FabSwingers.com forum: Told you so...

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

So... how often are you right?

Are you good at knowing how things will play out? Or do you tend to not think about that and just live in the moment?

Also, "told you so" is really quite a gently irritating saying isn't it? Like shampoo in your eyes. Or come.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I don't like to brag...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not as often as I used to think. I've been blindly ignoring my instincts and using trust instead.

Hasn't worked out well recently.

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

"So... how often are you right?

Are you good at knowing how things will play out? Or do you tend to not think about that and just live in the moment?

Also, "told you so" is really quite a gently irritating saying isn't it? Like shampoo in your eyes. Or come."

All the time.

He just hasn't realised it yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So... how often are you right?

Are you good at knowing how things will play out? Or do you tend to not think about that and just live in the moment?

Also, "told you so" is really quite a gently irritating saying isn't it? Like shampoo in your eyes. Or come."

So.

Yeah.

I was bang on.

Go fucking me.

Called it.

Ner ner ner ner neeeer.

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

I'm actually quite good at it.

I see a lot of things coming but I do still get blindsided from time to time.

I don't do the whole 'I told you so' thing though because I find it condescending .

Em x

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Probably not as much as I'd like

I do hate an I told you so, I also hate cum in the eye.... luckily that's only happened once

Mrs

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I only notice when I'm wrong. I guess most of us are right more often than not.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

I always know I'm right

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I'm actually quite good at it.

I see a lot of things coming but I do still get blindsided from time to time.

I don't do the whole 'I told you so' thing though because I find it condescending .

Em x"

I do the "I told you so" when they were an actual nightmare leading up to the peak of their wrongness.

Otherwise I just give the look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So... how often are you right?

….

Also, "told you so" is really quite a gently irritating saying isn't it? Like shampoo in your eyes. Or come."

I say this often to myself.

Woody!!!…I told you so!

*cries.

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

"I'm actually quite good at it.

I see a lot of things coming but I do still get blindsided from time to time.

I don't do the whole 'I told you so' thing though because I find it condescending .

Em x

I do the "I told you so" when they were an actual nightmare leading up to the peak of their wrongness.

Otherwise I just give the look. "

Well yes the look kind of says it all doesn't it

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

All the time but I’m humble about it

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Anywho! Being serious

I'm not always right, I like to be wrong. Can often learn things and grow from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to live in the past

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

When my mum was alive she would frequently sack her carers despite her knowing, my dad knowing and me knowing that she couldn't cope without them. Every, single, damn time she would tell me she needed carers again after a few days. Every,single, damn time I silently screamed but resisted the almost overwhelming temptation to say

"I darn well told you so!"

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"So... how often are you right?

Are you good at knowing how things will play out? Or do you tend to not think about that and just live in the moment? "

At work, I’m pretty good at it. My personal life has been hit and miss at best. Living in the moment doesn’t really work with an underlying control freak in my personality.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I don't like to brag...

Love this energy. Brag away, the forums are a safe space.:D

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

When you have some smarts you tend to see the possibilities in advance. So in hindsight it feels like you knew it, whatever the outcome.

I laugh at the absurdity a lot these days and at myself, for forgetting that.

Sometimes a possibility you didn't consider comes along that's a good reminder.

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

I was once at a corporate event and the MC,a very well known former rugby star (of the 70s ) basked a question that he said no one would ever answer.

I knew the answer and wrote it down.

He was giving out the prizes and when it came to the specific question he said no one got it right. I objected and told him. He “shushed” me and gave the prize,a weekend in Amsterdam, to some twat who got it wrong. I was restrained from belting the MC , mainly for the “shushing”

Twat.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"So... how often are you right?

Are you good at knowing how things will play out? Or do you tend to not think about that and just live in the moment?

Also, "told you so" is really quite a gently irritating saying isn't it? Like shampoo in your eyes. Or come."

I'd never say 'told ya so'. That's way to polite for me. But as to how things will play out, I'm more right than wrong .

I do think its an autism thing to have difficulty working out what a person means but people dynamics are easier to anticipate.

I've been told that come in the nose is worse than in the eye but no first hand experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So... how often are you right?

Are you good at knowing how things will play out? Or do you tend to not think about that and just live in the moment?

Also, "told you so" is really quite a gently irritating saying isn't it? Like shampoo in your eyes. Or come."

Only once I have been wrong- it’s when I thought I was but I wasn’t.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It's possible to not be right ?? Heavens above ! Really ? I wonder what it feels like.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Not as often as I used to think. I've been blindly ignoring my instincts and using trust instead.

Hasn't worked out well recently.

Oh Lib. Genuinely sorry. Instincts are part of it and as wonderful as trust can be, it's best to marry them rather than ignore one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not very often anymore because I don’t surround myself with or give much time to people who are not self aware and repeat patterns constantly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not as often as I used to think. I've been blindly ignoring my instincts and using trust instead.

Hasn't worked out well recently.

Oh Lib. Genuinely sorry. Instincts are part of it and as wonderful as trust can be, it's best to marry them rather than ignore one."

It's all good! Just thought I'd take a leap of faith a bit more. For science.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Meh, who actually cares. Think people get so wrapped up in wanting to be right or seen as right, that the important things get missed.

Yeah don't be an idiot and put thought before you act. So you know you did your best, beyond that I really don't think it's necessary.

I work with someone who has to be right all the time and apparently never fucks up. They spend more time covering up their mistakes and looking like they are right. Than actually doing any work of actual value. Plus everyone thinks they're a Muppet.

We all sometimes get it right, sometimes get it wrong. The majority of the time regardless of which it makes little impact on our life.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"It's possible to not be right ?? Heavens above ! Really ? I wonder what it feels like. "

I wish I could help you there. I’ve no idea either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you have some smarts you tend to see the possibilities in advance. So in hindsight it feels like you knew it, whatever the outcome.

I laugh at the absurdity a lot these days and at myself, for forgetting that.

Sometimes a possibility you didn't consider comes along that's a good reminder."

Being an overthinker helps because you have conjured up every possible outcome, added it all up with the probabilities and lo and behold, 10 million brain clicks later and a dollop of common sense then yes you can say (or think it smugly to yourself) well well, told you so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm actually not bad at knowing how something will play out.

I've been blindsided before now though but I'm usually not far off.

I wouldn't tell someone I told you so though, it must makes you look condescending.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

When I listen to my inner voice very often. But I ignore it regularly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do have a particularly good inbuilt 6th sense which very rarely lets me down

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"So... how often are you right?

Are you good at knowing how things will play out? Or do you tend to not think about that and just live in the moment?

Also, "told you so" is really quite a gently irritating saying isn't it? Like shampoo in your eyes. Or come.

All the time.

He just hasn't realised it yet.

Ha! My fiancé hasn't realised it either. He's a very intelligent man but for some strange reason he hasn't worked that out yet.

Maybe it's a them issue rather than an us issue.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"When you have some smarts you tend to see the possibilities in advance. So in hindsight it feels like you knew it, whatever the outcome.

I laugh at the absurdity a lot these days and at myself, for forgetting that.

Sometimes a possibility you didn't consider comes along that's a good reminder.

A legend in one's own living room

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkley

If it's scientific or technical, basically I'm right. Was right about everything since the start of covid 19, am still right in my continued caution. I take no pleasure in being right about all that though, would far rather have been completely wrong.

Everything I said about brexit has been absolutely confirmed.

If I explain something that involves mathematics or physics, then just assume that I'm right, it'll save a lot of time. If it's about softer sciences such as biology or genetics, then I'm more informed than anybody that just gets their information from newspapers or youtube, but I know my limits and will defer to those who are actually immersed in these disciplines.

If it's anything transgender, then 15 years being trans means that I do know more than anyone whose knowledge of biology, gender studies and feminism was derived from tabloid newspapers, youtube/twitter/reddit, politicians, and stuff said by transphobes.

If it's interpersonal relationships, especially those involving myself, then I don't have a fucking clue what I'm doing.

Oh, and just don't bother asking me about interior decorating colour schemes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At work I'm right quite often.

In my personal life I just want to see the best in everyone and I'm known for being "too nice"

Friends could often say they told me so but they never do.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm always right. Obviously!

But I agree with Frida.

The message is often missed because someone has to be right.

There is no point in 'I told you so's'

Jo.Xx

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"So... how often are you right?

Are you good at knowing how things will play out? Or do you tend to not think about that and just live in the moment?

Also, "told you so" is really quite a gently irritating saying isn't it? Like shampoo in your eyes. Or come.

So.

Yeah.

I was bang on.

Go fucking me.

Called it.

Ner ner ner ner neeeer. "

Ha! I think the day you say that to me I might cry.

It's rather childish isn't it? I like the nering to emphasise.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I'm actually quite good at it.

I see a lot of things coming but I do still get blindsided from time to time.

I don't do the whole 'I told you so' thing though because I find it condescending.

Em x"

Being blindsided is understandable. I think sometimes we can look back and say "oh I knew this would happen" if we had a feeling about something.

It's really rather condescending! I was also over it by the time I typed the OP but thought it would make an interesting topic.

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

I won’t say it. I get no satisfaction from saying it because it always related to my warnings towards the people I care. So, when not end well as I said it, I also feel sorry for them.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"I'm actually quite good at it.

I see a lot of things coming but I do still get blindsided from time to time.

I don't do the whole 'I told you so' thing though because I find it condescending.

Em x

Being blindsided is understandable. I think sometimes we can look back and say "oh I knew this would happen" if we had a feeling about something.

It's really rather condescending! I was also over it by the time I typed the OP but thought it would make an interesting topic.

I think we can be blindsided quicker when it comes to ourselves. But we have the benefit of observation with others and maybe a chance to see a different angle.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

It is interesting that not a single person has said that they write predictions down in advance and then check to see how their predictions play out.

The _biggest_ cognitive bias we have is over confidence and writing your predictions down and checking them later is almost always a universally humbling experience.

You can thank me once you have checked how accurate your predictions really are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have anxiety. So I play out a lot of situations in my head. But therapy has helped me live more in the moment. But usually when something happens I get that ‘i knew it

‘ feeling if it’s negative.

I read somewhere to try and challenge thoughts so we do less what if [insert negative thing] happens and not what if [insert positive thing] happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shampoo in the eyes and I told you so aren’t gently irritating Meli. They’re forms of violence.

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