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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Or not…

What’s your thoughts on this ? Do you automatically think there must be a sordid reason behind this?

On SOME occasions the assumption is that the man is married / cheating and therefore that is the reason why he can’t. If a woman can’t accom do people assume the same?

This isn’t a thread to cause arguments but more to find out what’s peoples thought on the matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the reason you can't accommodate, OP?

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden

There could be other reasons. Houseshare, kids at home, they like neutral territory to start.

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

I don't want people in my house, it's not what I want from here. I wouldn't assume can't accommodate means married that makes no sense

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What's the reason you can't accommodate, OP?"

Due to where I live and the ability to allow strangers access.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There could be other reasons. Houseshare, kids at home, they like neutral territory to start."

Like this …

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't want people in my house, it's not what I want from here. I wouldn't assume can't accommodate means married that makes no sense "

You would think….but it’s been experienced.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't assume it means they're cheating.

Lots of other reasons as to why they don't or cannot.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No I don't assume it means they're cheating.

Lots of other reasons as to why they don't or cannot. "

Good to hear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's the reason you can't accommodate, OP?

Due to where I live and the ability to allow strangers access. "

Classified. Got it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find as they say

Assumption is the mother of all fuck ups…

I can accommodate but not until I’ve known you for a good while of time and trust you

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I allways ask why not? And will offer my reason to not accom ! I will on occasions if I can, it's a natural assumption I suppose that they have a partner for me anyways so yes i just ask! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I just think they're sensible not inviting random people into their homes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can but it's a good filter. If people message me that can't I mention that I can't either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest I just think they're sensible not inviting random people into their homes. "

Someone has to accommodate otherwise people would never....

Hang on.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think it's a point of evidence for both men and women, but not conclusive (as there are other reasons for both why accommodation isn't possible).

I don't accommodate because I'm not meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest I just think they're sensible not inviting random people into their homes.

Someone has to accommodate otherwise people would never....

Hang on."

There's these little things called peni....oh no, hotels.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I live with family.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t accommodate because I don’t fecking want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's the reason you can't accommodate, OP?

Due to where I live and the ability to allow strangers access. "

Is that Because of a spouse?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I accommodate those that I want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest I just think they're sensible not inviting random people into their homes.

Someone has to accommodate otherwise people would never....

Hang on.

There's these little things called peni....oh no, hotels. "

No one uses those. You're all too tight.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I allways ask why not? And will offer my reason to not accom ! I will on occasions if I can, it's a natural assumption I suppose that they have a partner for me anyways so yes i just ask! X"

As least you’re honest about the ‘natural assumption’

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To be honest I just think they're sensible not inviting random people into their homes. "

and with good reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest I just think they're sensible not inviting random people into their homes.

Someone has to accommodate otherwise people would never....

Hang on.

There's these little things called peni....oh no, hotels.

No one uses those. You're all too tight."
this is why I only fuck the rich guys.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can but it's a good filter. If people message me that can't I mention that I can't either. "

But now you’ve told us all you can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone can’t accommodate that’s fine. I don’t make assumptions about that but together with other things might make me question it. Not in isolation though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can and often do ,I don't automatically think that if the guy can't accommodate then he's married ,there are numerous reasons why folks can't accom

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t accommodate because I don’t fecking want to

Is fecking allowed? Or you saying fecking wants to but you don’t want them to? Is fecking their profile name? I wonder what it means… maybe it’s Gaelic or something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest I just think they're sensible not inviting random people into their homes.

and with good reason "

I have a different view.

Anyone I invited into my home I made sure they trusted myself as much as I trusted them before I suggested the idea. It’s worked out okay so far.

If you are into meeting strangers, then I’d agree, do t let them near your junk mail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t accommodate because I don’t fecking want to

Is fecking allowed? Or you saying fecking wants to but you don’t want them to? Is fecking their profile name? I wonder what it means… maybe it’s Gaelic or something

It’s just my polite curse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest I just think they're sensible not inviting random people into their homes.

Someone has to accommodate otherwise people would never....

Hang on.

There's these little things called peni....oh no, hotels.

No one uses those. You're all too tight.this is why I only fuck the rich guys. "

A night at Burn Hall is something to aspire to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What's the reason you can't accommodate, OP?

Due to where I live and the ability to allow strangers access.

Is that Because of a spouse? "

No…. My work is not my spouse

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To be honest I just think they're sensible not inviting random people into their homes.

Someone has to accommodate otherwise people would never....

Hang on.

There's these little things called peni....oh no, hotels.

No one uses those. You're all too tight.this is why I only fuck the rich guys. "

How rich do we need to be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest I just think they're sensible not inviting random people into their homes.

and with good reason

I have a different view.

Anyone I invited into my home I made sure they trusted myself as much as I trusted them before I suggested the idea. It’s worked out okay so far.

If you are into meeting strangers, then I’d agree, do t let them near your junk mail.

Woody, everyone is a stranger. Unless I'm in a commited relationship (never gonna happen!!!) You (collective you) will always be casual sex to me and you'll never know me properly. So therefore, you will never know where I live.

Plus, I like hotels. I wanna do it in a nicely made bed with crisp white sheets!!!

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Whether a person is able to respect not only their home but also their privacy and not turn into a stalker... It happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest I just think they're sensible not inviting random people into their homes.

Someone has to accommodate otherwise people would never....

Hang on.

There's these little things called peni....oh no, hotels.

No one uses those. You're all too tight.this is why I only fuck the rich guys.

How rich do we need to be?

Rich enough to afford a nice hotel

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To be honest I just think they're sensible not inviting random people into their homes.

and with good reason

I have a different view.

Anyone I invited into my home I made sure they trusted myself as much as I trusted them before I suggested the idea. It’s worked out okay so far.

If you are into meeting strangers, then I’d agree, do t let them near your junk mail.

So they weren’t strangers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest I just think they're sensible not inviting random people into their homes.

Someone has to accommodate otherwise people would never....

Hang on.

There's these little things called peni....oh no, hotels.

No one uses those. You're all too tight.this is why I only fuck the rich guys.

A night at Burn Hall is something to aspire to."

I know that place!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To be honest I just think they're sensible not inviting random people into their homes.

and with good reason

I have a different view.

Anyone I invited into my home I made sure they trusted myself as much as I trusted them before I suggested the idea. It’s worked out okay so far.

If you are into meeting strangers, then I’d agree, do t let them near your junk mail.

Plus, I like hotels. I wanna do it in a nicely made bed with crisp white sheets!!!

So crisp sheets only exist in notes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest I just think they're sensible not inviting random people into their homes.

Someone has to accommodate otherwise people would never....

Hang on.

There's these little things called peni....oh no, hotels.

No one uses those. You're all too tight.this is why I only fuck the rich guys.

A night at Burn Hall is something to aspire to.

I know that place!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To be honest I just think they're sensible not inviting random people into their homes.

Someone has to accommodate otherwise people would never....

Hang on.

There's these little things called peni....oh no, hotels.

No one uses those. You're all too tight.this is why I only fuck the rich guys.

How rich do we need to be?

Rich enough to afford a nice hotel

We saying travelodge is nice? Does it depend which city it’s in?

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon

Or you say you can accommodate but you can't really bc you're married. Opens more conversational doors.

Then you convince the other person to accommodate you.

This works very well.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Or you say you can accommodate but you can't really bc you're married. Opens more conversational doors.

Then you convince the other person to accommodate you.

This works very well. "

I've had the opposite. People telling me they are coming to my place.

Umm hell no. If you're coming that's because I invited you, and I did not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Or you say you can accommodate but you can't really bc you're married. Opens more conversational doors.

Then you convince the other person to accommodate you.

This works very well. "

Mind trickery

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Or you say you can accommodate but you can't really bc you're married. Opens more conversational doors.

Then you convince the other person to accommodate you.

This works very well.

I've had the opposite. People telling me they are coming to my place.

Umm hell no. If you're coming that's because I invited you, and I did not."

Confident they could find you without postcode haha …now that asks more questions of how

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest I just think they're sensible not inviting random people into their homes.

and with good reason

I have a different view.

Anyone I invited into my home I made sure they trusted myself as much as I trusted them before I suggested the idea. It’s worked out okay so far.

If you are into meeting strangers, then I’d agree, do t let them near your junk mail.

So they weren’t strangers? "

At what point do you believe a person to not be a stranger anymore?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Most guys I chat to/meet are in shared accommodation. There's not many who actually have their own places.

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

I wouldn't want people in my house

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To be honest I just think they're sensible not inviting random people into their homes.

and with good reason

I have a different view.

Anyone I invited into my home I made sure they trusted myself as much as I trusted them before I suggested the idea. It’s worked out okay so far.

If you are into meeting strangers, then I’d agree, do t let them near your junk mail.

So they weren’t strangers?

At what point do you believe a person to not be a stranger anymore?

Our opinions are different … that’s why I asked if they weren’t strangers. But you didn’t answer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Most guys I chat to/meet are in shared accommodation. There's not many who actually have their own places. "

Quite a common thing

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I don't want people in my house, it's not what I want from here. I wouldn't assume can't accommodate means married that makes no sense "

I am with this. I can accom but I tend not to. Just prefer to travel.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't want people in my house

I’ve told you I’ll get a hotel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest I just think they're sensible not inviting random people into their homes.

and with good reason

I have a different view.

Anyone I invited into my home I made sure they trusted myself as much as I trusted them before I suggested the idea. It’s worked out okay so far.

If you are into meeting strangers, then I’d agree, do t let them near your junk mail.

So they weren’t strangers?

At what point do you believe a person to not be a stranger anymore?

Our opinions are different … that’s why I asked if they weren’t strangers. But you didn’t answer. "

No. I didn’t invite a stranger into my house.

Your go.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Or you say you can accommodate but you can't really bc you're married. Opens more conversational doors.

Then you convince the other person to accommodate you.

This works very well.

I've had the opposite. People telling me they are coming to my place.

Umm hell no. If you're coming that's because I invited you, and I did not.

Confident they could find you without postcode haha …now that asks more questions of how

There's more than that that would get in their way

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Or you say you can accommodate but you can't really bc you're married. Opens more conversational doors.

Then you convince the other person to accommodate you.

This works very well. "

Try to convince me. I've had a few of them.

I went all the way to The Embankment to find out, on one occasion. He just wanted a blow job down an alley though

I don't assume everyone who can't accommodate is in a relationship.

It's a bit of a piss take when they want to come to mine, even though I live with family, but wouldn't have me at theirs because they don't want the neighbours see me go in, or they have their children stay now and then.

Oh well, don't message me then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's the reason you can't accommodate, OP?

Due to where I live and the ability to allow strangers access.

Is that Because of a spouse?

No…. My work is not my spouse "

So why can’t we all assume something as innocent as that rather than assuming it’s something controversial? I was curious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or you say you can accommodate but you can't really bc you're married. Opens more conversational doors.

Then you convince the other person to accommodate you.

This works very well.

Try to convince me. I've had a few of them.

I went all the way to The Embankment to find out, on one occasion. He just wanted a blow job down an alley though

I don't assume everyone who can't accommodate is in a relationship.

Oh well, don't message me then

I always wonder if my neighbours think me and my partner are cheating one one another because we’ve had partners over.

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By *929Man
over a year ago

newcastle

Some could be have kids not necessarily because they cheating I have down as can accommodate which I would if ever to meet but it depends on when I have my daughter so can only some of the time I have full custody of my son but he’s 16 now and often out or up in his lift room only emerging for food.

I’d prefer to accommodate given the chance as feel more comfortable in own house, it’s not as much of a risk for a man to have a lass over as it is vice versa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or you say you can accommodate but you can't really bc you're married. Opens more conversational doors.

Then you convince the other person to accommodate you.

This works very well.

Try to convince me. I've had a few of them.

I went all the way to The Embankment to find out, on one occasion. He just wanted a blow job down an alley though

I don't assume everyone who can't accommodate is in a relationship.

Oh well, don't message me then

I always wonder if my neighbours think me and my partner are cheating one one another because we’ve had partners over.

Or dealing some things from your doorstep …

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Not accomodating alone doesn't mean someone's up to no good.Theee are all-sorts of reasons of kids,family,house share or don't want strangers in their homes.

We don't accom.

Usually there are other things in addition to not accomodating that would make me suspicious.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To be honest I just think they're sensible not inviting random people into their homes.

and with good reason

I have a different view.

Anyone I invited into my home I made sure they trusted myself as much as I trusted them before I suggested the idea. It’s worked out okay so far.

If you are into meeting strangers, then I’d agree, do t let them near your junk mail.

So they weren’t strangers?

At what point do you believe a person to not be a stranger anymore?

Our opinions are different … that’s why I asked if they weren’t strangers. But you didn’t answer.

No. I didn’t invite a stranger into my house.

Your go.

I don’t accom.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Or you say you can accommodate but you can't really bc you're married. Opens more conversational doors.

Then you convince the other person to accommodate you.

This works very well.

I've had the opposite. People telling me they are coming to my place.

Umm hell no. If you're coming that's because I invited you, and I did not.

Confident they could find you without postcode haha …now that asks more questions of how

There's more than that that would get in their way

Crazy cats?

Moat?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Or you say you can accommodate but you can't really bc you're married. Opens more conversational doors.

Then you convince the other person to accommodate you.

This works very well.

I've had the opposite. People telling me they are coming to my place.

Umm hell no. If you're coming that's because I invited you, and I did not.

Confident they could find you without postcode haha …now that asks more questions of how

There's more than that that would get in their way

Crazy cats?

Moat?

Locked gate for starters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t assume it’s because people are married. I personally would have to trust someone an awful lot to have them in my personal space.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What's the reason you can't accommodate, OP?

Due to where I live and the ability to allow strangers access.

Is that Because of a spouse?

No…. My work is not my spouse

So why can’t we all assume something as innocent as that rather than assuming it’s something controversial? I was curious.

And that’s why I asked…. Like I said ‘on SOME occasions’ it has been assumed …. So I wondered what others thought. And it seems I am getting lots of varied answers and great interaction… which is what I hoped for from the forum thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not accomodating alone doesn't mean someone's up to no good.Theee are all-sorts of reasons of kids,family,house share or don't want strangers in their homes.

We don't accom.

Usually there are other things in addition to not accomodating that would make me suspicious.

Miss"

The wedding ring on in the photos? The woman’s wardrobe behind him ….the heels and dresses reflecting in the mirror that they forgot to cut out?

All said in jest and as tongue & cheek comment

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Or you say you can accommodate but you can't really bc you're married. Opens more conversational doors.

Then you convince the other person to accommodate you.

This works very well.

I've had the opposite. People telling me they are coming to my place.

Umm hell no. If you're coming that's because I invited you, and I did not.

Confident they could find you without postcode haha …now that asks more questions of how

There's more than that that would get in their way

Crazy cats?

Moat?

Locked gate for starters."

Oh don’t you hate it when the postie leaves it open

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t assume it’s because people are married. I personally would have to trust someone an awful lot to have them in my personal space.

Mrs"

… it’sa shame there’s no clapping hands on here

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By *unx2019Couple
over a year ago

Moray

We say can accommodate and we do. (Bring on the stalkers!!!)Sometimes we have to say we can't because of other plans, ie kids coming over. All our meets been at ours but don't think anything of it if others can't accommodate.

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

I don't assume anything as I rarely accommodate myself.

Don't want randoms in my house, I have kids, I have nosey neighbours

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

No, I assume they Prefer not to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No, I assume they Prefer not to."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t assume it’s because people are married. I personally would have to trust someone an awful lot to have them in my personal space.

Mrs"

echos of my opinions above.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well one and all….. it has been a very insightful thread and I appreciate your thoughts / opinions and response.

Friendly forums are fun and you’re all great

I’ll be back once I can think of something else to chat about

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"Or not…

What’s your thoughts on this ? Do you automatically think there must be a sordid reason behind this?

On SOME occasions the assumption is that the man is married / cheating and therefore that is the reason why he can’t. If a woman can’t accom do people assume the same?

This isn’t a thread to cause arguments but more to find out what’s peoples thought on the matter.

All love only here

Both my wife and I swing, we play on Fab separately. Single meets our kids are at home, therefore we don’t accommodate, we go to hotels.

Couples meets we do in clubs. We don’t need to accommodate and don’t want to bring swinging into our home.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We can't so I don't really assume anything from others, we do state why though.

Most couples with kids I'd expect not to accommodate to be honest even if we didn't have little ones I don't think I'd be comfortable inviting a stranger into my home, I'd probably still do hotel meets.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We can't so I don't really assume anything from others, we do state why though.

Mrs "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or you say you can accommodate but you can't really bc you're married. Opens more conversational doors.

Then you convince the other person to accommodate you.

This works very well.

Try to convince me. I've had a few of them.

I went all the way to The Embankment to find out, on one occasion. He just wanted a blow job down an alley though

I don't assume everyone who can't accommodate is in a relationship.

Oh well, don't message me then

I always wonder if my neighbours think me and my partner are cheating one one another because we’ve had partners over.

Or dealing some things from your doorstep …

no no. I’m too friendly and kiss them all goodbye. And they’re there too long

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over a year ago

I’d assume they don’t want to invite strangers into their home. Or they live with their mother.

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over a year ago

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Or not…

What’s your thoughts on this ? Do you automatically think there must be a sordid reason behind this?

On SOME occasions the assumption is that the man is married / cheating and therefore that is the reason why he can’t. If a woman can’t accom do people assume the same?

This isn’t a thread to cause arguments but more to find out what’s peoples thought on the matter.

All love only here

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yes its deffo that the guy is married but i live in a shared house and although i could accomodate i guess I'd rather not

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By *archelCouple
over a year ago

A field somewhere

We won't accommodate, our kids go to their grandparents when we go out(only Saturday nights) but it's their home.

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By *anderingArtistMan
over a year ago

an abstract world

I don't/can't because I look after my mum. I'm not sure anyone would want to come round as it could be a bit awkward.

Even if I lived alone it would take a lot for me to invite someone round. Unless I knew them really well I'd stick to hotels. It's easier for all parties. Not to mention safer. It can be a daunting prospect going to someone's house when you don't know them. A quick social in a hotel lobby or a public place nearby provides security for everyone.

Thinking about it, not accomodating is the logical choice. To all those who do, why do you accomodate? Why are you luring people to your house? No one gets sex off here so there must be a hidden reason

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"I don't/can't because I look after my mum. I'm not sure anyone would want to come round as it could be a bit awkward.

If I've met someone and feel comfortable with them I will acom on rare occasions that I can! I've never met at hotel as that would feel seedy to me x

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over a year ago

My area is outrageously expensive to live so I assume people are in house shares or they are in single man’s quarters in any one of the dozens of military bases around here.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Or you say you can accommodate but you can't really bc you're married. Opens more conversational doors.

Then you convince the other person to accommodate you.

This works very well.

I've had the opposite. People telling me they are coming to my place.

Umm hell no. If you're coming that's because I invited you, and I did not.

Confident they could find you without postcode haha …now that asks more questions of how

There's more than that that would get in their way

Crazy cats?

Moat?

Locked gate for starters.

Oh don’t you hate it when the postie leaves it open

They never do. Neighbours do sometimes though.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

No assumptions but if they don't explain when asked, and it then doesn't ring true, then it's a hard stop!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just assume they’re not comfortable with having strangers in their homes…..or they have a dirty one hahaha

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

i tend not to judge others on anything outside swinging if im honest i have my life they have theres where they live and if they can accom has nothing to do with me id not want to go there anyway unless i knew them very well

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My area is outrageously expensive to live so I assume people are in house shares or they are in single man’s quarters in any one of the dozens of military bases around here."

Good outlook

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Or not…

What’s your thoughts on this ? Do you automatically think there must be a sordid reason behind this?

On SOME occasions the assumption is that the man is married / cheating and therefore that is the reason why he can’t. If a woman can’t accom do people assume the same?

This isn’t a thread to cause arguments but more to find out what’s peoples thought on the matter.

All love only here

Fred and Rosemary West didn t find it a problem ?

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By *archelCouple
over a year ago

A field somewhere

"Or not…

What’s your thoughts on this ? Do you automatically think there must be a sordid reason behind this?

On SOME occasions the assumption is that the man is married / cheating and therefore that is the reason why he can’t. If a woman can’t accom do people assume the same?

This isn’t a thread to cause arguments but more to find out what’s peoples thought on the matter.

All love only here

Fred and Rosemary West didn t find it a problem ?"

Fred & Rosemary had somewhere to put a patio

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