FabSwingers.com forum: Could you move in together if you are not married?

By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I was listening to one talking about it and it was interesting.

He was talking about memories from when he went to college and there a question came about it, he remembered how the teacher asked the class if you could move in together if you are not married.

So, if you could you would raise your hand and if couldnt do it, you wouldnt raise it.

There were 30 pupils in the class where 27 hands went up and 3 didnt, so the majority wouldnt mind doing it.

What about about you, could you move in together if you are a couple before getting married? I could and I wouldnt have any problems with it.

Personally, I dont see how a piece of paper makes a lot of difference to a relationship, it definitely comes down to personal choice

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
over a year ago

In the clouds

Erm, who doesn't these days?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never marry someone without knowing what they’re like to live with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People get married and THEN live together?! Not a chance! Need to know just how batshit they are first

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"Erm, who doesn't these days?!"
You are right there. I think that it is a bit different nowadays as well

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I would never marry someone without knowing what they’re like to live with. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good way to test the water is to book a holiday together. That can make or break a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just wouldn't live with anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just wouldn't live with anyone"

Imagine living with you. The hair in that plughole must be horrendous

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

Yep we did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just wouldn't live with anyone

Imagine living with you. The hair in that plughole must be horrendous

It is! This is the worst thing about not having a man, having to clear the hair out the plug myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just wouldn't live with anyone

Imagine living with you. The hair in that plughole must be horrendous

It is! This is the worst thing about not having a man, having to clear the hair out the plug myself

You could probably sell that to someone on here

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"I just wouldn't live with anyone

Imagine living with you. The hair in that plughole must be horrendous

It is! This is the worst thing about not having a man, having to clear the hair out the plug myself

You could probably sell that to someone on here

Rule 34, rule 34.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

TBF Marriage is a bit more than 'a piece of paper'.

It's a legally binding contract is my understanding of it.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

Married or not, why people want to move in together beats me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely. My husband and I lived together for just over a year before we got married.

Jeez, that was 20 years ago, how time flies when you're having fun

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Married or not, why people want to move in together beats me. "

Halves the costs and chores , free massages, there’s lot of benefits , but also lots of disadvantages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lived with my gf for years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Married or not, why people want to move in together beats me. "

For that thing called love

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

"Married or not, why people want to move in together beats me.

Halves the costs and chores , free massages, there’s lot of benefits , but also lots of disadvantages. "

I loose the Council Tax discount, end up having to clear up after someone else cos they don’t put things where I want them put.

You don’t have to move in together to get your free massages, infact I’d need one more if they moved in so I could de-stress

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is 2023... not 1950.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

"I was listening to one talking about it and it was interesting.

He was talking about memories from when he went to college and there a question came about it, he remembered how the teacher asked the class if you could move in together if you are not married.

So, if you could you would raise your hand and if couldnt do it, you wouldnt raise it.

There were 30 pupils in the class where 27 hands went up and 3 didnt, so the majority wouldnt mind doing it.

What about about you, could you move in together if you are a couple before getting married? I could and I wouldnt have any problems with it.

Personally, I dont see how a piece of paper makes a lot of difference to a relationship, it definitely comes down to personal choice

We lived together a few years before we wed, didn't seem out of the ordinary in any way.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

"Married or not, why people want to move in together beats me.

For that thing called love

Think you’ve been reading too much Mills and Boon Ruby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just wouldn't live with anyone

Imagine living with you. The hair in that plughole must be horrendous

It is! This is the worst thing about not having a man, having to clear the hair out the plug myself

You could probably sell that to someone on here

Rule 34, rule 34."

Rules are for losers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Married or not, why people want to move in together beats me.

For that thing called love

Think you’ve been reading too much Mills and Boon Ruby

noooooo, I'm talking from my personal experience of love. Nothing beats it.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"I just wouldn't live with anyone

Imagine living with you. The hair in that plughole must be horrendous

It is! This is the worst thing about not having a man, having to clear the hair out the plug myself

You could probably sell that to someone on here

Rule 34, rule 34.

Rules are for losers

Rule 34

Rule 34 - If it exists, there is porn of it.

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

"I was listening to one talking about it and it was interesting.

He was talking about memories from when he went to college and there a question came about it, he remembered how the teacher asked the class if you could move in together if you are not married.

So, if you could you would raise your hand and if couldnt do it, you wouldnt raise it.

There were 30 pupils in the class where 27 hands went up and 3 didnt, so the majority wouldnt mind doing it.

What about about you, could you move in together if you are a couple before getting married? I could and I wouldnt have any problems with it.

Personally, I dont see how a piece of paper makes a lot of difference to a relationship, it definitely comes down to personal choice

It’s 2023. Is this even a consideration these days?

And a marriage is not just a piece of paper. It’s a legally binding contract and you are agreeing to share your wealth in the event of a future divorce. It’s not something to be entered into lightly.

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove

"TBF Marriage is a bit more than 'a piece of paper'.

It's a legally binding contract is my understanding of it."

I was reluctant to move in with my bf without getting married cos it involved moving abroad. That was back in the 00s and he was very perplexed and embarrassed cos he saw everyone in the uk cohabited, no question about it. In my culture nobody did, no question about it. He was at the tender age of 22 so admittedly too young. Immigration laws changed with Brexit and for a stretch of months/years despite our marriage I had no claim to living here, so that was an interesting experience! Our kids are "legit" tho so that's something

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

My mum told me to live with someone before you marry them.

Still haven't done it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've lived with 2 different men, never been married.

Not sure I could do the marriage thing and living with me is complicated. I have a council house and I'm fucked if I'm putting anyone on the tenancy agreement.

So I'm more of a would live with someone not married type rather than married.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Back in the day it was expected that u got married! I had a shotgun wedding at 16 as was expecting my first daughter it was either that or the unmarried mums home! And that was only 1974! How times have changed thank goodness! Second time around no marriage much as he wanted to x

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yep. I very happily bought a house with my partner. We've been living together for six years now, we'll be married soon but I've never had any real issues about living with him. I enjoy it a lot. I don't think marriage will change the happiness I feel in having a home together with him.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We lived together for seven years before we got married.

I disagree that marriage is 'just a piece of paper'. If people don't want to marry for whatever reason I respect that, just don't dismiss my marriage in those terms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lived together 12 years so far, not married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We lived together for seven years before we got married.

I disagree that marriage is 'just a piece of paper'. If people don't want to marry for whatever reason I respect that, just don't dismiss my marriage in those terms. "

We probably won't, but 1000% it's more than a piece of paper... its all about the meaning of it personally to you 2

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By *irtyKittenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

We have been living together over 20 years and not married.

So nothing wrong with it, but I can see how some maybe judgemental on it.

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By *arleycplCouple
over a year ago

Leyburn

We have lived together for 6 years, no "married" in the normal way, but had a Handfasting ceremony last year,

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"We lived together for seven years before we got married.

I disagree that marriage is 'just a piece of paper'. If people don't want to marry for whatever reason I respect that, just don't dismiss my marriage in those terms.

We probably won't, but 1000% it's more than a piece of paper... its all about the meaning of it personally to you 2"

Exactly. All relationships are about their meaning to the individuals in it. Dismissing cohabiting couples with the phrase

'Oh they're just living together' is equally disrespectful in my view.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We've lived together for over 6 years ,I have no interest in getting married at all.

Like others said I think it would be odd to never live with a person before you commit to marry them,they might drive you crackers.

Miss

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By *DSGCouple
over a year ago

That place in

Both of us were married now divorced, very happily living together and not a hope that we will ever marry again

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We live together and aren’t married to each other

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this an offer? I mean. If your lonely then sure. Why not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lived with my partner for 19 years,before he died.

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By *herry delightWoman
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

The only bit of advice my mother gave me was try before you buy.

Do a test run before you commit.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

I think the question should be 'should you marry someone without living with them first?'

To which I think the answer is no!

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"I would never marry someone without knowing what they’re like to live with. "
Same here. I also have to know what they are like living with before marry them

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Yes i don't believe in god and i lived with my ex wife for 5 years before we got married, she was a catholic non practicing but her mum and dad were practicing catholics so we got married in a catholic church

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

'If marriage didn't exist, would you invent it? Would you go "Baby, this shit we got together, it's so good we gotta get the government in on this shit. We can't just share this commitment 'tweenst us. We need judges and lawyers involved in this shit, baby. It's hot!" ' Doug Stanhope

The party and celebration etc sure cool... The legal stuff? One could argue the reason we have binding contracts is due to a lack of trust.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

When my father in law died his partner was not his next of kin because they weren't married. She was unable to do things that a NOK could. She said at the time she should have married him when he asked.

I think you either marry or you don't it's thankfully a personal choice for many in the west now. If you want legality there are other ways of achieving it

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"People get married and THEN live together?! Not a chance! Need to know just how batshit they are first

Mr"
Yes, you are right there too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The only bit of advice my mother gave me was try before you buy.

Do a test run before you commit. "

I really wish my Mum had said those words to me. It would of saved a lot of tears, upset and stress.

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By *ornyguyMan
over a year ago

Hillsborough, NI

I'm not married but cohabiting.

For marriage, there are tax benefits and next of kin benefits should the unthinkable happen. Same could also be achieved through civil partnership I guess. Anyway, that piece of paper can be important in certain circumstances.

I get frustrated with HMRC, who, when they want money, class you as Living as a Married Couple and when you want money from them, they say no because you're not married.

Sorry, I got a bit romantic and mushy there

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

"Erm, who doesn't these days?!You are right there. I think that it is a bit different nowadays as well

Think it's been a bit different for the last 50 years for most people

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

No.

And also I'm not getting married.

Living alone is the way

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"No.

And also I'm not getting married.

Living alone is the way

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lonely though

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"No.

And also I'm not getting married.

Living alone is the way

lonely though

Not at all. My partners visit regularly

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By *aughtySexualArousalMan
over a year ago

SPALDING

"I was listening to one talking about it and it was interesting.

He was talking about memories from when he went to college and there a question came about it, he remembered how the teacher asked the class if you could move in together if you are not married.

So, if you could you would raise your hand and if couldnt do it, you wouldnt raise it.

There were 30 pupils in the class where 27 hands went up and 3 didnt, so the majority wouldnt mind doing it.

What about about you, could you move in together if you are a couple before getting married? I could and I wouldnt have any problems with it.

Personally, I dont see how a piece of paper makes a lot of difference to a relationship, it definitely comes down to personal choice

Yes I could and have done 3 times. Obviously not straight away but after 3 or 4 months then yeah.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"Yep we did"
That is good

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

"I was listening to one talking about it and it was interesting.

He was talking about memories from when he went to college and there a question came about it, he remembered how the teacher asked the class if you could move in together if you are not married.

So, if you could you would raise your hand and if couldnt do it, you wouldnt raise it.

There were 30 pupils in the class where 27 hands went up and 3 didnt, so the majority wouldnt mind doing it.

What about about you, could you move in together if you are a couple before getting married? I could and I wouldnt have any problems with it.

Personally, I dont see how a piece of paper makes a lot of difference to a relationship, it definitely comes down to personal choice

It’s 2023. Is this even a consideration these days?

You are also liable for the debts

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"I was listening to one talking about it and it was interesting.

He was talking about memories from when he went to college and there a question came about it, he remembered how the teacher asked the class if you could move in together if you are not married.

So, if you could you would raise your hand and if couldnt do it, you wouldnt raise it.

There were 30 pupils in the class where 27 hands went up and 3 didnt, so the majority wouldnt mind doing it.

What about about you, could you move in together if you are a couple before getting married? I could and I wouldnt have any problems with it.

Personally, I dont see how a piece of paper makes a lot of difference to a relationship, it definitely comes down to personal choice

It’s 2023. Is this even a consideration these days?

"
Yes, you are right there. I dont think that it is a consideration these days, more so back in the days

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By *etterdays2021Man
over a year ago

PETERBOROUGH

I live together with my partner 13 years now..i dont believe in marriage.

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By *aughtySexualArousalMan
over a year ago

SPALDING

"I live together with my partner 13 years now..i dont believe in marriage. "

Same here, would definitely take a very special woman to get me to change my mind

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London

Yes of course. Just depends how u get in and if comfortable doing for both

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Yes I have lived with two men. Not sure I’d want to live with a man again though. They can keep their home and I’ll have mine and we’ll meet up for sex and conversation every Thursday evening. Throw in a Saturday too if they’re good in bed.

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By *uckMan
over a year ago

Scunthorpe DN15

moved in together... got married...

got divorced... still together sharing the same house 10 years later but we're not together as a couple.

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