FabSwingers.com forum: Overthinking

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just don't do it.

Life is fleeting.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Analysis paralysis?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Analysis paralysis?"

For sure. It's just so easy to get hung up in that mindset though... as a general way of life.

It's not helpful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the older I get the more I understand this.

You never know when you’ll be unable / incapable to enjoy life so live it now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I doubt people do it for fun. It's likely something they can't control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I doubt people do it for fun. It's likely something they can't control."

Agreed

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Sure, now you've said that I'll just stop immediately.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *MandMMCouple
over a year ago

Welwyn

All these years of over thinking, and all I had to do was just not do it. I feel so silly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I doubt people do it for fun. It's likely something they can't control."

Indeed, I'm that person... but coming (albeit briefly) to that realisation is liberating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately it's not something I can control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I doubt people do it for fun. It's likely something they can't control."

Spot on Outsider

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Ok let me think about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of only it was that easy. I don't overthink the small stuff but the big worries in life, like children business, yes I can overthink. But then it would be stupid to switch off and not give them a lot of thought.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Haha! Not saying it's simple, I'm saying it's bad.

I think we're overly complex beings in a world curated for us.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

But if I don't over think, then that frees up time for more things. What if those things are for the forces of evil, and I become a worshiper of the evils that are beyond even Satan. Which then has me on an eternal downward spiral in to the corners of hell that no mortal returns, but you are twisted in to something demonic and void of any soul.

Oh wait, that's fab.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Just don't do it.

Life is fleeting."

Ok. Won’t do it from now on.

But what if I need to? I mean, sometimes we need to think a lot about stuff. Is that overthinking? Or is it enough thinking? Is there such a thing as enough thinking? Is that just thinking? But if it’s just thinking then how do I know if I’m little bit thinking, thinking, enough thinking or overthinking?

How do I know?!

Who decides? What if they’re wrong, What if I’m wrong? What if I’m right about being wrong or wrong about being right?

Who do I see to complain when it turns out I’ve thought about something to the point where I thought it was enough and anymore would be overthinking, but it turns out I hadn’t thought enough about it and should have thunk more but didn’t because I thought it would be overthinking?

Am I overthinking this? How do I know? How does anyone know?!

Anyway, I won’t do it anymore.

I don’t think.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"I doubt people do it for fun. It's likely something they can't control."

Yeah it's unlikely anyone does it for kicks. But becoming aware is the first step in addressing it. And becoming aware might help in realising the impact it has on someones life and might help in motivating to address it.

It doesn't hurt to say one day all this will be over.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I doubt people do it for fun. It's likely something they can't control.

It doesn't hurt to say one day all this will be over."

^ This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I doubt people do it for fun. It's likely something they can't control."

Yes, exactly this. I'll never be spontaneous and a drop-of-a-hat decision maker.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I doubt people do it for fun. It's likely something they can't control.

Yes, exactly this. I'll never be spontaneous and a drop-of-a-hat decision maker. "

Me neither. I get it.

But in the finite time you're breathing do you not feel that these numerous small decisions are ultimately inconsequential?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I doubt people do it for fun. It's likely something they can't control.

It doesn't hurt to say one day all this will be over."

Yep, very much this.

I can easily fall into overrhinking the minutiae. Life is so much more fun when I don't and enjoy and appreciate the moment. Mindfulness I guess. I think sometimes overthinking can lead to self fulfilling prophecies - it's easier said than done but far more enjoyable to try and stop overthinking when you catch yourself doing it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm glad you mentioned mindfulness. It's as not complicated as it's made out to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I doubt people do it for fun. It's likely something they can't control.

Yes, exactly this. I'll never be spontaneous and a drop-of-a-hat decision maker.

Me neither. I get it.

But in the finite time you're breathing do you not feel that these numerous small decisions are ultimately inconsequential?"

Some will be, some won't. Butterflies and Hurricanes.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

It’s ok when you do it sometimes, but really good when you notice you’re not doing it and it’s a lovely break.

Some of us need that self reflection, but it’s good to make sure it’s not ruminating over stuff that’s not important.

I think I’ve over explained my overthinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm glad you mentioned mindfulness. It's as not complicated as it's made out to be."

How?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Genius. Just like that my anxiety is cured!

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Just don't do it.

Life is fleeting."
women constantly over think, do i look good in this, does it make my arse look big omg will he fancy me

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"It’s ok when you do it sometimes, but really good when you notice you’re not doing it and it’s a lovely break.

Some of us need that self reflection, but it’s good to make sure it’s not ruminating over stuff that’s not important.

I think I’ve over explained my overthinking

And ruminating over stuff can often be a symptom. It was front and centre in my depression. Self reflection is a good thing, that can be how we help see ourselves and be accountable to ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s ok when you do it sometimes, but really good when you notice you’re not doing it and it’s a lovely break.

Some of us need that self reflection, but it’s good to make sure it’s not ruminating over stuff that’s not important.

I think I’ve over explained my overthinking

And ruminating over stuff can often be a symptom. It was front and centre in my depression. Self reflection is a good thing, that can be how we help see ourselves and be accountable to ourselves.

This guy gets it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Genius. Just like that my anxiety is cured! "

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"It’s ok when you do it sometimes, but really good when you notice you’re not doing it and it’s a lovely break.

Some of us need that self reflection, but it’s good to make sure it’s not ruminating over stuff that’s not important.

I think I’ve over explained my overthinking

And ruminating over stuff can often be a symptom. It was front and centre in my depression. Self reflection is a good thing, that can be how we help see ourselves and be accountable to ourselves.

This guy gets it.

Because I got the souvenir t-shirt, towels and matching mugs

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"I'm glad you mentioned mindfulness. It's as not complicated as it's made out to be.

How?"

If you want to try mindfulness, check out the headspace app.

In some ways it is counter intuitive.

There's no magic to it. Just stop. Close your eyes, breathe. just concentrate on your breathing. Your mind is going to race and wander, come back to your breathing. Every time you realise your mind has gone pondering, back to your breathing

It's not going to work straight away and maybe not for everyone. But what have you got to lose by spending 10 fewer minutes on your phone everyday?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm glad you mentioned mindfulness. It's as not complicated as it's made out to be.

How?

If you want to try mindfulness, check out the headspace app.

In some ways it is counter intuitive.

It's not going to work straight away and maybe not for everyone. But what have you got to lose by spending 10 fewer minutes on your phone everyday?"

It was like I said earlier... we're hugely complex beings...

It's about appreciating the moment

. By doing so you don't let the past haunt you so much, and stop worring about the future as much.

Over-overcomplicated, electrified, bags of meat. We should be banging drums around a campfire tbh.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

When I had a terrible mental and physical breakdown my GP told me to stop thinking.

Great advice

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I used to watch cartoons in the mornings to peace myself out.

Rolie Polie Olie and Hey Arthur were two of my favourites.

I would also feel happy in the laundry detergent and air freshener aisle.

Supermarkets are a good place to go to stop thinking.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"When I had a terrible mental and physical breakdown my GP told me to stop thinking.

Great advice

Great advice from my GP I meant-being sarcastic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I had a terrible mental and physical breakdown my GP told me to stop thinking.

Great advice

Dude, you know somewhat of my issues, as I do yours.

I know it's seems like a broad and baseless comment, but it's getting to what's behind it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just don't do it.

Life is fleeting."

Madness, takes its toll. …

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By *razzyhorseMan
over a year ago

cambridge

Always overthinking stuff.

Life is much easier when I'm busy and don't have time to dwell on thoughts & events around me.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

Overthinking in the work place has caused me difficulties , mood swings , sleepless nights with one of my managers.I am no longer on her team and unless she says good morning, good night first I don’t respond to her at all.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"When I had a terrible mental and physical breakdown my GP told me to stop thinking.

Great advice

Dude, you know somewhat of my issues, as I do yours.

I know it's seems like a broad and baseless comment, but it's getting to what's behind it."

I was saying great advice from my GP, sarcastically.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I had a terrible mental and physical breakdown my GP told me to stop thinking.

Great advice

Dude, you know somewhat of my issues, as I do yours.

I know it's seems like a broad and baseless comment, but it's getting to what's behind it.

I was saying great advice from my GP, sarcastically."

Fight me. Right now.

Naked.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"When I had a terrible mental and physical breakdown my GP told me to stop thinking.

Great advice

Dude, you know somewhat of my issues, as I do yours.

I know it's seems like a broad and baseless comment, but it's getting to what's behind it.

I was saying great advice from my GP, sarcastically."

Are you sure it wasn't your dentist?

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Analysis paralysis?

For sure. It's just so easy to get hung up in that mindset though... as a general way of life.

It's not helpful."

It’s often a curse of so called smart people, but it’s not smart at all, inability to use other more creative methods to find a solution or resolve a problem.

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

"I doubt people do it for fun. It's likely something they can't control."

I do it and hate it. It is something I can't do anything about

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"When I had a terrible mental and physical breakdown my GP told me to stop thinking.

Great advice

Dude, you know somewhat of my issues, as I do yours.

I know it's seems like a broad and baseless comment, but it's getting to what's behind it.

I was saying great advice from my GP, sarcastically.

Are you sure it wasn't your dentist? "

He only tells me to not brush so hard-even though he does it himself, he said.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"When I had a terrible mental and physical breakdown my GP told me to stop thinking.

Great advice

Dude, you know somewhat of my issues, as I do yours.

I know it's seems like a broad and baseless comment, but it's getting to what's behind it.

I was saying great advice from my GP, sarcastically.

Fight me. Right now.

Naked."

Thank you. I now have my next fantasy in the bath moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d love to see a picture on those headphones on that straight cock of yours

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"When I had a terrible mental and physical breakdown my GP told me to stop thinking.

Great advice

Yeah it's not a nice thing to hear in the moment and maybe unwise to have said it. I've heard similar myself

But they have a point. I'm not saying they're right and maybe in crisis we do need help from outside. But no matter what someone says or does, the battle is won or lost between our two ears.

When our thought patterns are disruptive , negative and ruminative the only person that can effect change is ourselves. Others might guide or suggest but it's on us to first stop hurting ourselves and maybe then help ourselves.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"When I had a terrible mental and physical breakdown my GP told me to stop thinking.

Great advice

Yeah it's not a nice thing to hear in the moment and maybe unwise to have said it. I've heard similar myself

But they have a point. I'm not saying they're right and maybe in crisis we do need help from outside. But no matter what someone says or does, the battle is won or lost between our two ears.

I wasn't having negative thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’d love to see a picture on those headphones on that straight cock of yours "

I'm not just a piece of meat.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I doubt people do it for fun. It's likely something they can't control.

I do it and hate it. It is something I can't do anything about "

Have you ever tried anything to still thoughts , like properly giving it a go , a course/class etc not just a YouTube video.

I’ve never been an over thinker but have benefit massively from meditation, qigong and fasting.

It is possible to change your thinking

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I doubt people do it for fun. It's likely something they can't control.

It doesn't hurt to say one day all this will be over."

I'd change 'can't' to 'haven't yet'

I don't recall who said it but I do like the phrase....

Stop thinking start living.

So many missed opportunities because of fear ..

In saying that - it's easier for those who are already comfortable in many ways to realise they have done enough thinking about something.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

How do you know it's overthinking?

You can spend all day trying to work out just how much thinking is optimal. When you probably could have spent that time thinking about the thing in the first place.

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