FabSwingers.com forum: I’m going to go there

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Due to the recent rise in threads by single men bemoaning their lack of action/messages etc there’s one thing that I don’t see in the answers (maybe because no one’s brave/rude enough to say it?)

Attraction!

It really doesn’t matter what your approach to fab is, how well thought out your opening message is, how detailed your pictures are or what your photos show. If the person/people you’re messaging don’t find you attractive then they won’t reply! And THATS PERFECTLY ACCEPTABLE!

There’s so much bashing on here, women are rude/entitled/stuck up because they don’t reply to messages, men are whingy/entitled/rude because they think we’re all on here for sex therefore all the women should drop their knickers for all the men

it doesn’t work like that in real life so why should it on here?

Attraction is the first part of the game, if it ain’t there then the players won’t play. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that! No need for people to throw their toys out the pram and get all pissy just because someone isn’t attracted to you

Anyway, happy Thursday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said Fluffy,I couldn't agree more

Happy Thursday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely nailed it Chicken! Happy Thursday

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

As a single guy, yea it is difficult BUT that’s not to say it’s impossible.

Attraction is definitely key here, as well as consistency and actually turning up when meets are arranged.

Gents, if you’re not somebody’s cup of tea, that’s perfectly ok, move on and you’ll find someone who likes what they see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical and mental attraction are the absolute key…well said.

Looks alone are not enough for me and I need to be able to actually talk to someone I may or may not meet and lead to more.

But yes attraction

No one and I mean no one should lower their standards or however else you want to put it.

So many moan I’m “average” I don’t have a 6 pack etc etc.

The key is that there is someone for everyone, here today or tomorrow or this week, maybe/maybe not.

We aren’t all attracted to the same things looks or personality

It’s about how you use the site. If men think they’re going to get loads of sex then they are wrong. If woman think they don’t have to put much effort in and the man has to do it all then they are wrong.

Surely everything should be mutual, equal effort and equal attraction and potentially make some friends along the way

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Exactly! We cant be attracted to everyone or vice versa that's life. You can still be friendly and not fancy someone lol

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It's been said many a time but it doesn't hurt for it to be repeated.

I can see why men think it's so simple though .....

You want cock - He has cock

Problem solved in their heads. Life is simple if you let it be

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

True, but even with getting a message from someone attractive, they have to have a good profile, decent pics and make some effort in their message.

Being attractive opens doors for sure, but having a personality and trying to stand out are also needed.

But yes, if the person sending the message isn’t attractive to the recipient then it doesn’t matter how detailed the message is.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Due to the recent rise in threads by single men bemoaning their lack of action/messages etc there’s one thing that I don’t see in the answers (maybe because no one’s brave/rude enough to say it?)

Attraction!

it doesn’t work like that in real life so why should it on here?

Anyway, happy Thursday

So , FAF

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

Have you tried a club or a social?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very true.

Though I will also say, women should try and put effort in aswell instead of expecting the guys to make all the effort.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Attraction!

it doesn’t work like that in real life so why should it on here?

Anyway, happy Thursday

So , FAF

Go on then grumpy, bring custard

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Very true.

Though I will also say, women should try and put effort in aswell instead of expecting the guys to make all the effort.

I do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you tried a club or a social?"

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Even I get interest, I don't know what some of these guys are doing but I'm not here to help them

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Very true.

Though I will also say, women should try and put effort in aswell instead of expecting the guys to make all the effort.

Are you feeling OK?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very true.

Though I will also say, women should try and put effort in aswell instead of expecting the guys to make all the effort.

Are you feeling OK? "

Why?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Very true.

Though I will also say, women should try and put effort in aswell instead of expecting the guys to make all the effort.

Are you feeling OK?

Why? "

Because I care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very true.

Though I will also say, women should try and put effort in aswell instead of expecting the guys to make all the effort.

Are you feeling OK?

Why?

Because I care"

Too early for comedy

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Totally agree, it's one reason we don't look for meets on here, I much prefer meeting people at organised socials, at face value is so much easier.

Attraction on here is hard, I mean a conversation with a cock or vag is difficult! And slightly off-putting.

With couples half the time there's no evidence the man exists so I've zero idea of attraction yet I'm expected to carry on conversations, it gets a little monotonous.

Mrs

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Very true.

Though I will also say, women should try and put effort in aswell instead of expecting the guys to make all the effort.

Are you feeling OK?

Why?

Because I care

Too early for comedy"

I haven't slept, would you like to come lay with me and I'll give you back tickles?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very true.

Though I will also say, women should try and put effort in aswell instead of expecting the guys to make all the effort.

Are you feeling OK?

Why?

Because I care

Too early for comedy

I haven't slept, would you like to come lay with me and I'll give you back tickles? "

No.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Very true.

Though I will also say, women should try and put effort in aswell instead of expecting the guys to make all the effort.

Are you feeling OK?

Why?

Because I care

Too early for comedy

I haven't slept, would you like to come lay with me and I'll give you back tickles?

No. "

Well I've established you're ok

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Well of course op. Although there are some for whom any holes a goal and if tbat works for them, then great for them. From what i have seen many if not most of the threads you highlight however don't start as whiny whinging at all... Simply a thread observing how challenging it is for some. The usual respondents then turn it into a competition to be as nasty and judgy as possible, turning it into something else, Until 175...rinse and repeat. The pattern is clear. Some people just like to stand on others because it makes them feel good. The ability to discuss stuff without being piled into is important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attraction!

it doesn’t work like that in real life so why should it on here?

Anyway, happy Thursday

Ironically, there would be a lot of the women on here moaning a lot harder than the men, if the lads were as fussy as them. There’s some serious munters on here who believe they are gods gift to erotica, because of all the attention they get. The fact that most guys just want to shoot their load in a pussy (any pussy lol), rather than just have a wank gives even the monsters a massive advantage. Everything you say re attraction etc is true, but there’s a lot of hard facts that no one dare voice on fab. Just thought we’d throw another one in.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Attraction!

it doesn’t work like that in real life so why should it on here?

Anyway, happy Thursday

So , FAF

Go on then grumpy, bring custard

Obvs

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

Spot on Fluffy.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Spot on Fluffy.

Where, is it ready to be popped?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Attraction!

it doesn’t work like that in real life so why should it on here?

Anyway, happy Thursday

Um yeah that wasn’t quite what I was getting at

I think describing people as munters and monsters is a bit mean

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Spot on Fluffy.

No spots on me Julie

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Oh, another one of these.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well of course op. Although there are some for whom any holes a goal and if tbat works for them, then great for them. From what i have seen many if not most of the threads you highlight however don't start as whiny whinging at all... Simply a thread observing how challenging it is for some. The usual respondents then turn it into a competition to be as nasty and judgy as possible, turning it into something else, Until 175...rinse and repeat. The pattern is clear. Some people just like to stand on others because it makes them feel good. The ability to discuss stuff without being piled into is important. "

Yeah that’s a fair point, ive been guilty of joining the pile on. I just think if some of the thread starters did a quick search in the forums they’d find some really good advice without having to go through the process 2/3 times a day

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh, another one of these. "

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By *KloganMan
over a year ago

Ramsbottom

For what it’s worth, I agree with you FC… but if you shoot for the moon often enough, when you miss you’ll land in the stars.

My time on this site is littered with rejection, but sometimes (with a little hope, endeavour and a little positivity) I connect with someone.

It’s how we all handle rejection here, that’s the root cause of frustration for both sides of the coin. Lack of attraction is probably the main thing but add it to the list of reasons why there’s no reply.. besides, only shit people will tell you you’re ugly.

To everyone who struggles with rejection:.. shoot for the moon again.

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Well said. Also goes the other way - you can have virtually no profile, one blurred photo and no verifications but if there’s something that attracts me to you, the game is on.

I’ve got a few very interesting encounters like that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For what it’s worth, I agree with you FC… but if you shoot for the moon often enough, when you miss you’ll land in the stars.

My time on this site is littered with rejection, but sometimes (with a little hope, endeavour and a little positivity) I connect with someone.

To everyone who struggles with rejection:.. shoot for the moon again.

Agree! Attraction has nothing to do with being ugly or not, it’s all personal preference isn’t it

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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago

southeast , midlands, southern France

Attraction!

it doesn’t work like that in real life so why should it on here?

Anyway, happy Thursday

Well said, and so very true

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

But, but, but… I’m genuine and we all deserve a chance

We’re all here for the same thing at the end of the day innit

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By *KloganMan
over a year ago

Ramsbottom

"For what it’s worth, I agree with you FC… but if you shoot for the moon often enough, when you miss you’ll land in the stars.

My time on this site is littered with rejection, but sometimes (with a little hope, endeavour and a little positivity) I connect with someone.

To everyone who struggles with rejection:.. shoot for the moon again.

Agree! Attraction has nothing to do with being ugly or not, it’s all personal preference isn’t it "

100% you can shine bright in 1000s of different ways..

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

And yet.. Here we are again.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

I thought you were going on holiday ffs thats too many words to be australia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not going to lie- I don't have an issue. I thought it was my awesome personality showing through on the threads. But I guess it's just objectification. Damn. That's how that feels!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s all about understanding the game isn’t it?

It’s a game of supply and demand on Fab, a large proportion of the men (but not all!) just want to get their willies wet with no strings, and so the OP is right, the ladies can be *very* selective in who they want to fuck, and of course ripped hotties (if that’s what you like) right to the front of the queue.

If we’re “going there” on this thread as the OP outlined then the fact is that “unattractive” (I actually hate that word, but using it to make a point) women can definitely “punch” upwards.

In the vanilla dating world (where people are genuinely looking for life partners not just a quick fuck) the balance is totally different .. how often do you hear women bemoaning how they can’t find a man .. dare I suggest the same argument as the OP.. attraction?

It’s not so easy for an unattractive woman to punch the same when it’s a long term girlfriend the men are after.

Know the game, know the rules and understand your place is the name of the game for both men and women!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"It’s all about understanding the game isn’t it?

It’s not so easy for an unattractive woman to punch the same when it’s a long term girlfriend the men are after.

Know the game, know the rules and understand your place is the name of the game for both men and women!

He went there. Can't really say he is out of line, but he is right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good thing I’m attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attraction!

it doesn’t work like that in real life so why should it on here?

Anyway, happy Thursday

Amen!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m going to go there FC, it’s because they don’t have a BBC.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*homer backing away gif*

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By *ophie BrownTV/TS
over a year ago

walsall

Attraction!

it doesn’t work like that in real life so why should it on here?

Anyway, happy Thursday

It’s exactly the same for us crossdressers & trans gurls. Guys seem to think if they send us a picture of their cock, we will get all hot under the collar & just drop everything to service it. In all actuality, most guys do absolutely nothing for me. I mean Im far from being an oil painting, but like you say if there’s no attraction it’s just not going to happen. It also amazes me on here, how many don’t actually read your profile. It clearly says hey/hi/how’re you messages will just get deleted, then I get grief if I don’t reply. Also the amount of guys who have ‘straight’ on their profile & then they’re there messaging me! Lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry op your thread remains me off a song I have to

I'm hungry for your nakedness I stay thirsty for you craving it I'm searching for you in the dark of night is eye is powerful I cannot bite some call it love some call it lust what do you call it when it isn't either Deadly attraction poisonous passion it brings us here it's an addiction unbreakable it's a monster untameable it's a feeling irreplaceable it's a hunger insatiable we keep coming back coming back for more

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MlpYN0q8ZiU

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"It’s all about understanding the game isn’t it?

It’s not so easy for an unattractive woman to punch the same when it’s a long term girlfriend the men are after.

Know the game, know the rules and understand your place is the name of the game for both men and women!

Know the game, know the rules.. Sounds like an EA SPORTS advert... But very true nonetheless.. If youre in a wine shop that sells vino collapso through to petrus vintage... And you can have anything you want... Why would you snuffle around the bottom shelf.? #notallwines

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull

Attraction!

it doesn’t work like that in real life so why should it on here?

Anyway, happy Thursday

exactly x

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Lol I'm never rude and never as a rule send introductory messages and i never moan about my success here and attractiveness isn't just physical

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

(Awaits the bombardment of messages from ladies to his inbox)

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By *aughtyPeepzMan
over a year ago

London

"Very true.

Though I will also say, women should try and put effort in aswell instead of expecting the guys to make all the effort.

I kind of agree with this....

I've seen so many posts from women saying men should put more effort in when messaging. But it can get frustrating when you do, and you recieve nothing or just a line. Of course if the recipient doesn't fancy you, then obviously it's not in their interest to reply.

But if a guy makes the effort messaging a dozen women, and no one shows interest it can be disheartening. But that's life. But I cam see why some guys get upset

I prefer to do a simple short message to introduce myself first, and if they respond then you can make more of an effort thereafter.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

The advice I'd give single guys, especially ones new to fab? Don't waste your time and effort with direct messaging. Attend clubs and organised socials. Your odds will be much better there.

If you use the forums participate, build rapport with others, and if you see hints of interest in exchanges, take the plunge.

Direct messaging of someone you found attractive in a search is mostly pointless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okay here goes

I have found social interaction in the forums and being respectful whilst hopefully interesting along with a profile that doesn’t sound like you’re complaining is a great place to start.

And that works all ways

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m going to go there FC, it’s because they don’t have a BBC.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Who wants some Yorkshire pudding

Scotland is a flag of convenience (oh, and it's where my job is).

Come and get my gravy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s all about understanding the game isn’t it?

It’s not so easy for an unattractive woman to punch the same when it’s a long term girlfriend the men are after.

Know the game, know the rules and understand your place is the name of the game for both men and women!

Well why shouldn’t women be selective? Not our fault men aren’t

(Joke btw before I get lynched)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the words of Dita Von Teese.

"You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches."

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Yes but attraction is different for everyone. So for me a really good message can start the attraction. I often don't even look at the profile before we have exchanged a few messages.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In the words of Dita Von Teese.

"You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches." "

It’s me. I hate peaches. And peas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s all about understanding the game isn’t it?

It’s not so easy for an unattractive woman to punch the same when it’s a long term girlfriend the men are after.

Know the game, know the rules and understand your place is the name of the game for both men and women!

Well why shouldn’t women be selective? Not our fault men aren’t

(Joke btw before I get lynched)

I didn’t say they shouldn’t be!

Backformore100 got it spot on with his wine analogy earlier.

More power to the ladies of Fab I say!

It’s about understanding the game. And the game (on Fab and other sites where no-commitment casual sex is the goal) is definitely loaded in the ladies favour!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s all about understanding the game isn’t it?

It’s not so easy for an unattractive woman to punch the same when it’s a long term girlfriend the men are after.

Know the game, know the rules and understand your place is the name of the game for both men and women!

Well why shouldn’t women be selective? Not our fault men aren’t

(Joke btw before I get lynched)

I didn’t say they shouldn’t be!

Backformore100 got it spot on with his wine analogy earlier.

More power to the ladies of Fab I say!

It’s about understanding the game. And the game (on Fab and other sites where no-commitment casual sex is the goal) is definitely loaded in the ladies favour!

Of course it is. Other wise it's abusive sexual harassment. It is everywhere. There isn't a place in modern society where the woman should feel pressured to sleep with a man. Ever.

Fab is a place where everyone can be anything they like. They can say things they wouldn't normally say publicly. Like "rim my fucking arsehole" not my best chat up line. Granted. But I wouldn't dream of saying it randomly at the speed dating meet.

The ladies hold the key of power. The men have to peacock. To get noticed. It either comes naturally or it doesn't. Those it doesn't come naturally for. Will no doubt find it harder.

When I first came back on here. I lurked for a few weeks. Watched how other "popular" male profiles acted. Conducted themselves. Before I began "advertising" myself.

It pays dividends to use your eyes and eyes more than your mouth (fingers) and it pays to have an enormous respect for the ladies.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Attraction!

it doesn’t work like that in real life so why should it on here?

Anyway, happy Thursday

So , FAC

It's a bit early for custard, Grumpy

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By *eathrow pineappleCouple
over a year ago

West London

Attraction!

it doesn’t work like that in real life so why should it on here?

Anyway, happy Thursday

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it's the same as if you go out. If someone doesn't find you to their liking or likewise, you're not going to entertain them. It's life.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"It’s all about understanding the game isn’t it?

It’s not so easy for an unattractive woman to punch the same when it’s a long term girlfriend the men are after.

Know the game, know the rules and understand your place is the name of the game for both men and women!

Yes it's easy to punch when the men don't ever have to introduce you to their family and friends but I also think that men would feel differently about the kind of partner they would choose if not so influenced by societal idea of beauty. There would be so much less fatphobia because I think a lot of men actually like fatter women. More cushion for the pushing and all that. I think the same is true for women too.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

A thanks but no thanks message would remove any confusion though. If the message is never opened the sender doesn't know.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think you’re right in most cases but occasionally I find someone hot only after I got to know them. It’s happened twice. I barely noticed them, one I even disliked and fought with but within space of a year found her absolutely gorgeous and couldn’t resist fucking her.

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By *lexm87Man
over a year ago

Various

How does custard fit into this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree outside the forums. But I chat to everyone inside the forums. Even people who don’t find me attractive looking enjoy chatting in general…

I do agree with mrHotNotts

That beautify and attractiveness can also be found through chatting and getting to know them.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"It’s all about understanding the game isn’t it?

It’s not so easy for an unattractive woman to punch the same when it’s a long term girlfriend the men are after.

Know the game, know the rules and understand your place is the name of the game for both men and women!

Well why shouldn’t women be selective? Not our fault men aren’t

(Joke btw before I get lynched)

I didn’t say they shouldn’t be!

Backformore100 got it spot on with his wine analogy earlier.

More power to the ladies of Fab I say!

It’s about understanding the game. And the game (on Fab and other sites where no-commitment casual sex is the goal) is definitely loaded in the ladies favour!

Of course it is. Other wise it's abusive sexual harassment. It is everywhere. There isn't a place in modern society where the woman should feel pressured to sleep with a man. Ever.

The ladies hold the key of power. The men have to peacock. To get noticed. It either comes naturally or it doesn't. Those it doesn't come naturally for. Will no doubt find it harder.

When I first came back on here. I lurked for a few weeks. Watched how other "popular" male profiles acted. Conducted themselves. Before I began "advertising" myself.

It pays dividends to use your eyes and eyes more than your mouth (fingers) and it pays to have an enormous respect for the ladies."

How did you know who the popular guys are?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"It’s all about understanding the game isn’t it?

It’s not so easy for an unattractive woman to punch the same when it’s a long term girlfriend the men are after.

Know the game, know the rules and understand your place is the name of the game for both men and women!

Well why shouldn’t women be selective? Not our fault men aren’t

(Joke btw before I get lynched)

I didn’t say they shouldn’t be!

Backformore100 got it spot on with his wine analogy earlier.

More power to the ladies of Fab I say!

It’s about understanding the game. And the game (on Fab and other sites where no-commitment casual sex is the goal) is definitely loaded in the ladies favour!

Of course it is. Other wise it's abusive sexual harassment. It is everywhere. There isn't a place in modern society where the woman should feel pressured to sleep with a man. Ever.

The ladies hold the key of power. The men have to peacock. To get noticed. It either comes naturally or it doesn't. Those it doesn't come naturally for. Will no doubt find it harder.

When I first came back on here. I lurked for a few weeks. Watched how other "popular" male profiles acted. Conducted themselves. Before I began "advertising" myself.

It pays dividends to use your eyes and eyes more than your mouth (fingers) and it pays to have an enormous respect for the ladies.

How did you know who the popular guys are?"
He followed my lead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s all about understanding the game isn’t it?

It’s not so easy for an unattractive woman to punch the same when it’s a long term girlfriend the men are after.

Know the game, know the rules and understand your place is the name of the game for both men and women!

Well why shouldn’t women be selective? Not our fault men aren’t

(Joke btw before I get lynched)

I didn’t say they shouldn’t be!

Backformore100 got it spot on with his wine analogy earlier.

More power to the ladies of Fab I say!

It’s about understanding the game. And the game (on Fab and other sites where no-commitment casual sex is the goal) is definitely loaded in the ladies favour!

Of course it is. Other wise it's abusive sexual harassment. It is everywhere. There isn't a place in modern society where the woman should feel pressured to sleep with a man. Ever.

The ladies hold the key of power. The men have to peacock. To get noticed. It either comes naturally or it doesn't. Those it doesn't come naturally for. Will no doubt find it harder.

When I first came back on here. I lurked for a few weeks. Watched how other "popular" male profiles acted. Conducted themselves. Before I began "advertising" myself.

It pays dividends to use your eyes and eyes more than your mouth (fingers) and it pays to have an enormous respect for the ladies.

How did you know who the popular guys are?"

The ones who have great forum input. Put themselves across well. Don't go wading in with dick pics.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"How does custard fit into this? "

Running joke with the poster in question. Sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Basically. The ones who don't take themselves to seriously. It is what it is. I'm not going to make someone "like" me. None of us are. They either like my pics. What I've written on my profile and get in touch. Or they don't. Either is fine with me. But I won't, allow myself to be humiliated chasing something that isn't wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Basically. The ones who don't take themselves to seriously. It is what it is. I'm not going to make someone "like" me. None of us are. They either like my pics. What I've written on my profile and get in touch. Or they don't. Either is fine with me. But I won't, allow myself to be humiliated chasing something that isn't wanted."

Self preservation is king.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Got it in one.

Fellas... Learn to take a decent selfie, that would really help!

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

"Good thing I’m attractive. "

That's me fucked then. And not in the good way

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Yea, make yourselves more attractive

Time for school: If I'm browsing a shop, seeing item after item after item, and they're all generic; basic; uniform, my eyes will pop out at something unusual or eye-popping.

We women have a lot of choice-even us middle-aged, fat, greying Marges with incontinence problems-so make it easier for us to spot you in a sea of greyness.

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By *lexm87Man
over a year ago

Various

"How does custard fit into this?

Running joke with the poster in question. Sorry"

Phew. I thought it might be some new trend amongst the young people.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

You don't have to peacock, you can butterfly, or crazy frog me into bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You don't have to peacock, you can butterfly, or crazy frog me into bed.

Can I motorboat you into bed?

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

Remember this people, you have a man and a women. They both wanna go to eat a grapefruit, just because they both wanna grapefruit, doesn't mean they have to eat it together...

Now grow up and eat each other genitalia.

Point is this line 10 women up in front of one man, he will pick one based initially on attraction, as that's all we have. So why do men get so pissy when women don't reply as they don't fancy them. I know because men carry a massive God's gift complex, which has mass amounts of entitlement attached to it.

Truth is this no matter how humorous your profile is, how big your donkey dick is. How perfectly sculpted your abs are, how you craft the perfect first subjective message based on profiles. If there's no attraction then it's all for nowt...

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

It's worth noting that trends on FAB aren't really any different to conventional online dating site (bar the extra factor of couples). If you look at data taken from regular online dating sites. Certain trends appears that I suspect are similar to fab:

Men generally approach/like/swipe-rights to far bigger numbers of women than women do to men.

Roughly half the approach/like/swipe-rights given by men go to the 30% of women but half the approach/like/swipe-rights given by women goes to only 10% of guys. In general the amount of approach/like/swipe-rights that women get is spread more evenly however the approach/like/swipe-rights that men get is heavily weighted towards a top 10-20% of men and very little indeed towards the lower 80%.

Another interesting feature is that the top scoring 10% of men score higher/more successful than the top 10% of women in terms of matches.

Obviously this is not an exact science and research varies a bit but the trends seem to run close. So basically there's a top 10% of guys who do really well and women are generally more successful across the the board. The top 10% of guys do better than the top 10% of women. Lots of men don't get much of a look in as most women stand a good chance across the board. So if fab emulates normal Internet dating patterns (like I think it does to some extent) there is every need for men to put their best foot forward. Although one may say women don't need to put in effort I would say this is false. Because although women could pick up pretty much any guy based of online dating patterns most women are only intrests in the top 10-20% of males. Thus arguably for the males they want (especially the top 10%) they face far stiffer competition than most men (who just seek women across a far wider cross section).

So I suppose the real lesson here is no one is to blame because men and women simply date differently. Although you can see why the mismatch is dating patterns causes so much upset, disappointment and low self esteem amongst many men on here and on normal dating sites. But also the frustration of women who struggle to find the quality of guy they look for.

Also a quick note on clubs, we often see the same. There are a couple of guys we see in clubs who clean up every night. Well known, well liked and actively chased by others. Then there are guys we see go often (some rather good looking) who just don't seem to get anywhere. Seems to me the winning formula tends to have a lot to do with social skills, a genuine warmth/spark and self assured character.

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

"Very true.

Though I will also say, women should try and put effort in aswell instead of expecting the guys to make all the effort.

So true,ive seen some right ugly women on here....and they still say no to me

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Very true.

Though I will also say, women should try and put effort in aswell instead of expecting the guys to make all the effort.

So true,ive seen some right ugly women on here....and they still say no to me

So if what your claiming is that these are ugly in your words, why are you messaging them?. Which tells me you'll do anything.

Second point, they obviously think the same back regarding you and say no, which tells me they have higher standards than you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Very true.

Though I will also say, women should try and put effort in aswell instead of expecting the guys to make all the effort.

So true,ive seen some right ugly women on here....and they still say no to me

Wow

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

"Very true.

Though I will also say, women should try and put effort in aswell instead of expecting the guys to make all the effort.

So true,ive seen some right ugly women on here....and they still say no to me

So if what your claiming is that these are ugly in your words, why are you messaging them?. Which tells me you'll do anything.

Second point, they obviously think the same back regarding you and say no, which tells me they have higher standards than you."

Self-deprecation humour obviously goes over some people's heads x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% agree. I think I've commented that a few times. I've met with someone that has no profile picture or text on here and sent me the most direct message. I'm just not interested in discussions about what we like and all that, if there's attraction there will work it out when we meet.

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

"Very true.

Though I will also say, women should try and put effort in aswell instead of expecting the guys to make all the effort.

So true,ive seen some right ugly women on here....and they still say no to me

I know it’s hard to believe but even ugly women have standards.

Who knew.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"Very true.

Though I will also say, women should try and put effort in aswell instead of expecting the guys to make all the effort.

So true,ive seen some right ugly women on here....and they still say no to me

So if what your claiming is that these are ugly in your words, why are you messaging them?. Which tells me you'll do anything.

Second point, they obviously think the same back regarding you and say no, which tells me they have higher standards than you.

Self-deprecation humour obviously goes over some people's heads x"

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

you went there OP

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

What you say is pretty obvious but it has been said many times before on here almost on a daily basis so I'm not sure why you think people are afraid to say it or how you haven't noticed it?

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"What you say is pretty obvious but it has been said many times before on here almost on a daily basis so I'm not sure why you think people are afraid to say it or how you haven't noticed it?

Just emphasising the point... In case people didnt know or had dodged the whiny men threads.? The irony is not lost.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Very true.

Though I will also say, women should try and put effort in aswell instead of expecting the guys to make all the effort.

So true,ive seen some right ugly women on here....and they still say no to me

So if what your claiming is that these are ugly in your words, why are you messaging them?. Which tells me you'll do anything.

Second point, they obviously think the same back regarding you and say no, which tells me they have higher standards than you.

Self-deprecation humour obviously goes over some people's heads x"

But that's not what it was, it wasn't self-deprecating humour, as you brought others into it. This is just now back tracking as I challenged you on it.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Very true.

Though I will also say, women should try and put effort in aswell instead of expecting the guys to make all the effort.

So true,ive seen some right ugly women on here....and they still say no to me

So if what your claiming is that these are ugly in your words, why are you messaging them?. Which tells me you'll do anything.

Second point, they obviously think the same back regarding you and say no, which tells me they have higher standards than you.

Self-deprecation humour obviously goes over some people's heads x

But that's not what it was, it wasn't self-deprecating humour, as you brought others into it. This is just now back tracking as I challenged you on it.

For the win

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

"Very true.

Though I will also say, women should try and put effort in aswell instead of expecting the guys to make all the effort.

So true,ive seen some right ugly women on here....and they still say no to me

So if what your claiming is that these are ugly in your words, why are you messaging them?. Which tells me you'll do anything.

Second point, they obviously think the same back regarding you and say no, which tells me they have higher standards than you.

Self-deprecation humour obviously goes over some people's heads x

But that's not what it was, it wasn't self-deprecating humour, as you brought others into it. This is just now back tracking as I challenged you on it.

Who did i bring into it? The joke is that even ugly woman don't want me! Sorry that you can't read a post properly...sending a hug your way x

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"Very true.

Though I will also say, women should try and put effort in aswell instead of expecting the guys to make all the effort.

So true,ive seen some right ugly women on here....and they still say no to me

So if what your claiming is that these are ugly in your words, why are you messaging them?. Which tells me you'll do anything.

Second point, they obviously think the same back regarding you and say no, which tells me they have higher standards than you.

Self-deprecation humour obviously goes over some people's heads x

But that's not what it was, it wasn't self-deprecating humour, as you brought others into it. This is just now back tracking as I challenged you on it.

Who did i bring into it? The joke is that even ugly woman don't want me! Sorry that you can't read a post properly...sending a hug your way x"

How dare you make yourself the butt of a joke!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just glad I'm not male. Or bi.....

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

"Very true.

Though I will also say, women should try and put effort in aswell instead of expecting the guys to make all the effort.

So true,ive seen some right ugly women on here....and they still say no to me

So if what your claiming is that these are ugly in your words, why are you messaging them?. Which tells me you'll do anything.

Second point, they obviously think the same back regarding you and say no, which tells me they have higher standards than you.

Self-deprecation humour obviously goes over some people's heads x

But that's not what it was, it wasn't self-deprecating humour, as you brought others into it. This is just now back tracking as I challenged you on it.

Who did i bring into it? The joke is that even ugly woman don't want me! Sorry that you can't read a post properly...sending a hug your way x"

Turns out I’m not only ugly but also I have no sense of humour because I also somehow didn’t find your “joke” funny, passive aggressive more like towards women.

Apologies if I’m wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did the op drop a truth bomb?