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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Sang Morrissey.

Is this why some fabbers like to pull apart a fellow fabber who dares to call themselves professional. What's going on here guys. It's all over the forums

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

My profession likely counts me as a "professional", I just find the term amusing .

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

We think success should be celebrated but haters will always hate.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think you have it in a nutshell here Tom.

Leaving the 'professional' thong aside o have noticed that people enjoy tearing successful people down and constantly equate success with poor personality. The irony is lost on them

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Lol professional thong .

Of course I mean professional thing

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Sang Morrissey.

Is this why some fabbers like to pull apart a fellow fabber who dares to call themselves professional. What's going on here guys. It's all over the forums"

Yes... No... Maybe...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And if they're northern, that makes it even worse

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By *eteranSwingersCouple
over a year ago

Costa del Sol, Spain

How do you mean professional..in a swinging sense ?lol

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"We think success should be celebrated but haters will always hate."

For a supposedly friendly fraternity 'we' do like to rip others apart a lot of the time, with little justification other than unsubstantiated prejudices

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Essex Tom… the boy with a thorn in his side

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"How do you mean professional..in a swinging sense ?lol"

It's how many describe them selves in their profiles

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think there’s a particular type of hate reserved for social mobility. If you’re born into success that’s ok.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Surely, if you have a job that you get paid for, then you're a professional.

So they're basically saying, we have jobs.

Well whoop-di fucking do, don't we all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol professional thong .

Of course I mean professional thing "

I wear mine on Monday's

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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It's not just professional though is it? It's physicality, education, how someone sounds...

It's that reverse snobbery that runs rife through here at times - heaven forbid someone is confident in some aspect of who they are, isn't constantly preaching self deprecation to make their existence more palatable to those around them. I'm not sure if it's a British thing - that constant need to crap over success and really downplay every feature and be hard on yourself. Like a shit version of humility.

Look, I think professional is slightly ridiculous on here; I can understand what the user is trying to say, I can even understand why it comes in for such derision to a certain extent.

The whole constantly tearing each other apart thing though rather than, you know, not being an utter dickwad and celebrating another's success? Fucking boring.

Ignoring it if it's causing you such turmoil that your eyes roll in their sockets is probably a good solution.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"It's not just professional though is it? It's physicality, education, how someone sounds...

It's that reverse snobbery that runs rife through here at times - heaven forbid someone is confident in some aspect of who they are, isn't constantly preaching self deprecation to make their existence more palatable to those around them. I'm not sure if it's a British thing - that constant need to crap over success and really downplay every feature and be hard on yourself. Like a shit version of humility.

Look, I think professional is slightly ridiculous on here; I can understand what the user is trying to say, I can even understand why it comes in for such derision to a certain extent.

The whole constantly tearing each other apart thing though rather than, you know, not being an utter dickwad and celebrating another's success? Fucking boring.

Ignoring it if it's causing you such turmoil that your eyes roll in their sockets is probably a good solution. "

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By *ennylewis2016Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

And if they’re northern, that makes it even worse

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

So to sum up- Most people hate Morrisey?

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By *phrodite_AdonisCouple
over a year ago

~~

What about those that are successful at being unprofessional. Think that sums us both up.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Reverse snobbery is a thing. It’s not pleasant though.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


"It's not just professional though is it? It's physicality, education, how someone sounds...

It's that reverse snobbery that runs rife through here at times - heaven forbid someone is confident in some aspect of who they are, isn't constantly preaching self deprecation to make their existence more palatable to those around them. I'm not sure if it's a British thing - that constant need to crap over success and really downplay every feature and be hard on yourself. Like a shit version of humility.

Look, I think professional is slightly ridiculous on here; I can understand what the user is trying to say, I can even understand why it comes in for such derision to a certain extent.

The whole constantly tearing each other apart thing though rather than, you know, not being an utter dickwad and celebrating another's success? Fucking boring.

Ignoring it if it's causing you such turmoil that your eyes roll in their sockets is probably a good solution. "

What's happening today. Tom blink 3 times to let us know it's really you. Meli, divide up the truth bombs for greater impact.

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

I would celebrate and encourage there success.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Because the masses don't like the word professional, which implies a certain kind of job, which is usually firmly in the middle class bracket.

I'm aloud to call myself a big beautiful woman if I so wish. Without people calling me out for it even if it is subjective, but heaven forbid you call yourself a professional. Plus don't even think about saying you went to University to get said professional job, you'll get told you've got no common sense

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"

It's that reverse snobbery that runs rife through here at times - heaven forbid someone is confident in some aspect of who they are, isn't constantly preaching self deprecation to make their existence more palatable to those around them. I'm not sure if it's a British thing - that constant need to crap over success and really downplay every feature and be hard on yourself. Like a shit version of humility.

"

I think that sums it up.

I think it stems from a Victorian thing whereby it was considered ‘vulgar’ to promote your own success.

That has somehow morphed into the shaming of those who have achieved success/ bettered themselves.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Because the masses don't like the word professional, which implies a certain kind of job, which is usually firmly in the middle class bracket.

I'm aloud to call myself a big beautiful woman if I so wish. Without people calling me out for it even if it is subjective, but heaven forbid you call yourself a professional. Plus don't even think about saying you went to University to get said professional job, you'll get told you've got no common sense "

Incredibly if you describe yourself as attractive you will be told you're one or all of the following, arrogant, big headed, up yourself, over confident, have a poor personality.

If you describe yourself as unattractive you will be told you're beautiful, should have more confidence, believe in yourself, have inner beauty yada, yada, yada.

The same goes for any kind of self description that implies good self esteem and self confidence.

I believe that a lot of people don't want to be involved with anyone who has high self esteem and self belief because it scares them. I also think they like to feel they're 'rescuing' people and it gives them an element of control.

Start a thread saying you feel awful about yourself and one saying you feel great about yourself and see which one did up with compliments the fastest

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

*fills up

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Surely, if you have a job that you get paid for, then you're a professional.

So they're basically saying, we have jobs.

Well whoop-di fucking do, don't we all.

"

No. Getting paid for what you do professionally is not the same as being 'A Professional' which is a list of recognised qualifications.

Very different

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Surely, if you have a job that you get paid for, then you're a professional.

So they're basically saying, we have jobs.

Well whoop-di fucking do, don't we all.

No. Getting paid for what you do professionally is not the same as being 'A Professional' which is a list of recognised qualifications.

Very different "

Rather than learn what it means, its easier to just throw some mud instead.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"Surely, if you have a job that you get paid for, then you're a professional.

So they're basically saying, we have jobs.

Well whoop-di fucking do, don't we all.

No. Getting paid for what you do professionally is not the same as being 'A Professional' which is a list of recognised qualifications.

Very different "

Is that your professional opinion

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Because the masses don't like the word professional, which implies a certain kind of job, which is usually firmly in the middle class bracket.

I'm aloud to call myself a big beautiful woman if I so wish. Without people calling me out for it even if it is subjective, but heaven forbid you call yourself a professional. Plus don't even think about saying you went to University to get said professional job, you'll get told you've got no common sense

Incredibly if you describe yourself as attractive you will be told you're one or all of the following, arrogant, big headed, up yourself, over confident, have a poor personality.

If you describe yourself as unattractive you will be told you're beautiful, should have more confidence, believe in yourself, have inner beauty yada, yada, yada.

The same goes for any kind of self description that implies good self esteem and self confidence.

I believe that a lot of people don't want to be involved with anyone who has high self esteem and self belief because it scares them. I also think they like to feel they're 'rescuing' people and it gives them an element of control.

Start a thread saying you feel awful about yourself and one saying you feel great about yourself and see which one did up with compliments the fastest "

This is totally accurate unfortunately. Seems the majority want people to stick to where they are comfortable with them being at.

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By *aggonerMan
over a year ago

for a penny


"Surely, if you have a job that you get paid for, then you're a professional.

So they're basically saying, we have jobs.

Well whoop-di fucking do, don't we all.

"

Firstly, not everyone has a job.

Secondly, you know that Professional in this context means having achieved a certain status through education and lifestyle.

They are saying that this is how they are and want to meet people like them.

Why not.

You fall into the category much described here of wanting to denigrate them because you can’t come to terms with what you perceive to be your own failings.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Surely, if you have a job that you get paid for, then you're a professional.

So they're basically saying, we have jobs.

Well whoop-di fucking do, don't we all.

No. Getting paid for what you do professionally is not the same as being 'A Professional' which is a list of recognised qualifications.

Very different

Is that your professional opinion "

Yes It's also my very unprofessional opinion when it suits

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

People on fab, especially these "professionals" are not my friends.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Surely, if you have a job that you get paid for, then you're a professional.

So they're basically saying, we have jobs.

Well whoop-di fucking do, don't we all.

Firstly, not everyone has a job.

Secondly, you know that Professional in this context means having achieved a certain status through education and lifestyle.

They are saying that this is how they are and want to meet people like them.

Why not.

You fall into the category much described here of wanting to denigrate them because you can’t come to terms with what you perceive to be your own failings. "

They use it because they think it sounds... Professional. Adds a bit of a hook to their profile.

It's a buzzword. It's no different than the Sydney university crap. Most won't ever know what they are referring to when they use it.

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
over a year ago

Bedale

It's one of those things that some people stick their noses up at, and others see it as a positive. The irony of the fact that some think of themselves as so "of the people" as to be snobby about this isn't lost on me.

We have it on our profile because ideally we are looking to attract a certain sort of person. Someone who we can have a conversation with.

That doesn't mean that people who aren't professionals can't have a conversation, or necessarily that we are the best conversationalists in the whole world. What it means is that as people who have achieved a certain standard of education we are more likely; on average; to find a good personality match amongst those who have done the same, or who have the world view that such a thing is even beneficial.

It's not a hard limit, you don't need a post-grad to play with us, in fact I don't know that any of our regular playmates do.

It's not there to stop normal people messaging us; whether they are professional or not. It's to stop people who send messages in text speak from messaging us (imperfect as it may be)

And to those saying "what is a professional" that is either disingenuous or pure copium, or both. You know exactly what it is and what it isn't.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Professial twat I guess that does make them a professional I guess

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Surely, if you have a job that you get paid for, then you're a professional.

So they're basically saying, we have jobs.

Well whoop-di fucking do, don't we all.

Firstly, not everyone has a job.

Secondly, you know that Professional in this context means having achieved a certain status through education and lifestyle.

They are saying that this is how they are and want to meet people like them.

Why not.

You fall into the category much described here of wanting to denigrate them because you can’t come to terms with what you perceive to be your own failings.

They use it because they think it sounds... Professional. Adds a bit of a hook to their profile.

It's a buzzword. It's no different than the Sydney university crap. Most won't ever know what they are referring to when they use it. "

Yeah. They do.

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