FabSwingers.com forum: Men slating

By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

So I did a post earlier in the swingers chat, now it wasn't about men it was about messages and not taking the polite no thank you, it was actually about women.....

It wasn't long before it became a yeah men are like this post and it got me thinking why is it automatically assumed it's just men that are rude?

In my experience most the men that message are fairly polite and complimentary of our profile most message to purely compliment and accept we aren't looking for them.

Don't get me wrong we get the odd few knobs in the inbox, but what the post was regarding was actually the women who messaged.

It kind of seems people are automatically straight in for the men even if they've done nothing wrong.

Anyway not much point to this just a shout out to all the respectable gentleman of fab, it's not your fault your tarred with the same brush & me for one couldn't me a single on here.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you receive different messages as you are a couple and the know the man is likely to read them. I dunno maybe

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Aw, that’s a really sweet thing to say Mrs K.

But some of us really are dickheads. We all know it. And the rest of us feel a bit bad about that. A sort of generalised, low-level guilt about the behaviour of our gender.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

#notallmen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I did a post earlier in the swingers chat, now it wasn't about men it was about messages and not taking the polite no thank you, it was actually about women.....

It wasn't long before it became a yeah men are like this post and it got me thinking why is it automatically assumed it's just men that are rude?

In my experience most the men that message are fairly polite and complimentary of our profile most message to purely compliment and accept we aren't looking for them.

Don't get me wrong we get the odd few knobs in the inbox, but what the post was regarding was actually the women who messaged.

It kind of seems people are automatically straight in for the men even if they've done nothing wrong.

Anyway not much point to this just a shout out to all the respectable gentleman of fab, it's not your fault your tarred with the same brush & me for one couldn't me a single on here.

Mrs

Ditto.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"#notallmen "

Again with the heightism.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Because women rule the roost when it comes to on here. Don't you dare go against them.

Even men will hate on men to garner favour with the women folk.

Yes granted some men are the absolute dregs of the place. But I have experienced some absolute vile and horrible things from women that men get accused and slated for too.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Its accepted even encouraged to bash men on here. Slate women and couples at your peril

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Maybe you receive different messages as you are a couple and the know the man is likely to read them. I dunno maybe "

That's possible, don't get me wrong we do get some dickheads but not really many, not enough to shout about, the majority are very respectful.

Mrs

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"#notallmen

Again with the heightism."

It’s ‘nota llmen’ it’s Latin for dick pic

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"#notallmen

Again with the heightism."

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"#notallmen

Again with the heightism."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care I'm gonna say it...

As a female, on a SEX site (yes a sex site!!) don't play the whole woe is me shite about crude messages and faf messages when you have your boobs/bits out, statuses claiming how horny you are and entitled profiles. You can't try and get the attention of horny sex starved men then complain when they message you wanting sex.

Most women don't even look for guys on here then just check their inbox and then get all pissy when it's not to their liking. Works both ways!!!

And yes I do realise some women have none of the above and still get the messages, no idea who they are but anyway...

Men are my favourite (not all men) Women suck (not all...ah fuck it most women suck)

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Because women rule the roost when it comes to on here. Don't you dare go against them.

Even men will hate on men to garner favour with the women folk.

Yes granted some men are the absolute dregs of the place. But I have experienced some absolute vile and horrible things from women that men get accused and slated for too. "

Wtf ?! I really don't understand why people have to be rude and horrible

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Honestly? I think folk just like to bitch and moan.

They’ll jump on any bandwagon!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I don't care I'm gonna say it...

Most women don't even look for guys on here then just check their inbox and then get all pissy when it's not to their liking. Works both ways!!!

And yes I do realise some women have none of the above and still get the messages, no idea who they are but anyway...

Men are my favourite (not all men) Women suck (not all...ah fuck it most women suck)

I absolutely agree with you!

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shout out to the mandem I guess

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I don't care I'm gonna say it...

Most women don't even look for guys on here then just check their inbox and then get all pissy when it's not to their liking. Works both ways!!!

And yes I do realise some women have none of the above and still get the messages, no idea who they are but anyway...

Men are my favourite (not all men) Women suck (not all...ah fuck it most women suck)

She is out of line, but she is right.

(she isn't out of line, I just wanted to do the meme)

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I don't care I'm gonna say it...

Most women don't even look for guys on here then just check their inbox and then get all pissy when it's not to their liking. Works both ways!!!

And yes I do realise some women have none of the above and still get the messages, no idea who they are but anyway...

Men are my favourite (not all men) Women suck (not all...ah fuck it most women suck)

This is why I don't let anyone message me. So I can post whatever I want.

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

"I don't care I'm gonna say it...

Most women don't even look for guys on here then just check their inbox and then get all pissy when it's not to their liking. Works both ways!!!

And yes I do realise some women have none of the above and still get the messages, no idea who they are but anyway...

Men are my favourite (not all men) Women suck (not all...ah fuck it most women suck)

I agree, sometimes I think what’s it all for being on here and then someone comes along and as the quote says ( restores my faith) ..

Now ,I’ll continue to admire your profile from a distance

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

I posted this to another thread. Different topic, but maybe it applies here too:

‘This might be controversial, it might also be incorrect, but here goes: perhaps there is an underlying level of misandry here…’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because women rule the roost when it comes to on here. Don't you dare go against them.

Even men will hate on men to garner favour with the women folk.

Yes granted some men are the absolute dregs of the place. But I have experienced some absolute vile and horrible things from women that men get accused and slated for too. "

Tbf I hate on men (in general #NotAll etc) and it has nothing to do with the wanting women to like me more. In fact, in here I am pretty sure it will get women to hate me more. But I generally hate on men because generally (that’s overwhelmingly more than the other way) they are the culprits and they make the world and fab a much more unsafe place for women than men. And the (few if you want to call it) men that ‘ruin it for the genuinely nice guys’

are the ones that make women generally alter their behaviours etc. not meeting without socials first (as acknowledged can be about safety etc) and though women can be capable of the same, it doesn’t impact men as a collective. Also the experiences of men are valid and shouldn’t be downplayed or undermined. That is also true. As someone that has experienced forms of ‘violence’ at the hands of women I can say that and acknowledge that the way these issues affect women is different.

In terms of messages- men are also overwhelmingly the culprits. And from things like unsolicited genital pics to online abuse they’re overwhelmingly the culprits. Even when men are the victims.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to rant on your thread OP. Not intending to bash men. As I said- shout out to the mandem.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Sorry to rant on your thread OP. Not intending to bash men. As I said- shout out to the mandem. "

Some men pay good money to be bashed Steve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because like everything, everywhere the small minority of arseholes spoil it for a decent majority.

The reason people have filters on their account is because they get harassed and when they say a firm no, they get abused.

I gaurentee for every 1 man that's received an abusive message from a woman, there's 50 women who've received an abusive message.

It's disproportionate. It's wrong. But it's true. Some man can't handle a damaged ego, and take it personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry to rant on your thread OP. Not intending to bash men. As I said- shout out to the mandem.

Some men pay good money to be bashed Steve."

Shout out to them too

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Sorry to rant on your thread OP. Not intending to bash men. As I said- shout out to the mandem. "

Don't apologise at all, rant away

Mrs

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Strange.

Men say men ruin it for men.

Women say men don't ruin it for men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to add - the issue is also that we know that behaviour from a low level- abusing women on the internet for not sleeping with them is more likely to lead to VAWG and ultimately, to be frank, put women in severe danger. I think that’s why the issue is discussed the way it is. BUT I agree that men’s experiences need to be taken way more seriously. And that’s by other men too. I admit to being afraid to talk about my experiences with things and I’ve still never told another man about them.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"Strange.

Men say men ruin it for men.

Women say men don't ruin it for men. "

Only a white knight would say men ruin it for men

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Strange.

Men say men ruin it for men.

Women say men don't ruin it for men. "

I say ruin men for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Strange.

Men say men ruin it for men.

Women say men don't ruin it for men. "

Women = Venus

Men = Mars

Situation going on here.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Even this post has turned into a bit of a men bashing thread.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even this post has turned into a bit of a men bashing thread.

Mrs "

My apologies.

*leaves via back door*

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Even this post has turned into a bit of a men bashing thread.

Mrs "

Of course it has. It's a beast that will forever eat itself.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Even this post has turned into a bit of a men bashing thread.

Mrs "

At least you tried.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"Even this post has turned into a bit of a men bashing thread.

Mrs "

It was obvious a load of drive bys would happen TBH

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Just to add - the issue is also that we know that behaviour from a low level- abusing women on the internet for not sleeping with them is more likely to lead to VAWG and ultimately, to be frank, put women in severe danger. I think that’s why the issue is discussed the way it is. BUT I agree that men’s experiences need to be taken way more seriously. And that’s by other men too. I admit to being afraid to talk about my experiences with things and I’ve still never told another man about them. "

I do completely agree men's experiences don't get taken seriously and if the roles were reversed it would be a whole different story.

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Even this post has turned into a bit of a men bashing thread.

Mrs

It was obvious a load of drive bys would happen TBH "

Shall I just give up?

Mrs

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"Even this post has turned into a bit of a men bashing thread.

Mrs

It was obvious a load of drive bys would happen TBH

Shall I just give up?

Mrs "

Not at all, please continue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do completely agree men's experiences don't get taken seriously and if the roles were reversed it would be a whole different story.

Mrs "

I think there is a core of men who are there for other men and will write and respond encouragingly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even this post has turned into a bit of a men bashing thread.

Mrs

It was obvious a load of drive bys would happen TBH

Shall I just give up?

Mrs

Not at all, please continue

Meh! Fuck em, fuck em all

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"Even this post has turned into a bit of a men bashing thread.

Mrs

It was obvious a load of drive bys would happen TBH

Shall I just give up?

Mrs

Not at all, please continue

Meh! Fuck em, fuck em all

Yes please

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Even this post has turned into a bit of a men bashing thread.

Mrs

It was obvious a load of drive bys would happen TBH

Shall I just give up?

Mrs

Not at all, please continue

Meh! Fuck em, fuck em all

I'm trying. There's a ticketing system.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Even this post has turned into a bit of a men bashing thread.

Mrs

It was obvious a load of drive bys would happen TBH

Shall I just give up?

Mrs

Not at all, please continue

Meh! Fuck em, fuck em all

Form a queue lads.

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over a year ago

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Even this post has turned into a bit of a men bashing thread.

Mrs

It was obvious a load of drive bys would happen TBH

Shall I just give up?

Mrs

Not at all, please continue

Meh! Fuck em, fuck em all

Literally? All of them? I mean you could but....ouch.

Mrs

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Even this post has turned into a bit of a men bashing thread.

Mrs

It was obvious a load of drive bys would happen TBH

Shall I just give up?

Mrs

Not at all, please continue

Meh! Fuck em, fuck em all

I'm trying. There's a ticketing system. "

Damn - mine's number 70134

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Respect to the OP because it had to be said.

Last night we introduced a friend (woman) to our local club.

Total disaster, she was - and I'm not exaggerating for effect - a total cunt.

Loud, obnoxious, annoying, entitled. We have all seen men do just one thing and essentially they are dead to the scene, she filled the bingo card of all the bad things in one night. It happens, they are out there, beware.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Not at all, please continue

Meh! Fuck em, fuck em all

Literally? All of them? I mean you could but....ouch.

Mrs

I'd offer to kiss it better afterwards, but.........

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

"#notallmen "

I like tallmen!

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

"Respect to the OP because it had to be said.

Last night we introduced a friend (woman) to our local club.

Total disaster, she was - and I'm not exaggerating for effect - a total cunt.

Oh God! You must've been mortified!

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"It’s ‘nota llmen’ it’s Latin for dick pic

Cogito ergo mentula mea monstrare.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

"Respect to the OP because it had to be said.

Last night we introduced a friend (woman) to our local club.

Total disaster, she was - and I'm not exaggerating for effect - a total cunt.

Oh God! You must've been mortified!"

We had to apologise to the club owners, so embarrassing

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Not at all, please continue

Meh! Fuck em, fuck em all

Literally? All of them? I mean you could but....ouch.

Mrs

I'd offer to kiss it better afterwards, but.........

I think it would need more than a kiss better

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even this post has turned into a bit of a men bashing thread.

Mrs "

I'd like to bash a few of them.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Even this post has turned into a bit of a men bashing thread.

Mrs

I'd like to bash a few of them. "

Bet I can guess the weapon of choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even this post has turned into a bit of a men bashing thread.

Mrs

I'd like to bash a few of them. "

I wish you would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even this post has turned into a bit of a men bashing thread.

Mrs

I'd like to bash a few of them. "

Well this is awkward. I'm lubed up, ready and waiting....

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Even this post has turned into a bit of a men bashing thread.

Mrs

I'd like to bash a few of them. "

Just a few??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dude. , sorry. Mr Coffee!

People will take a thread and use it to push their own agenda. It’s a thing.

And take the fact that there’s a men v women thing always in the go, and you saw what happens in your thread.

Concidering the men outnumber the women here 1million to one! (I can remember the last count) I’m shocked at how loud the man bashing is in here. Or, is it that the men feel but hurt a lot more than the ignorant cold rude women (not all women)

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

I've had plenty of messages that were nothing but polite, friendly, showed some general interest in me and had clearly read my profile, but unfortunately that are still in the minority. With every police message, I do my best to respond, even if it's a polite no thanks because I genuinely appreciate the time and effort that went into the message.

Unfortunately, the majority are not like this, and when you look at volume, ratio or percentages, the bad heavily outweighs the good (in my experience).

That being said, I don't agree with constantly bashing, but when people ask questions on forums, I will always answer honestly, hoping that some will learn, take a different approach and in some of the worst cases, learn basic respect.

Hope this helps answer your question

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Dude. , sorry. Mr Coffee!

People will take a thread and use it to push their own agenda. It’s a thing.

And take the fact that there’s a men v women thing always in the go, and you saw what happens in your thread.

I know I've got small tits and all but is Mrs coffee

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By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

I've generally found the men on Fab to be pretty sound with the odd nutter thrown in to keep me on my toes. Most have accepted a "No thanks" without any issue.

I've had more overt nastiness from women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dude. , sorry. Mr Coffee!

People will take a thread and use it to push their own agenda. It’s a thing.

And take the fact that there’s a men v women thing always in the go, and you saw what happens in your thread.

I know I've got small tits and all but is Mrs coffee

Haha. This is why I’m shit at flirting face to face….. hey dude! Fancy a snog?

*woman looks destroyed.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"It’s ‘nota llmen’ it’s Latin for dick pic

Cogito ergo mentula mea monstrare."

Nonne gallus tuus maior est?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Dude. , sorry. Mr Coffee!

People will take a thread and use it to push their own agenda. It’s a thing.

And take the fact that there’s a men v women thing always in the go, and you saw what happens in your thread.

I know I've got small tits and all but is Mrs coffee

Haha. This is why I’m shit at flirting face to face….. hey dude! Fancy a snog?

*woman looks destroyed. "

It's ok, it's the tash isn't it....I'll sort it one day

Mrs

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

"Dude. , sorry. Mr Coffee!

People will take a thread and use it to push their own agenda. It’s a thing.

And take the fact that there’s a men v women thing always in the go, and you saw what happens in your thread.

I know I've got small tits and all but is Mrs coffee

Haha. This is why I’m shit at flirting face to face….. hey dude! Fancy a snog?

*woman looks destroyed. "

You did really well when I met you. Although you did use that same line on me

As for the thread topic. I think man bashing has been accepted on here for a long time and it’s just become part of everyday life on here.

Men are an easy target and get the brunt of the complaints. Saying that I would guess the majority of the ones being complained about don’t use the forums.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Nonne gallus tuus maior est?

Nope.

(And thus endeth today’s forum.)

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Get bored of the sometimes less than subtle misandry on the forum threads, but also the sycophantic comment's if a guy dares to stand up for the male species here, can you guess from which gender..

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I don’t have a problem with how men message me, they are pleasant and friendly, luckily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dude. , sorry. Mr Coffee!

People will take a thread and use it to push their own agenda. It’s a thing.

And take the fact that there’s a men v women thing always in the go, and you saw what happens in your thread.

I know I've got small tits and all but is Mrs coffee

Haha. This is why I’m shit at flirting face to face….. hey dude! Fancy a snog?

*woman looks destroyed.

You did really well when I met you. Although you did use that same line on me

…

I said ‘dude! I Fancy a BEER????

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Speaking only for myself (and this is older experience, because my message filters are as high as they go) - a majority of the shitty messages I got in reply to no thank you (or anything else really) were from men.

However.

An *overwhelming* majority of messages I got, period, were from men.

If I thought about it (which I clearly did), something like 70% of the bullshit I got was from guys, but given that something like 90% of the messages I got, total, were from guys, guys were underrepresented in the bullshit I received.

I was often taken aback at the sheer fucking gall of some couples and women on here.

It might look like most of the bullshit comes from guys - but that's only because most of anything comes from guys. If my experience is right.

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

"Dude. , sorry. Mr Coffee!

People will take a thread and use it to push their own agenda. It’s a thing.

And take the fact that there’s a men v women thing always in the go, and you saw what happens in your thread.

I know I've got small tits and all but is Mrs coffee

Haha. This is why I’m shit at flirting face to face….. hey dude! Fancy a snog?

*woman looks destroyed.

You did really well when I met you. Although you did use that same line on me

…

I said ‘dude! I Fancy a BEER????

Sorry, my hearing is not what it used to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not just on the forums or this website, but society in general. Men, especially young men, are now more likely to be seen as a ‘problem’. The word masculinity is always paired with toxic now. Body positivity applies to women only - men are just seen as fat. There are so many examples. It’s no wonder odious individuals such as Andrew Tate have got a following.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Speaking only for myself (and this is older experience, because my message filters are as high as they go) - a majority of the shitty messages I got in reply to no thank you (or anything else really) were from men.

However.

An *overwhelming* majority of messages I got, period, were from men.

I was often taken aback at the sheer fucking gall of some couples and women on here.

It might look like most of the bullshit comes from guys - but that's only because most of anything comes from guys. If my experience is right."

Yep, definitely had some appalling treatment from couples myself. In fact, I'm very reluctant to get involved with them as a result.

Not had much issue personally with single women but certainly heard some horror stories about their behaviour in clubs.

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By *astandFeistyCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

White Knighting is a real thing as demonstrated by this thread, and I guess the other. I can't fucking stand it personally.

Proportionally, most of the dickheads in our inbox would be other couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I did a post earlier in the swingers chat, now it wasn't about men it was about messages and not taking the polite no thank you, it was actually about women.....

It wasn't long before it became a yeah men are like this post and it got me thinking why is it automatically assumed it's just men that are rude?

In my experience most the men that message are fairly polite and complimentary of our profile most message to purely compliment and accept we aren't looking for them.

Don't get me wrong we get the odd few knobs in the inbox, but what the post was regarding was actually the women who messaged.

It kind of seems people are automatically straight in for the men even if they've done nothing wrong.

Anyway not much point to this just a shout out to all the respectable gentleman of fab, it's not your fault your tarred with the same brush & me for one couldn't me a single on here.

Mrs

Nice post,there are talks actually about this pattern on youtube as it goes. There is a deeper mindset behind it all really.

Men need to up the game,in self work and the approach method.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Oh Jesus Christ it ain't men that are just rude that's for sure! I've had some shocking messages before but it's a very nice clear way to know they're a bad egg early on I guess!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A woman called me a pillow muncher once. Rude.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"I don't care I'm gonna say it...

Most women don't even look for guys on here then just check their inbox and then get all pissy when it's not to their liking. Works both ways!!!

And yes I do realise some women have none of the above and still get the messages, no idea who they are but anyway...

Men are my favourite (not all men) Women suck (not all...ah fuck it most women suck)

Lilith. If I could give you my balls right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While I do get the odd bit of abuse, I actually have had worse from couples!

I like men. They are why I'm here. And I've said it before I find the men here far more interesting, attractive to me, and more able to hold my attention than anywhere else and that's why I keep coming back.

So I have a lot of love for the men of fab

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We have never had a issue with single men at clubs parties or group socials .The only issues we have ever had was a male who was part of a couple and single females.

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"White Knighting is a real thing as demonstrated by this thread, and I guess the other. I can't fucking stand it personally.

Proportionally, most of the dickheads in our inbox would be other couples.

That!

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

I have had the occasional abusive msg on here but not many, and if I had a problem with men msging me I'd put my filters on, it says on my profile I'm looking for single men so thats who msgs me and I don't have a problem with it, bit off topic but I used to go to swingers clubs but I stopped going a couple of years ago because of a woman who wouldn't take no for an answer, the single men there were polite and respectful unlike this one entitled woman put me off going.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

One of the worst messages I got on my single profile was actually from a woman, she got pretty nasty and downright insulting when I would drop everything and meet her qhen she wanted to (I'm a mum so no I can't just do that) the time waster was thrown and then the rest, fat, ugly, desperate yadayada.

Oh and the fact it was supposed to be a solo meet, but suddenly her bf would be there but not involved...I put my foot down and said no.

FYI she was a real f as we spoke on the phone and not a bloke.

Tinder x

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"I have had the occasional abusive msg on here but not many, and if I had a problem with men msging me I'd put my filters on, it says on my profile I'm looking for single men so thats who msgs me and I don't have a problem with it, bit off topic but I used to go to swingers clubs but I stopped going a couple of years ago because of a woman who wouldn't take no for an answer, the single men there were polite and respectful unlike this one entitled woman put me off going."

Had exactly the same thing, she was pawing at D trying to get him to undress and honestly I laughed about it at the time. He justly and bluntly set me right, stating vice versa he'd have my back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a PhD in this

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By *onicZMan
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

There is just no need for any rudeness on anyones part.

If only everyone were kind and understanding of each other the world would be a better place

A bit of sarcasm and banter is great but no need for people to be abusive or fisticuffs (now there's a word I've not used or seen in ages)

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

So there's love doctors out there that do compatibility quizzes effectively.

What's interesting is when I spoke to one, she said narcissistic traits are actually as prevalent in women as they are men.

Men have treated women like shit for generations, and whether some women now feel they can men, who knows. But two wrongs don't make a right.

Essentially, don't be a rude bellend. Anyone. Speak your mind and have opinions sure but being insulting when there is no reason for it is proper dickhead behaviour. And some which some forumers definitely do despite me being the pantomime villain apparently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never had any abusive message on here or even something negative, everyone that I have encountered has been so nice and I have made many good friends since joining up.

Perhaps it’s just a case of early days though

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"Even this post has turned into a bit of a men bashing thread.

Mrs

It was obvious a load of drive bys would happen TBH

Shall I just give up?

Mrs

Not at all, please continue

Meh! Fuck em, fuck em all

I'm trying. There's a ticketing system. "

Where's the ticket machine?

Good to see you back in the forums.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I don't care I'm gonna say it...

Most women don't even look for guys on here then just check their inbox and then get all pissy when it's not to their liking. Works both ways!!!

And yes I do realise some women have none of the above and still get the messages, no idea who they are but anyway...

Men are my favourite (not all men) Women suck (not all...ah fuck it most women suck)

I should hope women do suck. Like a fucking dyson

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have messages from men turned off in general but we do message some from the forums or off the back of statuses and we’ve only had one guy who got a bit too pushy. The rest have been very polite and respectful! Cant say we’ve had many issues with single women either, there was one or two who kept wanting to just chat to me or meet me which is obviously not for us at all. Just the two that’s happened with but both were really pushy and got a bit abusive when they were told no repeatedly.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"I don't care I'm gonna say it...

Most women don't even look for guys on here then just check their inbox and then get all pissy when it's not to their liking. Works both ways!!!

And yes I do realise some women have none of the above and still get the messages, no idea who they are but anyway...

Men are my favourite (not all men) Women suck (not all...ah fuck it most women suck)

Yeah some women most definitely do suck, and present in such a manner. (Not all women) but some most definitely stand out above the rest in the sucky stakes.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

"We have messages from men turned off in general but we do message some from the forums or off the back of statuses and we’ve only had one guy who got a bit too pushy. The rest have been very polite and respectful! Cant say we’ve had many issues with single women either, there was one or two who kept wanting to just chat to me or meet me which is obviously not for us at all. Just the two that’s happened with but both were really pushy and got a bit abusive when they were told no repeatedly.

Mr"

Haven't quite got to the stage of turning off messages from single men yet, but "hi there" or just a wink is still an automatic delete

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife

"Its accepted even encouraged to bash men on here. Slate women and couples at your peril"

Do you approve or disapprove?

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife

"I don't care I'm gonna say it...

Most women don't even look for guys on here then just check their inbox and then get all pissy when it's not to their liking. Works both ways!!!

And yes I do realise some women have none of the above and still get the messages, no idea who they are but anyway...

Men are my favourite (not all men) Women suck (not all...ah fuck it most women suck)

Let's be honest, it isn't the messages they are moaning about, it's the men sending them they dislike. If it was a man that fit exactly what they are looking for, they are not going to complain about the dick pic. The same goes for them men that get it from women. Maybe they do but I can't say as I don't see single mens profiles.

I always find it laughable that most of the women complaining about men sending, or having on their profile, nothing but dick pics are the same women that have nothing but tit pics or bent over ass pics.

The sad truth is that fab is dominated by women. There is a pattern that is visible and a lot of people, not just women, tend to contradict themselves a lot in the forums.

A guy will put up a post asking advice on how to make his profile more appealing as he isn't having much luck and the same few women will jump on and comment how unattractive this type of complaining post is and how it does them no favours. On the other hand you will get posts from women complaining about how rude men are or how annoying they are that they keep sending messages even though they have ignored the first few messages they sent etc. This is just as unattractive and unappealing.

At the end of the day, manners cost nothing. No one is perfect and there is someone on fab for everyone. One person's 10 I'd an other person's 2 and we are all real world 6s at best haha

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife

"I posted this to another thread. Different topic, but maybe it applies here too:

‘This might be controversial, it might also be incorrect, but here goes: perhaps there is an underlying level of misandry here…’"

It is too blatant to be underlying.

The people that care about how others view them will be bothered by it. Most of us will just make the observation and continue on our way unbothered.

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