FabSwingers.com forum: When your feeling $h1te

By *J2020 OP Man
over a year ago

somewhere

Evening all , I don’t really contribute to the forum as I’m somewhat a quiet one . It thought I would add something now . Please don’t think this is a look a look at me post , it’s really not .

Just over a year ago my “world” got turned upside down emotionally , the worst kind , where nothing makes sense any more , when you wake up and hope it was a bad dream , days just merge and drag . Then a small bit of light comes along and you think the trauma is over .

Then scroll along 6 months and a bigger pile of sh1t comes along and flips you over for another good smashing , and not in the good way .

You crack on , try to suck it up , right the mental trauma of it all and the physical legacy it leaves you with . Promises of one day it will be okay , it’s not forever seek fruitless and just words

I have good family and very good friends , but don’t download this on them , even though you know they will be there for you , but you don’t want to worry them incase they misread your words and stress

I won’t deny I’ve been to some dark shitty places over time , and more so in the last 24 months , and I have considered all options as to be frank

, some days it’s like trying to push water up a hill with a kitchen fork .

But you crack on , put that fake clown face on , smile and roll on . I’ve said to someone trusted before if there was such a thing as a pain free off switch , I’d of hit it a long time ago but I made a promise to someone special to me . And please don’t read that yourselves as I’m making plans , as I’m not …

It’s just sh1te when you see people fighting life’s challenges together , that couple that fights hardship and come through it , that one that is there to talk , fall sleep next to , and understands you .

We all know that so many people fight sh1t all the time and no one really knows what anyone else is going through .

As many people say , you’re here for a good time, not a long time , it sucks to look in from the outside of it . I know there are people out there worse off than me , and I’m grateful for being on the correct side of the turf … it just sucks .

Okay , so you’re asking why I wrote this half cryptic post , well , to be honest …. I don’t know any of you , and you don’t know me , so the perfect people to be honest with …… and you can’t tell my mum !!

So anyway , here’s to all you awesome lot , keep life rolling hard and fast as you never know what’s around the corner …. One life , live it , breathe like it’s your last and stay positive

Chow for now

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I hope you can find someone to talk to, who doesn't make you feel like a burden. It sounds like you've been through a lot. Sometimes a shoulder to lean or cry on can make such a big difference

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

"Evening all , I don’t really contribute to the forum as I’m somewhat a quiet one . It thought I would add something now . Please don’t think this is a look a look at me post , it’s really not .

Then scroll along 6 months and a bigger pile of sh1t comes along and flips you over for another good smashing , and not in the good way .

I won’t deny I’ve been to some dark shitty places over time , and more so in the last 24 months , and I have considered all options as to be frank

, some days it’s like trying to push water up a hill with a kitchen fork .

We all know that so many people fight sh1t all the time and no one really knows what anyone else is going through .

So anyway , here’s to all you awesome lot , keep life rolling hard and fast as you never know what’s around the corner …. One life , live it , breathe like it’s your last and stay positive

Chow for now "

Here's to you OP for opening up on how you've been feeling...life can throw some real bad experiences our way...been there myself and lost close loved ones too due to it. Your right there is only one life we live...not always easy to carry on with that fake smile...just remember that you are worth so much and deserve to live your life to the full. Always a chat to be had when needed on here in the forums or by a DM. Take care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey,

I don't know you, or what you've been through. But I do know your a winner!

Your here, your breathing and your alive. Your winning.

Allow me to tell you my story in the hopes that it may inspire you.

March '23 I looked at myself in the mirror and I said (out loud)

"Dude what are you doing?

Your better than this.

You deserve better than this,

No ones going to give you it,

You've got to go and claim it,

You've got to really fucking want it.

It isn't always going to be easy,

But an easy life, isn't always a good life.

So sort your shit out,

Be accountable,

Be authentic,

Be the man, you wish you where right now!"

And I haven't looked back since. I started fitness, that helps so much with my mental health. It's done miracles with my body which I never set out to get.

But with grit and determination, I overcame my failures as a human, and I got my shit together, I got stronger, I suppose you could say, I got better. But better at everything.

Now, I strive for improvement and continued personal growth.

And you can too.

Increase your sense of self appreciation. Tell yourself every morning

1 thing your good at

1 thing your like about yourself

And

1 thing your going to consciously improve in the next 24hrs...

And repeat!

I hope your find your right and true path soon!

Life coaching fees are in my bio

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just by writing this post, shows courage. No patronising words I find can comfort you but do know, things really do get better. I’m sure your family would rather listen to you than mourn you should the unthinkable happen. I genuinely believe from the depths of despair, eventually comes light , bright light x I hope you get whatever you need to shake this darkness xxx

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