FabSwingers.com forum: Menfolk and sexuality...

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

A conversation I had earlier (okay, a few minutes ago) made me think about this topic.

When it comes to posting on the fora about sex - women are more accepted for doing so, more likely to do so. Men don't - not to the same extent, not without the worry of being/ seen as a dirty old man, not getting responses etc.

So men. How comfortable are you with your sexuality? With discussing sex, what you enjoy openly... Do you ever shy away from sex threads because you don't want to be seen as a wanking dead? Or lessen your chances because you say I really like/dislike this.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

This one needs pondering!

I have answers, but when I think of putting those answers down for you I get more questions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I'm not your target audience but I think more men should. There seems to be this weird thought that by saying what you actually want or don't want that it will put people off. For me,it would actually have the opposite effect. I'm not talking about those lists or things you want to do to us. Tell us what we can do for you!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not falling for this.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Short version without pondering

It essentially comes down to chances for men are limited enough, you start throwing out likes, dislikes, preferences etc on such a definitive scale and your already very limited options get narrowed down even more.

For some men, it's a case of despite saying we don't care and often have a shameless attitude, redicule from stating what some men like is extremely anxiety inducing. Especially when despite being the majority on here, we are in comparison the lower class.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

I like licking tea bags Meli, does that make me less desirable to admit. Of course not and of course it will do....

I have no problem in admitting my predilections in public. As those that find me desirable will find me desirable, those that don't won't. The latter being foolish of course and missing out, as my tongues not just for licking tea bags of course

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Short version without pondering

I will add. Not all men!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women are fawned over and all that jazz, so market forces dictate a response.

Lads, meh, not so much, it just falls into the ether.

Fighting for supremacy, responses, attention and all that.

It can be disheartening when you don't get the response you hoped for.

I mean, I imagine.

Obviously I always get attention.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Wanking dead

Honestly, I don't really think about whether people will judge me for my sexuality. Seems more beneficial to be open about it to me. Seems somewhat relevant.

I'll probably say this 1000 times. If someone is judging me and they haven't got to know me then it's on them. You believe me to be a dirty old man go for it. Whatever floats your boat.

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By *dging-In-EssexMan
over a year ago

Southend

I'm super comfortable and open.

Never used to be that way but here we are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not old. So it helps with not being seen as a dirty old man.

But I love talking about the sex. I love talking about sex and sexuality and I have a fluid approach to my encounters on the forums. I’m a slut. I want it all. I’m down for whatever. But I think the key is to talk about other things confidently and intelligently so that nobody thinks you’re sat there wanking 24/7!

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By *udley hotwife86Couple
over a year ago

DUDLEY

Not a massive forum user but feel completely comfortable being open and honest. If it puts people off oh well means we're not right for each other in the first place.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I know I'm not your target audience but I think more men should. There seems to be this weird thought that by saying what you actually want or don't want that it will put people off. For me,it would actually have the opposite effect. I'm not talking about those lists or things you want to do to us. Tell us what we can do for you!! "

Oh anyone can reply to this, it's idle Monday musings!

Yes... I've noticed that. In Swinger's chat men are more likely to openly discuss sex but... you can tell it's often one handed typing time.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I'm not falling for this."

Falling for what Esty? I have no idea what you're talking about.

*It's the first time I've used one of those emotes on you. Guess it should be the first time you reply sans humour.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

This might be controversial, it might also be incorrect, but here goes: perhaps there is an underlying level of misandry here, and either consciously or subconsciously, perhaps this has an impact on a man’s willingness to express himself without fear of ridicule or backlash.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id talk openly no problem... but I'm Billy no mates anyway and nobody asks anymore cos I'm old...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had anticipated guys being more open about talking about sex and sexuality on here (not specifically orientation I might add). Nope. I don’t understand the reticence, but maybe it is all just not wanting to put women off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had anticipated guys being more open about talking about sex and sexuality on here (not specifically orientation I might add). Nope. I don’t understand the reticence, but maybe it is all just not wanting to put women off. "

100% this. Men care more about their brand on here than anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love being open and honest and will discuss pretty much anything when it comes to my likes and sexuality etc.

A few reasons why I feel maybe some might not. These forums can sometimes feel cliquey and have a lot of the same people commenting and interacting with each other. Which is fine as people will have pals and want to interact but it may well put some off.

Also, some may post and then their answer gets skipped over causing a reluctance to do it in the future. I may be wrong but just a few thoughts as to why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not falling for this.

Falling for what Esty? I have no idea what you're talking about.

*It's the first time I've used one of those emotes on you. Guess it should be the first time you reply sans humour. "

You want me to admit that I get erections from time to time.

Well let me tell you quite firmly that I won't stand for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh perfect.

I can tell you, most men (not all men) but I will generalise, will go with humour on here. Wry few times I’ve I read a REAL sexual post from men on a regular basis, because we would be labelled perverts in the real world.

Now try that as we get older. In our 40s. 50s etc.

related to me - I’m a sexy guy, *true story. I enjoy sex, I like the person I’m with to feel as sexy as they make me feel. I like the intimacy , the foreplay, and getting in someone’s mind….

I once even became confident in talking about being bi-curious etc. But that was when my confidence was very high. Now not so much.

And you know what doesn't help a guys confidence? Being singled out as bad guys.

Single men on fab get such a bad time on here, esp the forums. Some posts can make you feel like a piece of shit.

But going back to your question, I’d love to talk more sexually, I just assume it would be ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% this. Men care more about their brand on here than anything. "

I find this thinking utterly alien. I will clearly put off a lot of guys on here (multiple reasons obvs) but I wouldn’t for one moment think I need to monitor how I am or what I say. But then I don’t have this ‘brand’ thinking.

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

So many guys are "into whatever you are into" but don't elaborate, good question, I think a lot of guys worry about being judged and affecting their chances xx

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Dear Meli

I’d love to watch you take a shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dear Meli

I’d love to watch you take a shit."

Loos women.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Just get naked ladies. Be in the shower or hot tub, and I'll attend to your request

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good topic Mel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh perfect.

Now try that as we get older. In our 40s. 50s etc.

related to me - I’m a sexy guy, *true story. I enjoy sex, I like the person I’m with to feel as sexy as they make me feel. I like the intimacy , the foreplay, and getting in someone’s mind….

I once even became confident in talking about being bi-curious etc. But that was when my confidence was very high. Now not so much.

And you know what doesn't help a guys confidence? Being singled out as bad guys.

Single men on fab get such a bad time on here, esp the forums. Some posts can make you feel like a piece of shit.

But going back to your question, I’d love to talk more sexually, I just assume it would be ignored.

That’s a very articulate and authentic post. I actually understand more from this

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

I (paul) post whatever I believe or think about any topic, sexual or otherwise. I've never worried about what people think of me so I've no need to post politically thought out answers and personally think everyone should just be themselves.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Short version without pondering

I think that's a shame really. Men aren't a lower class. Sure, there are more of you but that doesn't relegate you to a lower class.

I can understand, to a certain extent, about not wanting to limit an already narrow option. Yet wouldn't it be better to find those you who can click and connect with? The real you, not the forum acceptable version of yourself.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I like licking tea bags Meli, does that make me less desirable to admit. Of course not and of course it will do....

Predilection is such a delicious word! I adore it. That aside, I like your viewpoint on it. You'll find your teabag lovers, probably more readily if you state you like teabags. Imagine getting down to things and then discovering they'd rather chew on coffee beans and not lick a teabag? Disaster.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Dear Meli

I’d love to watch you take a shit.

Loos women."

Reckon I’ve made her flush.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dear Meli

I’d love to watch you take a shit.

Loos women.

Reckon I’ve made her flush."

It'll be when you squirted your liquid around her rim.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Dear Meli

I’d love to watch you take a shit.

Loos women.

Reckon I’ve made her flush.

It'll be when you squirted your liquid around her rim."

Hope I haven’t given her cisternitus.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

100% this. Men care more about their brand on here than anything. "

Which is wonderful irony.

Because open, honest communication about sex, sexuallity and desires (without it being 'i like this thing but no actual conversation around it) is such a turn on....

It also often shows those who can negotiate, set expectations and boundaries...

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think women are just generally more accepted and treated more kindly , by men at least.

We’re like ‘awwwww it’s a woman’ be nice to it etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dear Meli

I’d love to watch you take a shit.

Loos women.

Reckon I’ve made her flush.

It'll be when you squirted your liquid around her rim.

Hope I haven’t given her cisternitus."

See this, Meli? Menfolk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, there's a difference between talking about sex in a voyeuristic/exhibitionist way (which men tend to be good at), but more meaningful, layered discussions about their sexuality/emotional needs are more difficult. Toxic masculinity!

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By *s-two-75Couple
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Women are fawned over and all that jazz, so market forces dictate a response.

Lads, meh, not so much, it just falls into the ether.

Fighting for supremacy, responses, attention and all that.

It can be disheartening when you don't get the response you hoped for.

I mean, I imagine.

Obviously I always get attention. "

I've had to resist the urge to ignore your comment and play nice. That? That's growth.

Yes, it can be disheartening. I think men are far more likely to not get a response and over time it could possibly result in posting less authentically in order to fit a desired misconception and get a response. Some sort of sign they're noticed.

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By *dging-In-EssexMan
over a year ago

Southend

"Women are fawned over and all that jazz, so market forces dictate a response.

Lads, meh, not so much, it just falls into the ether.

Fighting for supremacy, responses, attention and all that.

It can be disheartening when you don't get the response you hoped for.

I mean, I imagine.

Obviously I always get attention.

I've had to resist the urge to ignore your comment and play nice. That? That's growth.

Unrelated Meli but let me know if you ever want a tribute

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

I am obscenely comfortable with discussing sex, sexuality and everything in between. I find it fascinating, engaging and a great insight into people's personalities in broader terms.

...on here, though?

Nah mate. Not the place. I'll stick to the dong jokes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I share if I feel like it but I usually don't (feel like it).

I figure no one gives a shit either way.

Apart from you.

With Sam watching.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a dirty old man, there, it’s up for discussion but there’s nothing to be shy about, there’s still a moral code, there is still respect but somethings will not wash out, embrace who you are, you’re gonna get turned down anyway so why be someone you ain’t

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I'm not falling for this.

Falling for what Esty? I have no idea what you're talking about.

*It's the first time I've used one of those emotes on you. Guess it should be the first time you reply sans humour.

You want me to admit that I get erections from time to time.

Well let me tell you quite firmly that I won't stand for it."

You don't have to stand for it. In fact, it's really rather simple for you to sit for it. Or lay down for it.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"I think women are just generally more accepted and treated more kindly , by men at least.

We’re like ‘awwwww it’s a woman’ be nice to it etc

They are so sweet and innocent.

Sugar and spice and all things nice.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Wanking dead

Honestly, I don't really think about whether people will judge me for my sexuality. Seems more beneficial to be open about it to me. Seems somewhat relevant.

I'll probably say this 1000 times. If someone is judging me and they haven't got to know me then it's on them. You believe me to be a dirty old man go for it. Whatever floats your boat."

I'm all about the snazzy taglines.

Wanking dead is perhaps rather dickish.

I think you're right with regards to the judgement thing - well everything you've posted but in particular that. Someone else's judgement when they haven't made the effort to know you is on them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intanet openness gets one shot down

Less talk more action,away from apps is the way forwards.

Rea life approach,is what it is,on apps way to much stringing along and games.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fairly open, but I have to be asked. Maybe I should list the things I like doing and having done. Itd be called.

The TallandAthletic manual...

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Men care more about their brand on here than anything. "

Yeah, but my personal brand includes talking quite enthusiastically about sex. What I want, what I like, what I’ve done in the past …

(I mean, the very idea of a deliberately-curated personal brand™ is mortifying, but I’m self-aware enough to know who I am and which sides of myself I’m actively putting out into the digital ether.)

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I'm super comfortable and open.

Never used to be that way but here we are."

If that's what you're happy doing - that's great.

I don't think you need to be open to be comfortable with yourself. I do think that feeling like you can't be open isn't good.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I like to think that I’m very candid on here as regards talking frankly about sex and sexual practices.

I may pacify it a tad with humour sometimes but I’m really quite shameless essentially

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women are fawned over and all that jazz, so market forces dictate a response.

Lads, meh, not so much, it just falls into the ether.

Fighting for supremacy, responses, attention and all that.

It can be disheartening when you don't get the response you hoped for.

I mean, I imagine.

Obviously I always get attention.

I've had to resist the urge to ignore your comment and play nice. That? That's growth.

See.

I fucking knew you were ignoring me on purpose.

So predictable.

So you.

But yeah, people can work tirelessly to hone their craft and image, present the absolute best possible version of themselves to attract as much as possible.

Or be a massive gob shite.

Either or really.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Oh perfect.

Now try that as we get older. In our 40s. 50s etc.

related to me - I’m a sexy guy, *true story. I enjoy sex, I like the person I’m with to feel as sexy as they make me feel. I like the intimacy , the foreplay, and getting in someone’s mind….

I once even became confident in talking about being bi-curious etc. But that was when my confidence was very high. Now not so much.

And you know what doesn't help a guys confidence? Being singled out as bad guys.

Single men on fab get such a bad time on here, esp the forums. Some posts can make you feel like a piece of shit.

But going back to your question, I’d love to talk more sexually, I just assume it would be ignored.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"But yeah, people can work tirelessly to hone their craft and image, present the absolute best possible version of themselves to attract as much as possible.

Or be a massive gob shite.

Either or really. "

Or sometimes being a massive gobshite *is* their best version of themselves. So it’s both, not either/or.

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By *onningtonplumberMan
over a year ago

Donnington

"A conversation I had earlier (okay, a few minutes ago) made me think about this topic.

Very confident in my sexuality, straight but have no issues at all playing with couples getting naked in groups. Brushing cocks while aiming at the same hole etc.

I get no interest here anyway lol so nothing to loose I guess.

As for actually talking about sex I kinda do I. Stories and fantasies, nothing there I wouldn't do or haven't done in the past.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I like to think that I’m very candid on here as regards talking frankly about sex and sexual practices.

I may pacify it a tad with humour sometimes but I’m really quite shameless essentially

You always post in a way however that just opens a harmless discussion. Some men unfortunately post about a topic as a way of seeming to fish for interested participants or try to initiate private sexual conversations off the back of and I think that's what puts people off engaging. I love a good group discussion about sex regardless of who initiates it but I have to feel I'm not opening myself up to uncomfortable experiences by doing so.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I’m not old. So it helps with not being seen as a dirty old man.

Yes; I think so. And not looking like you're deliberately looking for wank material.

I've always enjoyed your posts/threads on topics relating to it - it's approachable and enjoyable.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Not a massive forum user but feel completely comfortable being open and honest. If it puts people off oh well means we're not right for each other in the first place. "

Yeah. A good bit of fuck it is always a winner. I think that's true with any forum post. If someone thinks you're a twonk? Fuck it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But yeah, people can work tirelessly to hone their craft and image, present the absolute best possible version of themselves to attract as much as possible.

Or be a massive gob shite.

Either or really.

Or sometimes being a massive gobshite *is* their best version of themselves. So it’s both, not either/or."

That's a terrible thought.

Good grief.

Thankfully those that know, know I'm nothing like this in real life.

I'm worse.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Dear Meli

I’d love to watch you take a shit.

Loos women.

Reckon I’ve made her flush.

It'll be when you squirted your liquid around her rim.

Hope I haven’t given her cisternitus.

See this, Meli? Menfolk."

Sigh. Yes. Menfolk. Can't wait until the two of you are in the same room together. It's going to be...

well, it will be something.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

(Mr)

I'm very comfortable with my sexuality, talking about it and occasionally making a spectacle of myself. All the bumps mould me into who I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I’m asked, I’m pretty open regarding what I like, the experiences I’ve had and what I could offer

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"I like to think that I’m very candid on here as regards talking frankly about sex and sexual practices.

I may pacify it a tad with humour sometimes but I’m really quite shameless essentially

Thank you xxx

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

My brain hurts now. Not my second brain though. FAF?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh perfect.

Now try that as we get older. In our 40s. 50s etc.

related to me - I’m a sexy guy, *true story. I enjoy sex, I like the person I’m with to feel as sexy as they make me feel. I like the intimacy , the foreplay, and getting in someone’s mind….

I once even became confident in talking about being bi-curious etc. But that was when my confidence was very high. Now not so much.

And you know what doesn't help a guys confidence? Being singled out as bad guys.

Single men on fab get such a bad time on here, esp the forums. Some posts can make you feel like a piece of shit.

But going back to your question, I’d love to talk more sexually, I just assume it would be ignored.

That’s a very articulate and authentic post. I actually understand more from this

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I accept mine is fluid and goes through phases.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"This might be controversial, it might also be incorrect, but here goes: perhaps there is an underlying level of misandry here, and either consciously or subconsciously, perhaps this has an impact on a man’s willingness to express himself without fear of ridicule or backlash. "

I think that there might possibly be some truth to this. Possibly. Take the descriptors in the OP - hardly shining beacons of acceptance are they? Yep, I'm calling myself out on it.

I do think even on here there can be some rather negative mindsets that influence how people may post. Interesting point, thank you. I hadn't really considered that.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Id talk openly no problem... but I'm Billy no mates anyway and nobody asks anymore cos I'm old... "

They do ask though. In a generic way with threads inviting your thoughts - I'm not talking one on one conversations, just those to be found on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of the problem is guys hide behind humour and that is often crude humour.

I've had a message from someone on this thread saying they'd be interested in knowing my likes dislikes.

I've pretty much gone as far out there as I can with my likes. There isn't alot I dislike. So long as it feels good.

But part of the site is mystery.

If I wrote hi my names ?????? I love giving and receiving oral sex, my prefered position is missionary, I'm partial to anal play.

It doesn't leave much mystery. But I suppose it does attract the ladies who are looking for someone of that mindset.

(Shrugs) what do I know, I'm just a guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some of the problem is guys hide behind humour and that is often crude humour."

Like toilet humour.

It's pathetic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some of the problem is guys hide behind humour and that is often crude humour.

Like toilet humour.

It's pathetic."

Yeh, toilet humour is shit!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men should really share their love of sucking cock more.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Men should really share their love of sucking cock more. "

I used to, when I was a younger man and that was something I was into. I’m not looking for it now.

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

I’ve probably told you this before Meli, but I love clothing, not just sexy clothes but the thought it’s being worn for me or to be sexy does that make sense?

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford

"A conversation I had earlier (okay, a few minutes ago) made me think about this topic.

I'm probably a little too open about my sexuality

Mr H

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men should really share their love of sucking cock more.

Some They do whole heartedly on here via messages and fabbing pics. Seems like they think the next best thing after pussy!!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I think with everyone on here it depends who is saying what.

If I said I love cleaning a man's butt hole, then shaving it before I stick my tongue in it I'd be ignored by most of the men who openly post on the forums.

If a hot, young woman said it the thread would fill up in minutes.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I treat fab as a social club so 'sex' talk is not top of the agenda but I do join in occasionally!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men should really share their love of sucking cock more.

I used to, when I was a younger man and that was something I was into. I’m not looking for it now."

Well this doesn't help me now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think with everyone on here it depends who is saying what.

If I said I love cleaning a man's butt hole, then shaving it before I stick my tongue in it I'd be ignored by most of the men who openly post on the forums.

If a hot, young woman said it the thread would fill up in minutes."

I spoke to her the other day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think with everyone on here it depends who is saying what.

If I said I love cleaning a man's butt hole, then shaving it before I stick my tongue in it I'd be ignored by most of the men who openly post on the forums.

If a hot, young woman said it the thread would fill up in minutes."

*begins growing arse hair*

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Men should really share their love of sucking cock more.

Do one of those cock shaped lollipops count?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men should really share their love of sucking cock more.

Do one of those cock shaped lollipops count? "

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men should really share their love of sucking cock more.

Do one of those cock shaped lollipops count?

No. "

I draw the line at strapons. Beyond that is out of bounds.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Well this doesn't help me now"

I could send you a long, extremely descriptive, message about what I used to do and why I used to like it.

That still wouldn’t help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men should really share their love of sucking cock more.

Do one of those cock shaped lollipops count?

No.

I draw the line at strapons. Beyond that is out of bounds."

I can work with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well this doesn't help me now

I could send you a long, extremely descriptive, message about what I used to do and why I used to like it.

That still wouldn’t help."

Does it come with pictures?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Men should really share their love of sucking cock more.

Do one of those cock shaped lollipops count?

No. "

Fine! I'll continue to suppress my true urges by taking it out on the lollipops in private!

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

Yes same. I guess it's like thinking that this place would be a hotbed for openness and acceptance. It's not quite an utopian fora is it?

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By *reative-mindMan
over a year ago

Exeter

As a newbie I'll be honest I've been wary of being to open on that topic as we'll I'm new and trying to still work all this out.

Doesn't mean I'm not open per say but as the Op says I would at this moment in time feel like a bit of a sex pest which anyone who has spoken to me would hopefully say I'm not.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I think with everyone on here it depends who is saying what.

If I said I love cleaning a man's butt hole, then shaving it before I stick my tongue in it I'd be ignored by most of the men who openly post on the forums.

If a hot, young woman said it the thread would fill up in minutes.

I spoke to her the other day!

Hope she's ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men should really share their love of sucking cock more.

Do one of those cock shaped lollipops count?

No.

I draw the line at strapons. Beyond that is out of bounds.

I can work with that.

I'm out your age range. Sorry.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Does it come with pictures? "

Nope. So that’s that then.

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

Guys don’t want to put women off…simple.

The forums on fabguys (which shares many many many straight men with fabswingers) are a lot more active explicit men.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I think with everyone on here it depends who is saying what.

If I said I love cleaning a man's butt hole, then shaving it before I stick my tongue in it I'd be ignored by most of the men who openly post on the forums.

If a hot, young woman said it the thread would fill up in minutes.

*begins growing arse hair*"

I'm holding you to this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont get the being put off by what women think thing, I wouldnt be able to remember who wrote what comment, and who liked tongues up their bums or not. So unless people are writing copious notes off every forum post, let those desires out men. With pictures.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I am very comfortable with my sexuality, bar some existential confidence issues, and with discussing sex - ever so slightly openly or within the confines of a private conversation. Mostly the latter though.

I stay away from sex threads simply because women are, as you say, accepted. When a man does something similar the reactions and responses are sometimes treated as lecherous or debauched. Not all men are roué, however.

I think the comments from Kaitonel and AlisaGeorge are valid; I agree with their sentiments.

With all that said and done... ...I would reluctantly admit there have been moments when I wanted to saunter down the fashionable Marylebone High Street with you, sneak you through the back door of The Conran Store, into the post-modernism furniture section and bend you over a vintage black leather Le Courbusier armchair and fuck your quinny from behind until the clear tears of pleasure trickled down the insides of your silken thighs as we made a beeline for the EXIT with nothing to show except our whip-lashed smiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes same. I guess it's like thinking that this place would be a hotbed for openness and acceptance. It's not quite an utopian fora is it?

I’m mercifully oblivious to the dystopia.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A conversation I had earlier (okay, a few minutes ago) made me think about this topic.

In terms of my sexuality I'm 100% comfortable. Sex threads I just post what I think and don't really worry about it affecting my chances because I wouldn't want to do the sex with someone I'm not sexually compatible with anyway.

BUT I'm also conscious that I don't want to come across as seedy or "the wanking dead" because that's not what I'm about at all.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I am very comfortable with my sexuality, bar some existential confidence issues, and with discussing sex - ever so slightly openly or within the confines of a private conversation. Mostly the latter though.

I think the comments from Kaitonel and AlisaGeorge are valid; I agree with their sentiments.

You're so lovely Nerolatte. And far too flattering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think with everyone on here it depends who is saying what.

If I said I love cleaning a man's butt hole, then shaving it before I stick my tongue in it I'd be ignored by most of the men who openly post on the forums.

If a hot, young woman said it the thread would fill up in minutes.

*begins growing arse hair*

I'm holding you to this!

ill let you know when it's grown

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By *lascumMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Happy to chat to folk but sadly folk don’t want to talk to a guy that actually puts that they are bi on their profile. It was easier to chat and meet folk when I had straight on it. So there is a lever of prejudice against bi guys that you won’t get with bi girls to kick off with. Gave up hiding behind the straight label. Just cause you chat to somebody or engage in a forum doesn’t mean your desperation to get into somebody’s pants has kicked in.

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