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Whats the best message to send?

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By *heKinkExplorer OP   Man
over a year ago

leicester

So like most single guys we send alot of messages with no replies, what kind of messages get the most responces?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How longs a piece of string.

Hi works just as “include this word in your subject to prove you read profile” doesn’t.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Just something about their profile usually, you won't get a reply at all though unless they want to talk to you

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

One that makes reference to my profile that we have in common.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There can’t be a kind off message that gets a reply

As everyone profile is different

Everyone is looking for different things

There is no magic message that will get replays

You got to taller make ever single message to suit that person and they profile and they wants and needs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a face pic on the profile will always ensure I have a look! And then a message that makes me smile, Sometimes it’s not personal though as a woman we get inundated and some just slip through the net!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Something that shows you've read their profile, if your messaging a couple message them both not just the female.

To be honest 1st messages for me don't have to say much as long as it's not just a hi or fancy a fuck type, if I like the profile I'll reply to a one liner if I don't I won't, I never expect huge essays for a 1st message.

Mrs

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

Please treat this cock pic as a witty and entertaining opening message that makes you want to shag me !!!

Never tried but who knows… then don’t attach a cock pic and they’ll think you’re playing hard to get - chicks love that!!

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By *opetop4UMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"There can’t be a kind off message that gets a reply

As everyone profile is different

Everyone is looking for different things

There is no magic message that will get replays

You got to taller make ever single message to suit that person and they profile and they wants and needs "

That's spot on actually!

I keep my first message quite short and suggest that they look at my bio, photos and verifications.

Pictures say a thousand words etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something that shows you've read their profile, if your messaging a couple message them both not just the female.

To be honest 1st messages for me don't have to say much as long as it's not just a hi or fancy a fuck type, if I like the profile I'll reply to a one liner if I don't I won't, I never expect huge essays for a 1st message.

Mrs

"

Damn it. Let me just re type my message

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By *4G-GBBukCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

"hi u ok"

"what you up 2"

These always work

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By *valanche1001Man
over a year ago

Leeds

FAF? and a picture of my arse usually does it

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By *4G-GBBukCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow/London


"Something that shows you've read their profile, if your messaging a couple message them both not just the female.

To be honest 1st messages for me don't have to say much as long as it's not just a hi or fancy a fuck type, if I like the profile I'll reply to a one liner if I don't I won't, I never expect huge essays for a 1st message.

Mrs

"

This. The amount of times I get told I'm beautiful by some clown at 4am...

Mr S

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By *appyhippoWoman
over a year ago

coventry

Read the profile. It will normally tell you everything you need to know as to what to write. It’s doesn’t have to be a long first message just show interest and go from there.

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By *ollynTwitchCouple
over a year ago

Sible

Funny enough, I've had more results/replies by starting my convo with "Thankyou for sharing", explaining why I liked your profile/photos etc.

Seems to work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There can’t be a kind off message that gets a reply

As everyone profile is different

Everyone is looking for different things

There is no magic message that will get replays

You got to taller make ever single message to suit that person and they profile and they wants and needs

That's spot on actually!

I keep my first message quite short and suggest that they look at my bio, photos and verifications.

Pictures say a thousand words etc."

Thanks I do try my best to give the best advice I can to the best off my knowledge

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Be realistic

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

There isn't one. What works for one woman may not work for another. Additionally it depends on the guy sending it too. If they don't like the look of you, despite the message being the perfect one to send, you won't see any difference.

All kinds of messages work just as all of them don't work.

Send the message you would write naturally yourself and the kind you would like to get.

You won't please everyone so stop trying to please the with what you think they want.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"So like most single guys we send alot of messages with no replies, what kind of messages get the most responces?"

Ones from people we're attracted to

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"Hi I'm a person I think, lovely bum and/or dong on you, I did almost six push-ups back in March would you like to spend time with the apex of human performance?"

- Intro

- Compliment

- About yourself

- Query

You can have that one for free OP, use it sparingly for it will bring you too many intercourses to handle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best message is definitely a dick pic either no context or conversation. Or "fancy a fuck".

That always gets the ladys clambering to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dick pics!

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
over a year ago

Beverley

I don't like it when the advice is 'tailor your message to their profile' because unless you have shared values you will just be bullshitting.

I'd advise honesty over that. Maybe pick up on something in the profile that you can at least talk about, or some 'criteria' you fit into. If you click on someone because you liked their pictures but don't like their profile, don't pretend you do. Just click on someone else

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Hi normally works… if it’s from someone I want to message back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aim to open a conversation not go straight in asking for a meet.

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By *emonochromeMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

The one in a bottle!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be completely honest. I don't generally send initial messages out. I put my personality across as best on here as possible. I update my photos regularly (daily sometimes)

Pretty similar to meeting someone in a bar. I don't go table to table asking if they want a drink. I wait for the right moment. Or for them to make a definite suggestion their interested. Then and only then will I send a message first.

"Hey saw you've fabbed/liked/looked at my profile a few times. I'm *****, I've looked over your profile........"

And it grows from there. Sometimes it hits a dead end other times it leads somewhere. Who knows.

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