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By *ylonlover87 OP   Man
over a year ago

upchurch

I love having sex for more than 5 minuets but to do this I have to stop myself finishing. I'm happy to have sex and not climax but some girls get annoyed. Anyone else happy to go at it but not finish. Its normally 30% chance I'll finish but I find it difficult to explaine to a girl I'm still satisfied. Is this common or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest if a guy doesn’t finsh at least ones I feel like I didn’t do a good job or I wasn’t good in the sack or my bj wasn’t up to par or what ever

to be 100% truthfully I don’t mind if a guy pop within 5 minutes that’s what rounds were invented for there no shame in going rounds 2-3-4-5-6 and so on

Even if the guy pops first round and then stops himself the second round that’s ok

At least I feel I have satisfied him ones but not poping at all makes me feel that I couldn’t get the job done

Would probably put me off a return meet as well

For felling like I couldn’t get the job done and was a crap ride but I offering up the goods to he’s going to take it no matter if I was or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve only never not climaxed a couple of times. I blame them. ….

I just didn’t need to, my mood wasn’t looking for my orgasm right then, and I hope they took their enjoyment for what it was. A sexy time.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Explain this to the woman before having sex so they know to expect it and not think it's them.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Explain this to the woman before having sex so they know to expect it and not think it's them. "

This happened on our first ever meet and I must admit I took it quite hard! (Ooo matron)

But yeah even though the chap explained afterwards he was holding back, it knocked my confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t imagine not climaxing! Maybe I’m easily pleased but I can’t say there’s been a time I’ve not climaxed. If I feel I’m getting too excited and might finish quicker than I’d like then I slow it down a bit and hold back, but I always finish.

Mr

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By *eally_RosieWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I have never had a problem with a guy coming straight away. There are plenty of other things to do until he’s ready again

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
over a year ago

In the clouds


"Explain this to the woman before having sex so they know to expect it and not think it's them. "

Agreed

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

I actually went through a stage in my life where I was rarely climaxing . I don’t know if it’s down to what you have going on in your life or your diet or lifestyle I’m not sure but I wouldn’t ever say it was any of my sexual partners fault I think it was down to me but now I’m all good again

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I'd be pretty pissed off with that, so many guys think we all love to be banged away for ages, when for some of us the penetrative part is the climax to the sex and a 5 minute bang and cum is awesome after a hour's+ pleasure.

As above have said, chat to your friend/s and see if they are happy with that

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

Communication! Can you only cum once ? Explain that you always cum quick so have to keep stopping and starting (if that's what they want). 5 mins of time isn't that short for PIV , plenty of other stuff to do !

Or can you go again ? Important and nosey questions I would explain that as many people love a repeater

Five mins sounds short but it's not really. I once dated a guy who had premature ejaculation where he would cum through foreplay at first. Never bothered me , we just had loads of sex after that each time got a but longer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy if you finish within 5 mins.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Explain this to the woman before having sex so they know to expect it and not think it's them.

Agreed "

I do. It’s like performing a song at a concert..

“This one’s for my fans!!!”

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I don’t always cum but then I am pumped full of so much estrogen it’s pretty expected.. I like to think anyone with a brain understands the mechanics and effects for trans women like me that are on hormone treatments that I meet .

Communication prior to meeting on it is best course for people

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

It is slightly weird that the narrative around guys is that if they don't climax they didn't enjoy it, or it could have been better.

Some of my best sexual memories don't include a climax at all.

But then I guess it goea back to echoing what others have said, it needs to be communicated

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Honestly Op?

While orgasms aren't the be all and end all of great sex...

I think you'll find most women would rather you didn't "stop" yourself so you can last longer than five minutes.

I don't think there's anything wrong at all with coming when you want/need to. If you're holding back, the reality is as much as you think you're doing it to prolong the woman's pleasure, she's probably not really enjoying it as much as if you didn't.

I can tell when someone does. Usually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t finish often or easily because of my anxiety medication. I explain this beforehand but similarly I think lots of women don’t feel like they’ve satisfied me. Gets a bit exhausting reassuring them.

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