FabSwingers.com forum: A visitor….

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

how do you feel about people visiting the area you live… would you meet them on a social ..or perhaps more?

If you would be happy to meet them … how long before they arrive would you like them to get in touch? Weeks to build up? Days? Or a once they’re there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"how do you feel about people visiting the area you live… would you meet them on a social ..or perhaps more?

If you would be happy to meet them … how long before they arrive would you like them to get in touch? Weeks to build up? Days? Or a once they’re there? "

I’ll meet anyone at anytime if available

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

If they are randomly contacting me because they are 'in the area', I'm not interested.

If they contact me in advance, explain they are visiting on X dates, and the online conversation is good, I'd meet them socially.

If it's someone I know generally online, visiting the area, then yes, I'll do all I can to be free.

If it's a friend, they had better becoming to stay at mine.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Maybe a few weeks to build up anticipation. And because I'm quite busy and there are only four people on Fab I'd say yes to seeing if they were in my area tomorrow.

Right now I'm very much a social only first time I meet someone sort of woman. Who knows? In the future that might change. A tad unlikely though.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Wait make that 6. There's a couple who I'd definitely drop everything for if they said they're in my area tomorrow. :D

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Weeks so we can build a connection

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If they are randomly contacting me because they are 'in the area', I'm not interested.

If they contact me in advance, explain they are visiting on X dates, and the online conversation is good, I'd meet them socially.

If it's someone I know generally online, visiting the area, then yes, I'll do all I can to be free.

If it's a friend, they had better becoming to stay at mine."

Seems fair…. The building a connection / chatting before arrival is the key

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I’m not geographically discriminate. If someone seems nice and we click well over a few messages, I’m happy to meet them.

I’ve been the one passing through other places and lovely local Fabbers have agreed to meet me. I’m fine with the shoe being on the other foot, as if were.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wait make that 6. There's a couple who I'd definitely drop everything for if they said they're in my area tomorrow. :D"

Lucky couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah yes the “I’m in your area tomorrow wanna meet between 3 and 5?” approach.

No. Treating people like a utility isn’t sexy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Weeks so we can build a connection"

That seems like a good idea

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ah yes the “I’m in your area tomorrow wanna meet between 3 and 5?” approach.

No. Treating people like a utility isn’t sexy. "

But what about the … I’m in your area for a few weeks in a couple of weeks… would you like to chat to see if we ‘click’ and then maybe when I visit we could maybe sample a social?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no hard fast rules. If the conversation flows we will meet someone who's just overnighting or people who are preplanning. We do the same when we're visiting somewhere, message some before getting there to dip toes in and public our profile and message others when we get there.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I’ve met a passing traveller once. I’m not sure it counts though as we’d been speaking for months beforehand.

Although by “passing through” it still meant some journey by either party….

Actually my story is shit and doesn’t count.

No. I wouldn’t

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Wait make that 6. There's a couple who I'd definitely drop everything for if they said they're in my area tomorrow. :D

Lucky couple

Ha, they're platonic. As are three others in my six.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Actually my story is shit and doesn’t count."

Did you just trip over your own story? Clumsy bugger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah yes the “I’m in your area tomorrow wanna meet between 3 and 5?” approach.

No. Treating people like a utility isn’t sexy.

But what about the … I’m in your area for a few weeks in a couple of weeks… would you like to chat to see if we ‘click’ and then maybe when I visit we could maybe sample a social? "

See you read that as it’s written, whereas I read the implicit code when it’s being directed to someone who isn’t heteronormative. Same words, different implications.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

This is an interesting one. I have been making regular trips up north to the wirral for the last few months. I've been able to visit townhouse and a couple of other clubs but hadn't really thought about arranging any meets, not that I use fab to do this anyway, as I am acutely aware of those 'I'm in your area' messages from our couples profile.

Anyway, I was just sitting having a look through fab when a humorous profile made me laugh. Uncharacteristically I dropped a message just to let them know I'd had a chuckle and amazingly I got a response. We chatted for a couple of days, seemed to get on and then just arranged to meet. It was a great time and we hope to meet again soon but it was most unexpected. So I guess you just never know, sometimes the stars align and people just click

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve met a passing traveller once. I’m not sure it counts though as we’d been speaking for months beforehand.

Although by “passing through” it still meant some journey by either party….

Actually my story is shit and doesn’t count.

No. I wouldn’t

Haha thanks for that insight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speak to them beforehand for a while before agreeing to meet them socially.

Advance notice they're going to be nearby is also preferred

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ah yes the “I’m in your area tomorrow wanna meet between 3 and 5?” approach.

No. Treating people like a utility isn’t sexy.

But what about the … I’m in your area for a few weeks in a couple of weeks… would you like to chat to see if we ‘click’ and then maybe when I visit we could maybe sample a social?

See you read that as it’s written, whereas I read the implicit code when it’s being directed to someone who isn’t heteronormative. Same words, different implications. "

Excuse me ?

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

I’d a dream last night that Principessa was within half a mile. I was so surprised I then woke up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Speak to them beforehand for a while before agreeing to meet them socially.

Advance notice they're going to be nearby is also preferred

Noted…. So will you be anywhere near….

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By *MCMan
over a year ago

London/EA

"If they are randomly contacting me because they are 'in the area', I'm not interested.

If they contact me in advance, explain they are visiting on X dates, and the online conversation is good, I'd meet them socially.

If it's someone I know generally online, visiting the area, then yes, I'll do all I can to be free.

If it's a friend, they had better becoming to stay at mine."

I used to travel a fair bit with work, I’d always under take due diligence first on the area to find potential people I’d consider meeting, as you say messaging first explaining and being transparent about the situation was a lot better, gives the chance to ensure you were on the same vibe as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to prefer these types of encounters

Now though first meets are nearly always just social and I was very lucky to meet a few lovely fabbers when I was just passing through last week. Granted most of them id been chatting to on and off for a while.

I'd happily meet people socially if we click but unlikely to be without a bit of chatting etc first

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I'm always happy to meet for a social cuppa if they are in the area, I've met some really interesting people from impromptu fab cuppa socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only forum people for a social. Otherwise no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Speak to them beforehand for a while before agreeing to meet them socially.

Advance notice they're going to be nearby is also preferred

Noted…. So will you be anywhere near….

To be fair I'd probably make a U-Turn for those thighs!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm always happy to meet for a social cuppa if they are in the area, I've met some really interesting people from impromptu fab cuppa socials

Well I do enjoy a cuppa….cake too?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Only forum people for a social. Otherwise no. "

Forum people? As in who you’ve chatted to on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Speak to them beforehand for a while before agreeing to meet them socially.

Advance notice they're going to be nearby is also preferred

Noted…. So will you be anywhere near….

To be fair I'd probably make a U-Turn for those thighs!

Can’t say that to me….. otherwise all I’ll pack is short shorts :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always nice to know people beforehand but I guess there's a bit of fun to being spontaneous so happy to meet with most x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Speak to them beforehand for a while before agreeing to meet them socially.

Advance notice they're going to be nearby is also preferred

Noted…. So will you be anywhere near….

To be fair I'd probably make a U-Turn for those thighs!

Can’t say that to me….. otherwise all I’ll pack is short shorts :p"

I promise not to stare if you did....

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By *weetCruellaWoman
over a year ago

somewhere sweet and sour

Agree... those thighs are something else lol

Ahem anyway..

If the person knows in advance and we click... then yes a social and a never say never. Lifes too short, if u fancy each other on the social then you might not get another opportunity for a while lol

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By *reative-mindMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I live in Devon. every man, women and campervan comes to visit these parts.... hope anyone of you heading this way has a lovely time.

Please reach out if you need a tour guide...

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

A social is a chat in a public place. What's not to like?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Speak to them beforehand for a while before agreeing to meet them socially.

Advance notice they're going to be nearby is also preferred

Noted…. So will you be anywhere near….

To be fair I'd probably make a U-Turn for those thighs!

Can’t say that to me….. otherwise all I’ll pack is short shorts :p

I promise not to stare if you did...."

I’d want you staring

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Agree... those thighs are something else lol

Ahem anyway..

If the person knows in advance and we click... then yes a social and a never say never. Lifes too short, if u fancy each other on the social then you might not get another opportunity for a while lol"

Note to self…. I must get the leg days back up to scratch

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I live in Devon. every man, women and campervan comes to visit these parts.... hope anyone of you heading this way has a lovely time.

Please reach out if you need a tour guide..."

Devon is my sanctuary

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

If they were from the forums and they said they were in my area then I might be interested.

But random folk? No.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If they were from the forums and they said they were in my area then I might be interested.

But random folk? No. "

I’ll keep myself in many of the forum chats then

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Actually my story is shit and doesn’t count.

Did you just trip over your own story? Clumsy bugger."

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By *reative-mindMan
over a year ago

Exeter

"I live in Devon. every man, women and campervan comes to visit these parts.... hope anyone of you heading this way has a lovely time.

Please reach out if you need a tour guide...

Devon is my sanctuary

Beautiful bit of the world, with great people... might be but biased there.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I do prefer socials first but if it was someone I'd been chatting to for a few weeks I'd be more than happy to meet.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only forum people for a social. Otherwise no.

Forum people? As in who you’ve chatted to on here? "

Argumentative people are most fun over a coffee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they reached out a month or so in advance then i might be up for a conversation... But getting a message when they are already here /checked-in defo makes me check out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone I've already been chatting to for a bit, no problem. Maybe let me know a week or so beforehand (if were chatting it would come up anyway)

A chancer looking for a post code fumble...nahhhh

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do prefer socials first but if it was someone I'd been chatting to for a few weeks I'd be more than happy to meet.

Mrs "

A shame I’m going in the wrong direction

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Only forum people for a social. Otherwise no.

Forum people? As in who you’ve chatted to on here?

Argumentative people are most fun over a coffee.

Let’s put that to the test….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I'd only want a visitor if he messaged me when "driving through" my town in an hour's time. That's a proper visitor. Especially if he wanted a bj in his lorry. Quality stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was someone from the forum and they knew where I lived, and e kind of talked. Hit me up, let’s have a social.

A stranger, I’d fucking pick myself up off the floor if anyone ever popped into my box like that. It’s hard to imagine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah yes the “I’m in your area tomorrow wanna meet between 3 and 5?” approach.

No. Treating people like a utility isn’t sexy.

But what about the … I’m in your area for a few weeks in a couple of weeks… would you like to chat to see if we ‘click’ and then maybe when I visit we could maybe sample a social?

See you read that as it’s written, whereas I read the implicit code when it’s being directed to someone who isn’t heteronormative. Same words, different implications.

Excuse me ?

Yes of course no need to ask

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ah yes the “I’m in your area tomorrow wanna meet between 3 and 5?” approach.

No. Treating people like a utility isn’t sexy.

But what about the … I’m in your area for a few weeks in a couple of weeks… would you like to chat to see if we ‘click’ and then maybe when I visit we could maybe sample a social?

See you read that as it’s written, whereas I read the implicit code when it’s being directed to someone who isn’t heteronormative. Same words, different implications.

Excuse me ?

Yes of course no need to ask

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh I'd only want a visitor if he messaged me when "driving through" my town in an hour's time. That's a proper visitor. Especially if he wanted a bj in his lorry. Quality stuff.

Sounds classy haha

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