FabSwingers.com forum: Giving up the fab lifestyle

By *he love cats OP Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

How easy or hard would it be for you to give up the lifestyle?

Have you already tried and got tempted back?

What would be your reason for quitting for good?

Have a lovely day all.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Swinging eventually gives you up.

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By *ohndom2023Man
over a year ago

Hastings/Greenwich

Come on guys you have a lot more swing in you before you lose that zing.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm on long term hiatus. I'm sure I'll come back when the conditions are right, but I don't see that happening any time soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ll quit eventually. We don’t take it too seriously and we’re just trying to have our fun while we’re still young-ish.

I think as soon as our kids are old enough to catch us out or start asking too many questions we’ll knock it on the head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not a swinger so I’d give this site up quite easily. And the rest. But I’m poly and I’ll never give that up. I’ll never do monogamy again.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"We’ll quit eventually. We don’t take it too seriously and we’re just trying to have our fun while we’re still young-ish.

I think as soon as our kids are old enough to catch us out or start asking too many questions we’ll knock it on the head."

Never take this seriously. Just a laugh for me, to ease the stress of life

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By *mma29Couple
over a year ago

wirral

Super easy bearly an inconvenience.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

We take breaks where necessary of course, as much like our own sex life it's not the be all and end all. But I'd be happy keeping this up for the rest of our able bodied days! - Xeno

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Very easy, we don't play with others very often anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’ll quit eventually. We don’t take it too seriously and we’re just trying to have our fun while we’re still young-ish.

I think as soon as our kids are old enough to catch us out or start asking too many questions we’ll knock it on the head.

Never take this seriously. Just a laugh for me, to ease the stress of life

That’s the best way. It’s just a bit of fun.

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By *arkOblivionMan
over a year ago

glendora

I might quit before I’ve even really started I’m not sure how to present myself so that people will want to meet with me and at this point I feel like it’s a waste of time

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I look at the lifestyle as a pretty broad spectrum to begin with and I am probably on the fringe anyway.

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"How easy or hard would it be for you to give up the lifestyle?

Have you already tried and got tempted back?

What would be your reason for quitting for good?

Have a lovely day all.

We had a rest, we still go to clubs as a couple but play independently on fab.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We enjoy the adventures - going off on our travels and meeting people but we’d do that regardless of this lifestyle too.

It’s fun and whilst it remains so, we’ll keep doing it. When one wants to stop, we’ll stop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How easy or hard would it be for you to give up the lifestyle?

Have you already tried and got tempted back?

What would be your reason for quitting for good?

Have a lovely day all.

I'd quit in a heartbeat for 'the one' and find it easy to. I was naturally happy and committed to one man at a time before. I can do that again. But 'the one'......yeah I don't believe for a second that would happen and I'm quite committed to fab life as a result.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I look at the lifestyle as a pretty broad spectrum to begin with and I am probably on the fringe anyway."

That's a very good way of putting it.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It has never been a lifestyle for me. I've always treated it as more of a hobby and could walk away very easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will think about it when the time comes.

I can't see either of us actually wanting to stop unless age stops us or physically we can't anymore. Fab will probably give us up first

Mrs C xx

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

I’m with Rick Astley on the subject.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

I’m actually quite close to giving up the Fabs lifestyle.From a personal perspective I feel as if my race is almost run not just Fabs but life , work and a few other things.How easy would it be to leave it all behind I don’t know but I feel I can do it.

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

I’m fully immersed in this world now and have been more so since my first ever club visit 2 years ago. I met my partner through here too and we’re both on the same page in wanting to live this lifestyle.

Yes we swing but we also have a relationship away from this. Think the balance is pretty good so no intentions of giving this all up anytime soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does anyone every really leave? It's a bit like a boomerang. Always comes back eventually.

I don't see myself as a swinger or in a lifestyle.

I hang out here for fun people and forum entertainment when I am procrastinating, bored or can't sleep. It's better than candy crush because I sometimes get to kiss people

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Only been in this lifestyle 6 years cant see me giving it up entirely any time soon x

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Pre Covid we met people on here and caught up in Clubs. Covid then turned this into just a social for us, which has been fine. But, in answer to your question, the itch to actually meet people is still strong and Fab is good to connect with people. We will still only meet at Clubs or organised Parties though. Swinging probably never goes away once you’ve tried

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"I look at the lifestyle as a pretty broad spectrum to begin with and I am probably on the fringe anyway.

That's a very good way of putting it. "

Thank you. I have occasional moments of clarity and coherence. Don't let that fool you though, I am really quite mad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not a lifestyle, for me it's casual sex. Since I don't intend on ever being in a relationship, it's either that or celibacy.

Some days it's a hard choice, others not so much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d happily give it up for the one person I’m waiting on (not from fabs).

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

From a personal standpoint — I came here for the tactile sensuality and the 'enhanced vanilla' sex. I didn't think of it as a "lifestyle". Therefore giving up this "lifestyle" would infer giving up the aforementioned.

That won't be happening any time soon.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

As a real life single lady, that would only happen if I stumbled Into a relationship and settled down with him in real life. Until then I'm enjoying my healthy sex life on here

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

I kinda lurk around the edges. I'd get way more involved if there was a club more local to me & a trusted partner in crime to attend with. I still meet one on one from Fab occasionally, which would actually be pretty easy to give up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cut the chord 6 years ago and when I was out, I was out…

Until I wasn’t

If I got married, and if she had no interest in the lifestyle, I’m out for good,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could leave easily. For now I'm happy with what fab offers me and it suits.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We could probably leave easily I wouldn't class it as a lifestyle for us, it's something we enjoy occasionally but it's not a huge part of our lives.

We rarely look for meets, I just enjoy the forums. Oh and the boobs, I like the boobs.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave it up years ago

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
over a year ago

your head

Easily but I'm not a swinger. There are things I want to do with my partner that require another person and I enjoy clubs as and when I have the time to go but there's nothing here that I couldn't walk away from.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"How easy or hard would it be for you to give up the lifestyle?

Have you already tried and got tempted back?

What would be your reason for quitting for good?

Have a lovely day all.

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its as easy as 1 2 3 oh baby

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I'll miss it I won't lie when I age out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you told me tomorrow we couldn't meet others for sex meets it wouldn't bother me. If you told me we couldn't meet others for socials I'd be abit miffed. We need the excuse to get away from life because otherwise we just wouldn't.. Our excuse would be "what about the kids, it's unfair going away", "money?". But if we're having a social the majority of that goes out the window and we enjoy a bit of adult contact.

But overall, I wouldn't be so bothered. I'd have more time to read books and spend time with Mr of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can relate to this more on the kink scene than swing scene.

Was heavily involved in the kink scene for many years, even helping run socials and events. It was my social life and most of my friends were people I met on the scene.

Recently it hasn't felt the same but fortunately know even if I walk away I will have some close friends that will stay friends and still see.

As for fab I would like the chance to explore more but maybe won't miss what never really had if had to give it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God this is all feeling rather Logan's Run.

Are we off to Carousel?

Everything ends, we all move on either by choice with agency or without.

Me. I'm not in anything to leave.

My attention will switch and zero in on the one. Thats just me.

The friends I've made though, and I use that particular word, carefully, because those that actually know me realise its considered weight to me, they'll stay.

Oddly, the thought of leaving them "behind" makes me feel a little empty at the notion of being easily discarded. That isn't me.

Fuck. Wait. Erm. No. I seem reasonable. Almost not a prick.

I gets all the shags innit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a bit hotel california for me. If I wasn't on here I'd be giving in to celibacy and never having any type of relationship ever again. As dating sites are just not me.

Age will chuck me out eventually, no idea when that will happen but hopefully when I've finally had enough too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always said that if I were found someone away from here, I could easily leave the site and not look back. It's great to meet people here and hook up with some of them, but I think I crave the intamacy more which I think I'd get in spades if I did meet someone.

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By *urvy ClarissaWoman
over a year ago

wigan

If by some miracle I ever meet someone who puts an end to my over a decade of being single then I’ll knock this place on the head no problem. Until then I’ll keep browsing and have the occasional meet on my terms when I feel compelled. X

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

When we give up shagging then we'll give up fabs.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Easy peasy if I’m in a relationship and getting sex

Otherwise there is only so much gardening, dog walks, parenting etc a gal can do to fill her time!

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Quite easily. We only play when we feel like anyway. This is just an add on to our already amazing sexlife. This is just for fun and making new friends along the way.

Mrs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gave it up before for a relationship.

Not out of the question if we'd made it work we might have been back on here as a couple

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

It'll probably be depression and dislike for myself that finishes me off. I can foresee retreating into myself the way that my dad did after mum died. The only thing that might stop that would be friends, and the majority of my current friends are people that I found through use of this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll still be here when I'm 99..just to check those filters

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By *arlequin_tearsMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"How easy or hard would it be for you to give up the lifestyle?

Have you already tried and got tempted back?"

Used to drift in and out of the scene for years. So doing without is definitely an option.

Being poly I don't think I could go back to being completely monogamous.

Having a single cis het bloke over 45, the likelihood of me getting meets is mostly at clubs and that comes down to having the time and the funds.

So finance and time pressure would be the most likely reason for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean technically I couldn’t say as I am technically not in the life style or ever been I am single

By the technical term singles can’t be swingers

But I mean I suppose it would be relevant easier if I meet the right person and they didn’t want this life style and they were woth give it up for then yes I would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to meet a girl that grabs my full attention and keeps it without making effort, I want to give everything of myself to one person and if she came along I’d find this easy to drop.

Sadly I don’t think it will happen for me, never married, never fully settled and I guess that’s just the way it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not really in anything as a lifestyle, but I find it near impossible to imagine ever living with one man again.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

It will all depend … if the sex and connection is right with someone then I will give it up in a heartbeat. Until then. I’m here for the fun times

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By *reasyontheeyesMan
over a year ago

out in the sticks

What is the definition of the "lifestyle"

Does it mean it is in your life 24/7, most of your friends are, your weekends are based around meeting swingers/parties/chatting to them.

Does that then mean your a hardened swinger?

What does the lifestyle mean to you?

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

"It will all depend … if the sex and connection is right with someone then I will give it up in a heartbeat. Until then. I’m here for the fun times

This

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"What is the definition of the "lifestyle"

Does it mean it is in your life 24/7, most of your friends are, your weekends are based around meeting swingers/parties/chatting to them.

Does that then mean your a hardened swinger?

What does the lifestyle mean to you?"

To me it's an ethic of ethical non monogamy centred around friendship rather than relationships.

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By *ts the taking part thatMan
over a year ago

southampton

"Swinging eventually gives you up. "

I think for the majority of men on here they never get started so never know they've given up.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I havent started it, but yes. I reckon that it would be hard to give it up as well

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I did for almost 4 years. Didn’t miss it. Initially I’d just had enough of the messing about, let it get to me and needed to come away. Then I met someone wasn’t into the scene.

I’m back because it’s fun if you remember that’s what it’s about and don’t let the nonsense become the main focus.

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