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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

yourself.

What's your self confidence like?

That's it, that's the only question. I don't need to prompt this discussion too much. :D

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

5/10 if I had to score it, few bits I like, improvements definitely needed.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

20 out off 10 I just oozed confidence and sex appeal

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By *aughty Couple ABCCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Some days I have loads of confidence, others none at all. I pretend an awful lot to get through the days I have none

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In conversation and long term life 10/10

Striking conversation and starting out 1/10

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's on the floor and it's affecting everything in my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally a bit rubbish. Self doubt, lack of confidence and self esteem, insecurity, and imposter syndrome are all constant companions.

I try really hard to fake it until I make it though.

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Self confidence loads

Body confidence very little, trying to work on it but it's not easy

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Fylde Coast

I believe that self confidence comes from accepting who you are. Just be you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally good but hopefully not in an arrogant way. By and large we are in control of our lives and everything in it, and those that we’re not it’s a case of - it is what it is.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Mines very good! Think it grows with age! As never used to be x

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

10/10 Meli

But my disinterest in something can come across as standoffishness, when my brain is actually invested in something else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yourself.

What's your self confidence like?

That's it, that's the only question. I don't need to prompt this discussion too much. :D"

Do you even have to ask...

It's ok. Just.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

12 months ago, my self confidence was in the toilet, and in truth fab played a big part of that.

However l, since I rediscovered myself it's a different story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

^ everyone should be a 10

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

Not very good, and being on here where everyone seems out of my league doesn’t help at times…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be really confident before uni.

I’m getting back to that level of confidence. I am starting to accept praise and to believe in myself and my knowledge and abilities. Starting to like what I see in the mirror. It’s a journey and I had a wobble just this weekend but generally I believe I’m nice. Therapy has been life changing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not very good, and being on here where everyone seems out of my league doesn’t help at times….."

You've got the best username on Fab, you're in your own league

Filtered pictures don't make people out of your league, some are ninjas with the old camera. You may think Champions League when you see their profile.....but when/if you meet them it's more the Vanarama League.

True story.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

Hmmm, it varies. When it comes to life stuff it's pretty high, I know I'm good at what I do.

Looks-wise and sexually it's not that good. It baffles me that people find me attractive and sexy. Kind, friendly, generous, even funny - I can recognise those. But actual, in person, in real life sexy?! This is not meant as a fishing trip, just a genuine answer to Meli's question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not very good, and being on here where everyone seems out of my league doesn’t help at times….."

Fab is not representative enough for you to get down about it. Believe in your sauce.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

Does it sound cocky to say better than average? But that's not a constant, the little voice of self doubt is there ready to pop out. But I get by.

And I wasn't always this way, this is a benefit of ageing I think. At a point you say to yourself, this is what you got and that's ok. Having confidence to try and then the confidence to try again when you fail matters a lot.

I do think the company you keep makes a difference.

Saying I'm self accepting doesn't sound as arrogant saying I'm highly confident.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much non-existent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am quite confident. Some days more than others but overall, I’d say I am

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

I'm unapologetically me and totally respect some people are gonna think I'm an asshat for it. But I would rather show my unique fun side, especially on here, than be another fab ghoul of a man

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"I'm unapologetically me and totally respect some people are gonna think I'm an asshat for it. But I would rather show my unique fun side, especially on here, than be another fab ghoul of a man"

"fab ghoul" I'm feeling so seen this morning.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I have enough self confidence to hand out to others around if needed

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Pretty good 98% of the time

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Mines high 95%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

9/10 there's always room for improvement

It's taken me a long time to gain my confidence, and it isn't always a steady ship. X

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I'll go 9out ten as there always something make you question yourself .

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

Cracking, I realised at one point that nobody cares about me. Then realised that nobody cares about me. Liberating.

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By *assy69Man
over a year ago

West Sussex and Wales

"yourself.

What's your self confidence like?

That's it, that's the only question. I don't need to prompt this discussion too much. :D"

Some days my self confidence is through the roof, am sure of myself, my knowledge and the gaps in that knowledge etc……… some days, I just feel like an imposter faking it through life ……..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My confidence is good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say maybe a 4/10. It's ok, but there's quite a few of areas in my life I need to improve which might help my self confidence a bit more. I know I need to start with something small to get the ball rolling which I'm hoping to this week and then see where it goes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recently it's been really low probably 3 probably 4/10. There's is days when I feel like nobody is interested in me and then there's time I feel high in confidence

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

Some days it'd around 7 other days around 2 or 3....

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Depends what. My body not very high as society teaches us that fat is bad. But I have a good brain, I can be funny and on the whole I am a kind person. So that helps balance the scale.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

10/10 in most things, most of the time. I don’t always feel it, but by pushing through when I feel I can’t , I prove myself wrong.

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By *exywhoreWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

I have no confidence what so ever

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"My confidence is good.

Mine too. *high-five

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It runs on a scale from 0-10. Sometimes I'm full of self belief and confidence in all areas and feel I could take on the world.

Other days I'm full of self doubt and question everything I do or say.

Other days it's a happy medium or somewhere on the scale between those two extremes.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"yourself.

What's your self confidence like?

That's it, that's the only question. I don't need to prompt this discussion too much. :D"

I have Full faith and confidence in myself, its taken alot of hard inner reflection and work on myself, to challenge previously held believe systems. That generated certain thinking patterns. Which told me im.not capable, not worthy and will.amount to nothing.

Today I have a new evidentially belief systems that counter act any previous antiquated belief systems about self. I know that I'll succeed and take the necessary steps to succeed in life.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I can act confident at times but it depends on the situation and my ability. I don't think I'm confident at all but others do.

We can discuss something with great confidence because of our knowledge of said subject does that necessarily mean we are a confident person?

Now I've said it too many times and babbled!

Jo.Xx

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

"Not very good, and being on here where everyone seems out of my league doesn’t help at times…..

You've got the best username on Fab, you're in your own league

True story."

Thanks for the boost!

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

"Not very good, and being on here where everyone seems out of my league doesn’t help at times…..

Fab is not representative enough for you to get down about it. Believe in your sauce.

Thank you..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yourself.

What's your self confidence like?

That's it, that's the only question. I don't need to prompt this discussion too much. :D"

Normally really high but recently it's been extremely low unfortunately.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I go in peaks and troughs, right now I’m relatively low. Poor self image, work on top of me, life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Through the floor really

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Some days I have loads of confidence, others none at all. I pretend an awful lot to get through the days I have none

Mrs"

Faking it until you make it isn't a bad strategy. I always like to think that one day you'll start to believe it a bit more, have more faith in yourself even if you're having a wobble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Non existent

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

My own little world

Mines pretty high to be fair however it took me many years to love and be confident in myself

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I know my limitations.

I might push myself occasionally, but I'm realistic about what I can and can't do.

I don't mind failing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It fluctuates heavily.

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

It depends on the context. I'm confident in a professional capacity but not so in my personal life. I avoid big social gatherings and parties but I'm happy and confident with freinds. Things are never simple

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

My confidence has bipolar disorder. It jumps up and down all the time.

In some things it's a constant high, because I know in those situations I can be sure of myself and what I am, am doing, or saying.

In others, largely where other people are involved. It drops.

The rest is as I say constant roller coaster.

The face value dating world for example. It's low. I lack confidence for my face. My body, I'm good with. My personality, nobody is knocking my confidence on that, good luck to them if they try. But confidence in my face is below simply accepting it and getting over it.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I am confident in my ability to accept myself as I am. Which is practically perfect in every way. I'm a regular Marry Poppins.

Honestly, without context it's hard to say.

A lot of things are so complex I think we tend to over-emphasise the significance of our self-confidence.

I can turn my hands to most things. I'll give it a go like. Brain surgery is probably a bit of a stretch.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

My self confidence is very high, for the simple reason that my experiences have made all my flaws visible to me, and I’ve made peace with them. I am a very long way from being perfect, but I’m okay with that.

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By *ustme34Man
over a year ago

Bingley

New job role has helped alot so id say sitting around a 7 at the moment. Could improve but could be way worse so im happy with that

How about you Meli ?

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