FabSwingers.com forum: How long between lovers?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How long do you leave it before seeing someone knowing you'll be having sex with the when you've just had sex with someone else?

Hours? Days? Weeks?

Can you have sex with more than one person in a day in terms of one to one encounters outside of a club?

And do you think it's strange that some people can have threesomes or more but not be able to sleep with multiple people in a day or in the same week?

And how do you feel from the other side ? If you knew someone you were about to have sex with had recently had sex with someone else, how recent would it need to be to bug you?

Disclaimer....I already know my answers to these questions. This isn't about me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own I say but I’d leave it at least a week before I met anyone else that I was in contact with

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

I have on two consecutive days on one occasion..

I felt so guilty

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have on two consecutive days on one occasion..

I felt so guilty

Did you? Why?

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I prefer to have a day before I meet someone where I’m not doing anything or even texting anyone else. It doesn’t always work out that way, but if I was asked to and I have been then I’m happy to do that.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Several times I have had three different meets in a day.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I have on two consecutive days on quite a lot of occasions.

I felt a bit guilty too, but I know I didn’t need to. Everyone involved was happy. I think there’s just a bit of instinct that maybe it’s not respectful or something …

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Several times I have had three different meets in a day. "
for coffee your head must have been buzzin

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I'd rather not know about when they last or when they were next having a shag

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I have on two consecutive days on one occasion..

I felt so guilty

Did you? Why?"

I was being sarcastic... They both knew anyway haha .. Always open and upfront me

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I don’t see how the time span is relevant.

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By *herry delightWoman
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"How long do you leave it before seeing someone knowing you'll be having sex with the when you've just had sex with someone else? "

A few days. It depends. Sometimes I'm still really horny after - the joy of being a woman who can have multiple orgasms whilst men can have max of six (in recent experiences) and be sated. It's a good job I have a fiancé or I'll be a terror.

"Can you have sex with more than one person in a day in terms of one to one encounters outside of a club? "

I have done before. The man I was seeing at the time was really not as cool with it as he said. I'm past that stage though. Wouldn't do it now.

"And do you think it's strange that some people can have threesomes or more but not be able to sleep with multiple people in a day or in the same week? "

No. It's a different dynamic. People are different aren't they? In my mind I'd rather give someone my full energy and not be spent or not focusing my energy on that person beforehand. I find anticipation is really important for me to be in the mood. Like the flirting in the run up.

"And how do you feel from the other side ? If you knew someone you were about to have sex with had recently had sex with someone else, how recent would it need to be to bug you? "

It's not so much as time frame, it's more about how it's approached. If someone can give me the energy, make me feel desired, I'm fine with a couple of days before. I don't want to feel like a fluffer or like they've already used up their energy elsewhere. Women, it's different. Men, I can usually tell. I had one experience when I was dating someone where it was so obvious they'd had sex the night before because they just weren't... you know very into it. I'm putting it delicately here. I like feeling really desired and wanted. Not a half arsed fuck because while they do want to see me, they've already emptied their load down another woman's throat.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"I'd rather not know about when they last or when they were next having a shag "

This is my take on it to. Also, its none of my business. Honestly though if I found out they had/were seeing someone the same day I'd be miffed.

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I’m not meeting anyone these days but if I did, I’d rather be in sweet oblivion of their whereabouts.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Personally I enjoy anticipation so I usually like there to be some degree of build up when it's a new person. Though it's common that I'll have sex with my partner in the days after going to a club because of the post event horn

. Personally I'm not bothered how long it's been since someone had sex with someone else as long as they've washed in between.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

I don't think it would cross my mind to even think about whether my lover had tecently had sex, or will be soon.

For myself, I guess I'd wait till the next day, but not for any particularly significant reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer really not to speak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In times or drought I look foward to the deluge.

Sometimes I've got ot like that sometimes I ain't got nothing at all.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Sometimes the timing is out of your hands. It just is what it is. So long as you’re fully in the moment and full of desire when you’re with each person, I don’t feel it’s an issue.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"How long do you leave it before seeing someone knowing you'll be having sex with the when you've just had sex with someone else?

Hours? Days? Weeks?

Can you have sex with more than one person in a day in terms of one to one encounters outside of a club?

And do you think it's strange that some people can have threesomes or more but not be able to sleep with multiple people in a day or in the same week?

And how do you feel from the other side ? If you knew someone you were about to have sex with had recently had sex with someone else, how recent would it need to be to bug you?

Disclaimer....I already know my answers to these questions. This isn't about me."

Looking back to my past incarnation as a single pringle it varied.

I often had meets planned away from home where I'd have my usual coffee pit stop down the M5 with Fox during the day which occasionally involved a little more than caffeine, but in general I rarely saw two people same day. Unless they were a couple of course.

I used to take advantage of travel with work so could easily arrange a couple of meets a week and make the most of the company card and hotel bookings.

Now it will be fundamentally different. Being self employed my work pattern varies and I need to plan in advance much more than before and I'm also not looking to go back to being the 'forum whore' of old. Been there. Was fun. Things are different now.

I'd be happy with a couple of meets a week (what guy wouldn’t

) but I could easily go long spells without sex. Was different before and barely a day went past without some kind of activity, but that's part of the territory for (good) married life.

And as for would it bother me if someone had just had sex that day already, the day before or a whole month ago? Not in the slightest. Wouldn't affect my decision to meet them at all as long as they weren't nodding off due to exhaustion whilst my head was between their legs.

Moans of pleasure are a turn on. Snoring not so much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually a couple of weeks between meets with new people. When I was younger it wasn't always the case, I like to focus on one at a time now haha.

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By *eresa_cdslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Bodmin

I have been lucky enough to have four in the same day

didn't feel at all guilty, though the clue is in my name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not a situation I've found myself in often but can think of an occasion I went for a club visit but knew I had a meet the week after so literally only went to the club to be social even though I had a couple of opportunities, I just didn't fancy doing anything more as I I think I would've felt bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Several times I have had three different meets in a day. "

Dirty Leeds

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Sometimes the timing is out of your hands. It just is what it is. So long as you’re fully in the moment and full of desire when you’re with each person, I don’t feel it’s an issue."

I think that's the main thing really. Well for me anyway. I don’t want to feel like I've been ticked off the roster. If a person can bring me that same level of desire, regardless of when they've met someone, I'm cool.

Actually no, that's a lie. If they had sex with someone I don't particularly care for, I'd say a week. Gives them time for a bleach scrub.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I have had two meets in one day once. They both knew and found it exciting. I did have time for a bath in between. Normally I don't though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done back to back meets before with like 20 or so minutes in between

The way I see it as I am single so can meet who and when ever I like

If it’s a same day type thing I always make them aware though and leave the choice in they hands if they would like to

Or would they rather wait till I am “fresh” so to speak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have done two meets in a day once. But that's not the normal at all haha

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Lives in Preston, Eng

I don't really want someone coming from one meet to me and I wouldn't want to do that either.

But if they had stayed with someone over night and had morning sex then I saw them in the evening that is fine with me. So long as the honesty and communication is there and we enjoy each other's company and bodies.

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By *eresa_cdslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Bodmin

I have been lucky enough to have four in the same day

didn't feel at all guilty, though the clue is in my name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there a rule on this? If so I've probably broken it a few times.

All I want is for whomever I'm with to get completely lost in the moments we share at the time.

Years ago, it would have felt like rejection to me if I was with them one day and they were with someone else the next. Really though, that's not my business. I'm single there's nothing stopping me doing the same (although in my head I would worry they might see it as disrespectful and I'd feel guilty)

They key thing for me is that, if it's someone I'm seeing regularly then I'm honest enough to say that I might need a bit of reassurance I'm still wanted sometimes.

Likewise I'd want to give them the same.

That might make me a bit needy but when it's more than a one off I'm all in and inevitably there's always feelings of some sort involved. They make it all the better in my view.

So I suppose it's all down to how you communicate and being honest with how you feel at the time.

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

Its not logical is it to care, but sounds like most of us take it into consideration.

I think for me a day or two mostly to be at my/their physical best

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Its not logical is it to care, but sounds like most of us take it into consideration.

I think for me a day or two mostly to be at my/their physical best

I thought you were doing hours?

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Its not logical is it to care, but sounds like most of us take it into consideration.

I think for me a day or two mostly to be at my/their physical best

Why isn't it logical?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Sometimes the timing is out of your hands. It just is what it is. So long as you’re fully in the moment and full of desire when you’re with each person, I don’t feel it’s an issue.

Actually no, that's a lie. If they had sex with someone I don't particularly care for, I'd say a week. Gives them time for a bleach scrub.

Scrub the vile, Lacey_Red stench away

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

If the opportunity and the mood took me, I wouldn’t care if it was the same day.

(For me, and for her)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couple of weeks,never would have more then 1 in a day ,and tbh I've never giving a thought to when was the last time he had sex

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

I would have no issue with having sex with two people on the same day entirely independently, and it wouldn’t bother me if someone I was meeting had just come from being with someone else, I did meet up with someone a little while ago who had just come from having sex with someone else, I would have been happy to still do stuff together, but in the end I just gave her a massage in my hotel room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh to have that conundrum

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Actually no, that's a lie. If they had sex with someone I don't particularly care for, I'd say a week. Gives them time for a bleach scrub.

Scrub the vile, Lacey_Red stench away

Oh shush. I'd be more than happy to take a cock after it's been inside any of your orifices.

I think that's how and when I know I like a woman and respect her.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've never been in the situation of having multiple partners either as part of a threesome or as individual meets so it has always been many weeks if not months between.

I wouldn't be happy meeting for sex with someone who had already met someone else that day or even that week. It would be different if it was just for a social.

That's not a judgement on their choices.

It's that I spend a lot of time chatting before meeting and put a lot of effort into those chats.

I don't meet for sex just for the sake of it and am more comfortable meeting others with a similar mindset.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Till the rash has disappeared

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a poly person I try not to care but I have in the past felt weird about knowing someone I’m seeing for sex was sexing someone else a few hours before seeing me.

But it’s the game I guess. So you roll with it and do what you gotta do when it’s time for you to do it

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Actually no, that's a lie. If they had sex with someone I don't particularly care for, I'd say a week. Gives them time for a bleach scrub.

Scrub the vile, Lacey_Red stench away

Oh shush. I'd be more than happy to take a cock after it's been inside any of your orifices.

I think that's how and when I know I like a woman and respect her.

Aww Meli, I'm touched

. Cock sisters!

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By *ean counterMan
over a year ago

Market Harborough / Kettering

When I was younger I'd happily have sex with multiple partners in one day but now I tend to look for quality over quantity (that's what all 50+ men say as the offers don't come so frequently

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

I don't do clubs, threesomes, groups, or any form of 'production line, conveyor belt' sex.

Reading a few of the responses on here I can see that the cogs and wheels of our hearts and sensual apparatuses work differently between us all. Mine is different too. It used to be weeks but it's mostly now a couple of months.

Because of the mental connection, synergy and the emotional investment that I've made with my partner, it often leaves me glowing and in a state of euphoria for some significant time following my meet, and therefore I don't possess any desire or yearning to jump into bed with someone else so soon afterwards.

How do I feel from the other side? It's not really an issue because my partner/s are often of the same mindset as me. Even so, I don't really mind and it's not my business because I have no claim on them whatsoever. Both parties tend to be somewhat discerning anyway.

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

"Its not logical is it to care, but sounds like most of us take it into consideration.

I think for me a day or two mostly to be at my/their physical best

Why isn't it logical?"

Because sharing is caring, apparently.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Actually no, that's a lie. If they had sex with someone I don't particularly care for, I'd say a week. Gives them time for a bleach scrub.

Scrub the vile, Lacey_Red stench away

Oh shush. I'd be more than happy to take a cock after it's been inside any of your orifices.

I think that's how and when I know I like a woman and respect her.

Oral? Tick

Vaginal? Tick

Anal? Tick

Nasal..............

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

I like 'connection', cliche i know...but i want to get to know someone, build up the anticipation etc...i can't do that with random shags here and there, or one after another. So for me, a substantial gap/pause between men i want to have sex with.

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

"I don't do clubs, threesomes, groups, or any form of 'production line, conveyor belt' sex.

The inference being that others on this thread that dont wait weeks are somehow less "discerning"

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

If I can get a sit down and a Pepsi Max, maybe 15 minutes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are we counting wanks over different people? If so maybe 3 in the same day.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

At one time I had a rotating door policy, one in one out, so most was 3 in one day

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

I don't have rules. I play in clubs so it would be daft to impose rules on myself for elsewhere. No one else's business what I do. I give them the options of wearing condoms for oral, I tell them I'm a swinger , I forward my STI negative monthly texts. That's my only concern the other way around too.

I love watching people I fuck, fuck others too so really I'm very comfortable with sex at the same time so time in-between irrelevant. I shower at the club though.

I remember playing once , specifically a blow job and a girl asked to kiss me, I said yes but I've just been errrmm playing, she didn't care

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

"Are we counting wanks over different people? If so maybe 3 in the same day."

No, I think she means the actual sex with actual other acrual people, actually

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"I'd rather not know about when they last or when they were next having a shag "

This for me too.

Over sharing in this regard would give me the “ick”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are we counting wanks over different people? If so maybe 3 in the same day.

No, I think she means the actual sex with actual other acrual people, actually

Ermmmmm 1 in 2 years then, is my final answer

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

"Are we counting wanks over different people? If so maybe 3 in the same day.

No, I think she means the actual sex with actual other acrual people, actually

Ermmmmm 1 in 2 years then, is my final answer"

Wanna make it 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are we counting wanks over different people? If so maybe 3 in the same day.

No, I think she means the actual sex with actual other acrual people, actually

Ermmmmm 1 in 2 years then, is my final answer

Wanna make it 2

I'll grab the lube

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

As a solo guy in Fab, you experience ‘feast or famine’ so you capitalise on your opportunities when they arise……

I recently enjoyed 4 days on the trot, split between a single lady and meeting a couple. I came twice each day. That’s what I classed as a ‘great week’

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By *iker boy 69Man
over a year ago

midlands

"How long do you leave it before seeing someone knowing you'll be having sex with the when you've just had sex with someone else?

Hours? Days? Weeks?

Can you have sex with more than one person in a day in terms of one to one encounters outside of a club?

And do you think it's strange that some people can have threesomes or more but not be able to sleep with multiple people in a day or in the same week?

And how do you feel from the other side ? If you knew someone you were about to have sex with had recently had sex with someone else, how recent would it need to be to bug you?

Disclaimer....I already know my answers to these questions. This isn't about me."

A couple of years ago i messaged 2 couples. One got back right away inviting me over early evening. Uoin leaving, id had a message from 2nd couple inviting me. Luckily 2nd couple lived a mile from me, so home shower and back out. I also met a lady for some outdoor fun, knowing she had just been for a 3way, and was on her way home

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Sometimes the timing is out of your hands. It just is what it is. So long as you’re fully in the moment and full of desire when you’re with each person, I don’t feel it’s an issue.

Actually no, that's a lie. If they had sex with someone I don't particularly care for, I'd say a week. Gives them time for a bleach scrub.

Haha….. some may take a couple months sandblasting and jet washing then

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Lives in Preston, Eng

"I don't really want someone coming from one meet to me and I wouldn't want to do that either.

Reading other people's replies has made me realise that my dislike of someone coming from somewhere else to me on the same day and vice versa is entirely about the time management and not the prior or later sex.

I also like connection so if sleeping with someone I will have a connection already. I am absolutely fine if they and /or I have other connections at the same time.

A hurrah to those of you who can accurately predict how long it will take you to get to places. Even Google maps cannot predict that I will lose my car in a car park.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Crikey it depends on time restrictions really.

Sometimes it may be months between meets.

Occasionally a couple or three in a week and on very very rare occasions two in the same day.

But I tend to play with the same people and already have a rapport.

Sometimes I have no availability for a meet so it's nothing or everything. regardless a nice long bath and scrub fresh clothes and fresh as a daisy.

Can't really see an issue, people go to club's and play with multiple people in one evening.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"I don’t see how the time span is relevant.

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me either. It can be minutes, hours or days xx

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

I once had 3 separate meets in one day. They all knew about it. I was knackered by the end of it

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I have never been in that situation, but if I would have multiple partners I wouldnt have any rules, as it could even be 1 in the morning and another at the evening or 1 or 2 days between them

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