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Age limits - Do you always stick to them?

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By *lipzer Knicksaff OP   Woman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

Or is it really just a number?

I wonder if this is more of an issue for women rather than men. The mammy in me will sometimes stop me from thinking those thoughts about someone who is young enough to be my son or daughter. Or is above 18 all well & good?

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By *M737Couple
over a year ago

Thanet


"Or is it really just a number?

I wonder if this is more of an issue for women rather than men. The mammy in me will sometimes stop me from thinking those thoughts about someone who is young enough to be my son or daughter. Or is above 18 all well & good?"

Break it for us please X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've generally always gone for older though every guy in the last couple of years has been younger.

Older guys can be immature little pricks.

Younger guys can not be immature little pricks.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We are usually flexible on the older age range but wouldn't go below our youngest.

Mrs

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By *untimes wantedMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

No when i am looking to meet my age range is a filter to stop guys of a certain type messaging that are normally 40+ not because i won't meet anyone older than 40.

Oldest guy i met was 82.

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By *lipzer Knicksaff OP   Woman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently


"Or is it really just a number?

I wonder if this is more of an issue for women rather than men. The mammy in me will sometimes stop me from thinking those thoughts about someone who is young enough to be my son or daughter. Or is above 18 all well & good?

Break it for us please X"

Aaaargh! The mammy vibes are strong!

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By *lipzer Knicksaff OP   Woman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently


"We are usually flexible on the older age range but wouldn't go below our youngest.

Mrs "

Great photos BTW

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My preference is for plus or minus 10 years either way but hey, rules are there to be broken if any decent offers arise, like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick with the range, 18-99 seems undiscerning, whilst anything younger than early 40s and I'd be a cradle snatcher *and they may be taking me to ICU or the morgue).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *obandruthCouple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Simple answer no we don't always stick to age limit .

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London

I like the variety and different age not issue . For me it’s more about how you get on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose it's mostly about attraction and how you get on and I think my age range covers a broad spectrum of women and couples. I've chatted to women older than my upper age range but my lower age range will never go below 20 (I have been thinking of raising it recently) as the thought of having sex with someone still in their teens gives me the ick.

I have also chatted to and met women and couples where I'm not in their age range and the subject has never been brought up

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Our younger age limit is set to be older than our children but we still get messages from a few guys that are around the same age as my grandchildren.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes we always stick to our age range. In my opinion age isn't just a number and I wouldn't feel comfortable with a man more than around 15/16 years younger than me in a sexual context.

Socially however age is irrelevant. Interestingly to younger people the reverse often applies, the ones interested in us sexually wouldn't be seen dead with us socially

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London

As I enjoy interesting people, I find very young people have not had enough time to have experienced life yet.

What about you OP, how did you come to the decision that 55 is the age that life ends?

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By *phrodite_AdonisCouple
over a year ago

~~

Age limits are more of a starting point, someone can be what I’m looking for looks-wise but older or younger so it’s better to be open minded. Very rarely do I flex, but the option is there.

Sasha

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

My age filters are set up only for another useful filter purpose.

If there’s mutual attraction and connection, it’s the person who counts, no matter the age.

I draw the firm line at the lower age of 21 though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More importantly I draw the line at "don't be an arsehole" that isn't age specific. Nothing may come of it other than a flirt. But you won't even get that if your an arsehole.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

*age limits, sorry

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I watched a much older woman flirt with a younger man once in a social group. The way the men of all ages in the group spoke about the woman afterwards made me never want to risk doing that, ever.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I have my limits as I am looking for guys with certain skills/emotional intelligence and most under and over that range, don't have them for me, yes some do and we will find each other if we are meant to. Otherwise I'm happy to keep them as they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes we always stick to our age range. In my opinion age isn't just a number and I wouldn't feel comfortable with a man more than around 15/16 years younger than me in a sexual context.

Socially however age is irrelevant. Interestingly to younger people the reverse often applies, the ones interested in us sexually wouldn't be seen dead with us socially "

I’d go out with you socially

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I watched a much older woman flirt with a younger man once in a social group. The way the men of all ages in the group spoke about the woman afterwards made me never want to risk doing that, ever."

Men.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yes we always stick to our age range. In my opinion age isn't just a number and I wouldn't feel comfortable with a man more than around 15/16 years younger than me in a sexual context.

Socially however age is irrelevant. Interestingly to younger people the reverse often applies, the ones interested in us sexually wouldn't be seen dead with us socially

I’d go out with you socially "

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I watched a much older woman flirt with a younger man once in a social group. The way the men of all ages in the group spoke about the woman afterwards made me never want to risk doing that, ever.

Men. "

*Those* men. I'm sure the good gentlefolk of fab would all be very open and accepting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or is it really just a number?

I wonder if this is more of an issue for women rather than men. The mammy in me will sometimes stop me from thinking those thoughts about someone who is young enough to be my son or daughter. Or is above 18 all well & good?"

It's all relative, they would have to be quite a mature one for me to dip below 25. At a certain point, you start to feel a little take advantagery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I watched a much older woman flirt with a younger man once in a social group. The way the men of all ages in the group spoke about the woman afterwards made me never want to risk doing that, ever.

Men.

*Those* men. I'm sure the good gentlefolk of fab would all be very open and accepting "

Yes yes sorry mrs N. #NotAllMen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To answer the OP I’m pretty open minded. But I would not meet anyone under the age of 21.

Age limits are tricky because usually older people don’t get me or my humour and they only like the serious ‘mature’ side to me. But of course not all older people. So I keep an open mind. If we can share a laugh and I’m attracted to them then I’m down for whatever. I’ma slut.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"To answer the OP I’m pretty open minded. But I would not meet anyone under the age of 21.

Age limits are tricky because usually older people don’t get me or my humour and they only like the serious ‘mature’ side to me. But of course not all older people. So I keep an open mind. If we can share a laugh and I’m attracted to them then I’m down for whatever. I’ma slut.

"

I'll be honest you use a lot of words and phrases I have to consult urban dictionary for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it tends to be more of an issue for women. But also consider the difference in perception when we think of older women and younger men relationships compared to the other way round. I’ve dated people much older than me, held hands in public and all that jazz and I don’t care. But some can’t stand the looks. And the judgement.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

It's their attitude that counts. Not age however i never been with anyone over 44

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To answer the OP I’m pretty open minded. But I would not meet anyone under the age of 21.

Age limits are tricky because usually older people don’t get me or my humour and they only like the serious ‘mature’ side to me. But of course not all older people. So I keep an open mind. If we can share a laugh and I’m attracted to them then I’m down for whatever. I’ma slut.

I'll be honest you use a lot of words and phrases I have to consult urban dictionary for "

Equally I learn so much from you. It’s also one of the best things about Intergenerational conversations and friendships. Is that rude? I don’t mean it to be sorry

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

Mine are guidelines

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

I’ve always preferred an older man - don’t know if that’s an intentional thing or just the way it’s worked out in who I’ve connected with.

I think that’s the thing for me, you can strike a common ground or mutual interest with several people of differing ages but should it become a situation where sexual activity were to be involved I wouldn’t go any younger x

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

It’s just casual sex to me so it’s purely based on physical attraction for me

18+ is fine not like I am trying to date them or be best friends. Usually it’s just one off meets anyway bar a couple of people that I have as a fuck buddy

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I watched a much older woman flirt with a younger man once in a social group. The way the men of all ages in the group spoke about the woman afterwards made me never want to risk doing that, ever."

Yes some have the emotional intelligence of a slug lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much prefer older men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes on the odd occasion I've moved my upper age limit to 30. So yes, I do have some flexibility;-p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not rigidly no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

18-65

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"It’s just casual sex to me so it’s purely based on physical attraction for me

18+ is fine not like I am trying to date them or be best friends. Usually it’s just one off meets anyway bar a couple of people that I have as a fuck buddy "

So you don't converse with your meets prior to sex? Connection is so important to me to get my knickers wet, regardless whether it's for 1 hour or weeks together with that person. Ape like behaviour is a massive turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For fab ours are fixed, for clubs it's whoever floats our boat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never say never

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"To answer the OP I’m pretty open minded. But I would not meet anyone under the age of 21.

Age limits are tricky because usually older people don’t get me or my humour and they only like the serious ‘mature’ side to me. But of course not all older people. So I keep an open mind. If we can share a laugh and I’m attracted to them then I’m down for whatever. I’ma slut.

I'll be honest you use a lot of words and phrases I have to consult urban dictionary for

Equally I learn so much from you. It’s also one of the best things about Intergenerational conversations and friendships. Is that rude? I don’t mean it to be sorry"

No it isn't rude. I'm not afraid of how old I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s about attraction with me but definitely wouldn’t meet a guy in he’s 20’s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s just casual sex to me so it’s purely based on physical attraction for me

18+ is fine not like I am trying to date them or be best friends. Usually it’s just one off meets anyway bar a couple of people that I have as a fuck buddy

So you don't converse with your meets prior to sex? Connection is so important to me to get my knickers wet, regardless whether it's for 1 hour or weeks together with that person. Ape like behaviour is a massive turn off"

Agreed. If I wanted to "get off" without conversation I'd turn to my favourite actress online.

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By *ugehandsMan
over a year ago

Fife/ Newcastle

It's difficult to stick within an age range when there is physical or intellectual attraction between people.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

As with all these types of questions it’s attraction that is key for both of us.

We’ve met with much younger people and had absolutely fantastic fun.

We’ve only really met with one substantially older person and she was absolutely fantastic fun too.

Which has prompted me to reassess our age range filters.

Good thread op

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

I used to say 40+ I had a set in stone lower limit of 30. But in clubs I don't ask peoples ages and met some super mature people in their 20s so that went out the window

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By *punk n gushCouple
over a year ago

deal

I prefer older men but have also have had younger hubby isn't fussed about age but I definitely couldn't go with someone young enough to be my child

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By *icker20.Man
over a year ago

Swindon

No at all.. in every age person could be attractive

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

Upper age limit is negotiable if I'm attracted to them but it's a maturity thing rather than an age thing for me too.

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Or is it really just a number?

I wonder if this is more of an issue for women rather than men. The mammy in me will sometimes stop me from thinking those thoughts about someone who is young enough to be my son or daughter. Or is above 18 all well & good?"

I agree...if someone's younger than my eldest then I just can't do it.. its an instant "sorry too young" and they always come back with "but I'm very mature and love older women"

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By *lipzer Knicksaff OP   Woman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently


"I watched a much older woman flirt with a younger man once in a social group. The way the men of all ages in the group spoke about the woman afterwards made me never want to risk doing that, ever."

Making her sound like a desperate old daddy I imagine?

I witnessed something similar on recent night out. Lady in her late 50s who was clearly on a mission to get a man that night. The looks and sniggering the moment turned her back was difficult to watch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slightly flexible on the older, but, as for the younger unless they're mature for their age probably not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, my profile even says that my ages are a guide only.

Seems you can’t do anything right when it comes to ages sometimes. If you set them you’re called ageist or discriminatory and if you leave it 18-99 you get called out as desperate

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By *lipzer Knicksaff OP   Woman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently


"I watched a much older woman flirt with a younger man once in a social group. The way the men of all ages in the group spoke about the woman afterwards made me never want to risk doing that, ever.

Making her sound like a desperate old daddy I imagine?

I witnessed something similar on recent night out. Lady in her late 50s who was clearly on a mission to get a man that night. The looks and sniggering the moment turned her back was difficult to watch."

*saddo not daddy.

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By *lipzer Knicksaff OP   Woman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently


"Nope, my profile even says that my ages are a guide only.

Seems you can’t do anything right when it comes to ages sometimes. If you set them you’re called ageist or discriminatory and if you leave it 18-99 you get called out as desperate "

That's true. Impossible to please everyone on here.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

If they're hot and fun to be around it really doesn't matter for me x

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By *ice_couple2012Couple
over a year ago

Leicester


"For fab ours are fixed, for clubs it's whoever floats our boat."

Guess this describes us too

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I watched a much older woman flirt with a younger man once in a social group. The way the men of all ages in the group spoke about the woman afterwards made me never want to risk doing that, ever.

Making her sound like a desperate old daddy I imagine?

I witnessed something similar on recent night out. Lady in her late 50s who was clearly on a mission to get a man that night. The looks and sniggering the moment turned her back was difficult to watch."

Yes, 'mutton ' was mentioned. It was clear that these men found it disgusting. It was a few years ago, I don't know if things have changed. That and your experience are (admittedly very low down) on my list of reasons I won't meet much younger men for sex. They might be ok with it but lots of other people won't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

18 and above

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I mostly conform to my age bracket as this is where I feel the most 'comfortable', and yet I don't really know what 'comfortable' really means. Most of my meets have been on the back of women messaging me and therefore age didn't really figure.

My recent meet was 24 years younger than me. It took me a month prior to meeting to get my head around that and seek the counsel of one or two forumite friends.

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By *lipzer Knicksaff OP   Woman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently


"I mostly conform to my age bracket as this is where I feel the most 'comfortable', and yet I don't really know what 'comfortable' really means. Most of my meets have been on the back of women messaging me and therefore age didn't really figure.

My recent meet was 24 years younger than me. It took me a month prior to meeting to get my head around that and seek the counsel of one or two forumite friends."

Dirty 'ol devil

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London


"It's their attitude that counts. Not age however i never been with anyone over 44"

I am tempted to say what have you missed, but I know you are sound enough to have made the best decision for you.

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

I am comfortable with the age parameters set in my profile, it is highly unlikely that I will meet anyone older than me. but I do seem to attract interest from women around the lower end of my age range.

My most recent meets on here however have been women in their late 60s.

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By *age500Woman
over a year ago

ashton-under-lyne

I always stick to it…on here and out in the world. I just don’t tend to find I have anything in common with people out of my age range so I have it set as a filter. Plus especially the younger guys who are new here can’t seem to take rejection without hurling insults…seems as though one of their mates has found the site, passed it around their group and said they’d get sex instantly. I just need more maturity than that

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"I mostly conform to my age bracket as this is where I feel the most 'comfortable', and yet I don't really know what 'comfortable' really means. Most of my meets have been on the back of women messaging me and therefore age didn't really figure.

My recent meet was 24 years younger than me. It took me a month prior to meeting to get my head around that and seek the counsel of one or two forumite friends.

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Dirty 'ol devil "

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Charming!

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By *asual_WandererWoman
over a year ago

A spot you want me

Always room for exceptions x

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

None of my kids are over 18 so I don’t have that problem with younger…

As for older, yes, my limits are firmly established. I know I am headed that way, but I am not attracted to older men, can’t help it. I wish I could change it but I can’t.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"None of my kids are over 18 so I don’t have that problem with younger…

As for older, yes, my limits are firmly established. I know I am headed that way, but I am not attracted to older men, can’t help it. I wish I could change it but I can’t. "

Damn it. I'll get me coat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My age limit is set by the day I was born. Sadly it isn't a concept anyone is willing to see beyond, possibly due to the sag of aged wood soaked in vintage spirit. The decades of experience count for nothing when it comes to expiry dates, and it would seem my best before has passed on through while the use by has passed away. Now my age limit is no longer a preference so much as a limitation. If only the new generation had been taught to give it a sniff first, then decide if it is safe to consume.

"Thanks for noticing me" - Eeyore.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Yes there have been exceptions both below and above. Didn't regret them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lower is a little flexible but upper not at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is more of a guide. It's not rigidly fixed in stone as I consider everyone is an idividual and there might just be someone outside that range that I might otherwise miss out on a potential experience of a lifetime

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We have our preference, but wouldn’t rule anything out in a moment of time with the right people.

Granted we all have kinks and turn ons and some find having sex with someone younger than themselves a turn on, and equally someone younger may find it a turn on to have sex with someone older. As consenting adults, that’s a personal choice.

However for us connection is key, as people have stated above, rather than age.

As the op targets the question more leaning with the younger generation, we’ll share our thoughts in that direction:

Whilst we would typically align with a similar age to ourselves, we have met with quite a lot of younger people, who we have connected with.

Their approach to the swinging lifestyle, the way they carry and present themselves, has been aligned to what we look for.

We do find some of the younger swingers have a different mentality to people of their age that hit the high street on a weekend. They want the fun of a night out but not with the potential agro they may face from d*unken people. For that as a possible reason, we’ve enjoyed the dynamic they bring to swinging.

As such, we’ve made some really good much younger friends in the lifestyle.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

99.9% of the time, I stick to them. I know myself well enough to understand my tastes and preferences.

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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago

S. Northants


"Or is it really just a number?

I wonder if this is more of an issue for women rather than men. The mammy in me will sometimes stop me from thinking those thoughts about someone who is young enough to be my son or daughter. Or is above 18 all well & good?"

They are generally guidelines. If we're attracted to someone, with similar morals and desires as us, then the age isn't as important. We're open to older or younger than our limits within reason. We wouldn't go as far as teens anymore, but that's just us getting older. When we started on here in our 20s life was a little bit different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I watched a much older woman flirt with a younger man once in a social group. The way the men of all ages in the group spoke about the woman afterwards made me never want to risk doing that, ever."

Women who flirt are such sluts. Old women should know better.

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By *ansexualPandaMan
over a year ago

cumallover

Age is just a guide for me, happy to meet outside of those limits for the right people.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Or is it really just a number?

I wonder if this is more of an issue for women rather than men. The mammy in me will sometimes stop me from thinking those thoughts about someone who is young enough to be my son or daughter. Or is above 18 all well & good?"

On here? Generally, because 'filters'.

In clubs? Nope. Not at all.

A

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Or is it really just a number?

I wonder if this is more of an issue for women rather than men. The mammy in me will sometimes stop me from thinking those thoughts about someone who is young enough to be my son or daughter. Or is above 18 all well & good?"

On Fab, I try to stick to it but I have gone out of the range for couples. Single guys not so much.

In clubs, I don't do that because it would alienate people in person. If I get chatting with a younger or older man and I take a shine to them, then it's not a barrier.

As a woman, I know men my age and older want to go for women in their 20s and 30s. Doesn't bother me but it is entertaining when they steal their Netflix. At my age, I don't have the energy to be petty. Lol!

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"I watched a much older woman flirt with a younger man once in a social group. The way the men of all ages in the group spoke about the woman afterwards made me never want to risk doing that, ever.

Making her sound like a desperate old daddy I imagine?

I witnessed something similar on recent night out. Lady in her late 50s who was clearly on a mission to get a man that night. The looks and sniggering the moment turned her back was difficult to watch.

Yes, 'mutton ' was mentioned. It was clear that these men found it disgusting. It was a few years ago, I don't know if things have changed. That and your experience are (admittedly very low down) on my list of reasons I won't meet much younger men for sex. They might be ok with it but lots of other people won't. "

Where I come from nothing more tasty than a bit of curried mutton roti.

Carribean fusion with the Indian subcontinent.

I also look younger/( and sound verbally younger?) than my age so that's something I have to navigate.

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