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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When woman start chatting dirty it’s appreciated and when guy start chatting dirty at beginning it’s rude. Why is that inequality in 21st century ?

Of course, respect is there from both side.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It all depends on perception and perception in this case depends on how attractive the dirty talking person is to the recipient

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flirting vs harassment

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"When woman start chatting dirty it’s appreciated and when guy start chatting dirty at beginning it’s rude. Why is that inequality in 21st century ?

Of course, respect is there from both side. "

All depends on the context.

As an initial message I think straight into dirty talk from either side is a bad move.

But it all depends on the purpose and intentions once an initial message has established interest. If all you're looking to do is meet up for a no strings shag then crack on. But diving straight into the shut leaves no room for anything else. It's hard then to step back and tone things down if you've gone in all guns blazing.

But if it's going to be a one time hook up then honestly, who cares. Smut away.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When woman start chatting dirty it’s appreciated and when guy start chatting dirty at beginning it’s rude. Why is that inequality in 21st century ?

Of course, respect is there from both side. "

Is it though? Is it universally appreciated? Do many women start chatting dirty at the outset? Might it be that a greater proportion of men than women are receptive to it?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Talking to whom?

Surely it's the person on the receiving end that dictates if it's appropriate or not.

9/10 a man will find it acceptable. Majority of women won't.

In most case (not all, always hypocrites) the womdn whom don't like it, won't do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m just happy to get a message lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When woman start chatting dirty it’s appreciated and when guy start chatting dirty at beginning it’s rude. Why is that inequality in 21st century ?

Of course, respect is there from both side.

All depends on the context.

As an initial message I think straight into dirty talk from either side is a bad move.

But it all depends on the purpose and intentions once an initial message has established interest. If all you're looking to do is meet up for a no strings shag then crack on. But diving straight into the shut leaves no room for anything else. It's hard then to step back and tone things down if you've gone in all guns blazing.

But if it's going to be a one time hook up then honestly, who cares. Smut away.

A "

Nah. Even if it's a one time hook up I'll completely shut the dirty chat down

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss


"It all depends on perception and perception in this case depends on how attractive the dirty talking person is to the recipient "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When woman start chatting dirty it’s appreciated and when guy start chatting dirty at beginning it’s rude. Why is that inequality in 21st century ?

Of course, respect is there from both side. "

Surely it’s about context and how well you know each other and what you’re up to at that time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When woman start chatting dirty it’s appreciated and when guy start chatting dirty at beginning it’s rude. Why is that inequality in 21st century ?

Of course, respect is there from both side.

Surely it’s about context and how well you know each other and what you’re up to at that time. "

Definitely not - the world is as black and white as the OP makes out

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

Consent. If some random of any gender talks dirty it does nothing for me and no interest. I would only appreciate dirty talk if arranging a meet or after one, re-living.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Because men enjoy it more so are more likely to initiate and more likely to enjoy it when a woman starts it. No inequality just different reactions between the sexes. Men are free not to like it.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

If we get crude or graphic messages from people we don't know ,it's a delete regardless of who they are.

Some men might welcome random dirty chat,but not all will either.

People are individuals,so what gets one person going ,may not be the same for the next .

It's always best to know the person you're chatting to and how receptive they'd be to it .

Miss

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't see it as inequality it depends who's on the receiving end.

If a women started talking dirty in my inbox I'd ignore her just as much as I would a man, nothing worse than people you don't know listing what they want you to do to them and sprouting off a load of crap when they have zero idea of anything about you personally it comes across as desperate from both sides especially in a 1st message.

Mrs

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

I suppose it depends what you classify as "dirty", in a club a casual question in our direction of "so what did you get up to at weekend?" could easily descend into the Second Level of Hell within minutes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a woman starts talking dirty from the start on here she's probably a man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it because men are wired differently to women? Are women more softer and sensual because of our nurturing side compared to men?

Or is it just a lot of men send an initial message with one had on their cock? Lol

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Compering male attitudes to female attitudes is like comparing apples and pears. Your equality issue where men are disadvantaged here is a case caused by centuries older wider inequality and unequal social norms for women.

There's nothing purposely unfair here, just the story of how we are socialised differently. If it were not the case I'm sure there would be a far more equal spead of males to females and far more similarities in sexaul patterns and attitudes. So you'll never see this change unless you unravel centuries of inequality and social norms. Or stop being so tone dead and actually understand the women you want to get into bed with and message appropriately.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"When woman start chatting dirty it’s appreciated and when guy start chatting dirty at beginning it’s rude. Why is that inequality in 21st century ?

Of course, respect is there from both side. "

Contrary to popular belief, men and women are different, some men don't seem to understand this. It's not inequality it's simply difference.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"When woman start chatting dirty it’s appreciated and when guy start chatting dirty at beginning it’s rude. Why is that inequality in 21st century ?

Of course, respect is there from both side. "

I think inequality is more like, people believing that they can impose their desires on others and tell them what they want.

Like, say, someone believing that dirty chat must be appreciated by all parties?

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

Chances are if a random women starts messaging you talking dirty it’s a fake account.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most women I know aren't on fab looking for wankchat. Whereas a good 80% (I reckon) of men on fab are here purely for wankchat and have no intention of ever meeting or stepping away from their screen.

If a man finds a woman who goes in heavy with the wankchat at the start, chances are it's a bloke pretending to be a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most women I know aren't on fab looking for wankchat. Whereas a good 80% (I reckon) of men on fab are here purely for wankchat and have no intention of ever meeting or stepping away from their screen.

If a man finds a woman who goes in heavy with the wankchat at the start, chances are it's a bloke pretending to be a woman "

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Society isnt equal, nobody is the same height, weight, colour, dont earn the same salary, everyone is different and we should except it and not try to push for something that can never happen

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