FabSwingers.com forum: If you saw your friends partner on here

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Looking for discreet fun. Would you go to your friend as a man/ woman?

Thought I’d stick to the cheating theme.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Nope absolutely not .. Fuck all to do with me and it will only backfire on oneself

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No. If I absolutely thought I needed to do something I'd examine my motives first then if they were based in genuine concern I'd go to the person I saw on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends, are they a good friend or just a casual acquaintance?

Also, is the guy hot?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I'd tell them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Looking for discreet fun. Would you go to your friend as a man/ woman?

Thought I’d stick to the cheating theme. "

Is looking for 'discreet fun' the same thing as cheating?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Message FAF? And then decided based on the response

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Message FAF? And then decided based on the response"

quite right too.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Difficult one! No I wouldn't but wish I wasent put in that predicament my best friends son found me on here! Asked to meet which I immediately declined for all manor of other reasons but if it wernt for those reasons him being atatched would be enough! I dreaded seeing my friend ! Knowing I couldn't tell her! She gives me updates on him as we both do on our children she told me other week he proposed to his gf sending pics of her ring etc! I feel bad not telling her as we been best friends best part of 50 years! I don't really know the girl! But yes feel bad for her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they're a close friend then yes, absolutely I'd tell them.

I'd prefer to be hurt but know that my friend has my back, rather than live in ignorance on both counts.

I'd loose trust if a close friend keept something like there from me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Looking for discreet fun. Would you go to your friend as a man/ woman?

Thought I’d stick to the cheating theme.

Is looking for 'discreet fun' the same thing as cheating?"

For the fun of the thread it is

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

Absolutely yes

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By *yore34Man
over a year ago

Hull

No it would be a massive turn on for me. I'd defiantly be having a look at there profile

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I'd tell them.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Actually had my (now friend) then just an acquaintance, partner match with me on a dating app.

Didnt recognise him as he used very, very flattering photos and I'd only seen him a handful of times before.

Fortunately, his convo was rubbish so I unmatched.

Found out when she discovered his cheating ways and was showing me screenshots of the dating app stuff.

Bad times

MrsAbz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would want to but I wouldn’t. Two of my friends got together and I found out one was cheating, I told the other and lost two friends. Never again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was my best friends partner, absolutely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was a good friend I would

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By *lymanMan
over a year ago

PLYMOUTH

If it was a friend definitely.

I know how it feels

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

If it was my best mate or a v close friend then yes I would.

I'd hate them to keep something like that from me ,if it was the other way round .

Miss

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

"If they're a close friend then yes, absolutely I'd tell them.

I'd prefer to be hurt but know that my friend has my back, rather than live in ignorance on both counts.

I'd loose trust if a close friend keept something like there from me."

I totally agree....I would tell my mate and also show her his profile and get pics from him just for back up so he can't deny it. Going back some years I saw an older friend of mine who was a good friend..her hubby out with another women..he saw me and his face reaction told me exactly what he was doing...I did tell my friend...turned out he had been having an affair with this women

they worked things out and are still together...and me and her are still good friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they're a close friend then yes, absolutely I'd tell them.

I'd prefer to be hurt but know that my friend has my back, rather than live in ignorance on both counts.

I'd loose trust if a close friend keept something like there from me."

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

I did and lost a friend as she got back with him

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By *he Kat 666Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury

In Manuel accent....

"I know nutthin"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d find it hot!! I’d have a dirty chat with him and flirt xx

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By *hortishblondeWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Nothing to do with me so no wouldn't say anything and I would just block

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

I once did, she decided to stay with the cheat, her choice.

Would never get involved again.

Block and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

It would 'out' me to others about what I do in here, so no. I would just block her and move on

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

If it was my best friend then yes I would tell her.

If its just someone I know to say hello to and thats it no I wouldn't it's not my business

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By *rLordMan
over a year ago

Swadlincote

A very good lady friend of mine, I found on this site. We have a good friendship, she comes on ghe back of my bike on rides.

Told her that I had found her, she said yes she had seen me to. We agreed that was all , still great friends. Although one or two kisses have been more passionate

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Looking for discreet fun. Would you go to your friend as a man/ woman?

Thought I’d stick to the cheating theme. "

In your dreams.....

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

If it was a close friend then definitely tell them, a not so close friend no.

I had this dilemma not so long ago, actually asked here for advice and went with it and didn't say anything just distanced myself.

Mrs

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

People who would tell their friend. What would you tell them? Given that the facts are their partner appears to be on here and is asking for discreet fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who would tell their friend. What would you tell them? Given that the facts are their partner appears to be on here and is asking for discreet fun."

I’d ask if they knew about the site first just in case the partner was on here with the friends knowledge

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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

If it was my closest friends who I've known for 30 years then yes without hesitation.

If it's anyone else and they message me I'd tell them what I thought of them and then warn them if they message again I'll be in contact with the partner.

I hate cheating, literally can't stand it

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

There's quite a lot of variables. But say their partner was putting their health at risk e.g.looking for bareback sex and I knew for example they were trying for a baby. I'd feel obligated to tell them.

Think in all honesty it would individual decision based on the friend.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Absolutely not. Not my circus. Not my clowns.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who would tell their friend. What would you tell them? Given that the facts are their partner appears to be on here and is asking for discreet fun."

I'd know if my closest friends are in some some of open relationship as they know I'm a perv.

I detest drama and injecting myself into someone person life more but there's no chance I wouldn't say something to the few people I actually trust, and they would definitely do the same.

Each to their own, but... this thread is actually eye opening.

*shrugs*

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

ok another question, well two. Why tell the friend and not the person who's on here and why assume that they're cheating?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I would be absolutely devastated to have to tell my friend if I saw her partner on here, but I would.

I'd hope that someone was using his photos.

I'd also hope he hadn't met anyone yet, if it was him.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"ok another question, well two. Why tell the friend and not the person who's on here and why assume that they're cheating? "

I know my childhood friend well enough to know it wouldn't be her thing.

To be honest, it's not something I can see him doing, in reality.

Another not so close friend I'd keep my mouth shut as she's

cheated on her husband many times.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

None of my business so I’d keep schtum

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Definitely best to stay out of the relationships of friends. Way, way out.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

gretna

As I dont know the dynamic inside someone else’s Relationship - id say nothing as it could be entirely consensual and intensely private for them for any number of reasons. The thought that i knew might be hugely embarrassing for them. On this occasion - say nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a chance!

I used to work with someone and she showed me a pic of her boyfriend. I recognised him off here because we had met! He was still on here when I saw the picture. I said absolutely nothing and never would. It's none of my business. If I were to say something, it would be to the person on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly don't know

But I would ask him what he was doing on fab

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"ok another question, well two. Why tell the friend and not the person who's on here and why assume that they're cheating? "

I’d probably tell them too. And then tell them that I’ll tell their partner if they don’t.

For the purpose of the thread the person is cheating. I’m just using the language everyone thinks is associated with cheating because it’s funny init. I was gonna say their profile says they can’t accommodate but that’s already being talked about today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know. I kind of think yes I would, but only if I was super close to them, like besties.

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Nope say nothing.

I'm a shitheel, so would probably try chatting with them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"ok another question, well two. Why tell the friend and not the person who's on here and why assume that they're cheating?

I’d probably tell them too. And then tell them that I’ll tell their partner if they don’t.

ok, I like to know exactly what's going on in these hypothetical situations

. If I'm going to put my sticky beak into other people's hypothetical relationships I want to be 100% hypothetically sure

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I'd tell them, I don't agree with going behind a partners back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not my business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's worse seeing your own partner on here with a new partner a full profile and doing all the things you talked about together, only days after she's emailed you saying it's over and she can't explain why

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"ok another question, well two. Why tell the friend and not the person who's on here and why assume that they're cheating?

I’d probably tell them too. And then tell them that I’ll tell their partner if they don’t.

ok, I like to know exactly what's going on in these hypothetical situations

. If I'm going to put my sticky beak into other people's hypothetical relationships I want to be 100% hypothetically sure

Sticky? Mmmmm tell me more

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Yes I would tell my friend if their partner is cheating on them.

The real issue is when they're both your friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is the assumption they are cheating!? You would not know that for a fact. I won't get involved in anyone's relationships as I've had "sticky beak friends" involved in mine. Your opinions are not that welcome.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"ok another question, well two. Why tell the friend and not the person who's on here and why assume that they're cheating?

I’d probably tell them too. And then tell them that I’ll tell their partner if they don’t.

Hey!

I can't accommodate. Largely as I'm sleeping on the sofa at present with two dogs. Snoring bastards....

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"It's worse seeing your own partner on here with a new partner a full profile and doing all the things you talked about together, only days after she's emailed you saying it's over and she can't explain why

Trust me, there's worse.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Why is the assumption they are cheating!? You would not know that for a fact. I won't get involved in anyone's relationships as I've had "sticky beak friends" involved in mine. Your opinions are not that welcome. "

We do know this for a fact though as above it says for the purpose of this thread they're cheating

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Trust me, there's worse.

I'd be pretty pissed if someone broke up with me through email

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do know this for a fact though as above it says for the purpose of this thread they're cheating "
still not my business. I just need to know how I know... for thread purposes

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Trust me, there's worse.

I'd be pretty pissed if someone broke up with me through email

Carrier pigeon?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Trust me, there's worse.

A- just big love man. Here if you want to chat. I’m bad at messaging but

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"ok another question, well two. Why tell the friend and not the person who's on here and why assume that they're cheating?

I’d probably tell them too. And then tell them that I’ll tell their partner if they don’t.

Hey!

I can't accommodate. Largely as I'm sleeping on the sofa at present with two dogs. Snoring bastards....

They can watch us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

They’re cheating babes.

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By *ablo200Man
over a year ago

sevenoaks

Would say nothing! My husband would!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd tell my best friend but I'd be reluctant and cautious with others.

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

"ok another question, well two. Why tell the friend and not the person who's on here and why assume that they're cheating?

I’d probably tell them too. And then tell them that I’ll tell their partner if they don’t.

Hey!

I can't accommodate. Largely as I'm sleeping on the sofa at present with two dogs. Snoring bastards....

They can watch us.

Getting into dodgy territory here

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

We do know this for a fact though as above it says for the purpose of this thread they're cheating still not my business. I just need to know how I know... for thread purposes"

It's your friends business to know if being cheated on though, if I found out a friend knew and they didn't tell me then they would no longer be my friend because real friends don't keep important things like that from them

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

Trust me, there's worse.

I'd be pretty pissed if someone broke up with me through email

Yeah, I’m a bit old fashioned about these things, I’d use text

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

They’re cheating babes. "

Pickles thread. Pickles rules.

And cheers dude. I'm all good. Two bitches to cuddle up to every night.

What more could a guy want?

*except maybe a blowie and a back rub......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

They’re cheating babes.

Pickles thread. Pickles rules.

And cheers dude. I'm all good. Two bitches to cuddle up to every night.

What more could a guy want?

*except maybe a blowie and a back rub......

a blowie? Ew no

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Trust me, there's worse.

I'd be pretty pissed if someone broke up with me through email

Carrier pigeon?

It might have bird flu, so guess that's even worse

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Would say nothing! My husband would!"

Your husband

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Trust me, there's worse.

I'd be pretty pissed if someone broke up with me through email

Yeah, I’m a bit old fashioned about these things, I’d use text

I'd not know if they sent email as I rarely check

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Would say nothing! My husband would!

Your husband

The importance of correct grammar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do know this for a fact though as above it says for the purpose of this thread they're cheating still not my business. I just need to know how I know... for thread purposes

Well so be it. Sometimes other people's shit is best left to them to deal with. Maybe, just maybe they are happily in denial. Believe me, the partner of someone who is cheating pretty much already knows. They aren't idiots. They choose to deal with it in their own way. I'm not butting in on that. I'll be there to support but I'm not sticking that knife in.

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

This happened to me.

He even flirted with me.

I told him to tell her, or I would.

They split for a while.

They are married a few years on, with another kid and seem happy, so hopefully its all good.

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