why you think this way?

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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago

southeast , midlands, southern France

I'm normally a good judge of character in everyday life. But on fabs I get it wrong every time ?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I enjoy the people I choose to spend time with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now a days yes in the past no learned my lesson the hard way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and no

I sometimes feel I am naive and trust peoples word, I am learning to be better with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do yes....hence I dont meet much

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Yes, I trust my gut instinct with people and it has never let me down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you mean in general I think yes...

If you mean, based on meets from profiles and a quick online chat... 50/50. Online profiles a persona don't necessarily correlate to real life

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Yes I have had some of the loveliest fwbs.

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"I'm normally a good judge of character in everyday life. But on fabs I get it wrong every time ?"

Every time!? That is actually fairly impressive. I am unsure whether to congratulate or commiserate you.

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"I enjoy the people I choose to spend time with

As you should!

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"Now a days yes in the past no learned my lesson the hard way "

Good job on learning, how did you figure that out?

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

not to bad, but sometimes get it wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, no and not at all

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"Yes and no

I sometimes feel I am naive and trust peoples word, I am learning to be better with it "

Choosing to trust someone and being let down by them is a reflection on them not on you. Or something like that. Apparently. Damn that therapist was £40 an hour I should have taken notes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon I'm pretty good at judging people.

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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago

southeast , midlands, southern France

"I'm normally a good judge of character in everyday life. But on fabs I get it wrong every time ?

Every time!? That is actually fairly impressive. I am unsure whether to congratulate or commiserate you."

Commiserate probably

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

In general I always trust my gut instinct. I've never once been wrong when I initially judge someone negatively but it's not infallible and I've misjudged a couple of times when people where were initially ok turned out to be anything but.

On here it's exactly the same except the effort some people put into deception is off the scale.

You really can fool most of the people all of the time.

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"I do yes....hence I dont meet much

Ahhh the self cockblock.

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"Yes, I trust my gut instinct with people and it has never let me down."

Can I borrow your gut?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do yes....hence I dont meet much

Ahhh the self cockblock. "

The very one lol

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

When I remember to avoid the fuckboi's yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recently no.

But whatever... live in the moment and enjoy it.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"I reckon I'm pretty good at judging people.

You just think they are all pricks.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Most certainly without any doubt on and off the site. It's funny as I have loads of male friends off the site but more female maybe because I don't act like a creep

nor am one

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm incredibly lucky to be surrounded by genuinely fantastic people at Dangerous Curves nights at Kubs and Curvaceous Creatures at Purple Mamba, so yes, I absolutely am! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I reckon I'm pretty good at judging people.

You just think they are all pricks."

And am I wrong??

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By *arialoueWoman
over a year ago

bradford

My judgement on ppl to meat is crap I always seem to choose ppl who I think are great turn out to be dick heads n looses with out a back bone

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"If you mean in general I think yes...

If you mean, based on meets from profiles and a quick online chat... 50/50. Online profiles a persona don't necessarily correlate to real life "

You are right. My name isn't even Amber!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes and no

I sometimes feel I am naive and trust peoples word, I am learning to be better with it

Choosing to trust someone and being let down by them is a reflection on them not on you. Or something like that. Apparently. Damn that therapist was £40 an hour I should have taken notes."

£40/hour I’d need to spend thousands

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"Yes I have had some of the loveliest fwbs."

When you are finished with them send them my way. I will wipe them down before I send them back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello OP.

Would you like to spend some time with me

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"not to bad, but sometimes get it wrong"

But sometimes wrong is oh so right.

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"Nope, no and not at all

Sorry it is unclear. Could you reply once more? Are you saying you have bad judgement?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Sometimes I'm right, sometimes I'm wrong. I don't know how you can judge character until you know someone a bit

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"I reckon I'm pretty good at judging people.

You just think they are all pricks.

And am I wrong??"

I don't think you are wrong. But some pricks are fun too right? Or is that where I am going wrong?

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

On the whole I'm quite intuitive and have sufficient acumen when engaging with women who wish to meet. I've never had a bad encounter but have been wise enough to suppress any potential time-wasters, fantasists or those who simply fall foul of my caveats and conditions stated on my profile.

I had a recent 'near miss' — things simply didn't feel right with her apathetic demeanor and subtle breadcumbing tendancies. I culled that engagement immediately.

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"In general I always trust my gut instinct. I've never once been wrong when I initially judge someone negatively but it's not infallible and I've misjudged a couple of times when people where were initially ok turned out to be anything but.

On here it's exactly the same except the effort some people put into deception is off the scale.

You really can fool most of the people all of the time. "

Sometimes effort pays off. Though I don't think this is what my mum meant when she said it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now a days yes in the past no learned my lesson the hard way

Good job on learning, how did you figure that out?"

By them hurting me over and over before saying anuff was a nuff

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

For the most part yes. I'm getting better at recognising what it is that brings me joy, surrounding myself with people who make me genuinely happy.

I'm also getting better at realising when I might be... not filled with joy at spending time with a person so I'm practising saying no more now.

I don't think I ever really know someone until I take the chance to learn them but on the same hand; I'm better at knowing when some thing will or won't work for me.

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"When I remember to avoid the fuckboi's yes!

They are called fuckbois because boi I wanna fuck them*.

*I don't. Please don't message saying that you are a fuck boi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I reckon I'm pretty good at judging people.

You just think they are all pricks.

And am I wrong??

I don't think you are wrong. But some pricks are fun too right? Or is that where I am going wrong?"

Oh no, some are very fun.

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"Hello OP.

Would you like to spend some time with me

I am unsure if I trust my judgement. Let me get back to you at the end of this thread.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I'm incredibly lucky to be surrounded by genuinely fantastic people at Dangerous Curves nights at Libs and Curvaceous Creatures at Purple Mamba, so yes, I absolutely am! Xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, no and not at all

Sorry it is unclear. Could you reply once more? Are you saying you have bad judgement?

Aha, that might be an understatement… but you live and learn

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

I enjoy everyone i choose to spend time with even if not sexually

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london

I’m normally a good judge of character until I’m not does that make sense

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"Recently no.

But whatever... live in the moment and enjoy it."

This will be my new screen saver.

"Whatever... live in the moment and enjoy it" will be bouncing around my screen in the morning.

Nothing else has been bouncing this weekend so that might as well.

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"I'm incredibly lucky to be surrounded by genuinely fantastic people at Dangerous Curves nights at Kubs and Curvaceous Creatures at Purple Mamba, so yes, I absolutely am! Xx"

Are you in marketing?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Not very.

I can't tell if someone I've just had sex with has lied to me or is a bigot.

I can only take them on face value.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see lots of complaints on fab. But either by good judgement or sheer luck..I absolutely enjoy the company who I choose to spend time with

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

I’m desperate.

Show the slightest bit of interest in me and I’ll be your dog.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m desperate.

Show the slightest bit of interest in me and I’ll be your dog."

Good boy.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Sometimes I'm right, sometimes I'm wrong. I don't know how you can judge character until you know someone a bit"

A lot. A bit only scratches the surface for me.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"I’m desperate.

Show the slightest bit of interest in me and I’ll be your dog.

Good boy."

*pants*

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"Do you think you have good judgement when it comes to choosing people to spend time with?

Any examples of why you think this way?

I’m too suspicious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello OP.

Would you like to spend some time with me

I am unsure if I trust my judgement. Let me get back to you at the end of this thread.

I’ll be waiting.

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"Most certainly without any doubt on and off the site. It's funny as I have loads of male friends off the site but more female maybe because I don't act like a creep

nor am one "

No doubt? Don't speak, I know just what you're sayin.

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By *ilBWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

"I’m desperate.

Show the slightest bit of interest in me and I’ll be your dog."

Walkies chap?

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"My judgement on ppl to meat is crap I always seem to choose ppl who I think are great turn out to be dick heads n looses with out a back bone"

So does that mean you should do the absolute opposite of everything you have been doing so far?

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"Sometimes I'm right, sometimes I'm wrong. I don't know how you can judge character until you know someone a bit"

Absolutely. I always hope my initial assessment is correct but only time will tell. That or the newspaper headline.

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"On the whole I'm quite intuitive and have sufficient acumen when engaging with women who wish to meet. I've never had a bad encounter but have been wise enough to suppress any potential time-wasters, fantasists or those who simply fall foul of my caveats and conditions stated on my profile.

I had a recent 'near miss' — things simply didn't feel right with her apathetic demeanor and subtle breadcumbing tendancies. I culled that engagement immediately."

Lazy on the keyboard was she? Can I get a copy of your culling message to save for future use?

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"Now a days yes in the past no learned my lesson the hard way

Good job on learning, how did you figure that out?

By them hurting me over and over before saying anuff was a nuff "

Fuck them. Good for you. They don't deserve that power.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

My gut instinct generally serves me better than overthinking.

I tend to go with that, be myself and be open - Which leaves me predisposed to the best people for me and perhaps ironically at times in my life: the worst. Not that they are necessarily 'bad' people just not good for me.

I am not afraid to be hurt, which is kind of my saving grace. And I tend to own it when that happens and remind myself that it was my choice.

I trust that my experience hones my judgement and I don't beat myself up when the outcomes aren't the best. It's good but it's fallible, because well - I'm human.

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"For the most part yes. I'm getting better at recognising what it is that brings me joy, surrounding myself with people who make me genuinely happy.

I'm also getting better at realising when I might be... not filled with joy at spending time with a person so I'm practising saying no more now.

I don't think I ever really know someone until I take the chance to learn them but on the same hand; I'm better at knowing when some thing will or won't work for me."

Ah Meli, the voice of reason. The word 'no' can be a more exciting and joyful word than 'yes' sometimes. Especially when it is reflecting your own desires. Your reply has brought me joy.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"I’m desperate.

Show the slightest bit of interest in me and I’ll be your dog.

Walkies chap?

*licks balls with renewed vigour *

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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"I’m desperate.

Show the slightest bit of interest in me and I’ll be your dog.

Good boy.

*pants*"

I have a big juicy bone for you.

I mean don't but this is fab so it shouldn't take too long to find one.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I had a recent 'near miss' — things simply didn't feel right with her apathetic demeanor and subtle breadcumbing tendancies. I culled that engagement immediately.

Lazy on the keyboard was she? Can I get a copy of your culling message to save for future use?"

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Certainly. I have a repertoire of such responses.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

If you mean men (rather than platonic friends), I'd have to say yes based on not feeling bad, miserable or hard done by

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to think so. That's why we've not met The Frattellis yet.

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