FabSwingers.com forum: The “bonus hole”

By *leasureseekers123 OP Couple
over a year ago

Heathrow

Apparently a cancer charity have suggested that a vagina now be called a “bonus hole” so not to offend non binary or trans people.

Is there a chance that this is going just a tiny bit too far or is it ok?

What do you think?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Wait I thought the arse was the bonus hole

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By *weetkitten65Woman
over a year ago

Halifax

"Apparently a cancer charity have suggested that a vagina now be called a “bonus hole” so not to offend non binary or trans people.

Is there a chance that this is going just a tiny bit too far or is it ok?

What do you think?"

Crikey...

Surely a vagina is a vagina that's it's anatomical name.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It was suggested as a term for artificial vaginas, as far as I understand.

Women born women have vaginas

And trans who have had surgery have bonus holes.

Women can get cervical cancer and trans women don't.

It's not been suggested that a woman born a woman calls her vagina 'bonus hole'

Was it suggested on April 1st ?

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Apparently a cancer charity have suggested that a vagina now be called a “bonus hole” so not to offend non binary or trans people.

Is there a chance that this is going just a tiny bit too far or is it ok?

What do you think?"

I think it's sexist until they also suggest a 'bonus ball'.

*although they might get sued by the lottery people.......

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Personally I actually find that quite amusing as it is the only hole we don't share as we all have a pee hole

Not sure what it's got to do with cancer though.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"It was suggested as a term for artificial vaginas, as far as I understand.

Women born women have vaginas

And trans who have had surgery have bonus holes.

Women can get cervical cancer and trans women don't.

It's not been suggested that a woman born a woman calls her vagina 'bonus hole'

Was it suggested on April 1st ?"

It was suggested 3 years ago, the frothy mouthed element are trying to make it viral.

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

Yes great idea let’s make the whole world change what they have been calling something for as long as can remember as to not upset a few easily offended fuckiwits

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By *ackandJill1Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Yes great idea let’s make the whole world change what they have been calling something for as long as can remember as to not upset a few easily offended fuckiwits "

Succinctly put

bravo

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent

A hole is a hole is a hole….as they say!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Yes great idea let’s make the whole world change what they have been calling something for as long as can remember as to not upset a few easily offended fuckiwits

Succinctly put

bravo "

Although no one is being asked to change what they call anything.

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield

I’ve just started to read an article about this and I’m pretty offended. I will withhold a full on rant incase people are then offended by me being offended. But how about we just carry on calling it a vagina as that’s what it is! If someone has transitioned and it’s been adjusted then perhaps give that residual of the adjustment a new name.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I think artificial vagina would be less offensive to everyone.

Or fauxgina.

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Jeez, what next? You call yours what you want and I'll call mine what I want. If I call yours something you dont like, let me know and I'll call it by your preferred name and we'll all get along fine, understanding that people have preferences. Tell me what I should call mine and I'll call you an arsehole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait till Brucey hears about this...

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

How about fuck hole?

As that's all that it will be used for.

That's all mine is good for now, though.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

I'd just like one week without trans people being the target.

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By *leasureseekers123 OP Couple
over a year ago

Heathrow

"It was suggested as a term for artificial vaginas, as far as I understand.

Women born women have vaginas

And trans who have had surgery have bonus holes.

Women can get cervical cancer and trans women don't.

It's not been suggested that a woman born a woman calls her vagina 'bonus hole'

Was it suggested on April 1st ?"

In the glossary of terms for the charity it doesn’t mention artificial just “an alternative word for the vagina.”

Apparently they also suggested “front hole”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wait I thought the arse was the bonus hole"

This was my assumption after reading the thread title.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No one is being asked to change what they call their vagina.

The charity just pointed out that it is best to ASK THOSE who are having treatment how they want to refer to parts of their body.... bonus hole or front hole were simply suggestions..

People can call it what they want.

This thread will just descend into knee jerkers screaming that they are being harmed , ignored or forced to change. I bet my front bottom it will!

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By *leasureseekers123 OP Couple
over a year ago

Heathrow

"I'd just like one week without trans people being the target. "

I don’t think they’re being targeted. It’s people trying to second guess what other people think the term should be. This isn’t trans people suggesting it

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"Apparently a cancer charity have suggested that a vagina now be called a “bonus hole” so not to offend non binary or trans people.

Is there a chance that this is going just a tiny bit too far or is it ok?

What do you think?"

Well I'm glad I'm not called Brucey Bonus anymore

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

"I think artificial vagina would be less offensive to everyone.

Or fauxgina."

I vote for fauxgina , although as I have a vagina my opinion is probably moot.

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield

"It was suggested as a term for artificial vaginas, as far as I understand.

Women born women have vaginas

And trans who have had surgery have bonus holes.

Women can get cervical cancer and trans women don't.

It's not been suggested that a woman born a woman calls her vagina 'bonus hole'

Was it suggested on April 1st ?"

Not this article sadly, very clear it’s for trans men and Enbies

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Apparently a cancer charity have suggested that a vagina now be called a “bonus hole” so not to offend non binary or trans people.

Is there a chance that this is going just a tiny bit too far or is it ok?

What do you think?"

Too far it has a name already it's anatomically correct well vulva is but still, what's the penis going to be called a bonus stick.

Mrs

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"Wait till Brucey hears about this..."

That's a point....do they all belong to me now?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think artificial vagina would be less offensive to everyone.

Or fauxgina."

Fauxgina! Now that's got to stick surely!

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By *leasureseekers123 OP Couple
over a year ago

Heathrow

"Apparently a cancer charity have suggested that a vagina now be called a “bonus hole” so not to offend non binary or trans people.

Is there a chance that this is going just a tiny bit too far or is it ok?

What do you think?

Too far it has a name already it's anatomically correct well vulva is but still, what's the penis going to be called a bonus stick.

Mrs "

Bonus appendage or extra leg

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I really can't see a doctor referring to a trans vagina as bonus hole

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"I'd just like one week without trans people being the target.

I don’t think they’re being targeted. It’s people trying to second guess what other people think the term should be. This isn’t trans people suggesting it"

Maybe, my take on it is it's being hyped by the far right to infer that 'real women' are losing because of trans people. So yeah, trans people are the actual target here.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Funny thing is "bonus hole" seems very patronising, condescending, and almost as if it's a joke in the first place being used to make fun of trans women all in the name to pander and appear inclusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes use the term bonus hole for myself, but not bothered by vagina either. Being asked my preference of language in a medical setting would be refreshing, which is what I think this clinic was trying to improve on.

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

Think it should just be called a goal.

After all, quite a few ppl seem to think every hole is one.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Apparently a cancer charity have suggested that a vagina now be called a “bonus hole” so not to offend non binary or trans people.

Is there a chance that this is going just a tiny bit too far or is it ok?

What do you think?"

We may have to rewrite all those biology books. Sure why not, the world crazy enough anyway.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Yes great idea let’s make the whole world change what they have been calling something for as long as can remember as to not upset a few easily offended fuckiwits

Succinctly put

bravo "

I'm really glad feel wonderfully, comfortable in your own bodies.

I'm sorry that you can't try to empathise with someone who has never felt comfortable in their own body, who has been repulsed and suicidal because the changes in their body goes against everything they feel they should be... I can imagine it's not easy, I can't imagine what it feels like for you (other than freeing I guess, in a way I'll never feel)...

Let me try and help....have you ever had to wear something that left you constantly aware of how uncomfortable or embarrassed you were? (That peach ruffley bridesmaid dress, the joke Laderhosen etc etc)...

Try and imagine that, but all the time, 24/7 and it's not an outfit, it's your own skin.

The charity suggested possible terms that could be used with trans men and non-binary persons while talking about or having a smear/cancer treatments.

While I don't like the term personally and it makes me feel even less comfortable with *down there*, being non binary and having days of immense gender dysphoria, I can completely understand why changing the language used helps some people.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Apparently a cancer charity have suggested that a vagina now be called a “bonus hole” so not to offend non binary or trans people.

Is there a chance that this is going just a tiny bit too far or is it ok?

What do you think?"
too far, i just call a spade a spade i mean its for digging right

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Funny thing is "bonus hole" seems very patronising, condescending, and almost as if it's a joke in the first place being used to make fun of trans women all in the name to pander and appear inclusive. "

The charity deals with cervical cancer... The suggestion of change of language is around trans people.

But they are AFAB so trans men and non binary persons.

Nothing to do with trans women at all.

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By *leasureseekers123 OP Couple
over a year ago

Heathrow

"Yes great idea let’s make the whole world change what they have been calling something for as long as can remember as to not upset a few easily offended fuckiwits

Succinctly put

bravo

I'm really glad feel wonderfully, comfortable in your own bodies.

Try and imagine that, but all the time, 24/7 and it's not an outfit, it's your own skin.

The charity suggested possible terms that could be used with trans men and non-binary persons while talking about or having a smear/cancer treatments.

It’s more the choice of words “the bonus hole” almost has comedy overtones. At a very basic level it’s a crap phrase!

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By *leasureseekers123 OP Couple
over a year ago

Heathrow

"I'd just like one week without trans people being the target.

I don’t think they’re being targeted. It’s people trying to second guess what other people think the term should be. This isn’t trans people suggesting it

Maybe, my take on it is it's being hyped by the far right to infer that 'real women' are losing because of trans people. So yeah, trans people are the actual target here."

So anybody who disagrees with the phrase or the principle is “far right”.

I disagree with it but I’m certainly not far right!!!!

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"It’s more the choice of words “the bonus hole” almost has comedy overtones. At a very basic level it’s a crap phrase!

Oh like I said, I don't like it personally... I tend to go with *down there* and a vague gesture on days I'm struggling and perfectly fine with vagina on others.

But the trans gentleman above has commented on how he has used the term for himself in the past...

And sometimes the darkest of humour gets us through the bad times...

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By *histle do nicelyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow South

Outwith the word vagina I rarely talk to anybody that uses the same word for it...During sex it can be colourful words that are used.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought the "bonus hole" was the arsehole

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"Wait I thought the arse was the bonus hole"

This

The It just slipped in hole

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By *linky1Couple
over a year ago

Sittingbourne

Yeah let's give them a break.

Surely we can find someone else to vilify and make life harder for than it already is.

We can always rely on single Mothers to be a good target it's been a while.

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"Apparently a cancer charity have suggested that a vagina now be called a “bonus hole” so not to offend non binary or trans people.

Is there a chance that this is going just a tiny bit too far or is it ok?

What do you think?"

Is this real? If so it’s really a step too far what should we call the lungs?

It’s a name of a body part if they named it a ‘bonus’ it sounds like people with one have achieved something more than others.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"Yes great idea let’s make the whole world change what they have been calling something for as long as can remember as to not upset a few easily offended fuckiwits "

Ironically, you seem a bit offended.

Plus, the whole world?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"I'd just like one week without trans people being the target. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think artificial vagina would be less offensive to everyone.

Or fauxgina."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Foof' is more ridiculous.

Bonus hole is surely the arsehole.

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By *horesonWellesMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Another non binary trans guy here!

None of us are asking medical professionals to change their language for all their patients. Generally speaking we just want to be asked for our preferred terms so we're not put through unnecessary and often traumatic dysphoria, especially at an already vulnerable time - ie when receiving medical treatment.

Additionally, I don't know a single trans person who would EVER ask a medical professional to call their genitals a "bonus hole". It's a term that's mostly used by people assigned female at birth who have vaginas, often comically or sometimes in sexual scenarios, and some really dislike it!!

Unsurprisingly, this misrepresented SUGGESTION has followed the same path as the "chest feeding" debacle where language meant to support trans men is being used as an excuse to abuse trans women

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

"Yes great idea let’s make the whole world change what they have been calling something for as long as can remember as to not upset a few easily offended fuckiwits

Ironically, you seem a bit offended.

Plus, the whole world?

Not at all not sure how on Earth anyone can see any offence in a sarcastic post.

And yes the whole world was a deliberate over exaggeration, but I admit after reading the following posts I made the wrong assumption based on the limited information in the original post. I’m all for anyone doing are being whatever the fuck they want to be I just draw the line at the rest of society having to change to suit those and the offended by everything brigade

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Nice Post for my private note facility! X

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Bonus hole no matter the target audience sounds ridiculous in a clinical environment.

Like if someone said to me I was going to have a camera in my bonus hole I would think wtf? Just call it what it is

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"I'd just like one week without trans people being the target.

I don’t think they’re being targeted. It’s people trying to second guess what other people think the term should be. This isn’t trans people suggesting it

Maybe, my take on it is it's being hyped by the far right to infer that 'real women' are losing because of trans people. So yeah, trans people are the actual target here.

So anybody who disagrees with the phrase or the principle is “far right”.

I disagree with it but I’m certainly not far right!!!!"

Bluntly, you need to work on your comprehension skills or you're putting words into my mouth I didn't say.

I didn't say anyone who disagrees with the phrase is far right. What I said was this suggestion from 2020 is being hyped by the far right for the reason I cited above.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Nice Post for my private note facility! X

This plus ngl... two hot trans men added to my hotlist

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
over a year ago

Bedale

We have reached the point where life is so ridiculous, and the overton window so detached from observable scientific reality that the suggested newspeak from strong advocates on one side of the debate is indistinguishable from a theoretical derogatory term thought up by the strong detractors on the other side.

The real world is effectively all Poe's Law at this stage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice Post for my private note facility! X

This plus ngl... two hot trans men added to my hotlist "

Have made some additions to mine too

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By *horesonWellesMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Nice Post for my private note facility! X

This plus ngl... two hot trans men added to my hotlist

Have made some additions to mine too

Clearly we need more trans/queer posts to find each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep absolutely pathetic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice Post for my private note facility! X

This plus ngl... two hot trans men added to my hotlist

Have made some additions to mine too

Clearly we need more trans/queer posts to find each other

Absolutely, there are some trans threads floating about the forum somewhere I must remember to be more active in them x

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Bonus hole does sound a bit ridiculous... Like something from a game show.

It's a bit trivial.

But, it's not really my place and it's not really my problem

So who cares what I think

If you like bonus hole, good for you

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