FabSwingers.com forum: No face pic

By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Nowhere

So if this is on your profile…. Is your face pic also? - so people can decide if they want to message you - no point messaging you if you look like you were dragged from a chemical spill

What are the forumites learned opinions?

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

"So if this is on your profile…. Is your face pic also? - so people can decide if they want to message you - no point messaging you if you look like you were dragged from a chemical spill

What are the forumites learned opinions?

I dunno, Joker managed to pull Harley Quinn after a fall into a chemical spill

There’s hope for all of us

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

My learned opinion today is, I do not give a fuck

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By *olly SwallowsTV/TS
over a year ago

Sexville

My face is all over mine I’m sorry to say!

I understand people not wanting one public but I do get to a point in chatting where I want to see one to continue xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I'm easily annoyed, but I just find this a tad conceited.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't share my face picture to start with, all in friends only so I wouldn't expect them too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine are on clear display in my friend's only gallery. Nothing to hide. But I also, appreciate my right to privacy, as has every other site user.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't share my face picture to start with, all in friends only so I wouldn't expect them too. "

So messaging is their choice to decide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send face pic when asked.

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By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Nowhere

"I know I'm easily annoyed, but I just find this a tad conceited. "

When theybask and don’t have one on show - or my thread

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

We’d send a face pic with a first message anyway, so people can decide if we’re attractive to them or not.

People can put what they want on their profiles, it’s up to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know I'm easily annoyed, but I just find this a tad conceited.

When theybask and don’t have one on show - or my thread

Oh when they ask.

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By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Nowhere

I think the driver for me is if you’re insisting on seeing someones face pic before you will engage with them then fairs fair - have yours on display - just a bit double standards to me - ive been seeing so many profiles with it on now - it just comes across as a bit arrogant - good enough if you are chatting with someone then you swap if there’s interest… but to dictate as a condition…

As always I guess fab is for how everyone wants to use it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’d send a face pic with a first message anyway, so people can decide if we’re attractive to them or not.

People can put what they want on their profiles, it’s up to them."

People can yeah.

But what people put says a lot about them.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

And do men also ask for a face pic on first message?

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By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Nowhere

"I send face pic when asked. "

Would you jump On a plane to the North of the Uk with hand luggage containing only scandalous underwear?? If asked??

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"We’d send a face pic with a first message anyway, so people can decide if we’re attractive to them or not.

People can put what they want on their profiles, it’s up to them.

People can yeah.

But what people put says a lot about them. "

Yes, hopefully…of course what we read in to what people put on their profiles about themselves isn’t necessarily correct. We all just use our judgements and intuitions as best we can and take it from there!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

This isn't on my profile and I wouldn't put it there, but my opinion is, expecting someone to send a face picture privately does not mean you have to have a public picture. It means you need to be prepared to share it privately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to keep my face a secret for as long as possible. I look like a mouldy sack of spuds covered in candle wax..

And it's got me blocked a few times!

So my approach is a social with a sack over my head, Elephant man style. It's a look I'm trying to make stylish again

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"So if this is on your profile…. Is your face pic also? - so people can decide if they want to message you - no point messaging you if you look like you were dragged from a chemical spill

What are the forumites learned opinions?

If I'm interested enough I'll send it, if I'm not I won't.

If you don't like it then it's a useful filter.

I want to see faces fairly quickly however I wouldn't demand one in a first message.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It means no face pic attached to message no chat, not no face pic in profile no chat

If you don't like it don't message them. Simple

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By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Nowhere

"I try to keep my face a secret for as long as possible. I look like a mouldy sack of spuds covered in candle wax..

And it's got me blocked a few times!

So my approach is a social with a sack over my head, Elephant man style. It's a look I'm trying to make stylish again "

I think you’re making great strides - the price of designer sacks is through the roof now!!

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

We post faces, would expect a face pic from anyone that expresses interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure I've something about a photo though not the no reply part. I'd have to actually read my own profile to remind myself. I just take it as people not wanting to waste time and willing to share privately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I try to keep my face a secret for as long as possible. I look like a mouldy sack of spuds covered in candle wax..

And it's got me blocked a few times!

So my approach is a social with a sack over my head, Elephant man style. It's a look I'm trying to make stylish again

I think you’re making great strides - the price of designer sacks is through the roof now!!

I'll let you in on money saving tip.

It's easy to use tippex to fake an Adidas sack.

Buy a plain sack from your local sackists, and go mad with tippex, glue, and glitter!

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By *phrodite_AdonisCouple
over a year ago

We prefer a face picture in the first message or the second at a push.

Having been told “you won’t be disappointed” then finally receiving a photo after a lot of back and forth, we were indeed disappointed and it was awkward after that.

Get it out of the way early and we’re more likely to reciprocate even if it’s a “no thanks but here’s us if you ever spot us at a club”

We do have face pics on our profile from time to time too.

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford

We don't have face pics available for public viewing. Mainly because of work and other activities we engage in.

Wouldn't want someone who lives locally seeing me and thinking that they can talk to me about sexual activities in a public place.

Happy to share pics when we have a chat.

Luna

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By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Nowhere

"We prefer a face picture in the first message or the second at a push.

Having been told “you won’t be disappointed” then finally receiving a photo after a lot of back and forth, we were indeed disappointed and it was awkward after that.

Get it out of the way early and we’re more likely to reciprocate even if it’s a “no thanks but here’s us if you ever spot us at a club”

We do have face pics on our profile from time to time too. "

I think anyone who has you wont be disappointed in a non ironic way on their profile - deserves everything they get

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I do get this! Don't like the blank pics! Don't like having to ask to see one! most I find just attach one with first message which is cool x

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

"We prefer a face picture in the first message or the second at a push.

Having been told “you won’t be disappointed” then finally receiving a photo after a lot of back and forth, we were indeed disappointed and it was awkward after that.

Get it out of the way early and we’re more likely to reciprocate even if it’s a “no thanks but here’s us if you ever spot us at a club”

We do have face pics on our profile from time to time too. "

Fairly certain we disappoint lots of people when they look at us, all we can say is judge us by our veris.

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife

"We’d send a face pic with a first message anyway, so people can decide if we’re attractive to them or not.

People can put what they want on their profiles, it’s up to them.

People can yeah.

But what people put says a lot about them. "

I agree with this. Blank profiles that say that as well as people who ask to see a face pic without including one in theor message just comes across as conceited and entitled in my opinion.

Privacy is one thing but demanding others forfeit theirs while not doing the same is hypocritical.

Also, just a bit lazy maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t mind sending face pics. It’s part of the game. But I’d like them to send back if they find me attractive to be sure.

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By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Nowhere

I must be the only one on here that got a face pic marked return to sender!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Expecting pics is fine for when you're doing your online shopping. You don't want to play lucky-dip if you're buying a kettle but we aren't a kettle, we have personalities and so do you.

It doesn't matter what you look like if your communication sucks. The most beautiful amazing people are rarely 'photogenic'.

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By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Nowhere

"Expecting pics is fine for when you're doing your online shopping. You don't want to play lucky-dip if you're buying a kettle but we aren't a kettle, we have personalities and so do you.

It doesn't matter what you look like if your communication sucks. The most beautiful amazing people are rarely 'photogenic'."

Im stealing this for my dating profile

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I send when asked but make them go first

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

If we send first message ,we attach a face pic and would expect same.

If we ask and there's none forthcoming we'd just stop chatting.

Miss

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Expecting pics is fine for when you're doing your online shopping. You don't want to play lucky-dip if you're buying a kettle but we aren't a kettle, we have personalities and so do you.

It doesn't matter what you look like if your communication sucks. The most beautiful amazing people are rarely 'photogenic'."

That’s right - but it also doesn’t matter how amazing your communication is if the people you want to become intimate with on here don’t find you attractive.

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By *olarMan
over a year ago

woking

"I think the driver for me is if you’re insisting on seeing someones face pic before you will engage with them then fairs fair - have yours on display - just a bit double standards to me - ive been seeing so many profiles with it on now - it just comes across as a bit arrogant - good enough if you are chatting with someone then you swap if there’s interest… but to dictate as a condition…

Arrogance shown by people on here !!!!

I simply cannot believe you sir.

As always I guess fab is for how everyone wants to use it. "

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We got a first message today and it asked for face pics. Not on you life .

We’ve had face pics copied and shared so due to work and general privacy we don’t share face pics now. We just meet quite quickly for a social. Face to face you can’t fake it and you’re better to know the person not the photo.

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By *phrodite_AdonisCouple
over a year ago

"Expecting pics is fine for when you're doing your online shopping. You don't want to play lucky-dip if you're buying a kettle but we aren't a kettle, we have personalities and so do you.

It doesn't matter what you look like if your communication sucks. The most beautiful amazing people are rarely 'photogenic'.

That’s right - but it also doesn’t matter how amazing your communication is if the people you want to become intimate with on here don’t find you attractive."

Exactly

And the same goes for ‘read our veris’. Whatever they say it doesn’t matter either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only send face pics to people I've banged.

Plus nobody needs to see my grid

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By *appyhippoWoman
over a year ago

coventry

My profile does state this and the reason for this is for the fact so far on here my ex sister in law’s husband has message me they are still married, my friends partners have message me, my brothers mates have message me, so since it’s seems there is a lot of people on here that I know I would rather see a face pic first before I start a conversation to rule that out.

If people don’t want to send a face pic then that is their choice not to message me.

My face pics are on my account but just not on public display.

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

We have face pictures in private if we mail someone we automatically send an accompanying face picture.

If they mail us we state we won't reply if we can't see them.And if we do decide we are compatible we then commence chatting & letting them see us before a meetup is arranged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So if this is on your profile…. Is your face pic also? - so people can decide if they want to message you - no point messaging you if you look like you were dragged from a chemical spill

What are the forumites learned opinions?

There is one person on here that has 3 profiles and told me so. He revealed the second one to me and I had answered him and had no idea it was him and he didn't reveal himself in messages either. He won't tell me the third profile so now I won't answer anyone that could be him.

Kinda backed into a corner and it's not good.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"My learned opinion today is, I do not give a fuck "

Keep me updated on this in case it changes pal, I respect your learnededness, hope that's a word

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"So if this is on your profile…. Is your face pic also? - so people can decide if they want to message you - no point messaging you if you look like you were dragged from a chemical spill

What are the forumites learned opinions?

Kinda backed into a corner and it's not good."

Its good he told you he's a head wrecker but not good you're on the alert for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We ask for a face pic to be provided if not public.... not into blind dates

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"My learned opinion today is, I do not give a fuck

Keep me updated on this in case it changes pal, I respect your learnededness, hope that's a word

It is most definitely a word, CD, my learned friend.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"My learned opinion today is, I do not give a fuck

Keep me updated on this in case it changes pal, I respect your learnededness, hope that's a word

It is most definitely a word, CD, my learned friend."

Oh phew. I wouldn't want to look foolish on the forum, thanks YOLO pal, lovely calf on you today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So if this is on your profile…. Is your face pic also? - so people can decide if they want to message you - no point messaging you if you look like you were dragged from a chemical spill

What are the forumites learned opinions?

I prefer boob pictures … chances are , they’re a guy anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m kinda screwed, they say no face pic or no reply, but if I send a face pic, then there’s no chance they’ll ever reply!

Lose / lose

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

My opinion is if you message first then send your photo. It’s always your choice whether you message or not

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Generally send one with first message. Despite all the personality bollocks that gets spouted, if they don't like the cut of your gib, you're unlikely to get in bed together

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"My learned opinion today is, I do not give a fuck

Keep me updated on this in case it changes pal, I respect your learnededness, hope that's a word

It is most definitely a word, CD, my learned friend.

Oh phew. I wouldn't want to look foolish on the forum, thanks YOLO pal, lovely calf on you today

I know you knew and you know I knew you knew. But what I didn't say was you using it gave me a little tingle. Thanks for the calf love!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Expecting pics is fine for when you're doing your online shopping. You don't want to play lucky-dip if you're buying a kettle but we aren't a kettle, we have personalities and so do you.

It doesn't matter what you look like if your communication sucks. The most beautiful amazing people are rarely 'photogenic'.

That’s right - but it also doesn’t matter how amazing your communication is if the people you want to become intimate with on here don’t find you attractive."

The topic is about 'no pic - no chat/reply' especially on profiles that have none of their own first. Not about sharing pics after finding their conversation engaging and enjoyable. To explicitly disregard everyone who is not 'instagram-able' purely based on window shopping..... super super shallow and you absolutely miss out on some amazing people.

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By *issIrishCoffeeWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

If someone sends me one , I normally send mines back but it says on my profile face pic with your message and ask for mines.

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By *reative-mindMan
over a year ago

Exeter

If I'm asked I'll send one but hate having my picture taken so always state that.

If a profile says "send face pic" and they have a blank profile I just move along.

Fab should be a two way street and all that bla bla.

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I have a no knee pic no reply policy. If you don’t send a pic of your knees then you are blocked

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By *iromancergirl1Woman
over a year ago

bolton

Yes and yes as I’m not going to get in to lengthy conversations with people when iv no idea if I want to sleep with them if I want to have sex with you because im attracted to your face then I’ll get to know you and see if I fancy your personality to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So if this is on your profile…. Is your face pic also? - so people can decide if they want to message you - no point messaging you if you look like you were dragged from a chemical spill

What are the forumites learned opinions?

we dont mind chatting, but it will only ever stay chatting about general chit chat without a face picture. if your interested what have you got to hide. on the flip side if were interested we'll send a face picture with first message.

i think as a general rule of thumb it tends to be whoever initiated the conversation breaks the ice sending the first face picture. after all there the party showing interest and trying to advertise themselves to get a meet etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So if this is on your profile…. Is your face pic also? - so people can decide if they want to message you - no point messaging you if you look like you were dragged from a chemical spill

What are the forumites learned opinions?

I ignore these types of people if I’m honest.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I don't speak to anyone until they show me proof they can fit a grapefruit up their bum

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By *ove2lick27Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Totally agree bud. Double standards. I personally think fake profile.

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By *weetkitten65Woman
over a year ago

Halifax

Just had a message from a guy, saying no profile picture because of his job, yet his face is on his public pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a bit different asking for a face picture before chatting to someone and having your face public on a site with up to 50,000 people

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

"So if this is on your profile…. Is your face pic also? - so people can decide if they want to message you - no point messaging you if you look like you were dragged from a chemical spill

What are the forumites learned opinions?

People can write what they want, it’s up to you if you decide to interact with them!

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

"So if this is on your profile…. Is your face pic also? - so people can decide if they want to message you - no point messaging you if you look like you were dragged from a chemical spill

What are the forumites learned opinions?

Yes this is written on my profile and yes my face pic is on view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Little darling, don't shed no tears

No face pic, no chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We express in our profile (at the end of you care to look) how we choose to share face pics, it's not immediately or through this site, as we want to avoid the fab stamp.

As a result we're likely to pass a profile by if they want one from the off.

It's a shame but we stumble at the starting blocks here.

We've not yet been turned down after a face pic swap.

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