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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

"Limerence is a mental state of profound romantic infatuation, first defined in the 1970s by the psychologist Dorothy Tennov. It is characterised by an initial period of elation and intense emotional arousal that can progress to an involuntary, obsessive craving for another person."

All very interesting stuff. Has anyone ever had/experienced it?

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


""Limerence is a mental state of profound romantic infatuation, first defined in the 1970s by the psychologist Dorothy Tennov. It is characterised by an initial period of elation and intense emotional arousal that can progress to an involuntary, obsessive craving for another person."

All very interesting stuff. Has anyone ever had/experienced it?"

The 'they can do no wrong' stage at the start of a relationship. Been there from both sides.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

Yes, twice. The first time was in my teens, and 28 years later we are still exactly the same. The second time was several years ago and it fizzled fast.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. It was incredible at the time, utterly devistating after x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. It was incredible at the time, utterly devistating after x "

This

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


"Yes. It was incredible at the time, utterly devistating after x "

Can I ask why? Was it the crash after the high?

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Yes, a few times and – I'm certain - will do so again some time in the future. I can't help it.

I think of it as a heightened state of euphoric mind, fuelled by romantic infatuation and channelled into my desire to covet someone I'm clearly drawn towards. There's always a crescendo before it tails off to a form of simmering normality driven by various factors of which I won't go into.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Yes I’ve experienced it and I hope to do so again one day

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes I’ve experienced it and I hope to do so again one day "

That's interesting because I never hope to again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I’ve experienced it and I hope to do so again one day

That's interesting because I never hope to again."

Yeah exactly this, it is not a normal state of love or infatuation it's an unhealthy, unrealistic obsession.

Eye's wide open and hopefully brain too next time

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"Yes I’ve experienced it and I hope to do so again one day

That's interesting because I never hope to again."

I think that it all depends on your mindset. Mine is now very much open to possibility. For a long time it has been very closed to that but now it’s not. I do think it’s the most wonderful experience so I do hope to experience it again

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Yes and it was a car crash for both of us, I recognise the triggers now and will walk away fast

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


"Yes I’ve experienced it and I hope to do so again one day

That's interesting because I never hope to again.

I think that it all depends on your mindset. Mine is now very much open to possibility. For a long time it has been very closed to that but now it’s not. I do think it’s the most wonderful experience so I do hope to experience it again "

I'd be the same now. I know its temporary stage and it's better that way. It's not sustainable long term which is a plus.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Yes, many times... Always proven wrong in the end, but when it's gone, it's gone.

I try not to get so carried away these days.

I love the word though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Limerence is a mental state of profound romantic infatuation, first defined in the 1970s by the psychologist Dorothy Tennov. It is characterised by an initial period of elation and intense emotional arousal that can progress to an involuntary, obsessive craving for another person."

All very interesting stuff. Has anyone ever had/experienced it?"

I mean, that just sounds like how I feel on any day that ends in a Y.

Fuck.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


""Limerence is a mental state of profound romantic infatuation, first defined in the 1970s by the psychologist Dorothy Tennov. It is characterised by an initial period of elation and intense emotional arousal that can progress to an involuntary, obsessive craving for another person."

All very interesting stuff. Has anyone ever had/experienced it?"

Yes. I dwell in limerence.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

There are various theories regarding this. Whether it’s simply the first flush of romance that leads to a deeper relationship or if it’s a discrete thing that is its own thing.

I’ll let the psychiatrists argue it out

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

It seems so sad to me that some people choose to walk (or run!) away from that spark and infatuation.

I mean, I get it. I absolutely do. The fear (or dislike) of what can happen when you leave yourself that vulnerable. But … it’s also the doorway to so much possibility.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes and it was a car crash for both of us, I recognise the triggers now and will walk away fast "

Same.

I have and will stop talking to guys I like too much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes and it was a car crash for both of us, I recognise the triggers now and will walk away fast

Same.

I have and will stop talking to guys I like too much. "

Omg it all makes so much sense now

Ego satiated.

Delusion grows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought I was perhaps suffering limerance. 18 months later I’m still suffering greatly. It’s worse than limerance. It’s love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes and it was a car crash for both of us, I recognise the triggers now and will walk away fast

Same.

I have and will stop talking to guys I like too much.

Omg it all makes so much sense now

Ego satiated.

Delusion grows."

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