FabSwingers.com forum: Sending Messages

By *oob lover400 OP Man
over a year ago

cleckheaton

Wish women would reply with a let down message or just block if not interested ( be easier than just waiting and waiting... we all know females get 100s of pms but we dont know if they just haven't had chance to reply or the mesaage has been lost among all the others etc lol... probably is they aint interested but theres always that niggling feeling and you want to pm again lol...Is it just me ? I would rather have a reply back saying ' not my type' or be blocked so I know ????

Just bored here and thought I would ask you guys ??? Women pls advise too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This again?

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

"This again? "

hopefully no one else will notice and I’m tip toeing back out the room…

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

These threads crop up time and again like a stubborn Trifid cross-bred with Japanese knot. But in fairness to the OP, he's quite new here.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

It’s a glitch in the matrix… clearly

OP. A no reply is a no thanks. It even says it in the FAQs.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"These threads crop up time and again like a stubborn Trifid cross-bred with Japanese knot. But in fairness to the OP, he's quite new here.

^^ sarcasm at its finest

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

Yes closure would be nice, no you're not gonna get it. Put on the big boy pants and move on

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Search the other hundreds of forum threads on this exact topic. No reply = not interested. People can manage their inbox how they choose. Sending a reply to say ‘not interested’ just generates abuse or another message saying ‘but why not’ / ‘give me a chance’ and it is never ending.

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"Wish women would reply with a let down message or just block if not interested ( be easier than just waiting and waiting... we all know females get 100s of pms but we dont know if they just haven't had chance to reply or the mesaage has been lost among all the others etc lol... probably is they aint interested but theres always that niggling feeling and you want to pm again lol...Is it just me ? I would rather have a reply back saying ' not my type' or be blocked so I know ????

Just bored here and thought I would ask you guys ??? Women pls advise too..."

She would 100% have replied if she was interested.

No reply = not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well looks like he’s got his answer in the messages on this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just bored here and thought I would ask you guys ??? Women pls advise too..."

It must feel really shit to get no response all the time. A reply or any acknowledgement would be good, even if it's a no.

Unfortunately some men get abusive when a woman says no, hence why it's often better to do nothing at all. Blame the abusive men.

Unless they specifically say they are interested, they aren't.

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

You all rushed passed as I tip toed back out….was that not a clue?

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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago

southeast , midlands, southern France

Call me lazy if you like, but I always start with a wink, if I get a wink back then I follow it up with a message.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Just move on, once sent. Possibly make notes.

Aim to learn from what you do. The onus is on you, the sender, to manage things, not someone who didn't solicit your message to have to help you deal with the consequences of your choices and behaviour.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

OP, do you really want loads of rejection messages over the 'no reply reply'? I think that sounds worse. I would just send and delete, then any reply's a bonus.

Or don't send initial messages and wait to be messaged - then you'll know they liked the look of your profile...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It hits a certain time of night and these threads just appear

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By *oob lover400 OP Man
over a year ago

cleckheaton

Thanks for replies..I am new ( ish ) Ive never seen a similer post but i will take on board what ive read...Just means ive been rejected by 223 gals haha...

Seriously thats a lie its 178

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By *oob lover400 OP Man
over a year ago

cleckheaton

"Call me lazy if you like, but I always start with a wink, if I get a wink back then I follow it up with a message.

I thought Winks were taboo haha..will wink more from now on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for replies..I am new ( ish ) Ive never seen a similer post but i will take on board what ive read...Just means ive been rejected by 223 gals haha...

Seriously thats a lie its 178"

Only 12 more women to message then that's all of them on Fab.

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By *oob lover400 OP Man
over a year ago

cleckheaton

"It’s a glitch in the matrix… clearly

OP. A no reply is a no thanks. It even says it in the FAQs. "

To be fair to myself and most blokes, we never read instructions ( you do that after you realise your stuck...

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

I can honestly say I’ve never been rejected….

I can also say I’ve never been messaged by anyone interested….

It’s a waiting game a very long drawn out waiting game!!

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By *oob lover400 OP Man
over a year ago

cleckheaton

"Thanks for replies..I am new ( ish ) Ive never seen a similer post but i will take on board what ive read...Just means ive been rejected by 223 gals haha...

Seriously thats a lie its 178

Only 12 more women to message then that's all of them on Fab.

I will pm you nxt ??

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"Thanks for replies..I am new ( ish ) Ive never seen a similer post but i will take on board what ive read...Just means ive been rejected by 223 gals haha...

Seriously thats a lie its 178"

The other reason people do not reply is if say for example, I replied to you and 29 others today with a polite no thank you then tomorrow I decide to block single males from messaging. The filter will not block those 30 single males from messaging because I have engaged with you already even though it was a no thanks.

I prefer my filters to work when I need them to not to and replying to messages stops them from being effective.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It’s a glitch in the matrix… clearly

OP. A no reply is a no thanks. It even says it in the FAQs.

To be fair to myself and most blokes, we never read instructions ( you do that after you realise your stuck..."

Reading them was one of the first things I did

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"It’s a glitch in the matrix… clearly

OP. A no reply is a no thanks. It even says it in the FAQs.

To be fair to myself and most blokes, we never read instructions ( you do that after you realise your stuck..."

Yes I realise that. It’s a man thing. But hey ho. You know now.

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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago

southeast , midlands, southern France

"Call me lazy if you like, but I always start with a wink, if I get a wink back then I follow it up with a message.

I thought Winks were taboo haha..will wink more from now on "

To some people maybe, still doesn't stop me

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By *oob lover400 OP Man
over a year ago

cleckheaton

"It’s a glitch in the matrix… clearly

OP. A no reply is a no thanks. It even says it in the FAQs.

To be fair to myself and most blokes, we never read instructions ( you do that after you realise your stuck...

Reading them was one of the first things I did

Your a woman and thats what you do !

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Winking is neither here nor there to me. When filters allow it I usually ignore them, but they're not taboo, they're just not a function I choose to use

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By *oob lover400 OP Man
over a year ago

cleckheaton

"Call me lazy if you like, but I always start with a wink, if I get a wink back then I follow it up with a message.

I thought Winks were taboo haha..will wink more from now on

To some people maybe, still doesn't stop me

Im gonna wink for England !!!

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By *elshcouple18Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Call me lazy if you like, but I always start with a wink, if I get a wink back then I follow it up with a message.

I thought Winks were taboo haha..will wink more from now on "
we love a wink, shows initial interest.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It’s a glitch in the matrix… clearly

OP. A no reply is a no thanks. It even says it in the FAQs.

To be fair to myself and most blokes, we never read instructions ( you do that after you realise your stuck...

Reading them was one of the first things I did

Your a woman and thats what you do !"

Yes. And now you know why it's useful - because it answers your question

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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago

southeast , midlands, southern France

[Removed by poster at 19/07/23 00:35:36]

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

If they've opened your message and not replied it's easier to just block them and forget about them and move on if on the other hand not opened your message act like a grown up and message someone else

don't wait until their online be a man

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Call me lazy if you like, but I always start with a wink, if I get a wink back then I follow it up with a message.

I thought Winks were taboo haha..will wink more from now on

To some people maybe, still doesn't stop me

It’s not taboo at all. Whether anyone looks at them is a different matter entirely

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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago

southeast , midlands, southern France

"Call me lazy if you like, but I always start with a wink, if I get a wink back then I follow it up with a message.

I thought Winks were taboo haha..will wink more from now on we love a wink, shows initial interest.

My point exactly

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I usually reply with a no thanks. Which usually means I then get another message off them, either an OK (which is fine but pointless), a but why (which would have been answered if they'd read my profile to begin with) or a Well you responded so you must want my dick (which is just fucking dumb).

If I didn't know I was a masochist before now the fact that I continue to respond rather than ignore really makes it abundantly clear.

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By *oob lover400 OP Man
over a year ago

cleckheaton

"I usually reply with a no thanks. Which usually means I then get another message off them, either an OK (which is fine but pointless), a but why (which would have been answered if they'd read my profile to begin with) or a Well you responded so you must want my dick (which is just fucking dumb).

If I didn't know I was a masochist before now the fact that I continue to respond rather than ignore really makes it abundantly clear."

I understand...I just wanted somebody to talk to me lol...

Its not pms but Ive got replies... Im here at last a Proper Fabber woohoo

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Just bored here and thought I would ask you guys ??? Women pls advise too..."

You have a meet verification, you are doing better than me. In over a year on Fab, all I have managed is a five minute cam chat with a localish couple who have since left the site. In my experience sending messages is a complete waste of time unless you have loads of meet verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I advise you send the same message every 24hours, rest assured you'll get that block you want.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Just bored here and thought I would ask you guys ??? Women pls advise too..."
you have no pics so they discount you based on that, women always look at profiles and pics, your profile is your advert make it the best it can be or carry on being ignored

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By *cotty_01ukMan
over a year ago

birmingham

Just bored here and thought I would ask you guys ??? Women pls advise too...you have no pics so they discount you based on that, women always look at profiles and pics, your profile is your advert make it the best it can be or carry on being ignored

I agree here

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I'd block too, no pics no response.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wish women would reply with a let down message or just block if not interested ( be easier than just waiting and waiting... "

But some don’t….. so why worry about it?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Delete the message from your sent folder.

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Yep same here.

Sent a few messages that have been read but not replied but they still look at our profile a few times a day.

Ended up blocking them.

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

"I advise you send the same message every 24hours, rest assured you'll get that block you want. "

Will try this next time lol x

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

i wouldnt worry about it op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Call me lazy if you like, but I always start with a wink, if I get a wink back then I follow it up with a message.

I thought Winks were taboo haha..will wink more from now on

To some people maybe, still doesn't stop me

It’s not taboo at all. Whether anyone looks at them is a different matter entirely

My 729 new winks are all winking at each other

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By *oob lover400 OP Man
over a year ago

cleckheaton

"Wish women would reply with a let down message or just block if not interested ( be easier than just waiting and waiting...

But some don’t….. so why worry about it?

Im learning to disengage my brain slowly mate lol...

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By *oob lover400 OP Man
over a year ago

cleckheaton

Just bored here and thought I would ask you guys ??? Women pls advise too...

1 year it took for a meet...No1 talks unless your verified but if no1 talks you cant get ????? Im slowly getting the jist of this place...Good luck mate

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By *oob lover400 OP Man
over a year ago

cleckheaton

If I didn't know I was a masochist before now the fact that I continue to respond rather than ignore really makes it abundantly clear."

Thats great...I understand there may be some dickheads who abuse BUT works both ways...I had abuse once becouse i wouldn't send a picture when ordered to lol

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By *tress toyWoman
over a year ago

leinster

Just bored here and thought I would ask you guys ??? Women pls advise too..."

Bloody women!

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

Just bored here and thought I would ask you guys ??? Women pls advise too..."

Use the f... Search button ffs how many more times

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

People aren't very good at subtle. We don't owe anyone a reply, the act of not replying should be enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I console myself in the fact they're a northerner and their message is on its way back via carrier pigeon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive no idea why you would be waiting and waiting.

If someone doesnt respond to me Im certainly not waiting around for them to.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

1 year it took for a meet...No1 talks unless your verified but if no1 talks you cant get ????? Im slowly getting the jist of this place...Good luck mate"

(Mr)

When I was on my single profile, I got a Webcam veri in the first week, a club veri on week 2 with someone I chatted to in the queue, invited to a room to play with a couple same night.

Horny women are not going to throw themselves at you, get off your arse and make some effort. A silhouette is basically shit, kryptonite for meets. Effort in equals effort out.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Good thread so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience my friend.

We've messaged a single woman asking if she wants to come and watch my husband fuck me but she hasn't got back to me yet. I'm sure she will though! I'm not double messaging though, that's not cool nowadays.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Patience my friend.

I'll be there soon, just got to wipe the bits off my minge. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Patience my friend.

I'll be there soon, just got to wipe the bits off my minge. X"

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

"Patience my friend.

I'll be there soon, just got to wipe the bits off my minge. X"

Keep the bits, it adds character

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Just bored here and thought I would ask you guys ??? Women pls advise too...

1 year it took for a meet...No1 talks unless your verified but if no1 talks you cant get ????? Im slowly getting the jist of this place...Good luck mate"

That's definitely my experience of Fab. I have looked at so many profiles that met blokes of my age group, and had the same interests as me, that say "will only reply to blokes with meet verifications".

I would say 99% of the profiles I look at that fit my criteria, and where I fit their criteria, I am unable to message them because of their requirement of meet verifications. It's so frustrating being unable to even make initial contact with people to see if there is any interest. It sometimes feels like Fab is a closed shop where only meet verified members are accepted.

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

1 year it took for a meet...No1 talks unless your verified but if no1 talks you cant get ????? Im slowly getting the jist of this place...Good luck mate

(Mr)

When I was on my single profile, I got a Webcam veri in the first week, a club veri on week 2 with someone I chatted to in the queue, invited to a room to play with a couple same night.

Horny women are not going to throw themselves at you, get off your arse and make some effort. A silhouette is basically shit, kryptonite for meets. Effort in equals effort out."

Many of us who are not "meet vefified" make a great deal of effort with our profiles and constantly update our profile and add up to date photos, but still have the same lack of success as the "blank, silhouette" profiles as you call them.

So, yes, many of us do "get off our arses" and make an effort on here. But when you are constantly faced with that brick wall in front of you of having no meet verifications, making it impossible to make an approach people, then making connections and meeting like minded people on here is impossible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wish women would reply with a let down message or just block if not interested ( be easier than just waiting and waiting...

But some don’t….. so why worry about it?

Im learning to disengage my brain slowly mate lol...

That’s actually been hard for me to do, realise when someone online doesn’t want to talk, or that small talk online is fruitless for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a woman I wish men would have photos on their profile and send a clear face photo with there message. I also would like to see a profile that is not rushed, vague or gives off the vibe that any hole will suffice.

Then I might reply if I'm not interested, however then I wish I wasn't met with hostility, be told its "my loss" or called ugly and fat. Men, if you want better then be better. OP this is not directed at you. Just my experience of the site.

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

This!!

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"As a woman I wish men would have photos on their profile and send a clear face photo with there message. I also would like to see a profile that is not rushed, vague or gives off the vibe that any hole will suffice.

A lot of guys can't do rejection. Fab rules clearly state no message means not interested.

Resorting to abuse is a poor reflection on oneself, and unattractive. Anybody who has the balls to show themselves here, should be respected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always thought no reply meant sent friend request.

Then I couldn't view their profile again

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