FabSwingers.com forum: Addiction

By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

When does something become an addiction …?

I’m not too sure if I have become addicted to sexual content .

Fab seems to be playing quite the part in this ?

Is it something you speak with a GP about as it’s an illness or do you just go cold Turku yourself

Please don’t be dicks this is effecting my mental state

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I definitely have a sex addiction. This is not the same as nymphomania apparently, which I erroneously thought for many years.

Addictions are usually trauma based. You might find some research into CPTSD very helpful. There’s loads of helpful content online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say if it’s causing you problems in your day to day life or affecting your mental health then it needs sorting. Gp can point you in the right direction to get some help or there’s lots of good information and resources available online for addiction.

There’s a few on here who know their stuff regarding addiction, they might be able to help you

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Addiction is defined as not having control over doing, taking or using something to the point where it could be harmful to you.

So is your addiction to sexual content an actual addiction, or have you watched so much porn, to the point where you have become desensitised? Need more to get your rocks off? Have unrealistic expectations of 'real' sex?

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By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

"I definitely have a sex addiction. This is not the same as nymphomania apparently, which I erroneously thought for many years.

Addictions are usually trauma based. You might find some research into CPTSD very helpful. There’s loads of helpful content online."

Thank you

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

We too have found this with such sites as this and have found the only way is to walk away completely for a while (years)

we have done it a few times and now limit ourselves to how much time we spend on here as it can suck the life right out of you.

good luck pal

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By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

"Addiction is defined as not having control over doing, taking or using something to the point where it could be harmful to you.

I don’t think I have unrealistic expectations

I’m not sure that I’m desensitised

I just can’t stop thinking about sex, I don’t have a very active sex life and that’s my reason for it I think to try fill the gap

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By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

"We too have found this with such sites as this and have found the only way is to walk away completely for a while (years)

we have done it a few times and now limit ourselves to how much time we spend on here as it can suck the life right out of you.

good luck pal "

Thank you

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I'm addicted to my phone, in as much that I have a mild panic attack if I can't find it. Its scary to realise how much you mentally depend on something to live your life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been addicted to knickers nearly all my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to your GP. If you can afford a private therapist that’s better imo. But I’ve attended SLAA meetings as well before. Go to one of those. It’s good to be able to talk. Keep talking. Recognising you have a problem is the first thing. But any addiction I wouldn’t recommend trying to just deal with alone.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"When does something become an addiction …?

I’m not too sure if I have become addicted to sexual content .

Fab seems to be playing quite the part in this ?

Is it something you speak with a GP about as it’s an illness or do you just go cold Turku yourself

Please don’t be dicks this is effecting my mental state

I have history with addiction, am in recovery from addiction, if you need to chat privately plz drop me a message my inbox is open

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

When you break out in a sweat and feel panicked because you've bought the last bottle in every shop within a mile of your home.

*true story*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I've ever been addicted, sometimes I feel I'm becoming too dependent on things so I'll give them up for a couple of months just to prove to myself I can.

If it started to get in the way of my day to day life, I'd seek professional help.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Do you mean sexual content as in photos and videos?

I had to go cold turkey on my addiction/obsession as I couldn't get any (nothing illegal).

I had a substitute that I found not so satisfying which lead to me not thinking about it all the time. I even had people looking out for it for me.

Now I have a box of 24 delivered now and then but can limit myself as I know it's not good for me.

Once you break the thinking about it as soon as you wake up, you're on your way to being able to control yourself.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Just leave, sorted

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’m no Doctor but if Fab is playing quite the part you mention and it’s effecting your mental health then I think that you already know what the solution could be, maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I definitely have a sex addiction. This is not the same as nymphomania apparently, which I erroneously thought for many years.

Addictions are usually trauma based. You might find some research into CPTSD very helpful. There’s loads of helpful content online."

Not necessarily usually down to trauma. People who are neurodivergent are at more risk of developing addictions, particularly people with ADHD due to naturally low dopamine levels. Whatever gives an ADHDer that dopamine kick can become problematic.

Research states ADHDers are more likely to be promiscuous so there will be a fair amount of ADHDers on site, some will know they have it, many won't.

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By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

"Talk to your GP. If you can afford a private therapist that’s better imo. But I’ve attended SLAA meetings as well before. Go to one of those. It’s good to be able to talk. Keep talking. Recognising you have a problem is the first thing. But any addiction I wouldn’t recommend trying to just deal with alone. "

Thanks fella

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By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

"When does something become an addiction …?

I’m not too sure if I have become addicted to sexual content .

Fab seems to be playing quite the part in this ?

Is it something you speak with a GP about as it’s an illness or do you just go cold Turku yourself

Please don’t be dicks this is effecting my mental state

I have history with addiction, am in recovery from addiction, if you need to chat privately plz drop me a message my inbox is open "

Thanks fella

means a lot

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

If it’s harming your health, relationships, finances etc.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

When you can't get through the day without it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What makes you think you are addicted? Open question.

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By *oodsman1000Man
over a year ago

Hereford

My opinion, entitled to it,lived a long hard life and sometimes you just have to man up..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a break see if you can go cold turkey for a month. Its summer so unplug get off yr phone get back to nature and hopefully find your centre again.

I have had a 5 year break life gets in the way sometimes and fab isn't going anywhere my lovely.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Lightening it up, those green marzipan cakes from IKEA. I'd fight children for those

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never stepped foot in an IKEA

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By *oodsman1000Man
over a year ago

Hereford

Okay sorry for being nasty. But addiction is in your head and the only way to defeat it is to be mentally strong, Manning up!! But I do apologize..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I have never stepped foot in an IKEA "

It's well worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never stepped foot in an IKEA "

I did a few years ago. Still here. Can’t find the exit and fed up with meatballs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if it's getting in the way of your daily life you should definitely talk to a professional.

Either a gp or private counselling etc. I really wish you luck and hope that things get better for you.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I have never stepped foot in an IKEA

I did a few years ago. Still here. Can’t find the exit and fed up with meatballs. "

Add chips with mustard. Winner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never stepped foot in an IKEA

I did a few years ago. Still here. Can’t find the exit and fed up with meatballs. "

Do you need an Alan Key to escape.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

It's just a craving when you find something else it'll pass so find something positive to do that you end up really enjoying that'll grow on you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never stepped foot in an IKEA

I did a few years ago. Still here. Can’t find the exit and fed up with meatballs.

Do you need an Alan Key to escape."

Not seen anyone called Alan. He sounds important.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I have never stepped foot in an IKEA

I did a few years ago. Still here. Can’t find the exit and fed up with meatballs.

Do you need an Alan Key to escape.

Not seen anyone called Alan. He sounds important. "

He's with Billy Bookcase

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Playing with Billy's meatballs where do you think the Swedish sauce comes from ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never stepped foot in an IKEA

I did a few years ago. Still here. Can’t find the exit and fed up with meatballs.

Do you need an Alan Key to escape.

Not seen anyone called Alan. He sounds important.

He's with Billy Bookcase

Sounds a bit ghey. I’m in.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Playing with Billy's meatballs where do you think the Swedish sauce comes from ?? "

Woah! I enjoy a plate of meaty balls and chips when I'm in the Swedish shop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes the only way is tough love but that is when somebody has hit rock bottom with no where else to go.

The dude was asking for advice no shame in that.

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By *oodsman1000Man
over a year ago

Hereford

Op I have lived with addiction and I don't want to be horrible, but it's in your head and it won't kill you without it. Be strong and dare I say it, Man up, and you will overcome it. Group therapy will basically tell you exactly that!!

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By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

"My opinion, entitled to it,lived a long hard life and sometimes you just have to man up.."

I don’t mean to be rude fella but heroin is a self inflicted addiction

Try brain tumour and paralysis and I probably work in an industry very few make it to

True colours can not be shown clearer

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By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

"Op I have lived with addiction and I don't want to be horrible, but it's in your head and it won't kill you without it. Be strong and dare I say it, Man up, and you will overcome it. Group therapy will basically tell you exactly that!!"

Good luck to you fella

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