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By *obbychick OP   Woman
over a year ago

Essex

Hey all

It’s my first time, where I’m thinking of venturing into a club next Friday.

I am a little nervous. Any tips?

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Go onto the clubs forum and get chatting to mother people that are going to the same club. It will be easier if you have a face or 2 to recognise.

You’ll be well looked after anyway.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

You shouldn’t be nervous you look stunning so folk will come and chat with you just relax and have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As said above get on the club chat threads and make a few friends ahead of your first visit. We were so nervous for our first visit but we shouldn’t have worried. The staff, the people and the atmosphere was amazing!

Hope you have a great time

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Oh gobby it's good to read you again.

I've not really done the whole clubbing scene, only been to a couple.

One, try and talk to people beforehand. Two, make sure you're comfortable with whatever you're wearing. Try it on before you leave, don't leave it last minute. Do you feel confident albeit nervous? Wear it.

Talk to people - they'll be happy you're making the effort to.

You don't have to do anything you don't want to. I've never done more than kiss a person and never felt like I should have joined in in an orgy.

And take a few minutes before you go in to calm yourself. You've got this you beautiful woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey all

It’s my first time, where I’m thinking of venturing into a club next Friday.

I am a little nervous. Any tips?

"

I'm the same and haven't managed it yet.

I was thinking of going to a social and the organiser offered to meet me outside if that was easier.

Also some of the regular attendees PM'd saying they'd do the same.

Some lovely people here- do as the posters said above and you will be fine but make sure it's in a safe public location

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"

It’s my first time, where I’m thinking of venturing into a club next Friday.

"

Have you decided on which club ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey Op! Good for you! I assume you're going on your own?

I remember the first time I did that! I felt sick, but it was such a rush to feel like a strong independent woman walking in there bold as brass!

You've had some great advice above.

My experience was super positive, and in fact that was the best night I've ever had at a club. Lots of friendly people chatting to me. Even had a couple of the couples keep an eye on me, so sweet! You won't be taken advantage of, don't worry!

Have a wonderful time xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey all

It’s my first time, where I’m thinking of venturing into a club next Friday.

I am a little nervous. Any tips?

"

How exciting!! I remember my first time at a club. The staff and management were amazing and made me feel right at home, even introduced me to a hot young ginger lad.

Which club were you thinking of going to?

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

If you end up feeling a bit ‘left out’ or too nervous to chat with people, then it’s a great idea to talk to the staff. Tell them you’re nervous and they’ll help. They’ll talk to you, introduce you to the regulars, and generally play host/hostess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be you any good club will make your feel right at home

Any good club members will make you feel like you belong there

Hopefully you have a great time

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Here is my tip Gobby!

Purple Mamba in Notts is the best club to attend for your first time!

Good to see you back on it!

D.

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By *aughtyPeepzMan
over a year ago

London

I'd be the same. I think most peipke first tune are apprehensive.

Ive recently just become a member for OurPlace4fun. Lots of good reviews and (didn't realise) it's up the road from me.

Now trying to pluck up the courage to go one evening. Would defo prefer to go with someone....

Most of these clubs are very attentive to newbies, and ladies in particular, so im sure you'd be looked after

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"Hey all

It’s my first time, where I’m thinking of venturing into a club next Friday.

I am a little nervous. Any tips?

"

If I’m nervous about any new adventure and meeting new people I Just imagine everyone naked

Oh… that might not work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd be the same. I think most peipke first tune are apprehensive.

Ive recently just become a member for OurPlace4fun. Lots of good reviews and (didn't realise) it's up the road from me.

Now trying to pluck up the courage to go one evening. Would defo prefer to go with someone....

Most of these clubs are very attentive to newbies, and ladies in particular, so im sure you'd be looked after"

Oh you should definitely go!!!

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng


"If you end up feeling a bit ‘left out’ or too nervous to chat with people, then it’s a great idea to talk to the staff. Tell them you’re nervous and they’ll help. They’ll talk to you, introduce you to the regulars, and generally play host/hostess. "

This is great advice. Definitely listen to this OP.

I have been to a few on my own. The first time you go, go with the intent of just experiencing it. No sex expectations. Just chat to people and enjoy the atmosphere. If other things happen then great but if not you will not be disappointed. Go early enough to get a tour from staff too.

I loved going alone. It meant that I felt I could leave when I wanted and no one had any expectations.

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By *aughtyPeepzMan
over a year ago

London


"I'd be the same. I think most peipke first tune are apprehensive.

Ive recently just become a member for OurPlace4fun. Lots of good reviews and (didn't realise) it's up the road from me.

Now trying to pluck up the courage to go one evening. Would defo prefer to go with someone....

Most of these clubs are very attentive to newbies, and ladies in particular, so im sure you'd be looked after

Oh you should definitely go!!! "

I take it you've been there? Seems like one of the very few you don't have to hope your considered via a picture check or a fee upfront

Feels like a lot of clubs are judgy. Got to be some sort of model lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd be the same. I think most peipke first tune are apprehensive.

Ive recently just become a member for OurPlace4fun. Lots of good reviews and (didn't realise) it's up the road from me.

Now trying to pluck up the courage to go one evening. Would defo prefer to go with someone....

Most of these clubs are very attentive to newbies, and ladies in particular, so im sure you'd be looked after

Oh you should definitely go!!!

I take it you've been there? Seems like one of the very few you don't have to hope your considered via a picture check or a fee upfront

Feels like a lot of clubs are judgy. Got to be some sort of model lol"

It's a small and friendly club. The team that run it are awesome x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone is ever nervous about going to a club for the first time and we’re going along or have a meet posted for the same night, drop us a message or comment on here and we’ll happily meet you there to say hi and take away those initial nerves ladies/couples/men, anyone

A lovely couple did that for us on our first visit and it made a big difference.

Mr

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By *obbychick OP   Woman
over a year ago

Essex

Thank you all for all the advice, I’m very lucky to not being going alone, so I do have someone taking good “care” of me. I think the nerves will only go once I’m there and have a taster of it.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

GOBBBBBYYYYYYY

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By *obbychick OP   Woman
over a year ago

Essex


"Oh gobby it's good to read you again.

I've not really done the whole clubbing scene, only been to a couple.

One, try and talk to people beforehand. Two, make sure you're comfortable with whatever you're wearing. Try it on before you leave, don't leave it last minute. Do you feel confident albeit nervous? Wear it.

Talk to people - they'll be happy you're making the effort to.

You don't have to do anything you don't want to. I've never done more than kiss a person and never felt like I should have joined in in an orgy.

And take a few minutes before you go in to calm yourself. You've got this you beautiful woman. "

My Lovely Meli

I always love seeing a comment on my thread from you

Hahaha I’ve just ordered a new lingerie set and am very happy with it. If I could, I would take more than one

Sound advice as always. I’ll let you know how it goes

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By *obbychick OP   Woman
over a year ago

Essex


"

It’s my first time, where I’m thinking of venturing into a club next Friday.

Have you decided on which club ?"

Yes most likely Le boudoir….only just got membership. Have you been?

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By *obbychick OP   Woman
over a year ago

Essex


"Hey Op! Good for you! I assume you're going on your own?

I remember the first time I did that! I felt sick, but it was such a rush to feel like a strong independent woman walking in there bold as brass!

You've had some great advice above.

My experience was super positive, and in fact that was the best night I've ever had at a club. Lots of friendly people chatting to me. Even had a couple of the couples keep an eye on me, so sweet! You won't be taken advantage of, don't worry!

Have a wonderful time xxx"

Awww thank you little beaver

Very reassuring to know that there are others that look after you. I’m not going on my own but still would be nice to have lots of friendly faces

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By *obbychick OP   Woman
over a year ago

Essex


"Here is my tip Gobby!

Purple Mamba in Notts is the best club to attend for your first time!

Good to see you back on it!

D."

Hey D

I’ve heard of purple mamba, unfortunately it is a bit far out for me and I am sticking within London area.

Somewhere, where you and Jo have gone?

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By *obbychick OP   Woman
over a year ago

Essex


"Hey all

It’s my first time, where I’m thinking of venturing into a club next Friday.

I am a little nervous. Any tips?

If I’m nervous about any new adventure and meeting new people I Just imagine everyone naked

Oh… that might not work "

I’ve tried that in other scenarios….doesn’t help much either

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By *obbychick OP   Woman
over a year ago

Essex


"I'd be the same. I think most peipke first tune are apprehensive.

Ive recently just become a member for OurPlace4fun. Lots of good reviews and (didn't realise) it's up the road from me.

Now trying to pluck up the courage to go one evening. Would defo prefer to go with someone....

Most of these clubs are very attentive to newbies, and ladies in particular, so im sure you'd be looked after"

I’ve heard about OP4F might try that place on my next venture.

Give it a go

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By *edhead72Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham and Ashby


"Hey all

It’s my first time, where I’m thinking of venturing into a club next Friday.

I am a little nervous. Any tips?

If I’m nervous about any new adventure and meeting new people I Just imagine everyone naked

Oh… that might not work

I’ve tried that in other scenarios….doesn’t help much either "

When we go we go for a few drinks a dance and a laugh. Anything else is somthing else

Btw. We don’t go that often

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By *obbychick OP   Woman
over a year ago

Essex


"GOBBBBBYYYYYYY "

Possssssh!!! Lots of love being swung your way

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"GOBBBBBYYYYYYY

Possssssh!!! Lots of love being swung your way "

And you

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Just turn up naked, get free drinks, bang a few dudes and/ or dudettes. Leave satisfied and jelly-legged

Or just turn up in a nice dress, socialise all relaxed like with no pressure for anything. Set your boundaries and see where things go.

Y'know... your choice Have fun though

LvM

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