FabSwingers.com forum: Am I in the wrong?

By *ameon1983 OP Man
over a year ago

Redditch

So I'm 40 male , liked and got like back from a profile of female aged 19. 3/4 messages flirting and her profile had no pictures. She sent her number and asked to watsapp. Where we exchanged a few more messages then I fell asleep. Later the next day I get messages from a guy saying he's the dad and he's contacting police saying I've messaged his 14 yr old daughter. In no way did her profile suggest this or never in a million years would I entertain talking to a child like that. I've screenshot the messages to show she gave me the number to chat on Watsapp. So either she is underage and is saying anything to get herself out of getting caught by her parents. Or someone that knows her maliciously have made the profile up and then used her number. Either way I'm extremely worried as I am no predator. Either way if the police choose to contact me I have nothing to hide and I don't believe legally or morally that I've done anything wrong. I've reported the profile to admin on here few hours so hopefully they will look into the profile origins. I wouldn't normally air my dirty linen in public but wonder if anybody else encountered anything like this before,Any advice very welcome.

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Don't worry too much. Probably just a bloke all along.

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By *readsOfValhallaCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

Wouldn't worry if you have nothing to hide the police aren't stupid they can read messages just like we all can so as long as what you say is the case you have nothing to worry about

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By *untimes wantedMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

you might want to read this

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1481449

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Yes you are unfortunately as soon as you went for 20 years younger, i agree it probably was a set up and a guy you were chatting to with this as the planned outcome but has it taught you a lesson?

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By *ameon1983 OP Man
over a year ago

Redditch

Hoping that or someone suggested maybe a extort type scam. Will see what comes of it.

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By *ameon1983 OP Man
over a year ago

Redditch

Yep I've screenshot everything to bk myself up.

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By *ameon1983 OP Man
over a year ago

Redditch

Yep taught me to no longer give me number out.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth

"Yep taught me to no longer give me number out. "
but not to stay away from 20 years younger?

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By *alleys VikingMan
over a year ago

Crumlin

"Yep taught me to no longer give me number out. but not to stay away from 20 years younger?

Why stay away from someone 20 years younger??? So if someone is 60 they stay away from someone who's 40???

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By *ameon1983 OP Man
over a year ago

Redditch

That's not what this is about. I ain't biting to your comment.

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By *ameon1983 OP Man
over a year ago

Redditch

Just read this. Doesn't sound the same entirely but same sort I think it's a scam as when I defended myself his language changed and has gone very quiet. Hopefully admin look into the profile I reported.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth

"Yep taught me to no longer give me number out. but not to stay away from 20 years younger?

Why stay away from someone 20 years younger??? So if someone is 60 they stay away from someone who's 40???"
not quite the same people lie about age

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Screenshot her profile with her age on it, you've done nothing wrong if it stated she was 18, be wary of profiles with zero pics etc.

Mrs

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Yep taught me to no longer give me number out. but not to stay away from 20 years younger?

What a dumb comment

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Nah, probably someone that's trying to pull a fast one perhaps. The site clearly states its for those over 18s

It's a scary world out there though

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames

"Nah, probably someone that's trying to pull a fast one perhaps. The site clearly states its for those over 18s

It's a scary world out there though "

Yes, given that it is an adult site, and users must be over 18, there would be a reasonable expectation that the poster (listed as 19), was over 18.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you might want to read this

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1481449"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hoping that or someone suggested maybe a extort type scam. Will see what comes of it. "

Report the Fab profile, think you can also report on WhatsApp.

Screenshot everything.

Don't bother replying to the profile or WhatsApp messages again. Just ignore them.

Try not to worry. As others have said you have the screenshots as proof you did nothing wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe don't give your number to someone you've never seen a pic of next time, rule with your head and not your dick.

But also, yeah you've done nothing wrong. Other than being a tad horny, and maybe a bit of wishful thinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The police would see that you first made contact on this site and she has joined ticking a box to say over 18. You just got to take it as face value she was. Just never give your number out till you know them better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s likely a bloke trying his luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s likely a bloke trying his luck "

Called Derek

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Sat in his vest and pants..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have done nothing wrong

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

"It’s likely a bloke trying his luck

Called Derek"

Living in the box room at his Nan’s…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s likely a bloke trying his luck

Called Derek

Living in the box room at his Nan’s… "

You've just described my life

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By *undance_KidMan
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ve done nothing wrong if she has already stated her age. I suggest being a bit more careful in the future and don’t hand your number out to blank profiles

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Example of putting your trust in a random stranger on a sex site. Im sure you're not the first and won't be the last. Hope it works out ok. Doesnt sound like any dad i know though. Where the first question would surely be.. Who is he? Where do you know him from and how did he get your number?

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By *utspanCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

"Yep taught me to no longer give me number out. but not to stay away from 20 years younger?

What a dumb comment"

Totally agree with you! Maybe feeling jealous?? Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s likely a bloke trying his luck

Called Derek"

Wanking into his sock

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

"It’s likely a bloke trying his luck

Called Derek

Wanking into his sock "
it wasnt me

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

IF it sounds too good to be true, well it probably is

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

"It’s likely a bloke trying his luck

Called Derek

Wanking into his sock it wasnt me

Well it wasn't shaggy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still trying to figure out how you "like" a profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s likely a bloke trying his luck

Called Derek

Wanking into his sock it wasnt me

Said every man ever

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"It’s likely a bloke trying his luck

Called Derek

Wanking into his sock it wasnt me

Said every man ever

I have special linen kerchiefs... Just in case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s likely a bloke trying his luck

Called Derek

Wanking into his sock "

The hardcore put the sock back on afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did she mention on WhatsApp or in here she was 14? If not you have nothing to worry about.

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By *ustdaveHantsMan
over a year ago

chippenham

Just claim to be mentally ill worked for huw!!

But on a serious note I've been stung before by something very similar and it was a man!!

Sure you'll be OK mate.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"So I'm 40 male , liked and got like back from a profile of female aged 19. 3/4 messages flirting and her profile had no pictures. She sent her number and asked to watsapp. Where we exchanged a few more messages then I fell asleep. Later the next day I get messages from a guy saying he's the dad and he's contacting police saying I've messaged his 14 yr old daughter. In no way did her profile suggest this or never in a million years would I entertain talking to a child like that. I've screenshot the messages to show she gave me the number to chat on Watsapp. So either she is underage and is saying anything to get herself out of getting caught by her parents. Or someone that knows her maliciously have made the profile up and then used her number. Either way I'm extremely worried as I am no predator. Either way if the police choose to contact me I have nothing to hide and I don't believe legally or morally that I've done anything wrong. I've reported the profile to admin on here few hours so hopefully they will look into the profile origins. I wouldn't normally air my dirty linen in public but wonder if anybody else encountered anything like this before,Any advice very welcome. "

This is a well known scam that is becoming more and more common. You've done nothing wrong by assuming that a person on an over 18s website was over 18.

If he's threatening to call the police, then tell him to do it. If he's a scammer then there is no way he will in a million years, and if he is genuine, then you have the evidence to prove you have done nothing wrong. If he asks for money from you then tell him your policeman brother will be handling his request from now on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just claim to be mentally ill worked for huw!!

But on a serious note I've been stung before by something very similar and it was a man!!

Sure you'll be OK mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep taught me to no longer give me number out. but not to stay away from 20 years younger?

What a dumb comment"

My thoughts to

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Yep taught me to no longer give me number out. but not to stay away from 20 years younger?

What a dumb comment

My thoughts to"

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

"Yep taught me to no longer give me number out. but not to stay away from 20 years younger?

What a dumb comment

My thoughts to"

Why? People are here for fun,if your older enough and your age settings are set for what you want then no harm? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just save her number and drop her a message in two years time, problem solved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just save her number and drop her a message in two years time, problem solved

"
this is a joke obviously before i get banned,

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Next time a 19 year old starts sending you flirty messages, give your head a wobble before you engage

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'd suggest this is a scam with the eventual aim of asking for money or someone thinking they're funny.

Either way if the messages are on another platform fab admin can do nothing about them and you should report where they were exchanged. You can report the profile as take though, mentioning what happened.

As a future safeguard don't give out your number until you're very sure of who you're talking to.

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By *ameon1983 OP Man
over a year ago

Redditch

Yeah I have thanks. Last message received says police are coming to see him today. So we will see what happens next.

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By *ameon1983 OP Man
over a year ago

Redditch

Also he hasn't rang me once, and surely you would do that if it was genuine as you would be fuming.

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By *ameon1983 OP Man
over a year ago

Redditch

I meant wink

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By *ameon1983 OP Man
over a year ago

Redditch

No the first mention was when I got message from that fone day later from the dad saying why am I messaging a 14 year old

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By *ameon1983 OP Man
over a year ago

Redditch

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"No the first mention was when I got message from that fone day later from the dad saying why am I messaging a 14 year old "

Id be tempted to go to the police myself and say you think youre being threatened.

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By *ameon1983 OP Man
over a year ago

Redditch

Reported profile through here as underage profile but nothing been done, 24 hours later and profile is still active on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably a bloke.

But I would say this...age difference is fine. But personally under 25 is absolute no go. Because they have haven't fully developed as people yet.

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By *ameon1983 OP Man
over a year ago

Redditch

I did think about that but the time they take to do anything I would be wasting my time and having to give in my phone which is a ball ache

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Yep taught me to no longer give me number out. but not to stay away from 20 years younger?

Why ? If he thought she was 19 he done nothing wrong???

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'll close this now as you've had advice on this and the other thread you started.

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