FabSwingers.com forum: 10s of 1000s of messages sent

By *ance_With_Me OP Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

Hey Happy Monday!

I must of sent 10s of 1000s of always polite and very respectful direct messages. I tried so hard to personalise the messages and not “copy & paste” and hardly ever get a reply let alone a meet up.

There’s got to be an easier way for a straight single guy

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

In which way(s) should it be easier, OP?

Genuine question…

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

There is an easier way. Much easier way.

Don't bother. Let them come to you. The result is no different at all, really. But you didn't put the effort in. Making the process much easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is an easier way. Much easier way.

Don't bother. Let them come to you. The result is no different at all, really. But you didn't put the effort in. Making the process much easier.

100% chat on the forums. If they like you they'll come to you.

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By *ance_With_Me OP Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

"In which way(s) should it be easier, OP?

Genuine question… "

I appreciate there are perceived “creepy people” around and ladies have to be very careful. I look after myself, I take care in my appearance and I’m always respectful. I know what I’m doing when it comes to having fun. However as a straight single guy having to genuinely send 10s of 1000s of messages over three years and to hardly meet anyone etc etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly trying to hard and overthinking it?

Clubs...Talk to random people in real life, pubs/bar ect are both (arguably) better alternatives

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By *ance_With_Me OP Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

"There is an easier way. Much easier way.

Don't bother. Let them come to you. The result is no different at all, really. But you didn't put the effort in. Making the process much easier.

Ok thanks. However what’s the effort I need to put in to make it easier?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Hey Happy Monday!

I must of sent 10s of 1000s of always polite and very respectful direct messages. I tried so hard to personalise the messages and not “copy & paste” and hardly ever get a reply let alone a meet up.

There’s got to be an easier way for a straight single guy "
Go to a bar and work your magic in person, no easy fix here

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By *ance_With_Me OP Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

"There is an easier way. Much easier way.

Don't bother. Let them come to you. The result is no different at all, really. But you didn't put the effort in. Making the process much easier.

100% chat on the forums. If they like you they'll come to you."

I never really use the forums so thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An easier way?

An EASIER way??

Fucken ragingggggggggggggggg

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By *ance_With_Me OP Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Hey Happy Monday!

I must of sent 10s of 1000s of always polite and very respectful direct messages. I tried so hard to personalise the messages and not “copy & paste” and hardly ever get a reply let alone a meet up.

There’s got to be an easier way for a straight single guy Go to a bar and work your magic in person, no easy fix here

Yea that was my thoughts

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"There is an easier way. Much easier way.

Don't bother. Let them come to you. The result is no different at all, really. But you didn't put the effort in. Making the process much easier.

Ok thanks. However what’s the effort I need to put in to make it easier? "

Any amount effort won't make it easier. That's the point. You can't force it at all, even if you try you are at best shifting the odds, not increasing them.

They either like you or they don't. No amount of words will change that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey Happy Monday!

I must of sent 10s of 1000s of always polite and very respectful direct messages. ….

I bet they feel special.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously though bro there isn’t unless you want to just go to clubs. Charge it to the game. Come and have fun in the forums.

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By *ance_With_Me OP Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

"An easier way?

An EASIER way??

Fucken ragingggggggggggggggg"

Oh sorry. I seem to have really upset you. Apologies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"An easier way?

An EASIER way??

Fucken ragingggggggggggggggg

Oh sorry. I seem to have really upset you. Apologies. "

I’m only playing man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people would call that spam.

Maybe take a more targeted approach?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Hey Happy Monday!

I must of sent 10s of 1000s of always polite and very respectful direct messages. ….

I bet they feel special. "
lol hey they already did

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By *ance_With_Me OP Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

"There is an easier way. Much easier way.

Don't bother. Let them come to you. The result is no different at all, really. But you didn't put the effort in. Making the process much easier.

Ok thanks. However what’s the effort I need to put in to make it easier?

Any amount effort won't make it easier. That's the point. You can't force it at all, even if you try you are at best shifting the odds, not increasing them.

They either like you or they don't. No amount of words will change that. "

I wonder if I’ve miscommunicated or you’ve misunderstood. However thanks for the feedback buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"An easier way?

An EASIER way??

Fucken ragingggggggggggggggg"

Like watching a puppy growling. Kinda cute raging there.

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By *ance_With_Me OP Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Most people would call that spam.

Maybe take a more targeted approach? "

This is t going well at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In which way(s) should it be easier, OP?

Genuine question…

Even if 100,000 people messaged me, I wouldn't fuck them if I didn't fancy them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey Happy Monday!

I must of sent 10s of 1000s of always polite and very respectful direct messages. I tried so hard to personalise the messages and not “copy & paste” and hardly ever get a reply let alone a meet up.

There’s got to be an easier way for a straight single guy "

It really doesn't matter how many messages you send ...not just you ...but anyone,.if they're interested they will reply ..if they're not they won't..you probably wouldn't reply or take things any further if you weren't interested...that's what they do ..or your message could be lost among the 100's upon hundreds a woman gets here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In which way(s) should it be easier, OP?

Genuine question… "

Anyway.... regardless of the OP your profile absolutely oooozzzesss sexyness...

Stunning lady....I need to get Fabbing

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield

Stop sending thousands of messages and be more selective.

Chat on the forums.

Go to more of the socials, you seem to have had a good success from that previously.

From your veris you seem to have had a fair few meets so something is working

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By *ance_With_Me OP Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

"In which way(s) should it be easier, OP?

Genuine question…

Even if 100,000 people messaged me, I wouldn't fuck them if I didn't fancy them.

Well yes of course. I’m not saying I have a Devine right at all. Was merely a discussion point.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

- are you presenting the best version of yourself?

- should you try a different approach?

- are you focusing on an appropriate audience rather than blanket bombing everyone around you?

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By *ance_With_Me OP Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Hey Happy Monday!

I must of sent 10s of 1000s of always polite and very respectful direct messages. I tried so hard to personalise the messages and not “copy & paste” and hardly ever get a reply let alone a meet up.

There’s got to be an easier way for a straight single guy "

I’m just going to delete this as it seems to have been taken the wrong way.

Have an awesome Monday

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Also for the record, "there are creepy people... I'm always respectful" and that sort of stuff, is a bit necessary but not sufficient. To me it comes across about as well as being proud that you wipe your own arse all by yourself. (This isn't just aimed at the OP, it happens a fair bit)

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Just go to clubs OP, make friends that way and network through them; Fab works but you've got be patient... Very patient

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get to some Socials, Maybe a Club but Don't give up and lose Hope..

I've sent out quite a few messages (Same as Yourself, references to profile info to show you've read it and respectful) to Local(ish) Ladies and had nothing back, it's nothing Personal , You're just not what they're looking for at that moment..

You never know, they might not have deleted Your Message and might come back to it at a later date..

I wish You luck

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Do you fit what they ate looking for or are you chancing it?

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield

"Hey Happy Monday!

I must of sent 10s of 1000s of always polite and very respectful direct messages. I tried so hard to personalise the messages and not “copy & paste” and hardly ever get a reply let alone a meet up.

There’s got to be an easier way for a straight single guy

I’m just going to delete this as it seems to have been taken the wrong way.

Have an awesome Monday "

You can’t delete this unfortunately. You’re here for the duration now x

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"There is an easier way. Much easier way.

Don't bother. Let them come to you. The result is no different at all, really. But you didn't put the effort in. Making the process much easier.

This, women and couples do message 1st too.

Mrs

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"Stop sending thousands of messages and be more selective.

Chat on the forums.

Go to more of the socials, you seem to have had a good success from that previously.

From your veris you seem to have had a fair few meets so something is working

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I agree with this.

OP, heed the advice from the aforementioned. Engage in the fora and attend some Fab organised socials. Good luck!

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By *ance_With_Me OP Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Stop sending thousands of messages and be more selective.

Chat on the forums.

Go to more of the socials, you seem to have had a good success from that previously.

From your veris you seem to have had a fair few meets so something is working

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I agree with this.

OP, heed the advice from the aforementioned. Engage in the fora and attend some Fab organised socials. Good luck!"

Thanks

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By *ance_With_Me OP Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

"There is an easier way. Much easier way.

Don't bother. Let them come to you. The result is no different at all, really. But you didn't put the effort in. Making the process much easier.

This, women and couples do message 1st too.

Mrs "

I’ve had two messages in 3 years

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By *ance_With_Me OP Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Hey Happy Monday!

I must of sent 10s of 1000s of always polite and very respectful direct messages. I tried so hard to personalise the messages and not “copy & paste” and hardly ever get a reply let alone a meet up.

There’s got to be an easier way for a straight single guy

I’m just going to delete this as it seems to have been taken the wrong way.

Have an awesome Monday

You can’t delete this unfortunately. You’re here for the duration now x "

Yep figured that now

note to self

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Hopefully the thread turns out to be useful to you anyway.

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield

"Hey Happy Monday!

I must of sent 10s of 1000s of always polite and very respectful direct messages. I tried so hard to personalise the messages and not “copy & paste” and hardly ever get a reply let alone a meet up.

There’s got to be an easier way for a straight single guy

I’m just going to delete this as it seems to have been taken the wrong way.

Have an awesome Monday

You can’t delete this unfortunately. You’re here for the duration now x

Yep figured that now

note to self

It’s like Hotel California

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strap on

in. Its a wild ride...

The puns are everywhere

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

"There is an easier way. Much easier way.

Don't bother. Let them come to you. The result is no different at all, really. But you didn't put the effort in. Making the process much easier.

Ok thanks. However what’s the effort I need to put in to make it easier? "

Your veris should tell you that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was easy everyone would be doing it...

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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago

southeast , midlands, southern France

I very rarely send messages, I prefer the wink option, if I get a wink back, then I message, not interested in sending 100s messages to not get a reply or worst still totally ignored

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Maybe be more specific in who you're messaging instead of every Tom, dick and Harry

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Defo understand where you are coming from. Done it myself made the messages informative, put certain words in the subject line. Not a single reply so don't really know what else to do.

Good luck mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yay this again

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If you get fantastic results on the real world or clubs, it's probably better to stick to them, if tens of thousands of messages gets very little.

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By *phialtesMan
over a year ago

Beyond the Wall

I don’t think I could send 10’s of 1000’s of messages and keep them all unique and not let some copy & paste vibe creep in.

I found that your profile is key to getting responses, and even then its only going to be from people who like what they see or read.

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over a year ago

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

You’ve got 8 veris. You’re doing something right.

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"Yay this again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there really 1000s of women that are exactly your type OP? Think about it now....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there really 1000s of women that are exactly your type OP? Think about it now...."

If his type is alive...

Who knows?

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

"Hey Happy Monday!

I must of sent 10s of 1000s of always polite and very respectful direct messages. I tried so hard to personalise the messages and not “copy & paste” and hardly ever get a reply let alone a meet up.

There’s got to be an easier way for a straight single guy "

Don’t go in with any expectations and you won’t get burned

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"There is an easier way. Much easier way.

Don't bother. Let them come to you. The result is no different at all, really. But you didn't put the effort in. Making the process much easier.

"
This

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent

"Is there really 1000s of women that are exactly your type OP? Think about it now...."

If he had 1000’s of types then yes…..think about it Jaga!

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent

Also OP, there are 1000’s of men sending 1000’s of messages to the same women as you…..do consider that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there really 1000s of women that are exactly your type OP? Think about it now....

If he had 1000’s of types then yes…..think about it Jaga!"

Basically female. And men can't see why they don't get anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"10s of 1000s of messages sent "

that does not sound very discerning, and the 18-99 gives a similar impression.

I tend to only message if someone's profile has a comment that has caught my attention, or if there updates have made me think (or laugh), but generally I don't message but like others have said in your thread join in the Forum and it is likely that something you say will catch someone's attention and they will look at your profile and message you (then again, they might not)

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

Agree that being more specific in messaging is better. If men stopped spamming messages to every woman they see on the site, things would be better for everyone.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Is there really 1000s of women that are exactly your type OP? Think about it now....

If he had 1000’s of types then yes…..think about it Jaga!

Basically female. And men can't see why they don't get anywhere. "

...well SOME men

Plenty get somewhere and plenty can see why they don't

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Agree that being more specific in messaging is better. If men stopped spamming messages to every woman they see on the site, things would be better for everyone."

Yes. When my filters were open, if I had five messages it was manageable. If I had five hundred I'd probably just delete the lot of them

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I don’t send any messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*Blocked*

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I don’t send any messages

And do you get any pussssaaay with that (lack of) approach??

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"Is there really 1000s of women that are exactly your type OP? Think about it now...."

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The exchange rate for ¹ Lilith is ¹°°° women. If the squires, Lilliputians and the metrosexual males are unable to covet the Lilith then 1,ØØØ women will have to do.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Go to a club or a social event. Usually the best way to meet people. F

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

"I don’t send any messages

And do you get any pussssaaay with that (lack of) approach?? "

Some, to be honest I’d rather leave the choosing up to those with the most choice, seems daft the other way round

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"I don’t send any messages

And do you get any {redacted} with that (lack of) approach??"

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Aside from reciprocal messages between friends and forumites on here, I've only sent three messages in the last two years. All of my interactions and meets have been on the back of women sending me the first message.

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

"There is an easier way. Much easier way.

Don't bother. Let them come to you. The result is no different at all, really. But you didn't put the effort in. Making the process much easier.

100% chat on the forums. If they like you they'll come to you."

Agree but get a suit pic first…some abs seem to work as well…..abuse a couple of the regular women posters but in a complimentary way, mention wonko and Mr Pickle and no more posts about replies or lack of meets…. If I missed anything people please point out my errors

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

"There is an easier way. Much easier way.

Don't bother. Let them come to you. The result is no different at all, really. But you didn't put the effort in. Making the process much easier.

100% chat on the forums. If they like you they'll come to you.

Sorry forgot to say don’t have a towel pic….

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent

"Is there really 1000s of women that are exactly your type OP? Think about it now....

If he had 1000’s of types then yes…..think about it Jaga!

Basically female. And men can't see why they don't get anywhere. "

Oh no no no this kind of generalisation will not do. There are many many different types of the same type. Blonde slim, Red head slim, slim with big boobs, slim with big bum, blue eyes, brown eyes, straight hair curly teeth walks with a lisp….sorry I digress, that’s my type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I missed anything people please point out my errors

Yes you forgot to mention comments about Brucey are essential, and that the threat of leaving the site always produces an appropriate level of engagement.

A handy supply of oreos, chocolate hobnobs and popcorn will endear him to many forumites.

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

"If I missed anything people please point out my errors

Yes you forgot to mention comments about Brucey are essential, and that the threat of leaving the site always produces an appropriate level of engagement.

A handy supply of oreos, chocolate hobnobs and popcorn will endear him to many forumites."

Thank you good sir and mention CUSTARD!! and I believe a certain lady appears……

Sorry Brucey….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I missed anything people please point out my errors

Yes you forgot to mention comments about Brucey are essential, and that the threat of leaving the site always produces an appropriate level of engagement.

A handy supply of oreos, chocolate hobnobs and popcorn will endear him to many forumites.

Thank you good sir and mention CUSTARD!! and I believe a certain lady appears……

Sorry Brucey…."

Someone say custard?

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

"If I missed anything people please point out my errors

Yes you forgot to mention comments about Brucey are essential, and that the threat of leaving the site always produces an appropriate level of engagement.

A handy supply of oreos, chocolate hobnobs and popcorn will endear him to many forumites.

Thank you good sir and mention CUSTARD!! and I believe a certain lady appears……

Sorry Brucey….

Someone say custard?"

That’s the one….. took longer that I thought though

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

That’s what ctrl C ctrl V is for

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"There is an easier way. Much easier way.

Don't bother. Let them come to you. The result is no different at all, really. But you didn't put the effort in. Making the process much easier.

100% chat on the forums. If they like you they'll come to you.

None of that works either, I've tried!

Though I'm yet to mention Wonko or Mr pickle... Oh there we go. Bingo!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I missed anything people please point out my errors

Yes you forgot to mention comments about Brucey are essential, and that the threat of leaving the site always produces an appropriate level of engagement.

A handy supply of oreos, chocolate hobnobs and popcorn will endear him to many forumites.

Thank you good sir and mention CUSTARD!! and I believe a certain lady appears……

Sorry Brucey….

Someone say custard?

That’s the one….. took longer that I thought though

Sorry, been at work

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

"Hey Happy Monday!

I must of sent 10s of 1000s of always polite and very respectful direct messages. I tried so hard to personalise the messages and not “copy & paste” and hardly ever get a reply let alone a meet up.

There’s got to be an easier way for a straight single guy "

Tinder

That's what a lot of guys tell me

What is it you are looking for ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’ve sent tens of thousand of messages it must be

Fab…done it…finished it

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

"If I missed anything people please point out my errors

Yes you forgot to mention comments about Brucey are essential, and that the threat of leaving the site always produces an appropriate level of engagement.

A handy supply of oreos, chocolate hobnobs and popcorn will endear him to many forumites.

Thank you good sir and mention CUSTARD!! and I believe a certain lady appears……

Sorry Brucey….

Someone say custard?

That’s the one….. took longer that I thought though

Sorry, been at work

Forgiven

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

"There is an easier way. Much easier way.

Don't bother. Let them come to you. The result is no different at all, really. But you didn't put the effort in. Making the process much easier.

100% chat on the forums. If they like you they'll come to you.

None of that works either, I've tried!

Though I'm yet to mention Wonko or Mr pickle... Oh there we go. Bingo! "

Bet that mail box is like a fuel pump now!!!

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

Hang on you've got 20 veris what are you actually wanting now , greedy haha

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

You've found tens of thousands of people in a reasonable distance that genuinely appeal to you and that you match the preferences of? That's gotta be an achievement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That’s what ctrl C ctrl V is for "

Ctrl x

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

"Hey Happy Monday!

I must of sent 10s of 1000s of always polite and very respectful direct messages. I tried so hard to personalise the messages and not “copy & paste” and hardly ever get a reply let alone a meet up.

There’s got to be an easier way for a straight single guy "

Solution go to club beat 10000 messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely see anyone on fab i want to send a message too never mind thousands, there isnt very many females left that im attracted too on here not like a few years ago, i have now deleted all my pics and just come on to browse every so often, i find tinder or pof alot better for meeting females im actually attracted to.

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

"I very rarely see anyone on fab i want to send a message too never mind thousands, there isnt very many females left that im attracted too on here not like a few years ago, i have now deleted all my pics and just come on to browse every so often, i find tinder or pof alot better for meeting females im actually attracted to."

Whaaatt!!!! Loads I’m attracted to just don’t think I’m in their league….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whaaatt!!!! Loads I’m attracted to just don’t think I’m in their league…."
suppose it depends what your type is, my type is athletic and there is very few like that in my search area most females are quite large which is fine but not my type,it used to be diffrent on fab on my old profile lots of local nice looking females but now i just stick to other sites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That’s what ctrl C ctrl V is for

Ctrl x"

Some of us prefer to send messages with text in them

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

Whaaatt!!!! Loads I’m attracted to just don’t think I’m in their league…. suppose it depends what your type is, my type is athletic and there is very few like that in my search area most females are quite large which is fine but not my type,it used to be diffrent on fab on my old profile lots of local nice looking females but now i just stick to other sites. "

Fully with you. Prefer athletic or a little curvy but exhausted the small pool of those that live here fairly rapidly. For the record: exhausted = sent message and very few replies. The OP needs to know what it's like being a sneaky little married fucker trying to find FB/FWB and then he will realise how tricky it can be.

No idea how he can write to so many. Stinks of a little desperation to me and is probably akin to going out to try to pull and you overdo it, but when you just go out to have a laugh you can end up with more than planned.

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

Surely you must have messaged every woman in fab at 10’s of 1000’s?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

How many women are there on Fab?

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Surely you must have messaged every woman in fab at 10’s of 1000’s?"

Nope

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

10000 messages over 3 years works out at approx 10 per day.

I haven't sent a single message in 3½ years and every conversation since has been started by women getting in touch with me.

Even when I was sending messages I wouldn't have sent 10 messages in a month.

You have to remember that bulk sending messages to people in a particular area will be pretty obvious because a lot of them will know each other and will compare and contrast received messages.

If they perceive that you are sending so many messages it just appears desperate.

If you have to repeatedly remind people that you are nice or genuine it means you are projecting a different image.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op looking at your profile, it all looks good to me, so no issues there. Like others have said, networking! Good word of mouth from parties, clubs and socials is gold! I've known friends to ask for hot recommendations, it would be great if you can get your name on that list!! Good luck x

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

I think it depends what kind of thing you are looking for - and I don't mean type/looks of person. If principally you are looking for one on one meets then I can see how other places might work. However, if you want to get more into "swinging" in all its various wonderful guises Fab comes into it's own and offers something very different - eg, meeting couples, threesome, foursomes, moresomes, parties, clubs, organised socials, swinging holidays, kinks, fetish, BDSM, etc.

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