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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No matter how toxic, mentally exhausting, pain inducing the ex is, how do you stop yourself when they are offering to come round tonight?

All the heartache and pain but the sex is fucking dynamite.. What would you do?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Run

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call my mate Dave and have him tell me how it is

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By *weetkitten65Woman
over a year ago

Halifax


"No matter how toxic, mentally exhausting, pain inducing the ex is, how do you stop yourself when they are offering to come round tonight?

All the heartache and pain but the sex is fucking dynamite.. What would you do?"

The sex wasn't dynamite so not a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

blocked for a reason! Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The long-term benefits outweight the short-term fun.

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By *r.SJMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

Not a reference to Britain's Got Talent then...

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Have a wank

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

There’s so many holes in the world to fuck. Why go back to the same one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No matter how toxic, mentally exhausting, pain inducing the ex is, how do you stop yourself when they are offering to come round tonight?

All the heartache and pain but the sex is fucking dynamite.. What would you do?"

Have a wank and don't let horn beat your brain.

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By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

Know your worth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm, my ex-FWB always managed to reel me in every time, but thanks to friends I have realised how toxic the relationship was and that she is not a nice person, so now if she were to get in touch I would stay well clear.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

He's more than welcome to come round, he can babysit and I can go out out for a midweek dinner and fuck then

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


"No matter how toxic, mentally exhausting, pain inducing the ex is, how do you stop yourself when they are offering to come round tonight?

All the heartache and pain but the sex is fucking dynamite.. What would you do?"

Change her name on your phone to cancer don't answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't sound like it's worth the bother.

Get swiping instead and take your mind off her?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Self discipline and self worth.

Make a point of going out to do something, visit friends, anything to keep you distracted, and turn down the toxic driven offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather someone peel my skin off with a potato peeler than have my ex near me.

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By *weetkitten65Woman
over a year ago

Halifax


"No matter how toxic, mentally exhausting, pain inducing the ex is, how do you stop yourself when they are offering to come round tonight?

All the heartache and pain but the sex is fucking dynamite.. What would you do?

Change her name on your phone to cancer don't answer"

why not just block?..

I don't find that funny..

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Delete and block. Remove the temptation. Do yourself a favour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No sex can be that good

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Both our exes are X for a very good reason and neither is likely to want to share a bed with us...

Thankfully

Nita

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Very good advice everyone, a few things though.

We have kids together so blocking her isn't an option yet.

Due to mental health reasons caused not just by the ex, I have not built up the courage or got over the anxiety of being around people.

Probably good enough reason on its own, my self worth has been destroyed throughout the relationship.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Very good advice everyone, a few things though.

We have kids together so blocking her isn't an option yet.

Due to mental health reasons caused not just by the ex, I have not built up the courage or got over the anxiety of being around people.

Probably good enough reason on its own, my self worth has been destroyed throughout the relationship."

We both have kids (now adults) with exes, that doesn't mean they can visit wherever they want, or that you want them anywhere near your home.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that she wouldbut I would rather cover myself in petrol and set fire to myself than go anywhere near that monster ever again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't do it.

I understand the toxic lust thing but really, trust me, it's not worth it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm staying strong and logical as I know it would be stupid and more harmful than anything else.

Finding out she was the playing with what I thought were friends we played with a lot at the weekend, who have blanked me - thanks guys , has made me think of her and now it's a bit like the whole reclaiming sex thing.

I'm trying to get out and make new friends, I've started playing football again, hoping to attend social events although I don't actually see many posted up here.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"Very good advice everyone, a few things though.

We have kids together so blocking her isn't an option yet.

Due to mental health reasons caused not just by the ex, I have not built up the courage or got over the anxiety of being around people.

Probably good enough reason on its own, my self worth has been destroyed throughout the relationship."

Only communicate about the children, nothing else.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton


"Very good advice everyone, a few things though.

We have kids together so blocking her isn't an option yet.

Due to mental health reasons caused not just by the ex, I have not built up the courage or got over the anxiety of being around people.

Probably good enough reason on its own, my self worth has been destroyed throughout the relationship."

Keep her at arms length for your sanity's sake, involve some mediation service if necessary and seek some help and support for your mental health, sending hugs xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys, I'm sure many of you are aware of the type of emotions and pain I'm going through right now.

I guess I'm seeking some sort of physical validation from her that but feel like it would hand control back to her as it was me who left her.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton


"Thanks guys, I'm sure many of you are aware of the type of emotions and pain I'm going through right now.

I guess I'm seeking some sort of physical validation from her that but feel like it would hand control back to her as it was me who left her. "

I can only imagine, I'm sorry you're having a hard time.. sounds like you need some well earned you time... feel free to message if you need to vent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never look back.. Ever

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Block their number. Book a hotel. Move.

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By *ertslady1984Woman
over a year ago

Herts

There are an ex for a reason.

I've never once gone for second's or just sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There’s so many holes in the world to fuck. Why go back to the same one "

This.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Write a list of all the shitty things she's done and read it often.

That'll retrain your thoughts from 'oooh sex' to 'she's a nightmare'.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks very much but I can't dump all this on strangers. I finally registered with a GP, also in touch with Help 4 heroes but the waiting time has been excruciating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I failed mp.day sp following with interest

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton


"Thanks very much but I can't dump all this on strangers. I finally registered with a GP, also in touch with Help 4 heroes but the waiting time has been excruciating."

Don't think of us as strangers just friends you haven't met yet so glad you've taken the first few steps x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I failed mp.day sp following with interest "

Haha. Can tell I'm tired. In English...

I failed on Monday so following this with interest

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"Call my mate Dave and have him tell me how it is "

You know that Fluffy Chicken....and how did work out for ya...we all need a Dave in our lives

Basically Op an ex is an ex for reason let them stay that way, and give yourself the best chance to stay away from that toxicity

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By *he Kat 666Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury


"Thanks very much but I can't dump all this on strangers. I finally registered with a GP, also in touch with Help 4 heroes but the waiting time has been excruciating."

Get in touch with the RLB, sweetpea. H4H are just a rip off squad. RBL are better. Inbox open if you wanna chat? Ex RAF here x

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By *he Kat 666Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury

*RBL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks very much but I can't dump all this on strangers. I finally registered with a GP, also in touch with Help 4 heroes but the waiting time has been excruciating."

Sometimes offloading to people you don't know is easier - I am speaking from personal experience. I get professional counselling myself but have also used the Samaritans listening service, 116 123 is the number. You just talk, and they just listen. It's been the most helpful mental health support I've accessed recently.

Our inbox is always open if anyone needs a safe space to offload, please don't suffer alone. Take care.

Mrs

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By *nselfishpleaserMan
over a year ago

kent


"Hmmm, my ex-FWB always managed to reel me in every time, but thanks to friends I have realised how toxic the relationship was and that she is not a nice person, so now if she were to get in touch I would stay well clear."

Had the same happen to me. I'm in a much happier place now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks very much but I can't dump all this on strangers. I finally registered with a GP, also in touch with Help 4 heroes but the waiting time has been excruciating."

Don’t be too hard on yourself OP

Breaking away from them can be really difficult, especially if you’ve been together a while. Sometimes they have this strange hold over us and we keep running back even though we know we shouldn’t. You’ll get there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No matter how toxic, mentally exhausting, pain inducing the ex is, how do you stop yourself when they are offering to come round tonight?

All the heartache and pain but the sex is fucking dynamite.. What would you do?"

As the song says .." you gotta be joking right ? "..can't even believe you're thinking about it

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By *ommy 999Man
over a year ago

dublin

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By *ommy 999Man
over a year ago

dublin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think with your head and not your cock.

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