FabSwingers.com forum: Have you told someone you love them today?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Want to?

How often do you verbalise your love for the important people in your life? Kids, partners, friends, anyone else? Do you tell your friends every time you talk or see them?

Words of affirmation is a big love language for me. Is it for you?

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

All the Fricken time!

Like literally!

Jo.Xx

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Yeah my daughters and my friend.

It's not a word a I throw around cheaply, but I do love some people and we tell each other so.

Words matter to me, I am more tactile though. Touch Hugs and kisses and all that

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I haven't.

Not that I wouldn't, but I live a pretty solitary existence.

But also - I fear sometimes words are cheap. I've had several experiences where I've been sucked in by the pretty words, they love me and would do anything for me, but it isn't reflected in their actions. Over time I'm left feeling resentful and even confused, and distance provides clarity.

I prefer to love by doing not by saying. Partly as a consequence.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Very often. My kids having been brought up in the states are much more vocal than Brits.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Very often. My kids having been brought up in the states are much more vocal than Brits."

I wish we were more vocal about our love for others

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Yes, husband and children. Multiple times a day. X

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

Nope not verbally. Acts of service would be a big one for me. If I can make your life easier or better by doing something or being there.

Cooking for someone to show I care is something I do.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

"I haven't.

Not that I wouldn't, but I live a pretty solitary existence.

I prefer to love by doing not by saying. Partly as a consequence."

Actions always speak louder than words. I’ve been close to people before who say all the right words and then behave in ways that are completely opposite. It taught me to disregard what a person says and watch how they act instead.

Having said that, words of affirmation are important to us as a family. So yes, I have told two people I love them today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mum is the only person who tells me those specific words

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I haven't.

Not that I wouldn't, but I live a pretty solitary existence.

I prefer to love by doing not by saying. Partly as a consequence."

Words and actions are equally important to me. I love being shown that someone loves me. But being told is also lovely to hear for me. I tell my partners and my daughter like 500 times a day AT least.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

Yes, in a message to hubby at work along with a sexy pic. He's back after 2 weeks off so I know it will cheer him up

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I love words of affirmation. Adore them. I think in part that's because of my life long love affair with language, the beauty and power within it.

I think though, I'm more like Swing with how I feel about it. To a certain extent. An unprompted compliment or someone saying how they feel about me without any cues or feeling they should will always mean a lot to me.

Yet being shown that? The little ways a person can show you how much they care about you without verbalising it. Like making quality time for you. Touch. They might mean a little bit more to me now.

I tell people I love them when I do. When it feels right. Organically. I'm quite a passionate person and yes, I told my fiancé today I loved him. Because I do. Deeply.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I haven't.

Not that I wouldn't, but I live a pretty solitary existence.

I prefer to love by doing not by saying. Partly as a consequence.

Having said that, words of affirmation are important to us as a family. So yes, I have told two people I love them today

I have family who show love in word ways and family who show it in other ways.

One family member is rubbish at saying the words. But I hear them when they nag me or when a book token appears.

I'm a bit more like that. There are certain people in my life who can attest to love via nagging

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Those words rarely leave me lips.

I say love you too to my grandchildren when they say love you as they hang up the phone.

I don't say it to babies as they don't understand what it means. We show it by cuddles and cheeks kisses.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope not verbally. Acts of service would be a big one for me. If I can make your life easier or better by doing something or being there.

Cooking for someone to show I care is something I do."

Acts of service is an interesting one. I think lots of people like to receive love that way. I personally don’t. Quality time, words of affirmation then physical touch are my highest three.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep! My kids and husband.

I tell my family and friends I love them all the time. I think it’s really important to let the ones you love know how much they mean to you

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I haven't.

Not that I wouldn't, but I live a pretty solitary existence.

I prefer to love by doing not by saying. Partly as a consequence.

Oh absolutely to each their own. And without context I try to interpret it all positively.

But acts rate higher for me, I suppose. Words can be a reflex - ta, bless you, love you, no worries. The fact that I mentioned Problem X to my mum six months ago and she emails me almost weekly with ideas to solve Problem X - she's trying to make my life better because she wants me to be happy. That means so much more to me, and it's the way I try to love.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Yes, my lovely husband and super duper little girl. I told my son last night (because he wasn't awake this AM!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My youngest still says he loves me at the end of phone calls which is nice, and I always say it back to him.

I’ve not heard it said romantically for a long long time. I don’t think I need it anymore. Which is sad in itself really, but at the same time tells me how far I’ve come.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Someone could say I love you and I won't feel they do.

Someone showing me love by the way they are with me, will make me feel loved.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

This morning? Yes. Several times!

Loving someone is a gift and telling them is a beautiful thing. Hearing it back is glorious.

It’s still a fairly new thing for my girlfriend and me, it sets my soul on fire every single time

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I tell my dog everyday! X

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

My dogs.

Not seen any family yet.

Nobody else is going to be told.

Did I do this right?

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By *appyhippoWoman
over a year ago

coventry

My kids I tell nearly every day. Friends and family not as much.

But I am all about being shown love rather than being told, as them words come so easy to a lot of people.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

My dogs get told everyday they are loved. I don't say these words to anyone else.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"This morning? Yes. Several times!

Loving someone is a gift and telling them is a beautiful thing. Hearing it back is glorious.

It’s still a fairly new thing for my girlfriend and me, it sets my soul on fire every single time"

Oh Tea! This is adorable! You have a new girlfriend? Gosh. I think when those words burn so brightly - you're on to a winning thing.

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By *ycanNightsMan
over a year ago

Workington

If I do...I think I show it in my actions... without saying it most of the time. ...and this is maybe a me problem but I feel it's a word that's thrown around too easily without substance. So If I say it...I mean it.

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By *oodsman1000Man
over a year ago

Hereford

Just told my little dog (I think he understood)

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"Nope not verbally. Acts of service would be a big one for me. If I can make your life easier or better by doing something or being there.

Cooking for someone to show I care is something I do.

Acts of service is an interesting one. I think lots of people like to receive love that way. I personally don’t. Quality time, words of affirmation then physical touch are my highest three. "

Receiving it is a different thing, but that's how I try to show it. I don't it's easy to show me I'm loved.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think it’s important to respond to what people’s needs are in partners. So my love languages are quality time and words of affirmation- not acts of service, I would like my partners to tell me that they love me.

With children I don’t think you can ever tell them you love them too much. And with friends I think it’s always good to reassure them in words AND actions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it’s important to respond to what people’s needs are in partners. So my love languages are quality time and words of affirmation- not acts of service, I would like my partners to tell me that they love me. "

A partner that refuses to love you in the ways you need is not meeting your needs as a partner and maybe isn’t a good partner?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

With children I don’t think you can ever tell them you love them too much. And with friends I think it’s always good to reassure them in words AND actions. "

For sure. I try to be mindful of how people want to be and their intention, if I'm committed to them. And I try to be mindful of my effect on others. As with all relationship things, it's compromise.

I've got a couple of friends where we'll say "I want to be there for you by doing X, is that what you need?" And we go from there.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Oh, feeling a little chaotic and bored which always calls for a chance to fuck with people.

Might send a few messages telling people "I love you" for their reactions.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

A partner that refuses to love you in the ways you need is not meeting your needs as a partner and maybe isn’t a good partner?"

I wouldn't say they're not a good partner. More an incompatible one. Maybe you mean good as in good for you.

If they refuse to love you in the way you need/want, maybe they can't. Don't want to for whatever reason. I know quite clearly now what things are important to me. If someone doesn't naturally show those things or doesn't try to, I don't need to put energy into something that's not bringing me joy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A partner that refuses to love you in the ways you need is not meeting your needs as a partner and maybe isn’t a good partner?

I wouldn't say they're not a good partner. More an incompatible one. Maybe you mean good as in good for you.

Yes yes. Good for you.** Thank you

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes I tell the Mr I love him lots, the kids too.

I also tell his cock I love it, just incase it forgets.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes,and yes I always say I love you,to the people I love x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our loving routine is 3 kisses it symbolizes I love you. Or when texting it's 333. I always tell family and close friends I love them and in person give them big hugs.

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

My dogs (tell them every day) and my sister.

Heard the words from my last partner but didn't match their actions.

My love language is through hugs and kisses.

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Everyday kids and grandkids

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

Tell my dogs every day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every time I pass a mirror.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I tell my pets regularly!

I probably don't say it often enough to people though ,although I hope they know through my actions.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love you" comes out of our mouths multiple times a day. I couldn't love Mr anymore even if I tried

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve only seen my kids for 10 minutes today and I’ve probably said it at least twice. It’s actually sickening how much I say it to them because I never want them to feel unloved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kids, yes.

The cheese and onion pasty I had this morning, oh yes.

Never to a man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Kids, yes.

The cheese and onion pasty I had this morning, oh yes.

Never to a man."

Until you’ve had wine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Kids, yes.

The cheese and onion pasty I had this morning, oh yes.

Never to a man.

Until you’ve had wine."

No amount of wine makes me that nice.

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Yup. Both of my kids followed by a kiss/cuddle. I'm wondering how many more years I'll get them back for

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By *ixieAndHerKingCouple
over a year ago

Debauchery

Yes. I tell her every day she calls and asks if I’ve had an accident.

Hades

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Kids, yes.

The cheese and onion pasty I had this morning, oh yes.

Never to a man.

Until you’ve had wine.

No amount of wine makes me that nice."

Lies. I have witnessed it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly it’s just about finding out what yours/your partners/family and friends love languages are.

Me and my partner say we love each other everyday, but what really does it for me are acts of service and they mean more to me than any word. The way I show affection is gifts unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. After my partner said it this morning as I went to work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes all the time to my husband, kids and our dog

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By *carlett 44Woman
over a year ago

bootle

I tell my kids my grandson and my parents. I dnt hav a special someone at the minute but I wld tell them n show them all the time

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By *hYouNaughtyKittenWoman
over a year ago

Fife

I always tell my kids and close family I love them and I show it in whatever way they’d appreciate. The dog is adored and knows it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyday and many many times.

Love is a wonderful thing even 40 years in it only gets stronger.

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By *ister-mischiefMan
over a year ago

Trafford

Everyday to Mrs M and of course the kids. The kids got an extra squeeze and love today after there fantastic school reports.

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

Even when I'm mad or we've just had a row, I always tell them I love them. Heaven forbid something bad happened to me or them,I'd want that to be the last thing I said

Em x

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I have actually. And not just the lovely bacon sandwich lady.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Yeah I constantly tell the kids and the other half I do. I sporadically tell my mates when I speak to them or if I haven't spoken to them in a while I'll send a message stating so. Other family members though never it's not in our volcabulary.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Yes I tell them everyday

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I love you Pickle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even when I'm mad or we've just had a row, I always tell them I love them. Heaven forbid something bad happened to me or them,I'd want that to be the last thing I said

Em x"

Same here, and especially important when falling out with children or OH

xJess

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Yes, my friend I went for lunch with and my son, more than once.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

Yes, i looked in the mirror. Well someone has to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do with my son and my mum when we chat.

I'm more into acts of service myself that's definitely my love language. I love to take care of people.

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By *oodsman1000Man
over a year ago

Hereford

Just told my daughter and granddaughter, and they love me back..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I love you Pickle."

Lucky pickle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell my daughter this daily. She's an adult but I still tell her and she tells me it too.

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden

I used to tell my partner multiple times a day. Now I don't have anyone to say it to.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

yes my lurcher this morning,, he said he loves me too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I used to tell my partner multiple times a day. Now I don't have anyone to say it to.

oh mate I’m so sorry

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden

"I used to tell my partner multiple times a day. Now I don't have anyone to say it to.

oh mate I’m so sorry"

Thanks MrPickle

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

"I used to tell my partner multiple times a day. Now I don't have anyone to say it to.

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... sorry to hear this my friend i reckon your partner is with you everyday watching over you,,

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

Yes.

My cat.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

Nope. There’s no love in this heart of stone

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden

"I used to tell my partner multiple times a day. Now I don't have anyone to say it to.

... sorry to hear this my friend i reckon your partner is with you everyday watching over you,,"

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've told my sons, my dog and recently some friends.

Words of affirmation is a big thing for me too and I like to try to make sure that the important people in my life are always made to feel that way by me.

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ryde

The wife. Right after cumming together in very aggressive fashion!

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

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By *eathrow pineappleCouple
over a year ago

West London

I certainly have.

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By *eathrow pineappleCouple
over a year ago

West London

"I tell my daughter this daily. She's an adult but I still tell her and she tells me it too.

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absolutely nothing wrong with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kids/ family all the time. No one else. That's sadly missing

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Want to?

How often do you verbalise your love for the important people in your life? Kids, partners, friends, anyone else? Do you tell your friends every time you talk or see them?

Words of affirmation is a big love language for me. Is it for you? "

Yes.

I don't think I've said it more in the last 8 years than I have in the last month. And it's been said back.

Sadly it seems no longer in the same way.

Apologies for the downer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Want to?

How often do you verbalise your love for the important people in your life? Kids, partners, friends, anyone else? Do you tell your friends every time you talk or see them?

Words of affirmation is a big love language for me. Is it for you?

Yes.

I don't think I've said it more in the last 8 years than I have in the last month. And it's been said back.

Sadly it seems no longer in the same way.

Apologies for the downer.

my heart goes out to you.

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By *asygoingcouple2022Couple
over a year ago

The moon

I tell my kids when I talk to them (we live in different countries) my husband about 50 times a day. My parents all the time, my brother and his family probably every couple of days and my unbiolgical sister every time we text xx

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By *jk1978Couple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Tell k and 7 year old daughter every day I love them and regularly leave them each a note telling them how special they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Want to?

How often do you verbalise your love for the important people in your life? Kids, partners, friends, anyone else? Do you tell your friends every time you talk or see them?

Words of affirmation is a big love language for me. Is it for you?

Yes.

I don't think I've said it more in the last 8 years than I have in the last month. And it's been said back.

Sadly it seems no longer in the same way.

Apologies for the downer.

sorry to hear this, it's a shit place to be in.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Want to?

How often do you verbalise your love for the important people in your life? Kids, partners, friends, anyone else? Do you tell your friends every time you talk or see them?

Words of affirmation is a big love language for me. Is it for you?

Yes.

I don't think I've said it more in the last 8 years than I have in the last month. And it's been said back.

Sadly it seems no longer in the same way.

Apologies for the downer.

You don't need to apologise. That's really crap, sorry to read this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm going to see Mr at work shortly just so I can give him a kiss and tell him I love him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm going to see Mr at work shortly just so I can give him a kiss and tell him I love him

I might cop a little feel too but don't tell him

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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago

Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston

I tell Wolf a lot and he tells me too. My children I say it to everyday. Even though they’re adults. I think it’s important.

Red

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

I think there‘a a tendency to overuse words - I say I love you not because I think the person needs to hear it or it’s considered a comfort etc I say it because I feel love from the other person, to me love is a feeling not to be devalued by simply saying it daily as form of expression. I know my partner loves me from the way in which he holds me, looks at me, makes me feel - I feel it in my nephews laughter and see it there smiles and I sense it from my mothers support.

People who truly love you give there time to you and to me that is where love grows in the memories you make together x

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