FabSwingers.com forum: So, this is 40..Mid-life Crisis Planning.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Tell me what would your ideal midlife crisis look like?

Any essentials I need to tick off or anything you suggest I avoid?

Help a girl out as I'm running out of ideas!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My quarter life crisis looked terrible. Hopefully my midlife one looks better. So I’m following

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started mine a year ago.

Piercings, tattoo and sex with random men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our midlife crisis was to lookat each other and think it's time to join a gym and look after our bodies.

5 year later we are reaping the rewards.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I’ve managed to give birth to two kids in my early forties in a space of 20 months but I guess it’s something out of “I’d rather not to” category

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve managed to give birth to two kids in my early forties in a space of 20 months but I guess it’s something out of “I’d rather not to” category

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

I started mine in my late thirties. Some of it is fun, some was sleepless nights in both good and bad ways. When you stop caring what others will think and doing what you like, you're on the right path.

I don't know what works for you but don't be scared to say yes. Study, travel, try that new hobby that will scare you shitless.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Tell me what would your ideal midlife crisis look like?

Any essentials I need to tick off or anything you suggest I avoid?

Help an old dear out as I'm running out of ideas! "

Hey SeniorWyld!

I'm not sure yet, I've got a fair years left to go before I start crisising it.

Hmmm... get to socials. Dance and snog and flirt with brilliant people. Go to Italy. Italian men are well worth a midlife crisis. All that passion and intensity.

Learn to cook something you've always wanted to. Learn a new language. Some subject that sparks passion in you.

Want to get another tattoo? A piercing? Do it.

Have another road trip during the sunshine. Stay up late talking to new friends, drinking in the sunshine.

Just live I guess. How you want, no apologies unless you're being a douche. And enjoy it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Tell me what would your ideal midlife crisis look like?

Any essentials I need to tick off or anything you suggest I avoid?

Help a girl out as I'm running out of ideas! "

Avoid nothing but regret.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Hmmmmm

I’ll let you know when I have mine

I am not middle aged (repeat as necessary)

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

My ideal mid life crisis would be the casting off of fears and other people's expectations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess I'm living mine now.

Got my ears pierced, stopped worrying about what other people think, opened up as being Bisexual and started swinging.

Wish I'd of had this crisis 10 years ago

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Mine was very minor. I got a helix piercing. I'm not the rebellious type and it hurt like fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of travel and buying what you want

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

My odometer has moved from 4 to 5 today.

For me it’s been setting boundaries and doing things I am comfortable and happy with, not to please other people. Have shed a lot of people in the process but I don’t give a flying f*ck.

And got myself a nice little convertible car. I luffs it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m dreading it

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"I’m dreading it

Jump in, it's a lot of fun.

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By *phialtesMan
over a year ago

Beyond the Wall

Just fuck anyone that approaches you regardless of your attraction to them, then have a few months of regret.

Worked for me!

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I started caring about what I wanted for myself in my late 30's. I left the relationship I had been in for over 20 years, as I didn't like who I was and I couldn't image wanting to spend the the next 20 years with him.

I started who I was as an individual and what my wants and desires were. I've changed a lot in the last 5 years and I suspect I'm not with changing either.

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By *apybarasCouple
over a year ago

High Lighthouse!

I'm only 57, so not got there yet.

(Though I would say motorbikes are not just for mid-life)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stopped listening to haters.

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By *he Kat 666Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury

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By *he Kat 666Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury

Never mind all, embrace it whilst you can.... apparently at 50. You're old and past it!!

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"I guess I'm living mine now.

Got my ears pierced, stopped worrying about what other people think, opened up as being Bisexual and started swinging.

Wish I'd of had this crisis 10 years ago

Oh I hear you! Though it took me till I was 42. Wish it had been 20 years ago.

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By *im RoyleCouple
over a year ago

chester

Nearly had a breakdown hitting 40! Wouldn’t even put birthday cards up or celebrate.

Turning 60 in September and looking forward to it!!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We went to a Ministry of Sound weekend at Butlins and it was like Ibiza, except in Skegness

. It was full of 20/30/40 years olds and we danced right through each night and were at the pool parties each day and having sex in between

We felt so bad that we booked again and have been to a couple of other dance festivals now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't tell your partner that you need to see them less and work more to buy the flashy car you want ....someone did that to me. It wasn't nice.

And going for someone half your age....yep that felt shit too considering we hadn't even split.

Anyway besides that, life begins at 40. Your midlife crisis isn't due yet.

I've got 5 years on you and I've just started dying my hair random colours, I will keep you posted on what happens next.

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Quit my job, Move to a foreign country, get divorced and join a web site for swingers.

Oh, wait….

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"I've got 5 years on you and I've just started dying my hair random colours, I will keep you posted on what happens next."

I did that in my 20s.

Bought sports cars in my 30s.

Moved to the country in my 40s.

Fuck knows what’s next but I’m excited to find out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I have one yet…. But I think maybe enjoying single life… meeting nice women off here and maybe I’ll get that bike I always wanted

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By *hYouNaughtyKittenWoman
over a year ago

Fife

I dreaded turning 40, thought it would be awful for some reason. Turns out I’m happier than I was in my 20s and 30s! Might have something to do with leaving an abusive marriage and a lot to do with pleasing myself more and caring less about the opinions of others.

Tattoos and piercings have crept in this last year, if that’s my midlife crisis, I like it

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

Currently- seriously looking at quitting work, selling up and moving to Spain or Greece and buying a little boat to take tourists diving or on island hopping trips

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"I dreaded turning 40, thought it would be awful for some reason. Turns out I’m happier than I was in my 20s and 30s! Might have something to do with leaving an abusive marriage and a lot to do with pleasing myself more and caring less about the opinions of others.

Tattoos and piercings have crept in this last year, if that’s my midlife crisis, I like it

Totally agree. I feel more like a better version of my early 20s self than my 30s self.

Time, experience, self reflection and reconnecting to who I am rather than who I thought I should be and also not giving a crap about what others think is making my 42nd year wonderful. There are still lows but now I can navigate them and they don't define me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it time I start dying my pubes?

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I've mostly been going to lots of gigs, away from home and on my own.

Joined fab and started meeting much younger men. I'm embracing the "cougar" status

I've already done that tattoos/piercing thing.

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By *ocksareoffMan
over a year ago

Out n About

You should avoid English men

What you should do is, do what ever you want. Life is short so go for it

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By *oodsman1000Man
over a year ago

Hereford

"You should avoid English men

What you should do is, do what ever you want. Life is short so go for it

Definitely go Welsh

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

You can't plan for a crisis it hits you when you least expect it

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By *oodsman1000Man
over a year ago

Hereford

"You can't plan for a crisis it hits you when you least expect it

It's not a crisis, just a hiccup

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

I just stopped giving a fuck about how other people wanted me to live my life and decided to live my own.

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

I’ve 3 years to think about that I’ll not panic yet

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

On Holibobs

I do one every 5 years or so, change car, home and job all in one go

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry I ended up busy yesterday so only just reading these now! Good work everyone.

I think part of my crisis started a few years ago when I took up Burlesque.

I bought my dream car last year.

I'm certainly trying to drop the weight of others opinions and be more care free.

I think saying yes to more things is definitely going well for me.

Next year I'm going to run away to Paris, people watch and write.

I love that you've all done different things but the general consensus is to just be happy.

Guess that should be life goals in general x

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By *ngels and DevilsCouple
over a year ago

The South West

To stop caring about other peoples opinions and also get more tattoos.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm not there yet! I'm still young

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh to be 40 again, it was a fantastic decade!

Write a list - 5 things you want to achieve in the next year, 5 things to achieve within 5 years. Then do them

One of mine is camping overnight in the peaks to see the milky-way and watch the sun rise... Tame for some, but exciting for me - I'm a simple girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All over now but my mid life crisis took the form of a classic mini

Loved that car but it ruined my back for months lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey...we all move on ..there's nothing we can do about it .the most important thing is to take everything in your stride...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh to be 40 again, it was a fantastic decade!

Write a list - 5 things you want to achieve in the next year, 5 things to achieve within 5 years. Then do them

One of mine is camping overnight in the peaks to see the milky-way and watch the sun rise... Tame for some, but exciting for me - I'm a simple girl

Those sound like wonderful things to me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not there yet! I'm still young"

So am I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh to be 40 again, it was a fantastic decade!

Write a list - 5 things you want to achieve in the next year, 5 things to achieve within 5 years. Then do them

One of mine is camping overnight in the peaks to see the milky-way and watch the sun rise... Tame for some, but exciting for me - I'm a simple girl

I know a great spot.. very little light pollution and a great view

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