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By *uscle88 OP   Man
over a year ago

Potters Bar

I’m constantly conversing with ladies on here who say they’d like to meet socially or casually and when it comes to arranging meets socially at first there’s no intention whatsoever. Seriously it’s ridiculous how some ladies are so dishonest and lie on here

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
over a year ago

Bourne lincs

And cpls. Plenty of talk and looking and that's it

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

Women of Fab, know your place!!

How dare you let your own desires and preferences get in the way of the OP getting his end away!!

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

Oh they meet op, just not you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And men. They say all the right things and the when it comes it they go silent and don't show up.

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By *uscle88 OP   Man
over a year ago

Potters Bar


"Oh they meet op, just not you! "

Ay?

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By *uscle88 OP   Man
over a year ago

Potters Bar


"And men. They say all the right things and the when it comes it they go silent and don't show up.

"

Silly lads if that’s the case

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By *urio77Man
over a year ago

northampton

No single straight men wanted seems to be the norm these days. Each to there own and good luck to them all. Didn’t realise I had become the minority.

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By *uscle88 OP   Man
over a year ago

Potters Bar


"No single straight men wanted seems to be the norm these days. Each to there own and good luck to them all. Didn’t realise I had become the minority. "

Seems that way.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

The fact that you're "constantly conversing with ladies" is in itself a quantum leap to what most other men could achieve on here.

If these chats of yours aren't leading anywhere or bearing any fruit, then perhaps you need to re-evaluate your approach or sow a different type of seed.

Women do meet.

They just aren't meeting •you•.

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)


"Women of Fab, know your place!!

How dare you let your own desires and preferences get in the way of the OP getting his end away!! "

Totally

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

Funnily enough the men are the same, not one meet off here , my conclusion is they like to talk about it , have a wank then lose interest.

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I’m constantly conversing with ladies on here who say they’d like to meet socially or casually and when it comes to arranging meets socially at first there’s no intention whatsoever. Seriously it’s ridiculous how some ladies are so dishonest and lie on here "

You actually get replies to your messages? You are doing remarkably better than most of us single men on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

find someone who does want to meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to talk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 70% of the single guys on here shit themselves at the mention of actually meeting a couple.

It’s a wank fantasy for most as they’re sat next to the Mrs watching the soaps.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I’m constantly conversing with ladies on here who say they’d like to meet socially or casually and when it comes to arranging meets socially at first there’s no intention whatsoever. Seriously it’s ridiculous how some ladies are so dishonest and lie on here "

It’s not that they have any intention of not meeting…. It’s that they have no intention of meeting YOU.. that’s the difference!

I hate to be the blunt one….. but if you are having lots of issues, the common denominator in this is YOU!

So… change your game, up your game, do something different, change the way you go about selecting people…..

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results

Rather than pointing the finger at other people, how about a bit of introspection! Look in the mirror and ask yourself what can you do differently!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women of Fab, know your place!!

How dare you let your own desires and preferences get in the way of the OP getting his end away!! "

Haha…my bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If that's constantly happening then the one constant is you...maybe you say something that puts them off or they get a bad feeling from you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"About 70% of the single guys on here shit themselves at the mention of actually meeting a couple.

It’s a wank fantasy for most as they’re sat next to the Mrs watching the soaps. "

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Agree with the 70% of Males talk the talk but after they've finished having endless wanks over pictures and then reality bites they soon back off and most aren't even single anyway ??? and then even more can;t do a "Social" and don't realise that body language doesn't lie ?? Mrs4 likens most to a slathering dog when it's food put out ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No single straight men wanted seems to be the norm these days. Each to there own and good luck to them all. Didn’t realise I had become the minority. "

That’s not true. Lots of people including ourselves are looking for just that..but it’s the way the person comes across is the main factor for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m constantly conversing with ladies on here who say they’d like to meet socially or casually and when it comes to arranging meets socially at first there’s no intention whatsoever. Seriously it’s ridiculous how some ladies are so dishonest and lie on here "

I am wondering how I missed the clue that this was the incel group.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I’ve never come across that kind of dishonesty on here. People tend to be very direct, keen to meet, a simple no, or just wanting to chat and see how things go.

Maybe it’s you OP

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"I’m constantly conversing with ladies on here who say they’d like to meet socially or casually and when it comes to arranging meets socially at first there’s no intention whatsoever. Seriously it’s ridiculous how some ladies are so dishonest and lie on here

It’s not that they have any intention of not meeting…. It’s that they have no intention of meeting YOU.. that’s the difference!

I hate to be the blunt one….. but if you are having lots of issues, the common denominator in this is YOU!

So… change your game, up your game, do something different, change the way you go about selecting people…..

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results

Rather than pointing the finger at other people, how about a bit of introspection! Look in the mirror and ask yourself what can you do differently!!!! "

OP Fabio has said exactly what I was going to say. Insulting people with your status update won't do you any favours either !

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss


"Funnily enough the men are the same, not one meet off here , my conclusion is they like to talk about it , have a wank then lose interest. "

This....so many instant gratification hunters

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

meat back on the menu?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's true.

I get no meets.

It's impossible.

Time wasters everywhere.

Yup yup.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See going off your pics I’d meet you

But the words… they spoil it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's true.

I get no meets.

It's impossible.

Time wasters everywhere.

Yup yup.

"

I’m sure you do just fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone gets messed about on here sometimes and gets their time wasted. I don’t think it’s specific to any group.

We’ve been full on stood up and ghosted by a couple we’d been speaking to for a few weeks, did it all by the book facetime etc and even spoken to them that day!

Don’t let it get you down or put you off cos I can assure you there are some amazing people on here who are worth all the time and effort in the world!

Mr

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
over a year ago

In the clouds

They probably do..but not with you!

I have a life where I can't be selfish and just drop everything, and I'd want to know a person well before meeting. That's just me.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"See going off your pics I’d meet you

But the words… they spoil it all "

This!

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

The solution to being ‘messed about’ is not to engage in long conversations. Figure out what each other wants then get to a social meet quickly.

The longer the chat goes on sometimes then the more likely you’re not going to meet or the other person is just getting a kick out of online chat.

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I've not done too bad on this site to be fair.. some may question why my meets are distances away and that's because those local aren't interested so travel it is then.. but it is worth it if you connect so well with that person though

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

I’d say 90% of the blokes on here let down the 10% of genuine single guys.

Got nothing to do with sexuality etc, why should they waste their time on complete chancers? One couple I met with recently were surprised I even turned up for a social, so says a lot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone gets messed about on here sometimes and gets their time wasted. I don’t think it’s specific to any group.

"

I think that I have been lucky, never been messed around or stood up or ghosted. Just asking for trouble now!

There are some lovely people on here and I have some good friends who I chat with regularly and meet with socially as a result of Fab.

Never really think its a good idea to come on here and complain about lack of meets, it always sounds as though the person has a sense of entitlement and thinks it is unfair.

To quote Blackadder:

"But you know Baldrick, the world isn’t

fair. If it was, things like this wouldn’t happen would they?" (hits

Baldrick around the back of the head)

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"The solution to being ‘messed about’ is not to engage in long conversations. Figure out what each other wants then get to a social meet quickly.

The longer the chat goes on sometimes then the more likely you’re not going to meet or the other person is just getting a kick out of online chat. "

And yet my solution is the exact opposite.

I've never been ghosted or had a no show in 7 years here but any meets where I've met quickly have been very underwhelming and pointless.

Then again I only meet socially and in many cases I know it won't go beyond the social even before we meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's true.

I get no meets.

It's impossible.

Time wasters everywhere.

Yup yup.

I’m sure you do just fine "

Who told you?

I've not published those verifications.

Trying to look, humble.

Fuck.

I mean, I'm shy...

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"No single straight men wanted seems to be the norm these days. Each to there own and good luck to them all. Didn’t realise I had become the minority. "

Rubbish. Lots of us meet single men. There are just so many of you and so many that don't bother reading profiles to see if they are a fit. Or they target the hotlist and wonder why they don't get a reply.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"I’m constantly conversing with ladies on here who say they’d like to meet socially or casually and when it comes to arranging meets socially at first there’s no intention whatsoever. Seriously it’s ridiculous how some ladies are so dishonest and lie on here "

Entitled much!!! No ones owes you anything. Have you ever thought it maybe your approach to obtaining a meet plenty meet. Drop the expectations that you place on women, of fab in general. Remember your a drift in a sea of cock.

There is more to fab than fab itself, get to organised socials and clubs. Always better to meet in person.

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

Totally unrelated to you not getting meets but the reserve rights bit on your profile is the wrong way round than intended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You definitely show the old school manners in this post

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Block and report these time wasters

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


"You definitely show the old school manners in this post "

Not just in this post, but also his status update. Very immature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Totally unrelated to you not getting meets but the reserve rights bit on your profile is the wrong way round than intended "

Had to look up his status to see, now he probably has lots of hits and will think this is the way to attract women (er, well, maybe not just women given I looked).

It is quite funny: "I do not reserve the right for anyone to use them in any which way"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m constantly conversing with ladies on here who say they’d like to meet socially or casually and when it comes to arranging meets socially at first there’s no intention whatsoever. Seriously it’s ridiculous how some ladies are so dishonest and lie on here "

A little bit if advise…if you want to meet with people maybe don’t call them idiots kinda gets of to the wrong start lol

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss


"Totally unrelated to you not getting meets but the reserve rights bit on your profile is the wrong way round than intended

Had to look up his status to see, now he probably has lots of hits and will think this is the way to attract women (er, well, maybe not just women given I looked).

It is quite funny: "I do not reserve the right for anyone to use them in any which way""

This is why so many do the help me with my profile threads, its guaranteed to draw attention to their profile

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By *idnight RamblerMan
over a year ago

Pershore

You might discover their guilty little secrets

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"I’m constantly conversing with ladies on here who say they’d like to meet socially or casually and when it comes to arranging meets socially at first there’s no intention whatsoever. Seriously it’s ridiculous how some ladies are so dishonest and lie on here "

Maybe you over cooked your estimate. I’d sharpen my pencil if I were you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Constantly conversing with women" already has me judging the factuality of this post

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By *neforutoMan
over a year ago

Fantasy land in the SW


" Agree with the 70% of Males talk the talk but after they've finished having endless wanks over pictures and then reality bites they soon back off and most aren't even single anyway ??? and then even more can;t do a "Social" and don't realise that body language doesn't lie ?? Mrs4 likens most to a slathering dog when it's food put out ?? "

Love it, slathering dog

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"And men. They say all the right things and the when it comes it they go silent and don't show up.

"

Given the ratio on here could we say more men don't show/only talk the talk than us females who do meet then??!

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).


"Totally unrelated to you not getting meets but the reserve rights bit on your profile is the wrong way round than intended

Had to look up his status to see, now he probably has lots of hits and will think this is the way to attract women (er, well, maybe not just women given I looked).

It is quite funny: "I do not reserve the right for anyone to use them in any which way""

It's the Clint Eastwood version of reserve rights. "Any which way but loose".

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By *he Kat 666Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury


"Totally unrelated to you not getting meets but the reserve rights bit on your profile is the wrong way round than intended "

Hahaha, I came on to say just this!!

Reminds me of being a bratty kid again "no mum, I not done nuffink" guilty plea right there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It is quite funny: "I do not reserve the right for anyone to use them in any which way"

It's the Clint Eastwood version of reserve rights. "Any which way but loose". "

Is OP Clyde?

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Yeah this isn't gender based, everyone is capable of having this happen to them whatever they are looking for

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By *astandFeistyCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

It's not exclusive though.

Mrs was stood up just the other day for a social. Checked in 2 hours before, all was well apparently and then she enjoyed her cup of tea on her own because he didn't show and blocked her on both here and WhatsApp.

It's just dickheads in general.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Being on here or speaking to you doesn't make someone obligated to meet you.

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By *onnyJohnMan
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I’m constantly conversing with ladies on here who say they’d like to meet socially or casually and when it comes to arranging meets socially at first there’s no intention whatsoever. Seriously it’s ridiculous how some ladies are so dishonest and lie on here "

Its Fab, people are pretty much free to say and do as they please, best thing to do is grow a thick skin and just accept it..

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"It's true.

I get no meets.

It's impossible.

Time wasters everywhere.

Yup yup.

"

See you later. We won't keep you too long though as know you have a busy weekend ahead.

Fox has got you that new black book too with the extra pages.

Tart

A

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London


"Being on here or speaking to you doesn't make someone obligated to meet you. "

Will you meet me though?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Are you 100% sure you're talking to women?

How hot are they?

I have a friend who went on Tinder just for the attention.

She had no intention of meeting anyone from there, but loved the flattery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is loads of hurdles that both men and women have to put up with but people have to remember

People have jobs

Have family's

Are cheating

So it's hard to arrange a meet

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

They may look at your status update and shake head and move on.

We’ve met quite a few single women - they very much meet. But they are choosy in who they meet because they can be.

K

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By *erald 1999Man
over a year ago

carmarthen


"Funnily enough the men are the same, not one meet off here , my conclusion is they like to talk about it , have a wank then lose interest. "

Wow they are missing out.....gorgeous lady

I think its 6 of one and half a dozen of the other

Anyone that's been on for over a year no veris ...you've got to accept it might not happen

Good luck all

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

Oh crumbs!

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I’m constantly conversing with ladies on here who say they’d like to meet socially or casually and when it comes to arranging meets socially at first there’s no intention whatsoever. Seriously it’s ridiculous how some ladies are so dishonest and lie on here "
I'm disgusted that they'd lie

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's often about meeting at the right time, which can be when we're comfortable there's a match or when we have free time. Some of us are slower to meet than others.

Certainly it's wrong to be lied to, about intentions to meet.

You have to refine your searches and choices, based on the patterns seen from your experience.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Im a guy with no intent to meet im ok with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One day the technology will evolve so much that the site will automatically detect lies and kick you out. We shall live in hope.

And on a more serious note - whatever intentions someone had, don't forget they can change their mind. We just have to deal with our own reaction to that.

T.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d say 90% of the blokes on here let down the 10% of genuine single guys.

Got nothing to do with sexuality etc, why should they waste their time on complete chancers? One couple I met with recently were surprised I even turned up for a social, so says a lot! "

Yep

We agreed to a coffee with a guy that lived about ten minutes away as he was desperate to get a verification as genuine.

We agreed a time and place local and he bloody well stood us up.

Messaged later with a bullshit excuse and asked if we’d still verify him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d say 90% of the blokes on here let down the 10% of genuine single guys.

Got nothing to do with sexuality etc, why should they waste their time on complete chancers? One couple I met with recently were surprised I even turned up for a social, so says a lot!

Yep

We agreed to a coffee with a guy that lived about ten minutes away as he was desperate to get a verification as genuine.

We agreed a time and place local and he bloody well stood us up.

Messaged later with a bullshit excuse and asked if we’d still verify him! "

Wow. The cheek!

T.

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By *astandFeistyCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth


"I’d say 90% of the blokes on here let down the 10% of genuine single guys.

Got nothing to do with sexuality etc, why should they waste their time on complete chancers? One couple I met with recently were surprised I even turned up for a social, so says a lot!

Yep

We agreed to a coffee with a guy that lived about ten minutes away as he was desperate to get a verification as genuine.

We agreed a time and place local and he bloody well stood us up.

Messaged later with a bullshit excuse and asked if we’d still verify him! "

At least you got bullshit, Mrs just got blocked

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

A lot of women are only here for the dopamine hits. Dopamine is addictive, if someone likes their pic or they get compliments a reward signal goes to the brain. It keeps them coming back for more, like a drug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of women are only here for the dopamine hits. Dopamine is addictive, if someone likes their pic or they get compliments a reward signal goes to the brain. It keeps them coming back for more, like a drug

"

*crunches. I dont think this dopamine's working. What else you got.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you 100% sure you're talking to women?

How hot are they?

I have a friend who went on Tinder just for the attention.

She had no intention of meeting anyone from there, but loved the flattery."

That's why I'm here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m constantly conversing with ladies on here who say they’d like to meet socially or casually and when it comes to arranging meets socially at first there’s no intention whatsoever. Seriously it’s ridiculous how some ladies are so dishonest and lie on here "

Do they say they want to meet *you*?

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island


"I’d say 90% of the blokes on here let down the 10% of genuine single guys.

Got nothing to do with sexuality etc, why should they waste their time on complete chancers? One couple I met with recently were surprised I even turned up for a social, so says a lot!

Yep

We agreed to a coffee with a guy that lived about ten minutes away as he was desperate to get a verification as genuine.

We agreed a time and place local and he bloody well stood us up.

Messaged later with a bullshit excuse and asked if we’d still verify him! "

That’s fricken poor on the guys part! And they wonder why they don’t get any meets!?

Sorry to read ya had a wasted time!

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Got to be honest I can't be bothered to meet at the moment.

I think it's just human? I mean sometimes people want to talk, sometimes they want to meet and other times they want to fuck like the world ends at midnight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the fact you're in conversation with them is a great start OP. I noticed that I can be quite timid and not ask to meet our of fear of being too forward so the chats would fizzle out. Maybe try and ask and see when they would like to meet and if they keep giving you excuses or change the subject, just knock it on the head and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of women are only here for the dopamine hits. Dopamine is addictive, if someone likes their pic or they get compliments a reward signal goes to the brain. It keeps them coming back for more, like a drug

"

Nah, we've all got ADHD on here. That Dopamine is not getting through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of women are only here for the dopamine hits. Dopamine is addictive, if someone likes their pic or they get compliments a reward signal goes to the brain. It keeps them coming back for more, like a drug

"

Away and scratch your bollocks that's utter dross. I'm here for my own reasons and couldn't give a rats arse about 'likes'. My pics are there to show the potential not for daft 'likes'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of women are only here for the dopamine hits. Dopamine is addictive, if someone likes their pic or they get compliments a reward signal goes to the brain. It keeps them coming back for more, like a drug

Away and scratch your bollocks that's utter dross. I'm here for my own reasons and couldn't give a rats arse about 'likes'. My pics are there to show the potential not for daft 'likes' "

No no, it's true.

If we can't get meets, it's because everyone else chooses to not meet, rather than chooses to not meet us.

That belief is far more gentle on the ego.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

It's not them....its you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fact that you're "constantly conversing with ladies" is in itself a quantum leap to what most other men could achieve on here.

If these chats of yours aren't leading anywhere or bearing any fruit, then perhaps you need to re-evaluate your approach or sow a different type of seed.

Women do meet.

They just aren't meeting •you•."

That is all that needs to be said really plus the OP has just made matters even worse for himself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can we sit them all in one corner, along with the couples profiles that are really solo men, add to those the men that are here for the pictures and the fantasising.

Fact is, this site is more than a hook up site.

There's the chatrooms, hot pictures, forum, clubs section and more.

We're here for us, not anyone else, we just hope on our trip that we'll find like minded.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"And men. They say all the right things and the when it comes it they go silent and don't show up.

"

Or abuse you when you say no how dare we say no eh!

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Wonder how different it would have gone if the op had a vagina

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"I’m constantly conversing with ladies on here who say they’d like to meet socially or casually and when it comes to arranging meets socially at first there’s no intention whatsoever. Seriously it’s ridiculous how some ladies are so dishonest and lie on here

You actually get replies to your messages? You are doing remarkably better than most of us single men on here. "

Shame a tidy guy like you is so far away as we would deffo meet you dave. Joanne.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"I’m constantly conversing with ladies on here who say they’d like to meet socially or casually and when it comes to arranging meets socially at first there’s no intention whatsoever. Seriously it’s ridiculous how some ladies are so dishonest and lie on here

It’s not that they have any intention of not meeting…. It’s that they have no intention of meeting YOU.. that’s the difference!

I hate to be the blunt one….. but if you are having lots of issues, the common denominator in this is YOU!

So… change your game, up your game, do something different, change the way you go about selecting people…..

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results

Rather than pointing the finger at other people, how about a bit of introspection! Look in the mirror and ask yourself what can you do differently!!!! "

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a sense of entitlement in your profile/status

Alot of men think that as long as you're tall, 'fit' and are well endowed then that's all you need to be able to meet endless amounts of women on here and its really not the case at all

Attitude and how you speak to people is the most important part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wonder how different it would have gone if the op had a vagina"

We know. People don't want to admit it, but we know

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By *ill74Man
over a year ago

New forest area


"I’m constantly conversing with ladies on here who say they’d like to meet socially or casually and when it comes to arranging meets socially at first there’s no intention whatsoever. Seriously it’s ridiculous how some ladies are so dishonest and lie on here "

Yeah, you're right it's everyone elses fault.

Either you're looking for attention. Or have an inflated ego.

Everyone has choices. Maybe you are making their choice easy.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Looking at your status the block buttons are being pressed by the hundreds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of women are only here for the dopamine hits. Dopamine is addictive, if someone likes their pic or they get compliments a reward signal goes to the brain. It keeps them coming back for more, like a drug

Away and scratch your bollocks that's utter dross. I'm here for my own reasons and couldn't give a rats arse about 'likes'. My pics are there to show the potential not for daft 'likes'

No no, it's true.

If we can't get meets, it's because everyone else chooses to not meet, rather than chooses to not meet us.

That belief is far more gentle on the ego. "

You could be on to something there . I get that it's a pain in the bum at times but some of the rationales put forth at times make me squeal lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And men. They say all the right things and the when it comes it they go silent and don't show up.

"

Not all guys ..some guys do actually want to meet ...they do .

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I meet men all the time, as long as they don't come across as self entitled pricks

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"A lot of women are only here for the dopamine hits. Dopamine is addictive, if someone likes their pic or they get compliments a reward signal goes to the brain. It keeps them coming back for more, like a drug

"

Never have I read such utter bollocks. Sorry but this is just a crock of shite. I aint even going to break it down any further. Because it just aint worth it.

Of course getting a fab on a pic is just like crack.....

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"A lot of women are only here for the dopamine hits. Dopamine is addictive, if someone likes their pic or they get compliments a reward signal goes to the brain. It keeps them coming back for more, like a drug

"

Absolute bollocks

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"I’m constantly conversing with ladies on here who say they’d like to meet socially or casually and when it comes to arranging meets socially at first there’s no intention whatsoever. Seriously it’s ridiculous how some ladies are so dishonest and lie on here "

chances are Its a sneaky sad sack posting pictures of his wife and Jacking himself off into a stupor knowing there are guys who desire his wife! and he thinks we don t know ?

the beauty of Fab Swingers !! don t forget to to pay your subscriptions

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Show them the dick lol

They’ll come round

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By *olarMan
over a year ago

woking


"Everyone gets messed about on here sometimes and gets their time wasted. I don’t think it’s specific to any group.

We’ve been full on stood up and ghosted by a couple we’d been speaking to for a few weeks, did it all by the book facetime etc and even spoken to them that day!

Don’t let it get you down or put you off cos I can assure you there are some amazing people on here who are worth all the time and effort in the world!

Absolutely echo this comment. Whilst also bearing in mind that a few profiles may not actually be what they are advertising and they won’t meet as they don’t actually exist

Mr"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m constantly conversing with ladies on here who say they’d like to meet socially or casually and when it comes to arranging meets socially at first there’s no intention whatsoever. Seriously it’s ridiculous how some ladies are so dishonest and lie on here "

Of course if you say that there are some women here that are couch surfers who never have any intention of meeting , that they only want their ego fed well then you are leaving yourself open to criticism...but personally speaking some women that l have chatted to never mention a meet in chatting simply because they never have any intention of doing so , so they stop chatting or block because the end of that particular road is reached , they probably go onto someone else and start again... Timewasters... sad but true.

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By *tsJustKateWoman
over a year ago

London


"I’m constantly conversing with ladies on here who say they’d like to meet socially or casually and when it comes to arranging meets socially at first there’s no intention whatsoever. Seriously it’s ridiculous how some ladies are so dishonest and lie on here "

Just as many guys are the same!!

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

More anger.. Definitely more anger is needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More anger.. Definitely more anger is needed"

Many become cynical here.

It's a vicious circle that each one of us need to work on to make the changes.

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"It's true.

I get no meets.

It's impossible.

Time wasters everywhere.

Yup yup.

"

With upmost respect, it's always the single males with loads of meets who mock the rest of us who can't get the experience of a meet. I suppose it's easy to judge from a position most of us will never achieve.

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By *estinysswingersCouple
over a year ago

Worsley

Happens everywhere online. This is why we prefer clubs meets in the main.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of women are only here for the dopamine hits. Dopamine is addictive, if someone likes their pic or they get compliments a reward signal goes to the brain. It keeps them coming back for more, like a drug

"

What absolute bollocks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's true.

I get no meets.

It's impossible.

Time wasters everywhere.

Yup yup.

With upmost respect, it's always the single males with loads of meets who mock the rest of us who can't get the experience of a meet. I suppose it's easy to judge from a position most of us will never achieve. "

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london


"And men. They say all the right things and the when it comes it they go silent and don't show up.

"

I must not have been saying the right things then

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london


"It's true.

I get no meets.

It's impossible.

Time wasters everywhere.

Yup yup.

With upmost respect, it's always the single males with loads of meets who mock the rest of us who can't get the experience of a meet. I suppose it's easy to judge from a position most of us will never achieve.

"

Now that emoji made me laugh

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"A lot of women are only here for the dopamine hits. Dopamine is addictive, if someone likes their pic or they get compliments a reward signal goes to the brain. It keeps them coming back for more, like a drug

"

You got me

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By *lakeyboyMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Lots of good advice here for anyone with the same "How dare they do Fab differently to how I want them to do it" gripe which happens a lot. Hey, its hard for guys on here, we all know that. But some good pearls of wisdom in this thread.

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By *exySwitches203Couple
over a year ago

Felixstowe

As a woman who was on here as a single before I met Mr, a few words of advice; don’t immediately assume they want to meet just because they are messaging you, some people on here like to build a connection and see if there is chemistry, some like to just fuck. Everyone has different wants on here and different attractions. Also, maybe some changes to the profile, change up the photos and the text.

Different women like different things but I personally like a single guy that was a gentlemen but with a filthy and cheeky side.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"It's true.

I get no meets.

It's impossible.

Time wasters everywhere.

Yup yup.

With upmost respect, it's always the single males with loads of meets who mock the rest of us who can't get the experience of a meet. I suppose it's easy to judge from a position most of us will never achieve. "

Maybe those single males who don't get meets. Need to check their approach on here, instead of looking externally for the problem, see that the problem lies with them, as their the only person present in every single interaction they have on fab, making them the common denomator

Instead maybe ask for advice from successful single males as to how they approach fab.

Sorry if this is a bit blunt and to the point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a woman who was on here as a single before I met Mr, a few words of advice; don’t immediately assume they want to meet just because they are messaging you, some people on here like to build a connection and see if there is chemistry, some like to just fuck. Everyone has different wants on here and different attractions. Also, maybe some changes to the profile, change up the photos and the text.

Different women like different things but I personally like a single guy that was a gentlemen but with a filthy and cheeky side. "

Hey .. absolutely ..what you say is true but experience has shown that some women will never ever meet simply because they don't want to..they never had any intention of doing so , a week of chatting is loads for anyone to know if they want to meet ..how would you not know after a week of constant chatting ? ..after a week if there's nothing mentioned about meeting then it's goodnight shirt...l wouldn't waste anyone's time so why would l want others to waste mine ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a woman who was on here as a single before I met Mr, a few words of advice; don’t immediately assume they want to meet just because they are messaging you, some people on here like to build a connection and see if there is chemistry, some like to just fuck. Everyone has different wants on here and different attractions. Also, maybe some changes to the profile, change up the photos and the text.

Different women like different things but I personally like a single guy that was a gentlemen but with a filthy and cheeky side.

Hey .. absolutely ..what you say is true but experience has shown that some women will never ever meet simply because they don't want to..they never had any intention of doing so , a week of chatting is loads for anyone to know if they want to meet ..how would you not know after a week of constant chatting ? ..after a week if there's nothing mentioned about meeting then it's goodnight shirt...l wouldn't waste anyone's time so why would l want others to waste mine ?? "

A week may be loads to you but that doesn't mean it's loads to everyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd do the same after reading your status

Muscles and big cock mean noubt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the more ‘interesting’ threads, with a premise the likes I used to see 9 years ago.

Good to see some things never change lol

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By *tarkersandcrutchCouple
over a year ago

TELFORD

We have the same issue with meets. Some are on for a cheap thrill.

Just gotta spot the genuine ones.

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By *eediousMan
over a year ago

Smallville


"Funnily enough the men are the same, not one meet off here , my conclusion is they like to talk about it , have a wank then lose interest. "

But your profile says you don’t meet single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a woman who was on here as a single before I met Mr, a few words of advice; don’t immediately assume they want to meet just because they are messaging you, some people on here like to build a connection and see if there is chemistry, some like to just fuck. Everyone has different wants on here and different attractions. Also, maybe some changes to the profile, change up the photos and the text.

Different women like different things but I personally like a single guy that was a gentlemen but with a filthy and cheeky side.

Hey .. absolutely ..what you say is true but experience has shown that some women will never ever meet simply because they don't want to..they never had any intention of doing so , a week of chatting is loads for anyone to know if they want to meet ..how would you not know after a week of constant chatting ? ..after a week if there's nothing mentioned about meeting then it's goodnight shirt...l wouldn't waste anyone's time so why would l want others to waste mine ??

A week may be loads to you but that doesn't mean it's loads to everyone else "

I never said that but if you're chatting to a person every day for a week,if there's no mention of a meet in that time , well then it's time to move on , imho even it's a while down the road there is still a mention of meet somewhere along the line in that time , a person knows after a few days if they want to meet the other person in a safe , public place for a social , do not string the other person along for the sake of it ,in a week both have exchanged photos etc ..both know if they want to meet or not ..what else is there to know after a week if both want to meet ??? To me a week of constant chatting is enough...if a person doesn't know here after a week ..move on ...so what you're saying here is that after a week of constant chatting , photos exchanged etc you wouldn't know if you wanted to meet a person ? Tbh l think once a person has exchanged photos they know if they want to meet the other person or not but that's just my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd do the same after reading your status

Muscles and big cock mean noubt "

absolutely correct, l fully agree, if there's no interest or connection, that's it , move on , regardless of what a person thinks, both have to want to meet, as regards meeting people how long after chatting , photo exchange etc do you know if you want to meet that person ?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"As a woman who was on here as a single before I met Mr, a few words of advice; don’t immediately assume they want to meet just because they are messaging you, some people on here like to build a connection and see if there is chemistry, some like to just fuck. Everyone has different wants on here and different attractions. Also, maybe some changes to the profile, change up the photos and the text.

Different women like different things but I personally like a single guy that was a gentlemen but with a filthy and cheeky side.

Hey .. absolutely ..what you say is true but experience has shown that some women will never ever meet simply because they don't want to..they never had any intention of doing so , a week of chatting is loads for anyone to know if they want to meet ..how would you not know after a week of constant chatting ? ..after a week if there's nothing mentioned about meeting then it's goodnight shirt...l wouldn't waste anyone's time so why would l want others to waste mine ??

A week may be loads to you but that doesn't mean it's loads to everyone else

I never said that but if you're chatting to a person every day for a week,if there's no mention of a meet in that time , well then it's time to move on , imho even it's a while down the road there is still a mention of meet somewhere along the line in that time , a person knows after a few days if they want to meet the other person in a safe , public place for a social , do not string the other person along for the sake of it ,in a week both have exchanged photos etc ..both know if they want to meet or not ..what else is there to know after a week if both want to meet ??? To me a week of constant chatting is enough...if a person doesn't know here after a week ..move on ...so what you're saying here is that after a week of constant chatting , photos exchanged etc you wouldn't know if you wanted to meet a person ? Tbh l think once a person has exchanged photos they know if they want to meet the other person or not but that's just my opinion."

You are making a lot of assumptions there.

Firstly I don't meet anyone unless I've been chatting for a number of weeks and secondly I don't exchange photos.

Mainly because some people are happy to share them with others but also because a flat 2D image of someone tells me absolutely nothing.

I make the decision to meet or not based on a many things including how they converse.

They could have the most amazing pics but be an unpleasant person.

My approach has always worked for me but I don't and won't give advice to anyone else on here because then all they are doing is box ticking and playing a role.

I have chatted to lots of women over the years who have no interest in meeting anyone and they only use the site to pass the time or chat to interesting people.

I don't have any issue with that and that has never put me off chatting to them.

I've never considered any interaction here as time wasted.

I have met a number of women where I had already decided beforehand that it would never go beyond a coffee but again that didn't put me off chatting and being social.

I'm not interested in meeting currently and that is stated clearly in my profile.

I don't send messages so every conversation in the last 3 years has been started by women who have read that and were still happy to get in touch to say hello.

Too many people are quick to tell others what they are doing wrong or want to change the site rules to out people who aren't just here for the sex.

If only they would focus on their own journey and stop dictating to others it might be a better all round experience.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Looking at your status the block buttons are being pressed by the hundreds."
1000s even

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By *eally_RosieWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I think the OP’s point is frustration at conversations that go nowhere, not a whine about lack of meets.

Looking at his veris I’m sure he’s doing just fine.

There are a huge amount of guys on here with no intention of meeting, and it can be disheartening. It stands to reason that it’s the same for guys too.

Just part and parcel of Fab. Personally, I tend to move on very quickly if there’s no sign of arranging something.

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By *esthetic21Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/Bristol


"Wonder how different it would have gone if the op had a vagina"
there would have been no animosity whatsoever. Unlike this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a woman who was on here as a single before I met Mr, a few words of advice; don’t immediately assume they want to meet just because they are messaging you, some people on here like to build a connection and see if there is chemistry, some like to just fuck. Everyone has different wants on here and different attractions. Also, maybe some changes to the profile, change up the photos and the text.

Different women like different things but I personally like a single guy that was a gentlemen but with a filthy and cheeky side.

Hey .. absolutely ..what you say is true but experience has shown that some women will never ever meet simply because they don't want to..they never had any intention of doing so , a week of chatting is loads for anyone to know if they want to meet ..how would you not know after a week of constant chatting ? ..after a week if there's nothing mentioned about meeting then it's goodnight shirt...l wouldn't waste anyone's time so why would l want others to waste mine ??

A week may be loads to you but that doesn't mean it's loads to everyone else

I never said that but if you're chatting to a person every day for a week,if there's no mention of a meet in that time , well then it's time to move on , imho even it's a while down the road there is still a mention of meet somewhere along the line in that time , a person knows after a few days if they want to meet the other person in a safe , public place for a social , do not string the other person along for the sake of it ,in a week both have exchanged photos etc ..both know if they want to meet or not ..what else is there to know after a week if both want to meet ??? To me a week of constant chatting is enough...if a person doesn't know here after a week ..move on ...so what you're saying here is that after a week of constant chatting , photos exchanged etc you wouldn't know if you wanted to meet a person ? Tbh l think once a person has exchanged photos they know if they want to meet the other person or not but that's just my opinion."

A week? Fuck I owe a lot of guys sex.

Buy back to the op, conversations that don't go anywhere...

This is why I've just given up talking to guys, they think because you exchange a few messages that sex is guaranteed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wonder how different it would have gone if the op had a vaginathere would have been no animosity whatsoever. Unlike this thread"

Also true.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"Wonder how different it would have gone if the op had a vaginathere would have been no animosity whatsoever. Unlike this thread"

True story,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's true.

I get no meets.

It's impossible.

Time wasters everywhere.

Yup yup.

With upmost respect, it's always the single males with loads of meets who mock the rest of us who can't get the experience of a meet. I suppose it's easy to judge from a position most of us will never achieve.

Maybe those single males who don't get meets. Need to check their approach on here, instead of looking externally for the problem, see that the problem lies with them, as their the only person present in every single interaction they have on fab, making them the common denomator

Instead maybe ask for advice from successful single males as to how they approach fab.

Sorry if this is a bit blunt and to the point. "

So close

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Funnily enough the men are the same, not one meet off here , my conclusion is they like to talk about it , have a wank then lose interest. "

I'm chatting to 4 at the moment (got to do numbers because of the drop out rate) all say they want to meet but never make definite plans.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"It's true.

I get no meets.

It's impossible.

Time wasters everywhere.

Yup yup.

With upmost respect, it's always the single males with loads of meets who mock the rest of us who can't get the experience of a meet. I suppose it's easy to judge from a position most of us will never achieve.

Maybe those single males who don't get meets. Need to check their approach on here, instead of looking externally for the problem, see that the problem lies with them, as their the only person present in every single interaction they have on fab, making them the common denomator

Instead maybe ask for advice from successful single males as to how they approach fab.

Sorry if this is a bit blunt and to the point.

So close "

Progress not perfection! I shall make your day one day Fluffy Chicken, its my new lifes mission.

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over a year ago


"It's true.

I get no meets.

It's impossible.

Time wasters everywhere.

Yup yup.

With upmost respect, it's always the single males with loads of meets who mock the rest of us who can't get the experience of a meet. I suppose it's easy to judge from a position most of us will never achieve.

Maybe those single males who don't get meets. Need to check their approach on here, instead of looking externally for the problem, see that the problem lies with them, as their the only person present in every single interaction they have on fab, making them the common denomator

Instead maybe ask for advice from successful single males as to how they approach fab.

Sorry if this is a bit blunt and to the point.

So close

Progress not perfection! I shall make your day one day Fluffy Chicken, its my new lifes mission. "

You’ve done it on another one!!

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"It's true.

I get no meets.

It's impossible.

Time wasters everywhere.

Yup yup.

With upmost respect, it's always the single males with loads of meets who mock the rest of us who can't get the experience of a meet. I suppose it's easy to judge from a position most of us will never achieve.

Maybe those single males who don't get meets. Need to check their approach on here, instead of looking externally for the problem, see that the problem lies with them, as their the only person present in every single interaction they have on fab, making them the common denomator

Instead maybe ask for advice from successful single males as to how they approach fab.

Sorry if this is a bit blunt and to the point.

So close

Progress not perfection! I shall make your day one day Fluffy Chicken, its my new lifes mission.

You’ve done it on another one!! "

Yaay I can now go back to not giving a fuck.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funnily enough the men are the same, not one meet off here , my conclusion is they like to talk about it , have a wank then lose interest.

I'm chatting to 4 at the moment (got to do numbers because of the drop out rate) all say they want to meet but never make definite plans."

What do you chat about?

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

Can’t believe the comments from the gorgeous women on here saying men don’t turn up for meets…… are the men fucking stupid?

All I can say ladies is give the slightly older dad bods who will splutter their words out and sweat profusely in your company a go….. or a yellow box of hope to make the smile which they will never delete……

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"Funnily enough the men are the same, not one meet off here , my conclusion is they like to talk about it , have a wank then lose interest.

I'm chatting to 4 at the moment (got to do numbers because of the drop out rate) all say they want to meet but never make definite plans.

What do you chat about?"

Eastenders and FAF

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Can’t believe the comments from the gorgeous women on here saying men don’t turn up for meets…… are the men fucking stupid?

All I can say ladies is give the slightly older dad bods who will splutter their words out and sweat profusely in your company a go….. or a yellow box of hope to make the smile which they will never delete……"

I find it harder to believe that some men don't seem to understand that they too have choices and it's ok to say no or change their mind.

Stupidity often doesn't enter the equation at all and it can sometimes be the smarter decision.

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Funnily enough the men are the same, not one meet off here , my conclusion is they like to talk about it , have a wank then lose interest.

I'm chatting to 4 at the moment (got to do numbers because of the drop out rate) all say they want to meet but never make definite plans.

What do you chat about?"

All kinds of things, hobbies, holidays, work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone else thinks the OP is a ringer for Gérard Butler ;-p

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"Can’t believe the comments from the gorgeous women on here saying men don’t turn up for meets…… are the men fucking stupid?

All I can say ladies is give the slightly older dad bods who will splutter their words out and sweat profusely in your company a go….. or a yellow box of hope to make the smile which they will never delete……

I find it harder to believe that some men don't seem to understand that they too have choices and it's ok to say no or change their mind.

Stupidity often doesn't enter the equation at all and it can sometimes be the smarter decision. "

Some people like to be a busy fool though

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon


"Anyone else thinks the OP is a ringer for Gérard Butler ;-p

"

But mr Butler doesn’t have a dodgy neck tattoo…

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


"Can’t believe the comments from the gorgeous women on here saying men don’t turn up for meets…… are the men fucking stupid?

All I can say ladies is give the slightly older dad bods who will splutter their words out and sweat profusely in your company a go….. or a yellow box of hope to make the smile which they will never delete……"

Believe Nothing You Hear, and Only One Half That You See

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"I'd do the same after reading your status

Muscles and big cock mean noubt "

I think some folk are rather partial to muscles and a big cock... Unless all those profiles stating it are lying.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton


"I've not done too bad on this site to be fair.. some may question why my meets are distances away and that's because those local aren't interested so travel it is then.. but it is worth it if you connect so well with that person though "

I'm still waiting lol

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"As a woman who was on here as a single before I met Mr, a few words of advice; don’t immediately assume they want to meet just because they are messaging you, some people on here like to build a connection and see if there is chemistry, some like to just fuck. Everyone has different wants on here and different attractions. Also, maybe some changes to the profile, change up the photos and the text.

Different women like different things but I personally like a single guy that was a gentlemen but with a filthy and cheeky side.

Hey .. absolutely ..what you say is true but experience has shown that some women will never ever meet simply because they don't want to..they never had any intention of doing so , a week of chatting is loads for anyone to know if they want to meet ..how would you not know after a week of constant chatting ? ..after a week if there's nothing mentioned about meeting then it's goodnight shirt...l wouldn't waste anyone's time so why would l want others to waste mine ??

A week may be loads to you but that doesn't mean it's loads to everyone else

I never said that but if you're chatting to a person every day for a week,if there's no mention of a meet in that time , well then it's time to move on , imho even it's a while down the road there is still a mention of meet somewhere along the line in that time , a person knows after a few days if they want to meet the other person in a safe , public place for a social , do not string the other person along for the sake of it ,in a week both have exchanged photos etc ..both know if they want to meet or not ..what else is there to know after a week if both want to meet ??? To me a week of constant chatting is enough...if a person doesn't know here after a week ..move on ...so what you're saying here is that after a week of constant chatting , photos exchanged etc you wouldn't know if you wanted to meet a person ? Tbh l think once a person has exchanged photos they know if they want to meet the other person or not but that's just my opinion."

No I don't know based off pictures. I'm sure there are women out there who do and nothing wrong with that but I feel its more commonly not the case for women.

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over a year ago


"I'd do the same after reading your status

Muscles and big cock mean noubt

I think some folk are rather partial to muscles and a big cock... Unless all those profiles stating it are lying. "

True but acting like you are owed meets because you have certain attributes is yucky

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss


"Funnily enough the men are the same, not one meet off here , my conclusion is they like to talk about it , have a wank then lose interest.

I'm chatting to 4 at the moment (got to do numbers because of the drop out rate) all say they want to meet but never make definite plans."

This

Even after the face pic swop and both seem interested, they drag their feet to meet, and why I like the two day fade and drop into friend zone. Then I make notes on the profile, as they invariably turn up a few months later, completely forgetting that we had chatted before

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By *ilverfox for youMan
over a year ago

Hull

Yes I agree .cock teasers make you believe that they want a meet then ghost you .very frustrating

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"It's true.

I get no meets.

It's impossible.

Time wasters everywhere.

Yup yup.

With upmost respect, it's always the single males with loads of meets who mock the rest of us who can't get the experience of a meet. I suppose it's easy to judge from a position most of us will never achieve.

Maybe those single males who don't get meets. Need to check their approach on here, instead of looking externally for the problem, see that the problem lies with them, as their the only person present in every single interaction they have on fab, making them the common denomator

Instead maybe ask for advice from successful single males as to how they approach fab.

Sorry if this is a bit blunt and to the point. "

As I use the forums daily, I always read with interest the threads regarding single guys asking for profile advice. Quite regularly I check the profiles of the blokes replying, and study the ones who have a lot of meet verifications, how they are written, photos, etc. I've seen successful guys with long bios, short bios, lots of photos, and hardly any pics. During my year on here I have tried all of those profile formats used by the successful single blokes, yet I have had no luck what do ever, not even do much as a reply to a message. So all of which leaves me at a loss. Those different profile approaches used by the successful single blokes on here work for them, but none of them have worked for me.

So, yes I do look at how the successful blokes approach Fab, and I have tried to follow that approach, but with zero success.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's true.

I get no meets.

It's impossible.

Time wasters everywhere.

Yup yup.

With upmost respect, it's always the single males with loads of meets who mock the rest of us who can't get the experience of a meet. I suppose it's easy to judge from a position most of us will never achieve.

Maybe those single males who don't get meets. Need to check their approach on here, instead of looking externally for the problem, see that the problem lies with them, as their the only person present in every single interaction they have on fab, making them the common denomator

Instead maybe ask for advice from successful single males as to how they approach fab.

Sorry if this is a bit blunt and to the point.

As I use the forums daily, I always read with interest the threads regarding single guys asking for profile advice. Quite regularly I check the profiles of the blokes replying, and study the ones who have a lot of meet verifications, how they are written, photos, etc. I've seen successful guys with long bios, short bios, lots of photos, and hardly any pics. During my year on here I have tried all of those profile formats used by the successful single blokes, yet I have had no luck what do ever, not even do much as a reply to a message. So all of which leaves me at a loss. Those different profile approaches used by the successful single blokes on here work for them, but none of them have worked for me.

So, yes I do look at how the successful blokes approach Fab, and I have tried to follow that approach, but with zero success. "
just a thought, but copying overs may come over as unauthentic. There's possibly some trends but I suspect it's a bit deeper than first appears. My advice is have fun with whatever you do. And be you. But be the best verison of you.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"It's true.

I get no meets.

It's impossible.

Time wasters everywhere.

Yup yup.

With upmost respect, it's always the single males with loads of meets who mock the rest of us who can't get the experience of a meet. I suppose it's easy to judge from a position most of us will never achieve.

Maybe those single males who don't get meets. Need to check their approach on here, instead of looking externally for the problem, see that the problem lies with them, as their the only person present in every single interaction they have on fab, making them the common denomator

Instead maybe ask for advice from successful single males as to how they approach fab.

Sorry if this is a bit blunt and to the point.

As I use the forums daily, I always read with interest the threads regarding single guys asking for profile advice. Quite regularly I check the profiles of the blokes replying, and study the ones who have a lot of meet verifications, how they are written, photos, etc. I've seen successful guys with long bios, short bios, lots of photos, and hardly any pics. During my year on here I have tried all of those profile formats used by the successful single blokes, yet I have had no luck what do ever, not even do much as a reply to a message. So all of which leaves me at a loss. Those different profile approaches used by the successful single blokes on here work for them, but none of them have worked for me.

So, yes I do look at how the successful blokes approach Fab, and I have tried to follow that approach, but with zero success. "

Really simply my advice dont rely on fab alone, as that's graft get to organised socials and clubs, that way you'll meet ppl in person. Meeting those who you would not normally meet

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By *eteranSwingersCouple
over a year ago

Costa del Sol, Spain


"Oh they meet op, just not you! "

This. Haha

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Oh they meet op, just not you!

This. Haha"

Again with the cheap shots.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"As a woman who was on here as a single before I met Mr, a few words of advice; don’t immediately assume they want to meet just because they are messaging you, some people on here like to build a connection and see if there is chemistry, some like to just fuck. Everyone has different wants on here and different attractions. Also, maybe some changes to the profile, change up the photos and the text.

Different women like different things but I personally like a single guy that was a gentlemen but with a filthy and cheeky side.

Hey .. absolutely ..what you say is true but experience has shown that some women will never ever meet simply because they don't want to..they never had any intention of doing so , a week of chatting is loads for anyone to know if they want to meet ..how would you not know after a week of constant chatting ? ..after a week if there's nothing mentioned about meeting then it's goodnight shirt...l wouldn't waste anyone's time so why would l want others to waste mine ??

A week may be loads to you but that doesn't mean it's loads to everyone else

I never said that but if you're chatting to a person every day for a week,if there's no mention of a meet in that time , well then it's time to move on , imho even it's a while down the road there is still a mention of meet somewhere along the line in that time , a person knows after a few days if they want to meet the other person in a safe , public place for a social , do not string the other person along for the sake of it ,in a week both have exchanged photos etc ..both know if they want to meet or not ..what else is there to know after a week if both want to meet ??? To me a week of constant chatting is enough...if a person doesn't know here after a week ..move on ...so what you're saying here is that after a week of constant chatting , photos exchanged etc you wouldn't know if you wanted to meet a person ? Tbh l think once a person has exchanged photos they know if they want to meet the other person or not but that's just my opinion.

You are making a lot of assumptions there.

Firstly I don't meet anyone unless I've been chatting for a number of weeks and secondly I don't exchange photos.

Mainly because some people are happy to share them with others but also because a flat 2D image of someone tells me absolutely nothing.

I make the decision to meet or not based on a many things including how they converse.

They could have the most amazing pics but be an unpleasant person.

My approach has always worked for me but I don't and won't give advice to anyone else on here because then all they are doing is box ticking and playing a role.

I have chatted to lots of women over the years who have no interest in meeting anyone and they only use the site to pass the time or chat to interesting people.

I don't have any issue with that and that has never put me off chatting to them.

I've never considered any interaction here as time wasted.

I have met a number of women where I had already decided beforehand that it would never go beyond a coffee but again that didn't put me off chatting and being social.

I'm not interested in meeting currently and that is stated clearly in my profile.

I don't send messages so every conversation in the last 3 years has been started by women who have read that and were still happy to get in touch to say hello.

Too many people are quick to tell others what they are doing wrong or want to change the site rules to out people who aren't just here for the sex.

If only they would focus on their own journey and stop dictating to others it might be a better all round experience.

"

I’ll happily give people advice….. time, patience, basic common sense!

If people can’t work it out from there, no amount of words will be able to help someone

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"The solution to being ‘messed about’ is not to engage in long conversations. Figure out what each other wants then get to a social meet quickly.

The longer the chat goes on sometimes then the more likely you’re not going to meet or the other person is just getting a kick out of online chat. "

Very true. I love meeting real people in real places. I’m m not looking to have long internet virtual conversations that suddenly go pop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not exclusive though.

Mrs was stood up just the other day for a social. Checked in 2 hours before, all was well apparently and then she enjoyed her cup of tea on her own because he didn't show and blocked her on both here and WhatsApp.

It's just dickheads in general."

What a fucking idiot he was !!! I would not have not turned up to your missus ! Fire ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not exclusive though.

Mrs was stood up just the other day for a social. Checked in 2 hours before, all was well apparently and then she enjoyed her cup of tea on her own because he didn't show and blocked her on both here and WhatsApp.

It's just dickheads in general.

What a fucking idiot he was !!! I would not have not turned up to your missus ! Fire ?? "

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By *havedwareMan
over a year ago

Ware

Seems to me most of the women and mf couples are actually just a single guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems to me most of the women and mf couples are actually just a single guy."

He's very busy running all those profiles!

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish


"Seems to me most of the women and mf couples are actually just a single guy.

He's very busy running all those profiles!"

J

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

If theirs no connection/chemistry in words it's pointless taking matter's further.... The build up is also a lovely surprise

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By *iberalhubbyMan
over a year ago

hull

Happens in most chats unfortunately.should all be verified before been allowed to post anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And some men are exactly the same

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"And some men are exactly the same

"

Most men are the worst not often that you see a woman complain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting out from behind your screen and going to an event or club is by far the best way of filtering out timewasters. At least everyone at the event turned up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And some men are exactly the same

Most men are the worst not often that you see a woman complain "

My thoughts exactly.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"And some men are exactly the same

Most men are the worst not often that you see a woman complain

My thoughts exactly. "

Women never complain. They just point out where youre wrong...

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By *ilverfox for youMan
over a year ago

Hull

Yes I’m finding it the same in my area !!!! Although I was chatting to a woman yesterday and she said she was experiencing the same with guys ??

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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago

Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston

Think it happens both ways. Men, women and couples are all capable of letting others down.

Red

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee


"I’m constantly conversing with ladies on here who say they’d like to meet socially or casually and when it comes to arranging meets socially at first there’s no intention whatsoever. Seriously it’s ridiculous how some ladies are so dishonest and lie on here "

You sure they're women?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Good Women with zero intentions of meeting thread everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ultimately if they don’t like the look or sound of you they don’t have to meet you no matter how many messages you’ve swapped or time you’ve spent chatting. There’s a thing called choice and another thing called consent, both can be changed at any point and no one owes you an explanation.

Btw that goes for all the genders

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