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"Do people actually remove a characteristic from someone to appear "not racist". Doesn't that make them passive-rascist? "I like single tattooed, gym fit guys - urghhh leave me alone!" That's the one that puts a smile on my face  | |||
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"Aaaaallll day "It’s when they refuse to use the word ‘Black’ to describe a Black person for me
‘You’re looking for the guy in the green top with the glasses and the grey shoes-‘
‘The black guy. He’s the only black guy there. You mean the black guy’ | |||
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"‘If you were the last person alive and all you could eat was this cow, would you?’ ‘Well-‘ ‘So why are you even vegetarian then?’ Bet you'd eat a squirrel. " No. But I wouldn’t cry if someone else killed it. | |||
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"I’m not racist but…. "This one does my head in. I seem to get it at parties a lot when someone see's me drinking and sporting tattoo's. "I'm not racist but..... But don't get me wrong, you're one of the good one's...." On one occassion a guy followed me round a house party spewing rubbish until I finally ran out of patience and told him to fuck off. Of course, he was then the agrieved party who didn't understand what had happened because he'd uttered those magic words | |||
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Mr pickle have you thought about going on mastermind with your specialist subject ."Which specialist subject? Meme reference? | |||
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"I’m totally straight but… I’m not gay but £1Million is £1Million " A million quid? I'd do you for a diet and a pack of Monster munch | |||
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"I’m not racist but….
This one does my head in. I seem to get it at parties a lot when someone see's me drinking and sporting tattoo's.
"I'm not racist but..... But don't get me wrong, you're one of the good one's...."
On one occassion a guy followed me round a house party spewing rubbish until I finally ran out of patience and told him to fuck off. Of course, he was then the agrieved party who didn't understand what had happened because he'd uttered those magic words "‘Noah Fence like, but all that Black Lives Matter, if there was a white lives matter… it would be racist. Works both ways’ | |||
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It’s when they refuse to use the word ‘Black’ to describe a Black person for me
‘You’re looking for the guy in the green top with the glasses and the grey shoes-‘
‘The black guy. He’s the only black guy there. You mean the black guy’ ""I iz speshul sneauflake and my tenth great grandfather came from X country in Europe and this is why I'm so in line with their culture. Relatives you met were subject to segregation? Meh. No one cares. I don't see race. I iz speshul sneauflake" | |||
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It’s when they refuse to use the word ‘Black’ to describe a Black person for me
‘You’re looking for the guy in the green top with the glasses and the grey shoes-‘
‘The black guy. He’s the only black guy there. You mean the black guy’ "We once got asked "do you want your coffee white or non-white" | |||
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"I’m not racist but….
This one does my head in. I seem to get it at parties a lot when someone see's me drinking and sporting tattoo's.
"I'm not racist but..... But don't get me wrong, you're one of the good one's...."
"I am so incensed every time one of these pieces of shit calls me one of the good ones, or not foreign really. No. No. I do not want fetid algae thinking I'm good or one of them. Fuck off with that. | |||
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"Each to their own, but... Makes me want to stick pins in my own eyeballs " Why your own? Just do it to theirs  they are the ones that said it! | |||
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"Aaaaallll day
It’s when they refuse to use the word ‘Black’ to describe a Black person for me
‘You’re looking for the guy in the green top with the glasses and the grey shoes-‘
‘The black guy. He’s the only black guy there. You mean the black guy’
We once got asked "do you want your coffee white or non-white" "
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Mr pickle have you thought about going on mastermind with your specialist subject .
Which specialist subject?
Meme reference? "I don't know what meme reference means . But so many of your post seam to be on one topic just thought you'd do well on mastermind with it . | |||
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"Are you bored Steve? Is this how many ways can I open a thread about prejudice?" No. This is my my only one today? What have I done now? | |||
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Mr pickle have you thought about going on mastermind with your specialist subject .
Which specialist subject?
Meme reference?
I don't know what meme reference means .
But so many of your post seam to be on one topic just thought you'd do well on mastermind with it ."If you don’t like my posts, respectfully, you don’t have to post on them. | |||
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"I’m not racist but…. "This is just, my favourite thing ever. I'm not whatever... but... | |||
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"Each to their own, but... Makes me want to stick pins in my own eyeballs Why your own? Just do it to theirs they are the ones that said it! "Because someone would call the police on me if I did it to other people. Maybe I should stick pins in my ears. I've had a cannula put in my eyeball it's actually no fun at all  | |||
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"I’m not racist but….
This one does my head in. I seem to get it at parties a lot when someone see's me drinking and sporting tattoo's.
"I'm not racist but..... But don't get me wrong, you're one of the good one's...."
I am so incensed every time one of these pieces of shit calls me one of the good ones, or not foreign really.
No. No. I do not want fetid algae thinking I'm good or one of them. Fuck off with that.". We rather enjoy telling people our origin when they've indulged in a little casual xenophobic racism and look at us waiting for us to agree, the back tracking or even on some occasions laughter and telling us it's 'only a joke' is astonishing. There are a number of people on our block list for this very reason | |||
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"Aaaaallll day
It’s when they refuse to use the word ‘Black’ to describe a Black person for me
‘You’re looking for the guy in the green top with the glasses and the grey shoes-‘
‘The black guy. He’s the only black guy there. You mean the black guy’ " | |||
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Mr pickle have you thought about going on mastermind with your specialist subject .
Which specialist subject?
Meme reference?
I don't know what meme reference means .
But so many of your post seam to be on one topic just thought you'd do well on mastermind with it .
If you don’t like my posts, respectfully, you don’t have to post on them. "I didn't say that I don't like your posts. And I enjoy your contributions on threads you posted a thread the other day saying do you go on about race to much . which I thought was good . I'm simply saying this specialist subject of your. I'd just like to see you post more on other topics here I've heard you make some interesting comments on other thread but forums are open we put topic and people respond I've responded . | |||
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"I’m not racist but….
This one does my head in. I seem to get it at parties a lot when someone see's me drinking and sporting tattoo's.
"I'm not racist but..... But don't get me wrong, you're one of the good one's...."
I am so incensed every time one of these pieces of shit calls me one of the good ones, or not foreign really.
No. No. I do not want fetid algae thinking I'm good or one of them. Fuck off with that.
. We rather enjoy telling people our origin when they've indulged in a little casual xenophobic racism and look at us waiting for us to agree, the back tracking or even on some occasions laughter and telling us it's 'only a joke' is astonishing. There are a number of people on our block list for this very reason "Unfortunately as an Anglo Irish Australian, I'm a xenophobe's wet dream
And yeah, online I block. In person I go ahead and make it fucking awkward. Particularly when they compliment me by telling me that Australia isn't really a country, it's Britain really, and I can be one of them | |||
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"I’m not racist but….
This one does my head in. I seem to get it at parties a lot when someone see's me drinking and sporting tattoo's.
"I'm not racist but..... But don't get me wrong, you're one of the good one's...."
I am so incensed every time one of these pieces of shit calls me one of the good ones, or not foreign really.
No. No. I do not want fetid algae thinking I'm good or one of them. Fuck off with that.
. We rather enjoy telling people our origin when they've indulged in a little casual xenophobic racism and look at us waiting for us to agree, the back tracking or even on some occasions laughter and telling us it's 'only a joke' is astonishing. There are a number of people on our block list for this very reason
Unfortunately as an Anglo Irish Australian, I'm a xenophobe's wet dream
And yeah, online I block. In person I go ahead and make it fucking awkward. Particularly when they compliment me by telling me that Australia isn't really a country, it's Britain really, and I can be one of them "... Waiting for "oh, yeah? Your ancestors were criminals!" - the 1950s want their insult back - there are plenty of native born Brits whose ancestors were executed for crime. Mine were more petty criminals than that. Not that it's an insult, but if we're going to play that stupid game... | |||
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"Don't be sexist! The broads don't like it. Men who say things like, ' I love all women me. Some of my best mates are women. I used to hang out with my sisters mates so I know what it's like to be a woman. I had loads of sisters so I know all about it. " "I'm not sexist. Women are great home makers. I can't hate women, my mum makes the best cake" | |||
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"Don't be sexist! The broads don't like it. Men who say things like, ' I love all women me. Some of my best mates are women. I used to hang out with my sisters mates so I know what it's like to be a woman. I had loads of sisters so I know all about it. " Ah the ‘best mates are…’ | |||
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Or ‘my partner/ kid is black so you know, if anyone understands racism it’s me but’
Someone from the forums has done something like this to me to get me to stop talking about race. | |||
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It’s when they refuse to use the word ‘Black’ to describe a Black person for me
‘You’re looking for the guy in the green top with the glasses and the grey shoes-‘
‘The black guy. He’s the only black guy there. You mean the black guy’ "It might surprise people, but not everyone else looks at another human being and the first thing they think about that person is what race they are. I know it may shock you, but its actually true. | |||
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"‘I’m not racist- my best friend/ granddaughter/ kid/ uncle/ cousin/ partner is black/ Asian’
Or ‘my partner/ kid is black so you know, if anyone understands racism it’s me but’
Someone from the forums has done something like this to me to get me to stop talking about race. "Everything after the but is always bad juju | |||
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"“You don’t sound like a black person”" Are-Uh ya sure? (Blackkklansman reference) | |||
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" We rather enjoy telling people our origin when they've indulged in a little casual xenophobic racism and look at us waiting for us to agree, the back tracking or even on some occasions laughter and telling us it's 'only a joke' is astonishing. There are a number of people on our block list for this very reason " I do agree, ensuing awkwardness is very fun!
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"Where are you from"
"Manchester"
"No, like, where are you *from*?"
That's one I get other asian people. Why does it matter??
I don't know why it's such a hang up for some. Can people not just be people? | |||
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"Aaaaallll day
It’s when they refuse to use the word ‘Black’ to describe a Black person for me
‘You’re looking for the guy in the green top with the glasses and the grey shoes-‘
‘The black guy. He’s the only black guy there. You mean the black guy’
It might surprise people, but not everyone else looks at another human being and the first thing they think about that person is what race they are.
I know it may shock you, but its actually true."
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"‘I’m not racist- my best friend/ granddaughter/ kid/ uncle/ cousin/ partner is black/ Asian’
Or ‘my partner/ kid is black so you know, if anyone understands racism it’s me but’
Someone from the forums has done something like this to me to get me to stop talking about race. "Fair point Mr pickle I'd just like to hear more from you on other topics | |||
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"‘Its cost you nothing’ Manners cost nothing or replying costs nothing. "It may not cost money but would cost energy and sanity for replying to an unsolicited message | |||
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"Remember A/S/L? Oh lawdy...
Omg
You're old too!"There's another good one!
Although we prefer folk not too young (or too old) ourselves. | |||
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""I'm vegan" carrying a leather handbag wearing leather shoes. "I'm straight" but I'll take it not give it. "I'm not racist I have a friend who's black"
Mrs "I'm vegan. I carry a leather bag. I sit on a leather sofa ..... I had them before I became vegan. It wouldn't help any animals if I got rid. | |||
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" I do agree, ensuing awkwardness is very fun!
Do you get
"Where are you from"
"Manchester"
"No, like, where are you *from*?"
That's one I get other asian people. Why does it matter??
I don't know why it's such a hang up for some. Can people not just be people?"Best is when they ask where are you “originally” from. I always reply with the name of the city in the U.K. I was born in. 90% of the time they can’t give up, and move on to “where are your patents from?” and again I name the cities in the U.K. that they were born in too. If a stranger asks questions that make me feel uncomfortable, they’ll get answers that make them uncomfortable too. | |||
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"‘Its cost you nothing’ Manners cost nothing or replying costs nothing.
It may not cost money but would cost energy and sanity for replying to an unsolicited message ""Manners cost nothing" = The effort that others expend is worthless to me, and if anything bad results from it, I don't care. Cater to me! | |||
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"Aaaaallll day
It’s when they refuse to use the word ‘Black’ to describe a Black person for me
‘You’re looking for the guy in the green top with the glasses and the grey shoes-‘
‘The black guy. He’s the only black guy there. You mean the black guy’ "I hear you, although there's another element in play. My bestie is a black guy. He states it in occasional conversation as to how hes happy to be described. I also have a guy I work with who is also black, but gets irritated by being called it. I'm lucky in that it's easy for me because I just get to call them both by their first names and not give it any more thought, but it might not be quite so easy for someone who doesn't know them, who could potentially offend either. To be fair it could be easy to offend anyone in the times we live in - I'm a short, bald guy, so I 'could' be offended if someone made certain comments if I was so inclined. (I'd sooner be called a shortarse than 'diminutive' if I'm honest) I think we all know the difference when someone is being descriptive, rather than intending to offend - and despite the times we live in I think the vast majority still believe in live and let live. | |||
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" I do agree, ensuing awkwardness is very fun!
Do you get
"Where are you from"
"Manchester"
"No, like, where are you *from*?"
That's one I get other asian people. Why does it matter??
I don't know why it's such a hang up for some. Can people not just be people?
Best is when they ask where are you “originally” from. I always reply with the name of the city in the U.K. I was born in.
90% of the time they can’t give up, and move on to “where are your patents from?” and again I name the cities in the U.K. that they were born in too.
If a stranger asks questions that make me feel uncomfortable, they’ll get answers that make them uncomfortable too."I get the reverse of that and I hope I also make it awkward because people assume I'm British. I was born in Australia. My parents were born in Australia. My grandparents were born in Australia. Try again, chucklefuck. I'm not one of you, etc. Maybe try asking the non white person with the British accent where in Britain they're from and leave my immigrant arse alone? | |||
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""I'm vegan" carrying a leather handbag wearing leather shoes. "I'm straight" but I'll take it not give it. "I'm not racist I have a friend who's black"
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I'm vegan. I carry a leather bag. I sit on a leather sofa ..... I had them before I became vegan. It wouldn't help any animals if I got rid. "Valid point, I shall check date of purchase next time
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""I don't see gender, we're all just human" Barf" Or, "I love trans people best of both worlds!!!!" I don't want to be both worlds, I want to be one world only. | |||
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""I'm vegan" carrying a leather handbag wearing leather shoes. "I'm straight" but I'll take it not give it. "I'm not racist I have a friend who's black"
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I'm vegan. I carry a leather bag. I sit on a leather sofa ..... I had them before I became vegan. It wouldn't help any animals if I got rid.
Valid point, I shall check date of purchase next time
Mrs "I think things like leather are complex, because the plastic substitutes are destructive in a different way. For me one of the solutions is going second hand. My leather sofa caused the death of no additional cows, and contributed money to medical research. | |||
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""I'm vegan" carrying a leather handbag wearing leather shoes. "I'm straight" but I'll take it not give it. "I'm not racist I have a friend who's black"
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I'm vegan. I carry a leather bag. I sit on a leather sofa ..... I had them before I became vegan. It wouldn't help any animals if I got rid.
Valid point, I shall check date of purchase next time
Mrs "What I can't get my head around is vegan leather ??? I mean .......why ..... why call it leather? | |||
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""I'm vegan" carrying a leather handbag wearing leather shoes. "I'm straight" but I'll take it not give it. "I'm not racist I have a friend who's black"
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I'm vegan. I carry a leather bag. I sit on a leather sofa ..... I had them before I became vegan. It wouldn't help any animals if I got rid.
Valid point, I shall check date of purchase next time
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What I can't get my head around is vegan leather ??? I mean .......why ..... why call it leather?"Yeah I don't understand that too, it's not leather why call it leather? | |||
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""I'm vegan" carrying a leather handbag wearing leather shoes. "I'm straight" but I'll take it not give it. "I'm not racist I have a friend who's black"
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I'm vegan. I carry a leather bag. I sit on a leather sofa ..... I had them before I became vegan. It wouldn't help any animals if I got rid.
Valid point, I shall check date of purchase next time
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What I can't get my head around is vegan leather ??? I mean .......why ..... why call it leather?"Why make bacon that looks like bacon and call it facon? | |||
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" I do agree, ensuing awkwardness is very fun!
Do you get
"Where are you from"
"Manchester"
"No, like, where are you *from*?"
That's one I get other asian people. Why does it matter??
I don't know why it's such a hang up for some. Can people not just be people?
Best is when they ask where are you “originally” from. I always reply with the name of the city in the U.K. I was born in.
90% of the time they can’t give up, and move on to “where are your patents from?” and again I name the cities in the U.K. that they were born in too.
If a stranger asks questions that make me feel uncomfortable, they’ll get answers that make them uncomfortable too.
I get the reverse of that and I hope I also make it awkward because people assume I'm British.
I was born in Australia. My parents were born in Australia. My grandparents were born in Australia.
Try again, chucklefuck. I'm not one of you, etc.
Maybe try asking the non white person with the British accent where in Britain they're from and leave my immigrant arse alone?"Do I need to qualify my question by saying "where in Britain are you from?"? | |||
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""Just believe in yourself/be confident/don't worry" cheers, I'm totally sorted now and will immediately stop worrying. "I went to my GP once with a horrible bladder condition that made me feel as if I desperately needed a pee the whole time. He said "just don't go". Well thanks doc I'm cured! | |||
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" I do agree, ensuing awkwardness is very fun!
Do you get
"Where are you from"
"Manchester"
"No, like, where are you *from*?"
That's one I get other asian people. Why does it matter??
I don't know why it's such a hang up for some. Can people not just be people?
Best is when they ask where are you “originally” from. I always reply with the name of the city in the U.K. I was born in.
90% of the time they can’t give up, and move on to “where are your patents from?” and again I name the cities in the U.K. that they were born in too.
If a stranger asks questions that make me feel uncomfortable, they’ll get answers that make them uncomfortable too.
I get the reverse of that and I hope I also make it awkward because people assume I'm British.
I was born in Australia. My parents were born in Australia. My grandparents were born in Australia.
Try again, chucklefuck. I'm not one of you, etc.
Maybe try asking the non white person with the British accent where in Britain they're from and leave my immigrant arse alone?
Do I need to qualify my question by saying "where in Britain are you from?"?"I don't mind being asked where I'm from. "Sydney" is the answer. As a white person I don't mind being asked where my ancestors come from. "Mostly England, all over" It's this insinuation - I've seen it happen to other people - that a non white person with (say) a London accent can't really be from the UK. "Where are you *really* from?" That's so gross. And in reverse for me a bit, although as a white person they're trying to include not exclude me. (I don't want to be included, see above, but I recognise my privilege in this) | |||
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""Just believe in yourself/be confident/don't worry" cheers, I'm totally sorted now and will immediately stop worrying. "You've eliminated psychiatry, congratulations, where do we direct your Nobel prize | |||
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"Don't be sexist! The broads don't like it. " I’ll remember that next time I’m in Norfolk. Not that I’m sexist at any other time either of course. | |||
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""Just believe in yourself/be confident/don't worry" cheers, I'm totally sorted now and will immediately stop worrying.
I went to my GP once with a horrible bladder condition that made me feel as if I desperately needed a pee the whole time. He said "just don't go". Well thanks doc I'm cured!"What a dick! | |||
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""Just believe in yourself/be confident/don't worry" cheers, I'm totally sorted now and will immediately stop worrying.
You've eliminated psychiatry, congratulations, where do we direct your Nobel prize "IKR? They do tend to say it with a condescending air of "it's so obvious, luv". | |||
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" I do agree, ensuing awkwardness is very fun!
Do you get
"Where are you from"
"Manchester"
"No, like, where are you *from*?"
That's one I get other asian people. Why does it matter??
I don't know why it's such a hang up for some. Can people not just be people?
Best is when they ask where are you “originally” from. I always reply with the name of the city in the U.K. I was born in.
90% of the time they can’t give up, and move on to “where are your patents from?” and again I name the cities in the U.K. that they were born in too.
If a stranger asks questions that make me feel uncomfortable, they’ll get answers that make them uncomfortable too.
I get the reverse of that and I hope I also make it awkward because people assume I'm British.
I was born in Australia. My parents were born in Australia. My grandparents were born in Australia.
Try again, chucklefuck. I'm not one of you, etc.
Maybe try asking the non white person with the British accent where in Britain they're from and leave my immigrant arse alone?
Do I need to qualify my question by saying "where in Britain are you from?"?
I don't mind being asked where I'm from. "Sydney" is the answer. As a white person I don't mind being asked where my ancestors come from. "Mostly England, all over"
It's this insinuation - I've seen it happen to other people - that a non white person with (say) a London accent can't really be from the UK. "Where are you *really* from?" That's so gross. And in reverse for me a bit, although as a white person they're trying to include not exclude me. (I don't want to be included, see above, but I recognise my privilege in this)"It's difficult isn't it. Because we both look British we are often included in the hilarious jokes about our origin (only one of us but I'm trying to be discreet ). Sometimes we roll our eyes and ignore it other times we enjoy making the person feel uncomfortable. Occasionally we smile and say we'll wave at you when you're waiting in the non EU queue at the airport | |||
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You've eliminated psychiatry, congratulations, where do we direct your Nobel prize
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"‘I’m not racist- my best friend/ granddaughter/ kid/ uncle/ cousin/ partner is black/ Asian’
Or ‘my partner/ kid is black so you know, if anyone understands racism it’s me but’
Someone from the forums has done something like this to me to get me to stop talking about race.
Fair point Mr pickle I'd just like to hear more from you on other topics "I just feel like to many people I talk on too many topics in this bloody forum. That’s the problem. I do too many threads- problem. I do one thread today- problem. | |||
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" I do agree, ensuing awkwardness is very fun!
Do you get
"Where are you from"
"Manchester"
"No, like, where are you *from*?"
That's one I get other asian people. Why does it matter??
I don't know why it's such a hang up for some. Can people not just be people?
Best is when they ask where are you “originally” from. I always reply with the name of the city in the U.K. I was born in.
90% of the time they can’t give up, and move on to “where are your patents from?” and again I name the cities in the U.K. that they were born in too.
If a stranger asks questions that make me feel uncomfortable, they’ll get answers that make them uncomfortable too.
I get the reverse of that and I hope I also make it awkward because people assume I'm British.
I was born in Australia. My parents were born in Australia. My grandparents were born in Australia.
Try again, chucklefuck. I'm not one of you, etc.
Maybe try asking the non white person with the British accent where in Britain they're from and leave my immigrant arse alone?
Do I need to qualify my question by saying "where in Britain are you from?"?
I don't mind being asked where I'm from. "Sydney" is the answer. As a white person I don't mind being asked where my ancestors come from. "Mostly England, all over"
It's this insinuation - I've seen it happen to other people - that a non white person with (say) a London accent can't really be from the UK. "Where are you *really* from?" That's so gross. And in reverse for me a bit, although as a white person they're trying to include not exclude me. (I don't want to be included, see above, but I recognise my privilege in this)
It's difficult isn't it. Because we both look British we are often included in the hilarious jokes about our origin (only one of us but I'm trying to be discreet ). Sometimes we roll our eyes and ignore it other times we enjoy making the person feel uncomfortable. Occasionally we smile and say we'll wave at you when you're waiting in the non EU queue at the airport "Haha! Increasingly I choose violence. Not literal violence, but if you're going to try to make the world worse for immigrants or people whose origin you disapprove of, I am using my place as approved immigrant to return awkward to sender. (Although there was that one time I was chastised for Australia denying that it's British and trying to be American, like I'm personally responsible for Australian culture and any deviance from the mother country is a personal insult. I just... I got nothing) | |||
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I went to my GP once with a horrible bladder condition that made me feel as if I desperately needed a pee the whole time. He said "just don't go". Well thanks doc I'm cured!
What a dick! "Yeah he was actually. At the same surgery but a different doctor who I consulted for back pain asked me if couldn't just 'soldier on' . When he tested the reflex in my ankle and couldn't find one he continued to bash with his little tiny hammer because obviously I was overstating the excruciating agony of spinal stenosis. . Luckily I eventually saw a GP who actually gave a damn and had surgery to put an implant in my spine. | |||
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"‘I’m not racist- my best friend/ granddaughter/ kid/ uncle/ cousin/ partner is black/ Asian’
Or ‘my partner/ kid is black so you know, if anyone understands racism it’s me but’
Someone from the forums has done something like this to me to get me to stop talking about race.
Fair point Mr pickle I'd just like to hear more from you on other topics
I just feel like to many people I talk on too many topics in this bloody forum. That’s the problem.
I do too many threads- problem.
I do one thread today- problem. "Threads about race make people uncomfortable - good People being made to look at problems cry salty tears - let's drink. | |||
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"‘I’m not racist- my best friend/ granddaughter/ kid/ uncle/ cousin/ partner is black/ Asian’
Or ‘my partner/ kid is black so you know, if anyone understands racism it’s me but’
Someone from the forums has done something like this to me to get me to stop talking about race.
Fair point Mr pickle I'd just like to hear more from you on other topics
I just feel like to many people I talk on too many topics in this bloody forum. That’s the problem.
I do too many threads- problem.
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It’s when they refuse to use the word ‘Black’ to describe a Black person for me
‘You’re looking for the guy in the green top with the glasses and the grey shoes-‘
‘The black guy. He’s the only black guy there. You mean the black guy’
I hear you, although there's another element in play. My bestie is a black guy. He states it in occasional conversation as to how hes happy to be described. I also have a guy I work with who is also black, but gets irritated by being called it. I'm lucky in that it's easy for me because I just get to call them both by their first names and not give it any more thought, but it might not be quite so easy for someone who doesn't know them, who could potentially offend either.
To be fair it could be easy to offend anyone in the times we live in - I'm a short, bald guy, so I 'could' be offended if someone made certain comments if I was so inclined. (I'd sooner be called a shortarse than 'diminutive' if I'm honest) I think we all know the difference when someone is being descriptive, rather than intending to offend - and despite the times we live in I think the vast majority still believe in live and let live."I only think it should be used as a relevant descriptor. If you’re describing someone to me so I know who you’re talking about or who I’m looking for, race is relevant. It’s a part of our identity. If you’re describing me to someone who can’t place me, ‘Black guy, short, chubby build, beard, nose stud’ is totally fine. Also if I was in a room full of white people, ‘Steve, you know him, literally the only black guy that was there!’ Is not offensive. Same for a white person in those contexts. Where race is not relevant- I don’t think it needs to be brought up. For example. ‘There was a bunch of boys causing trouble down the road. All Black boys.’ - one I’ve actually heard. Anyway, yes Black people aren’t a monolith. We don’t all agree on everything. And if someone doesn’t like to be described that way fair enough. | |||
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Or ‘my partner/ kid is black so you know, if anyone understands racism it’s me but’
Someone from the forums has done something like this to me to get me to stop talking about race.
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It’s when they refuse to use the word ‘Black’ to describe a Black person for me
‘You’re looking for the guy in the green top with the glasses and the grey shoes-‘
‘The black guy. He’s the only black guy there. You mean the black guy’ "I had a couple of meets with a black man from Ghana a few years back. He told me the only ones who were "afraid of the B word were white folk". Him and his mates couldn't understand why no one would say black. | |||
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" I do agree, ensuing awkwardness is very fun!
Do you get
"Where are you from"
"Manchester"
"No, like, where are you *from*?"
That's one I get other asian people. Why does it matter??
I don't know why it's such a hang up for some. Can people not just be people?
Best is when they ask where are you “originally” from. I always reply with the name of the city in the U.K. I was born in.
90% of the time they can’t give up, and move on to “where are your patents from?” and again I name the cities in the U.K. that they were born in too.
If a stranger asks questions that make me feel uncomfortable, they’ll get answers that make them uncomfortable too."
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"I've had people racists rant on in my company, looked over, jaw drops and then say... "Oh we don't see you as one of them!" TB fair tho, we use Black in the UK but US prefer PoC which we don't like." I don’t mind PoC when it’s relevant. When you’re talking about say ‘people of colour experience microaggressions almost daily in Britain’ that’s fair. It’s collective. When you specifically mean Black, say Black. ‘The racism that Black people experience being compared to X and stereotyped as Y’- this is specifically about Black people, not people of colour generally. | |||
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""Just believe in yourself/be confident/don't worry" cheers, I'm totally sorted now and will immediately stop worrying.
You've eliminated psychiatry, congratulations, where do we direct your Nobel prize
IKR? They do tend to say it with a condescending air of "it's so obvious, luv".
Or "I've never suffered mental health problems, I'm strong"
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"Aaaaallll day
It’s when they refuse to use the word ‘Black’ to describe a Black person for me
‘You’re looking for the guy in the green top with the glasses and the grey shoes-‘
‘The black guy. He’s the only black guy there. You mean the black guy’
I had a couple of meets with a black man from Ghana a few years back. He told me the only ones who were "afraid of the B word were white folk". Him and his mates couldn't understand why no one would say black."I think some of us don't want to offend. Me, anyway. I don't want to go all "normal sentence nothing wrong here (descriptor)" only to learn that the descriptor is a slur. I know most people around me know I'm trying to do right by them and those who know me will issue a gentle correction, but I don't want to inadvertently make the problem worse. | |||
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""Just believe in yourself/be confident/don't worry" cheers, I'm totally sorted now and will immediately stop worrying.
You've eliminated psychiatry, congratulations, where do we direct your Nobel prize
IKR? They do tend to say it with a condescending air of "it's so obvious, luv".
Or "I've never suffered mental health problems, I'm strong"
Your privilege is showing, love, put it away.
There is a lot of that, sadly"I'd rather see the 2000s tramp stamp and unshaven bits poking out. The privilege should be neither seen nor heard, like a child in the olden days. | |||
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""Just believe in yourself/be confident/don't worry" cheers, I'm totally sorted now and will immediately stop worrying.
I went to my GP once with a horrible bladder condition that made me feel as if I desperately needed a pee the whole time. He said "just don't go". Well thanks doc I'm cured!
What a dick!
Yeah he was actually. At the same surgery but a different doctor who I consulted for back pain asked me if couldn't just 'soldier on' . When he tested the reflex in my ankle and couldn't find one he continued to bash with his little tiny hammer because obviously I was overstating the excruciating agony of spinal stenosis. . Luckily I eventually saw a GP who actually gave a damn and had surgery to put an implant in my spine. "Glad you got some help eventually, but..what were they thinking? | |||
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""Just believe in yourself/be confident/don't worry" cheers, I'm totally sorted now and will immediately stop worrying.
I went to my GP once with a horrible bladder condition that made me feel as if I desperately needed a pee the whole time. He said "just don't go". Well thanks doc I'm cured!
What a dick!
Yeah he was actually. At the same surgery but a different doctor who I consulted for back pain asked me if couldn't just 'soldier on' . When he tested the reflex in my ankle and couldn't find one he continued to bash with his little tiny hammer because obviously I was overstating the excruciating agony of spinal stenosis. . Luckily I eventually saw a GP who actually gave a damn and had surgery to put an implant in my spine.
Glad you got some help eventually, but..what were they thinking? "There's known biases in medicine towards women in pain. Often worse ones towards non white people, and I know results are often diabolical when mental health comes into it. | |||
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It’s when they refuse to use the word ‘Black’ to describe a Black person for me
‘You’re looking for the guy in the green top with the glasses and the grey shoes-‘
‘The black guy. He’s the only black guy there. You mean the black guy’
I had a couple of meets with a black man from Ghana a few years back. He told me the only ones who were "afraid of the B word were white folk". Him and his mates couldn't understand why no one would say black."Correct.I knew a lad from Nigeria who was a Hygiene inspector,he was called to an Asian fast food outlet that he had to close down,the owner pleaded with him to turn a blind eye,"we are all blacks together".This lad got him up against a wall,"I'm black you are just some brown colour".He couldn't understand the fear of the word black either.As his name was a bit of a mouthful to pronounce he insisted we call him Sambo,which is a legitimate Christian name in the African continent. | |||
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I went to my GP once with a horrible bladder condition that made me feel as if I desperately needed a pee the whole time. He said "just don't go". Well thanks doc I'm cured!
What a dick!
Yeah he was actually. At the same surgery but a different doctor who I consulted for back pain asked me if couldn't just 'soldier on' . When he tested the reflex in my ankle and couldn't find one he continued to bash with his little tiny hammer because obviously I was overstating the excruciating agony of spinal stenosis. . Luckily I eventually saw a GP who actually gave a damn and had surgery to put an implant in my spine.
Glad you got some help eventually, but..what were they thinking? "It was near Christmas the second time. He made it clear he thought I wanted time off work to get my shopping done. | |||
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""Just believe in yourself/be confident/don't worry" cheers, I'm totally sorted now and will immediately stop worrying.
I went to my GP once with a horrible bladder condition that made me feel as if I desperately needed a pee the whole time. He said "just don't go". Well thanks doc I'm cured!
What a dick!
Yeah he was actually. At the same surgery but a different doctor who I consulted for back pain asked me if couldn't just 'soldier on' . When he tested the reflex in my ankle and couldn't find one he continued to bash with his little tiny hammer because obviously I was overstating the excruciating agony of spinal stenosis. . Luckily I eventually saw a GP who actually gave a damn and had surgery to put an implant in my spine.
Glad you got some help eventually, but..what were they thinking?
There's known biases in medicine towards women in pain.
Often worse ones towards non white people, and I know results are often diabolical when mental health comes into it."I've been seeing quite a lot about women + pain lately - it makes me quite angry. | |||
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""Just believe in yourself/be confident/don't worry" cheers, I'm totally sorted now and will immediately stop worrying.
I went to my GP once with a horrible bladder condition that made me feel as if I desperately needed a pee the whole time. He said "just don't go". Well thanks doc I'm cured!
What a dick!
Yeah he was actually. At the same surgery but a different doctor who I consulted for back pain asked me if couldn't just 'soldier on' . When he tested the reflex in my ankle and couldn't find one he continued to bash with his little tiny hammer because obviously I was overstating the excruciating agony of spinal stenosis. . Luckily I eventually saw a GP who actually gave a damn and had surgery to put an implant in my spine.
Glad you got some help eventually, but..what were they thinking?
It was near Christmas the second time. He made it clear he thought I wanted time off work to get my shopping done. "Sexist TWAT | |||
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""Just believe in yourself/be confident/don't worry" cheers, I'm totally sorted now and will immediately stop worrying.
I went to my GP once with a horrible bladder condition that made me feel as if I desperately needed a pee the whole time. He said "just don't go". Well thanks doc I'm cured!
What a dick!
Yeah he was actually. At the same surgery but a different doctor who I consulted for back pain asked me if couldn't just 'soldier on' . When he tested the reflex in my ankle and couldn't find one he continued to bash with his little tiny hammer because obviously I was overstating the excruciating agony of spinal stenosis. . Luckily I eventually saw a GP who actually gave a damn and had surgery to put an implant in my spine.
Glad you got some help eventually, but..what were they thinking?
There's known biases in medicine towards women in pain.
Often worse ones towards non white people, and I know results are often diabolical when mental health comes into it."I raised this with a medical professional who hotly denied it. | |||
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""Just believe in yourself/be confident/don't worry" cheers, I'm totally sorted now and will immediately stop worrying.
I went to my GP once with a horrible bladder condition that made me feel as if I desperately needed a pee the whole time. He said "just don't go". Well thanks doc I'm cured!
What a dick!
Yeah he was actually. At the same surgery but a different doctor who I consulted for back pain asked me if couldn't just 'soldier on' . When he tested the reflex in my ankle and couldn't find one he continued to bash with his little tiny hammer because obviously I was overstating the excruciating agony of spinal stenosis. . Luckily I eventually saw a GP who actually gave a damn and had surgery to put an implant in my spine.
Glad you got some help eventually, but..what were they thinking?
There's known biases in medicine towards women in pain.
Often worse ones towards non white people, and I know results are often diabolical when mental health comes into it.
I've been seeing quite a lot about women + pain lately - it makes me quite angry. "I had an incident which... normal outcome is less than a week until death. In the meantime, the pain is worse than childbirth. Apparently I was overreacting, I should have babies, I was discharged and... I fought for a second opinion and had the life saving surgery six weeks later. Good times | |||
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Or ‘my partner/ kid is black so you know, if anyone understands racism it’s me but’
Someone from the forums has done something like this to me to get me to stop talking about race. "I have a black uncle. Well, half uncle. He was my uncle’s best friend growing up & kept saying he was my uncle. I couldn’t understand how my white gran & grandad “made” a black kid so kept saying he was a liar. DNA Ancestry proved my grandad was a cheat.  | |||
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""Just believe in yourself/be confident/don't worry" cheers, I'm totally sorted now and will immediately stop worrying.
I went to my GP once with a horrible bladder condition that made me feel as if I desperately needed a pee the whole time. He said "just don't go". Well thanks doc I'm cured!
What a dick!
Yeah he was actually. At the same surgery but a different doctor who I consulted for back pain asked me if couldn't just 'soldier on' . When he tested the reflex in my ankle and couldn't find one he continued to bash with his little tiny hammer because obviously I was overstating the excruciating agony of spinal stenosis. . Luckily I eventually saw a GP who actually gave a damn and had surgery to put an implant in my spine.
Glad you got some help eventually, but..what were they thinking?
It was near Christmas the second time. He made it clear he thought I wanted time off work to get my shopping done.
Sexist TWAT "Yep. It was a woman who believed me, asked me how I coped with cooking, housework and at work and referred me to a specialist. The specialist and surgeon were men but extremely competent and believed every word I said. I just wish it hadn't taken about five years to achieve | |||
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You've eliminated psychiatry, congratulations, where do we direct your Nobel prize
IKR? They do tend to say it with a condescending air of "it's so obvious, luv".
Or "I've never suffered mental health problems, I'm strong"
Your privilege is showing, love, put it away."This!!! I'm sick of people who think they're of peak mental strength looking down on those who suffer. | |||
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"Which one would you like 1) it’s shouldn’t be Black Lives Matter.. it should be all lives matter!!! …. Get me a bucket!! 2) bloody MoBo awards… why is there not a music of white origin awards!!!! ( I have been so tempted to say.. it’s called the brits, and you nicked all the cool music from black people anyway!!! )"Fabio- 
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""Just believe in yourself/be confident/don't worry" cheers, I'm totally sorted now and will immediately stop worrying.
I went to my GP once with a horrible bladder condition that made me feel as if I desperately needed a pee the whole time. He said "just don't go". Well thanks doc I'm cured!
What a dick!
Yeah he was actually. At the same surgery but a different doctor who I consulted for back pain asked me if couldn't just 'soldier on' . When he tested the reflex in my ankle and couldn't find one he continued to bash with his little tiny hammer because obviously I was overstating the excruciating agony of spinal stenosis. . Luckily I eventually saw a GP who actually gave a damn and had surgery to put an implant in my spine.
Glad you got some help eventually, but..what were they thinking?
There's known biases in medicine towards women in pain.
Often worse ones towards non white people, and I know results are often diabolical when mental health comes into it.
I raised this with a medical professional who hotly denied it. "Sadly it's very much a thing. A close family member is working on reducing bias towards non white people during pregnancy and labour. The stats she's shown me, the heartbreaking cases. Awful. And yet some of her colleagues think she's making a big deal out of nothing and should focus on the bigger picture. And yes, that's a near enough quote that was said directly to her. | |||
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"Which one would you like 1) it’s shouldn’t be Black Lives Matter.. it should be all lives matter!!! …. Get me a bucket!! 2) bloody MoBo awards… why is there not a music of white origin awards!!!! ( I have been so tempted to say.. it’s called the brits, and you nicked all the cool music from black people anyway!!! )"Mike drop | |||
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"Aaaaallll day
It’s when they refuse to use the word ‘Black’ to describe a Black person for me
‘You’re looking for the guy in the green top with the glasses and the grey shoes-‘
‘The black guy. He’s the only black guy there. You mean the black guy’
I hear you, although there's another element in play. My bestie is a black guy. He states it in occasional conversation as to how hes happy to be described. I also have a guy I work with who is also black, but gets irritated by being called it. I'm lucky in that it's easy for me because I just get to call them both by their first names and not give it any more thought, but it might not be quite so easy for someone who doesn't know them, who could potentially offend either.
To be fair it could be easy to offend anyone in the times we live in - I'm a short, bald guy, so I 'could' be offended if someone made certain comments if I was so inclined. (I'd sooner be called a shortarse than 'diminutive' if I'm honest) I think we all know the difference when someone is being descriptive, rather than intending to offend - and despite the times we live in I think the vast majority still believe in live and let live.
I only think it should be used as a relevant descriptor. If you’re describing someone to me so I know who you’re talking about or who I’m looking for, race is relevant. It’s a part of our identity. If you’re describing me to someone who can’t place me, ‘Black guy, short, chubby build, beard, nose stud’ is totally fine. Also if I was in a room full of white people, ‘Steve, you know him, literally the only black guy that was there!’ Is not offensive. Same for a white person in those contexts. Where race is not relevant- I don’t think it needs to be brought up. For example. ‘There was a bunch of boys causing trouble down the road. All Black boys.’ - one I’ve actually heard.
Anyway, yes Black people aren’t a monolith. We don’t all agree on everything. And if someone doesn’t like to be described that way fair enough. "That's great shout! | |||
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"Which one would you like 1) it’s shouldn’t be Black Lives Matter.. it should be all lives matter!!! …. Get me a bucket!! 2) bloody MoBo awards… why is there not a music of white origin awards!!!! ( I have been so tempted to say.. it’s called the brits, and you nicked all the cool music from black people anyway!!! )"Funny enough one of the things that annoys me is this false story that music was “nicked” from black people. It’s not true. Actually I’m not a fan of any kind of divisive “us vs them” mentality | |||
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"Aaaaallll day
It’s when they refuse to use the word ‘Black’ to describe a Black person for me
‘You’re looking for the guy in the green top with the glasses and the grey shoes-‘
‘The black guy. He’s the only black guy there. You mean the black guy’
I had a couple of meets with a black man from Ghana a few years back. He told me the only ones who were "afraid of the B word were white folk". Him and his mates couldn't understand why no one would say black.
I think some of us don't want to offend. Me, anyway. I don't want to go all "normal sentence nothing wrong here (descriptor)" only to learn that the descriptor is a slur.
I know most people around me know I'm trying to do right by them and those who know me will issue a gentle correction, but I don't want to inadvertently make the problem worse."That's really well put! | |||
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I think you mean ‘where the fuck are our drinks?’
They usually bring the drinks over first.
Unless you forget to add a drink to your order.
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"‘I’m not racist- my best friend/ granddaughter/ kid/ uncle/ cousin/ partner is black/ Asian’
Or ‘my partner/ kid is black so you know, if anyone understands racism it’s me but’
Someone from the forums has done something like this to me to get me to stop talking about race.
Fair point Mr pickle I'd just like to hear more from you on other topics
I just feel like to many people I talk on too many topics in this bloody forum. That’s the problem.
I do too many threads- problem.
I do one thread today- problem. "Green arrow shows last page of threads... Wanking Where is our resident 20/21 year old One thing about me (not race related) Are you nice Happy birthday Candyfloss Shout out ..... Not sure how much more diverse your threads could be
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"‘I’m not racist- my best friend/ granddaughter/ kid/ uncle/ cousin/ partner is black/ Asian’
Or ‘my partner/ kid is black so you know, if anyone understands racism it’s me but’
Someone from the forums has done something like this to me to get me to stop talking about race.
Fair point Mr pickle I'd just like to hear more from you on other topics
I just feel like to many people I talk on too many topics in this bloody forum. That’s the problem.
I do too many threads- problem.
I do one thread today- problem.
Green arrow shows last page of threads...
Wanking
Where is our resident 20/21 year old
One thing about me (not race related)
Are you nice
Happy birthday Candyfloss
Shout out .....
Not sure how much more diverse your threads could be
I like your threads "I also looked at my green arrow because I was so confused. You’d think all I do is sit and post on race threads all day. | |||
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"I’ve worked in very male dominated industries all of my life and still to this day in meetings come up against things like “well let’s get the women’s thoughts on this” when I’m the only women on the Board. We’re building ruddy airplanes; ovaries make not one bit of difference to my opinion on our commercial or operational strategy! Or people assuming I’ll be the one to arrange refreshments and take minutes. That and the innovative and frankly hilarious banter about ‘time of the month’/‘mum brain’/‘menopause madness’. I wonder if my car is a time capsule and rather than driving to work in the morning I’m actually driving to 1972! (And I wasn’t even born in 1972!) Oooh, that was a cathartic little rant. Must dash, there’s probably some coffee cups requiring a good scrub and the CEO needs someone to order flowers for his wife as he’s forgotten their anniversary AGAIN
"One thing that's true to say in business is that getting a woman's thoughts often takes ego out of the equation. Often gives an entirely different perspective on things. That being said I wouldn't announce wanting a woman's perspective, but would just ask the individual by name. It's not rocket science! | |||
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"I don't even comment on these types of things. I just smile and file in my brain under "ignorant" or "idiot" depending on the context of course. | |||
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""You're too young to need a wheelchair" "What happened to you" "Do you know [insert name of Paralympian or personal friend of the person, who also is a wheelchair user]" The term "wheelchair bound". No. Almost no disabled person stays in their wheelchair 24/7, 365. They get out of it to use the loo, go to bed etc (maybe with help). We are not bound to it. "You won't be able to do X". Just watch me, fucker
So far, I've been told I won't be able to get to various places here in Spain. Incorrect. I've got everywhere so far. Tonight might be a hill too far, but I'm going to bloody well give it a go.
Any words that suggest pity, anyone offering prayers, suggesting crazy "cures" or telling me about "miracles" they know about. | |||
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"You're too young to need a wheelchair"
"What happened to you"
"Do you know [insert name of Paralympian or personal friend of the person, who also is a wheelchair user]"
The term "wheelchair bound". No. Almost no disabled person stays in their wheelchair 24/7, 365. They get out of it to use the loo, go to bed etc (maybe with help). We are not bound to it.
"You won't be able to do X". Just watch me, fucker
So far, I've been told I won't be able to get to various places here in Spain. Incorrect. I've got everywhere so far. Tonight might be a hill too far, but I'm going to bloody well give it a go.
Any words that suggest pity, anyone offering prayers, suggesting crazy "cures" or telling me about "miracles" they know about. "Have you tried yoga or positive thinking, tho? *Ducks for cover* | |||
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"You're too young to need a wheelchair"
"What happened to you"
"Do you know [insert name of Paralympian or personal friend of the person, who also is a wheelchair user]"
The term "wheelchair bound". No. Almost no disabled person stays in their wheelchair 24/7, 365. They get out of it to use the loo, go to bed etc (maybe with help). We are not bound to it.
"You won't be able to do X". Just watch me, fucker
So far, I've been told I won't be able to get to various places here in Spain. Incorrect. I've got everywhere so far. Tonight might be a hill too far, but I'm going to bloody well give it a go.
Any words that suggest pity, anyone offering prayers, suggesting crazy "cures" or telling me about "miracles" they know about.
Have you tried yoga or positive thinking, tho?
*Ducks for cover*"I am like an electron, striving for the positive but never actually making it | |||
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Any other common things people say to you that make you want to [redacted]?
"You're too young to need a wheelchair"
"What happened to you"
"Do you know [insert name of Paralympian or personal friend of the person, who also is a wheelchair user]"
The term "wheelchair bound". No. Almost no disabled person stays in their wheelchair 24/7, 365. They get out of it to use the loo, go to bed etc (maybe with help). We are not bound to it.
"You won't be able to do X". Just watch me, fucker
So far, I've been told I won't be able to get to various places here in Spain. Incorrect. I've got everywhere so far. Tonight might be a hill too far, but I'm going to bloody well give it a go.
Any words that suggest pity, anyone offering prayers, suggesting crazy "cures" or telling me about "miracles" they know about.
Have you tried yoga or positive thinking, tho?
*Ducks for cover*
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"You're too young to need a wheelchair"
"What happened to you"
"Do you know [insert name of Paralympian or personal friend of the person, who also is a wheelchair user]"
The term "wheelchair bound". No. Almost no disabled person stays in their wheelchair 24/7, 365. They get out of it to use the loo, go to bed etc (maybe with help). We are not bound to it.
"You won't be able to do X". Just watch me, fucker
So far, I've been told I won't be able to get to various places here in Spain. Incorrect. I've got everywhere so far. Tonight might be a hill too far, but I'm going to bloody well give it a go.
Any words that suggest pity, anyone offering prayers, suggesting crazy "cures" or telling me about "miracles" they know about. "Where are you going tonight? | |||
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"You're too young to need a wheelchair"
"What happened to you"
"Do you know [insert name of Paralympian or personal friend of the person, who also is a wheelchair user]"
The term "wheelchair bound". No. Almost no disabled person stays in their wheelchair 24/7, 365. They get out of it to use the loo, go to bed etc (maybe with help). We are not bound to it.
"You won't be able to do X". Just watch me, fucker
So far, I've been told I won't be able to get to various places here in Spain. Incorrect. I've got everywhere so far. Tonight might be a hill too far, but I'm going to bloody well give it a go.
Any words that suggest pity, anyone offering prayers, suggesting crazy "cures" or telling me about "miracles" they know about.
Where are you going tonight?"Up the steepest, most medieval, cobbled streets I've ever seen | |||
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"You're too young to need a wheelchair"
"What happened to you"
"Do you know [insert name of Paralympian or personal friend of the person, who also is a wheelchair user]"
The term "wheelchair bound". No. Almost no disabled person stays in their wheelchair 24/7, 365. They get out of it to use the loo, go to bed etc (maybe with help). We are not bound to it.
"You won't be able to do X". Just watch me, fucker
So far, I've been told I won't be able to get to various places here in Spain. Incorrect. I've got everywhere so far. Tonight might be a hill too far, but I'm going to bloody well give it a go.
Any words that suggest pity, anyone offering prayers, suggesting crazy "cures" or telling me about "miracles" they know about.
Where are you going tonight?
Up the steepest, most medieval, cobbled streets I've ever seen "Good luck. We have pushed my mum up some really steep hills in Spain. | |||
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"You're too young to need a wheelchair"
"What happened to you"
"Do you know [insert name of Paralympian or personal friend of the person, who also is a wheelchair user]"
The term "wheelchair bound". No. Almost no disabled person stays in their wheelchair 24/7, 365. They get out of it to use the loo, go to bed etc (maybe with help). We are not bound to it.
"You won't be able to do X". Just watch me, fucker
So far, I've been told I won't be able to get to various places here in Spain. Incorrect. I've got everywhere so far. Tonight might be a hill too far, but I'm going to bloody well give it a go.
Any words that suggest pity, anyone offering prayers, suggesting crazy "cures" or telling me about "miracles" they know about.
Where are you going tonight?
Up the steepest, most medieval, cobbled streets I've ever seen
Good luck. We have pushed my mum up some really steep hills in Spain."I shall mainly be pushing myself *consults sanity* | |||
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""I'm vegan" carrying a leather handbag wearing leather shoes. "I'm straight" but I'll take it not give it. "I'm not racist I have a friend who's black"
Mrs
I'm vegan. I carry a leather bag. I sit on a leather sofa ..... I had them before I became vegan. It wouldn't help any animals if I got rid.
Valid point, I shall check date of purchase next time
Mrs
What I can't get my head around is vegan leather ??? I mean .......why ..... why call it leather?
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"‘I’m not racist- my best friend/ granddaughter/ kid/ uncle/ cousin/ partner is black/ Asian’
Or ‘my partner/ kid is black so you know, if anyone understands racism it’s me but’
Someone from the forums has done something like this to me to get me to stop talking about race.
Fair point Mr pickle I'd just like to hear more from you on other topics
I just feel like to many people I talk on too many topics in this bloody forum. That’s the problem.
I do too many threads- problem.
I do one thread today- problem. "sadly Mr pickle I've not seen those other threads just happen to see this one been another one on race .but I look forward to seeing other threads from you . | |||
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"‘I’m not racist- my best friend/ granddaughter/ kid/ uncle/ cousin/ partner is black/ Asian’
Or ‘my partner/ kid is black so you know, if anyone understands racism it’s me but’
Someone from the forums has done something like this to me to get me to stop talking about race.
Fair point Mr pickle I'd just like to hear more from you on other topics
I just feel like to many people I talk on too many topics in this bloody forum. That’s the problem.
I do too many threads- problem.
I do one thread today- problem. sadly Mr pickle I've not seen those other threads just happen to see this one been another one on race .but I look forward to seeing other threads from you ."He does all different kinds of threads. | |||
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When did they say they weren’t beautiful? "This is one that gets me going every time. I said I was fat, or curvy or whatever. Not a minger | |||
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"‘I’m not racist- my best friend/ granddaughter/ kid/ uncle/ cousin/ partner is black/ Asian’
Or ‘my partner/ kid is black so you know, if anyone understands racism it’s me but’
Someone from the forums has done something like this to me to get me to stop talking about race.
Fair point Mr pickle I'd just like to hear more from you on other topics
I just feel like to many people I talk on too many topics in this bloody forum. That’s the problem.
I do too many threads- problem.
I do one thread today- problem. sadly Mr pickle I've not seen those other threads just happen to see this one been another one on race .but I look forward to seeing other threads from you .
He does all different kinds of threads. "I can’t believe I’m getting drawn out on a Tuesday of all days. That’s what is particularly egregious | |||
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"‘I’m not racist- my best friend/ granddaughter/ kid/ uncle/ cousin/ partner is black/ Asian’
Or ‘my partner/ kid is black so you know, if anyone understands racism it’s me but’
Someone from the forums has done something like this to me to get me to stop talking about race.
Fair point Mr pickle I'd just like to hear more from you on other topics
I just feel like to many people I talk on too many topics in this bloody forum. That’s the problem.
I do too many threads- problem.
I do one thread today- problem. sadly Mr pickle I've not seen those other threads just happen to see this one been another one on race .but I look forward to seeing other threads from you .
He does all different kinds of threads.
I can’t believe I’m getting drawn out on a Tuesday of all days. That’s what is particularly egregious "Think of my cleavage while I look up egre hang on | |||
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"‘I’m not racist- my best friend/ granddaughter/ kid/ uncle/ cousin/ partner is black/ Asian’
Or ‘my partner/ kid is black so you know, if anyone understands racism it’s me but’
Someone from the forums has done something like this to me to get me to stop talking about race.
Fair point Mr pickle I'd just like to hear more from you on other topics
I just feel like to many people I talk on too many topics in this bloody forum. That’s the problem.
I do too many threads- problem.
I do one thread today- problem. sadly Mr pickle I've not seen those other threads just happen to see this one been another one on race .but I look forward to seeing other threads from you .
He does all different kinds of threads.
I can’t believe I’m getting drawn out on a Tuesday of all days. That’s what is particularly egregious
Think of my cleavage while I look up egre hang on"‘Cleavage’ | |||
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"‘I’m not racist- my best friend/ granddaughter/ kid/ uncle/ cousin/ partner is black/ Asian’
Or ‘my partner/ kid is black so you know, if anyone understands racism it’s me but’
Someone from the forums has done something like this to me to get me to stop talking about race.
Fair point Mr pickle I'd just like to hear more from you on other topics
I just feel like to many people I talk on too many topics in this bloody forum. That’s the problem.
I do too many threads- problem.
I do one thread today- problem. sadly Mr pickle I've not seen those other threads just happen to see this one been another one on race .but I look forward to seeing other threads from you .
He does all different kinds of threads.
I can’t believe I’m getting drawn out on a Tuesday of all days. That’s what is particularly egregious
Think of my cleavage while I look up egre hang on
‘Cleavage’ "
Why are you having a bath with 2 hotdogs?
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"‘I’m not racist- my best friend/ granddaughter/ kid/ uncle/ cousin/ partner is black/ Asian’
Or ‘my partner/ kid is black so you know, if anyone understands racism it’s me but’
Someone from the forums has done something like this to me to get me to stop talking about race.
Fair point Mr pickle I'd just like to hear more from you on other topics
I just feel like to many people I talk on too many topics in this bloody forum. That’s the problem.
I do too many threads- problem.
I do one thread today- problem. sadly Mr pickle I've not seen those other threads just happen to see this one been another one on race .but I look forward to seeing other threads from you .
He does all different kinds of threads.
I can’t believe I’m getting drawn out on a Tuesday of all days. That’s what is particularly egregious
Think of my cleavage while I look up egre hang on
‘Cleavage’
Why are you having a bath with 2 hotdogs?
Dripping here "I love seeing you dripping | |||
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"I’m not racist but….
....I'm not racist - I've got black mates.
There's a thing..... can you get black condoms ?"I think you can actually | |||
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....I'm not racist - I've got black mates.
There's a thing..... can you get black condoms ?
I think you can actually"I'm gonna check .... | |||
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