FabSwingers.com forum: I'm not a slut but...

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

would you be happy to meet me?

That's not the real question, don't answer that. I'm just bringing the snazziness.

Anyway; when it comes to meeting people on Fab, are you happy to meet those who are more/less sexually active/experienced than you? Does it matter to you?

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By *assy69Man
over a year ago

sussex and Wales

As long as there is a connection then would be happy to meet folk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer people more sexually experienced as it makes up for my lack of experience.

We both can't just lay there.

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By *dging-In-EssexMan
over a year ago

Southend

"would you be happy to meet me?

That's not the real question, don't answer that. I'm just bringing the snazziness.

Anyway; when it comes to meeting people on Fab, are you happy to meet those who are more/less sexually active/experienced than you? Does it matter to you? "

Always happy.

But good lord, that voice of yours is incredible.

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

It doesn't matter at all to me.its the connection and spark that is important not the body count.

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By *avethehorndogMan
over a year ago

south shields

It does not matter to me

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Firstly very happy to meet you and secondly we would consider meeting people who are more or less experienced than ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not a slut but I'd help out if the team was short

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By *ongueFkYouMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"would you be happy to meet me?

That's not the real question, don't answer that. I'm just bringing the snazziness.

Anyway; when it comes to meeting people on Fab, are you happy to meet those who are more/less sexually active/experienced than you? Does it matter to you? "
it doesn't matter to me as long as they are genuine and we get on that's what matters and it makes the fun more enjoyable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd meet anyone I had a connection with but quite like more experienced people as I feel like they can take the lead a bit better as I can be quite reserved because I still never fully know if they want sex with me

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I love people who have no problems showing their sexiness or openness. So I’d much prefer people who are sure rather than someone who is unsure.

I tend to mirror people and so a confident person who needs no direction works much better for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dosent matter to me at all and I know you didn’t want a question answered but going to any way that would be a yes I would meet you ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's great when someone is experienced. It makes it so much easier. I've done the whole shagging bags of potatoes when I was in secondary school.

One even asked me if I'd been watching East enders recently!!!

That obviously says more about them than my performance

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By *reeneggsandsamMan
over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

I find sexual confidence a great turn on. A woman who knows what she likes and isn't afraid to take it.

I've seen you around and I would, definitely.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

It doesn't matter one iota, Mèlí.

I am meeting the •person• and not necessarily their sexual heritage.

Experiences are cultivated between two people and then develop over time. At any given moment I will be less experienced than most and some others will be less experienced than me.

I always learning from others.

I'm always teaching others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To a point.

We have though received messages from solo men that have no experience in this lifestyle, and with the lack of spare time we have, we don't want to spend that time teaching.

Now someone more experienced in rope and early BDSM, maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"would you be happy to meet me?

That's not the real question, don't answer that. I'm just bringing the snazziness.

Anyway; when it comes to meeting people on Fab, are you happy to meet those who are more/less sexually active/experienced than you? Does it matter to you? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m answering the question you don’t want answered first: yeah maybe. You seem mostly alright

With regards to everyone else, any Fab encounters are just fleeting liaisons so I really don’t worry about how experienced / inexperienced they are as long as it doesn’t detract from a comfortable relaxed non-stressy meet.

If they can show me new things, great, if they’re so hard core they expect me to swing off the rafters to get their kicks then it probably won’t work (I am unable to swing off rafters ..

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By *ongueFkYouMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Dosent matter to me at all and I know you didn’t want a question answered but going to any way that would be a yes I would meet you ha ha "
WOW natalie you are stunning

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By *ee04Man
over a year ago

Essex

In a word yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. And a will bring a test sheet and expect to see demonstrations that displays their prowess.

(Really, no, it doesn’t matter.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d bum anyone

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I get nervous either way so I don't mind really. Although if I know they clearly have a lot of experience or in demand as it were, the brain goblins of being a major disappointment creep in more so

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"As long as there is a connection then would be happy to meet folk "

That's nice and simple. I hate this emote but it has its uses. Sporadically.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Up Your Frock!

Happy to meet anyone thats cool…

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"would you be happy to meet me?

That's not the real question, don't answer that. I'm just bringing the snazziness.

Anyway; when it comes to meeting people on Fab, are you happy to meet those who are more/less sexually active/experienced than you? Does it matter to you? "

I'm not answering just want to say I love these threads. Like an adult circle time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d bum anyone "

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I prefer people more sexually experienced as it makes up for my lack of experience.

We both can't just lay there. "

Fair. I'm impressed with the dedication you're showing to this crap fuck shtick though Lilith.

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By *apidaryMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Experience often seems a word that doesn't catch the essence of what matters. Being comfortable in your own skin, being comfortable naked and entwined with a partner, or in those moments of breathless desire that come first, being as ready to laugh and heave your heart into your mouth when you're in bed as when you're sitting in a bar - these things matter more, often, for making two people click than whether each has picked up some particular technique. Noticing what your partner is feeling, physically and emotionally (and they're the same thing) and being able to response to it. Experience can teach you that, but experience alone never will.

Slut is another word that hangs in the balance a little. The old sense was slightly of someone who doesn't care what they're doing or who they're doing it with; nothing attractive about that. Lovely that the word has been reclaimed in a modern form, to mean someone who is joyously and unashamedly revelling in their desires and their capacity for sensuously enjoying them. A step forward in society, that change in meaning, and a step forward in human happiness.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"would you be happy to meet me?

That's not the real question, don't answer that. I'm just bringing the snazziness.

Anyway; when it comes to meeting people on Fab, are you happy to meet those who are more/less sexually active/experienced than you? Does it matter to you?

Always happy.

But good lord, that voice of yours is incredible."

Aww thanks! It's a siren song luring poor folk to their deaths on the rocks of my chaos. Glad it still has that effect.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Experienced please

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By *orthmanMan
over a year ago

Kendal

"would you be happy to meet me?

That's not the real question, don't answer that. I'm just bringing the snazziness.

Anyway; when it comes to meeting people on Fab, are you happy to meet those who are more/less sexually active/experienced than you? Does it matter to you? "

That voice. Mellifluous.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Less of course. That way I seem slightly more impressive, but also still a disappointment for them at the same time.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Up Your Frock!

Id like to lure you onto my rocks!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d bum anyone

Just don’t make eye contact

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"It doesn't matter at all to me.its the connection and spark that is important not the body count."

Body count is such a grim term. Up there with meets. Fuck body counts. But yes, connection and spark is so important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"would you be happy to meet me?

That's not the real question, don't answer that. I'm just bringing the snazziness.

Anyway; when it comes to meeting people on Fab, are you happy to meet those who are more/less sexually active/experienced than you? Does it matter to you? "

Of course I'd be happy to meet you ..isn't that what it's all about ..fun ??..things don't make any difference to me tbh once both are happy to meet.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Since I meet men around my age, I'd expect them to have experienced sex for a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"would you be happy to meet me?

That's not the real question, don't answer that. I'm just bringing the snazziness.

Anyway; when it comes to meeting people on Fab, are you happy to meet those who are more/less sexually active/experienced than you? Does it matter to you? "

Yes, happy to meet either as it’s about getting to know the person and connection and worse that can happen perhaps is you may have a laugh. By the way yes to your first question

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

It don’t really matter to us ,we mostly only meet couples anyway and we have met couples that have never swapped before as long as we all get on and can have a laugh with each other then experience doesn’t matter to us at all.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I am not a slut but I'd help out if the team was short

Love this team mentality. Beautiful.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Depends on what you count as experience I guess. The amount of people I've fucked is probably less than the majority of Fab. However, I've experienced lots with my other half, particularly in the BDSM side of things.

I particularly dislike people presuming I can show them the ropes. I'd rather they did their own research and ask specifically what they want to do than leave it to me to decide. Everyone is different what my yum is may be their yuk.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"would you be happy to meet me?

That's not the real question, don't answer that. I'm just bringing the snazziness.

Anyway; when it comes to meeting people on Fab, are you happy to meet those who are more/less sexually active/experienced than you? Does it matter to you? "

What others do with others is between them and the other/others. Doesn't bother me or us at all. What puts others off will matter not to some others. Other than that.......no.

*not sure I've ever posted a comment where 'other' appears so often.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Tbh most folks probably have a wider experience than me, treat me as a willing inquisitive student

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id quite like to meet someone who is a un- sexually active as me currently so we can joke about where do we actually put it again, and who is going to get cramp first.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I'd meet anyone I had a connection with but quite like more experienced people as I feel like they can take the lead a bit better as I can be quite reserved because I still never fully know if they want sex with me

Oh Joe why are you so adorable and lovely and just... I want to squish your cheeks you know? In a nice way. I think if someone is at the point where they're having sex with you, 9 times out of 10 they probably want to be there. Probably 10.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really have a preference. Much more about the connection I have with the person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to admit I will bypass the profiles that say 'new to this so please be gentle' or words to that effect. But that's because they may not be able to cope with or deal with this lifestyle perhaps, even more so with couples. If it all went wrong that's real people that can get hurt from it.

Sexually I favour the more experienced in a BDSM, kink, D/s scenario and being more submissive I'll naturally go for the dominant/confident types. I'm just wired that way.

That said I'm quite happy to top from the bottom to show someone what I like once I know then well enough in a more vanilla setting.

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By *ildmanYorksMan
over a year ago

Doncaster & Bembridge

It doesn't matter to me either way. If they're less experienced than me then they learn something, if more experienced then I learn

To answer your first question Meli, yes I would be very happy to meet you xx

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I love people who have no problems showing their sexiness or openness. So I’d much prefer people who are sure rather than someone who is unsure.

I tend to mirror people and so a confident person who needs no direction works much better for me

Ah this makes sense K, thanks for sharing! Yes, I guess if you feed off someone else's energy and match that you want someone who is raring to go and unafraid to show that.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Dosent matter to me at all and I know you didn’t want a question answered but going to any way that would be a yes I would meet you ha ha "

Oh Natalie you sweetheart! It's good to read you again and not just because you're so nice to me. Well, maybe a little bit. :D

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Not at all, I don't even think about that. It's about if there's chemistry or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a slut. What’s up. Get me lit.

(For reference: https://youtu.be/_Z65fksL8oQ)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meli I’d meet you in a heartbeat. You’re extremely peng.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I don't hugely think about it, because it really comes down to how we feel together.

But I will as it's you Meli

Less experience can be fun as there's more room for experimentation. A bit hesitant around them knowing their limits.

More experience can be good as they have an idea about what they want and desire.

More active. Can be an issue if they are very active as I prefer regular partners and if I am honest I just go off the boil, if there's too little contact.

The word slut comes into play if they want to be a slut for me. I will want to see how far that goes.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I wouldn't meet a virgin but that's my limit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't meet a virgin but that's my limit."

And yet you met me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dosent matter to me at all and I know you didn’t want a question answered but going to any way that would be a yes I would meet you ha ha

Oh Natalie you sweetheart! It's good to read you again and not just because you're so nice to me. Well, maybe a little bit. :D"

Aww thank you so much and you made me blush and your welcome anytime x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't meet a virgin, or someone who isn't necessarily understanding of this lifestyle.

I also wouldn't meet someone who expects more than 10 minutes of play from my end. (that's a joke btw)

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"It's great when someone is experienced. It makes it so much easier. I've done the whole shagging bags of potatoes when I was in secondary school.

One even asked me if I'd been watching East enders recently!!!

That obviously says more about them than my performance

Someone asked if you were watching Eastenders during sex and you chose to share that with a bunch of horny fuckers? Ah yes, of course, it's definitely speaking about them and not you. Not you in the slightest.

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By *apybarasCouple
over a year ago

High Lighthouse

I suppose it depends a little bit on where you are in your own "journey".

Ms C. would be quite keen on a lady with more experience at present.

But nothing is set in stone is it?

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By *inkedKuntsCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Doesn't matter to us, we were all newbies at some point, everyone needs an intro and everyone can always learn or teach something new.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I find sexual confidence a great turn on. A woman who knows what she likes and isn't afraid to take it.

I've seen you around and I would, definitely.

Aww that's lovely, I really didn't start this for nice comments! I was curious how people felt about it.

Sexual confidence is great isn't it? Even if it's not backed up by all the experience, someone who is confident in who they are is a very attractive quality.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"It doesn't matter one iota, Mèlí.

I am meeting the •person• and not necessarily their sexual heritage.

Experiences are cultivated between two people and then develop over time. At any given moment I will be less experienced than most and some others will be less experienced than me.

I always learning from others.

I'm always teaching others."

But but but... Nero. How does that tie in with that hotel analogy you've used a few times before? About wanting a woman who is like an untouched, pristine hotel room?

Would you rather the sexual heritage was left in the basement? I'm taking this analogy a tad too far possibly. You'll get it though.

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

"would you be happy to meet me?

That's not the real question, don't answer that. I'm just bringing the snazziness.

Anyway; when it comes to meeting people on Fab, are you happy to meet those who are more/less sexually active/experienced than you? Does it matter to you? "
I dont like meeting people for play if they shag every girl on a block...way too fussy for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awww thank you Meli, I need to realise that and be more confident with it as oppose to triple and quadruple checking and potentially talking them out of it

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

It doesn't really matter I don't think, although there's some with lots of verifications that may make me think maybe I'm not quite upto scratch for these people or I'm not experienced enough, I guess that's just my own little bit of self doubt.

If we had a real connection then I don't think I'd be bothered.

Mrs

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

“I’m not a slut, but …”

No, actually I might be. I might be a bit of a slut. Sometimes. I don’t think I can answer this one.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Holibobs

Tbf anyone can talk the talk and not walk the walk, I've no idea if he's gonna only pneumatic finger drill in my vag till it's too bloody late

I do tend to sway more towards the more sexually active on here men, but have had dalliance's with less experienced men and had differing experiences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"“I’m not a slut, but …”

No, actually I might be. I might be a bit of a slut. Sometimes. I don’t think I can answer this one."

There’s no “might be”. Sorry sweetie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"would you be happy to meet me?

That's not the real question, don't answer that. I'm just bringing the snazziness.

Anyway; when it comes to meeting people on Fab, are you happy to meet those who are more/less sexually active/experienced than you? Does it matter to you? "

Like everything else in my life - I like a balance. Variety. I’m easily bored…

Ooh squirrel….

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

Could easily be persuaded. Either way.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"To a point.

We have though received messages from solo men that have no experience in this lifestyle, and with the lack of spare time we have, we don't want to spend that time teaching.

Now someone more experienced in rope and early BDSM, maybe.

Oh when someone has no experience it's very different to someone having a bit isn't it? I'm not going to pretend I've never had sex or touched a penis but equally... I've not done a lot of things. I guess it's how people approach things, if there's a curiosity, a desire to explore and enjoy an experience with you regardless of it being their 10th or 1000th, that's what you want, isn't it?

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"would you be happy to meet me?

That's not the real question, don't answer that. I'm just bringing the snazziness.

Anyway; when it comes to meeting people on Fab, are you happy to meet those who are more/less sexually active/experienced than you? Does it matter to you?

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Oh, that's a real shame. I was looking forward to your irreverent, sporadic wit possibly popping up.

Guess you won't be able to see this post though so there's little point in typing it. Sigh.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"There’s no “might be”. Sorry sweetie

At least you still think it’s cute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There’s no “might be”. Sorry sweetie

At least you still think it’s cute.

I just think *you’re* cute

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"It doesn't matter one iota, Mèlí.

I am meeting the •person• and not necessarily their sexual heritage.

Experiences are cultivated between two people and then develop over time. At any given moment I will be less experienced than most and some others will be less experienced than me.

I always learning from others.

I'm always teaching others.

But but but... Nero. How does that tie in with that hotel analogy you've used a few times before? About wanting a woman who is like an untouched, pristine hotel room?

Would you rather the sexual heritage was left in the basement? I'm taking this analogy a tad too far possibly. You'll get it though."

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The hotel analogy is about not seeing any photographic or physical evidence of her being fucked to oblivion by all and sundry.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

A person’s or couples experience or lack of it doesn’t make the slightest difference to us. The first and last thing we look for is whether they are authentic, kind and funny people. emotional intelligence, chemistry and physical attraction also count as well Xx

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I get nervous either way so I don't mind really. Although if I know they clearly have a lot of experience or in demand as it were, the brain goblins of being a major disappointment creep in more so

Ah yes! That's a good point Cede and one I hadn't considered. Some people can definitely feel a bit... unsure if someone is in demand. Worried they won't be quite as good. Banish the goblins though, they talk utter bollocks.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Surrounded by sluts!

Band name right there

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By *olly SwallowsTV/TS
over a year ago

Sexville

Genuinely don’t care and I don’t think most the people I meet care about me in that way either.

The sex will either be good, bad or in between and that will only be known once we do it!

I can’t say that a guy will be great in bed as he has fucked loads equally a virgin may be the best fuck of my life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The majority will be more so I'd be in trouble if I didn't like it

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I'd say that the right amount of sexual confidence was always more important than experience, or lack of. I couldn't be doing with coaxing someone that's not confident. But then I've had dalliances with very experienced men that think their trusty three move combination that they use on every woman they meet is some kind of sexual nirvana for all womandom because some poor soul once faked an orgasm to get them to stop

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I'd say that the right amount of sexual confidence was always more important than experience, or lack of. I couldn't be doing with coaxing someone that's not confident. But then I've had dalliances with very experienced men that think their trusty three move combination that they use on every woman they meet is some kind of sexual nirvana for all womandom because some poor soul once faked an orgasm to get them to stop

It was 4 moves and you said it rocked your world!

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I'm very picky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes of course I would!

I'm not really interested in what people get up to before or after me, so long as when they are with me they have the ability to be completely in those moments with me.

Slut isn't really a word I like. It's been used in a derogatory way to try and make me feel bad in the past. I prefer the term sexualy liberated.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Brum

Not at all interested in anyone else’s promiscuity.

If we’re compatible and find them attractive then we’ll happily meet

Nice tits on you op

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever the wind takes me

Depends. If it was just for a social then sure, bring on the coffee and cake.

For sexual relations? Probably not. I like a bit of compatibility in that department, otherwise it can get a bit complicated.

When it comes to past sexual experiences I couldn’t give two hoots (so long as they don’t bang on about it to me) but if someone is much more active sexually than me (which isn’t hard to be at the moment to be fair) and they want sex all the time then it’s pointless getting involved with them as I wouldn’t satisfy their needs and I’d end up feeling a bit crappy about that.

I’m not a swinger before anyone says anything - so I don’t like to share sexual partners either.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

ilkley

I hate the word slut, it just seems to be used as a sexist tag to degrade women, often by men who have little or no experience and are clearly envious of the person they use it against. And even when people use it about themselves, rather than being a reclaimation it often sounds as if they feel at least a little internal shame because of the way society regards sexually active women. Maybe that's just me being a little old fashioned, I certainly hope that young people can feel a confidence to laugh at this and similar labels, recognising that those throwing insults are generally unworthy of even the slightest attention.

Meli, I'd love to meet up with you anytime in a social way. Sexually I'm pretty sure it would be a dreadful embarrassment for both of us to find that we were so mismatched, and that it would be a mistake to try. Not to do with levels of experience as such, but confidence, and attitudes towards sex instilled during upbringing.

Explaining myself badly, but there you go. Hoping that people who know me might understand what I'm trying to say.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I have to admit I will bypass the profiles that say 'new to this so please be gentle' or words to that effect. But that's because they may not be able to cope with or deal with this lifestyle perhaps, even more so with couples. If it all went wrong that's real people that can get hurt from it.

Sexually I favour the more experienced in a BDSM, kink, D/s scenario and being more submissive I'll naturally go for the dominant/confident types. I'm just wired that way.

That said I'm quite happy to top from the bottom to show someone what I like once I know then well enough in a more vanilla setting."

That makes a lot of sense, you're naturally drawn to a particular type of person and that involves confidence.

Yes, playing with couples who have no experience can be potentially rather meh! I think socials are good for establishing chemistry but you don't know how someone will feel about seeing their partner with another until you're in that moment.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Meli I’d meet you in a heartbeat. You’re extremely peng. "

So are you Pickle! I miss those days of being called peng, here for it. Can't wait to finally meet you soon(ish)! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a woman with experience as I have not had a lot of experience myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thought this oleas about the pink song

I'm not a slut, I just love love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all meets are specifically for sex, but when they are it is simply a matter of mutual interest and attraction. It doesn't matter how much experience they have previously, over how the new experience they will have with you is going to go.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Confidence is attractive.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Experience often seems a word that doesn't catch the essence of what matters. Being comfortable in your own skin, being comfortable naked and entwined with a partner, or in those moments of breathless desire that come first, being as ready to laugh and heave your heart into your mouth when you're in bed as when you're sitting in a bar - these things matter more, often, for making two people click than whether each has picked up some particular technique. Noticing what your partner is feeling, physically and emotionally (and they're the same thing) and being able to response to it. Experience can teach you that, but experience alone never will.

I do enjoy reading your more detailed posts.

You're right - I think it's that essence we're all seeking, to varying degrees. Techniques are great, sometimes, of course they are. That willingness to learn another, to have another learn you is far more important though isn't it? Experience perhaps doesn't teach you that but it can perhaps instill confidence in yourself. That belief that you're desirable whether at a bar or in bed. It's another thread I think, for another day.

Slut is an interesting word. I'll confess, I only used it because of a friend's discussion with me over the past couple of days about embracing their inner slut. That reclamation of language can be a positive thing, it can sometimes be problematic. I'm rather on the fence when it comes to that particular term but yes. It was very much used off the back of a conversation where I realised I am not quite as sexually experienced as others.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I'll chat to anybody, especially with boobies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"would you be happy to meet me?

That's not the real question, don't answer that. I'm just bringing the snazziness.

Anyway; when it comes to meeting people on Fab, are you happy to meet those who are more/less sexually active/experienced than you? Does it matter to you? "

No I wouldn't be happy to meet them.

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By *apidaryMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"That belief that you're desirable whether at a bar or in bed ... I realised I am not quite as sexually experienced as others."

Isn't it lovely to feel desirable? And lovely also to let someone else know how desirable they are. A way of bringing out the best in each other, and a place where sexual happiness and general happiness meet perfectly. Good chat does that, too, whether it's banter in a bar or messages like these on an online forum.

As to being more or less sexually experienced than others, there's an ancient English phrase that comparisons are odious. Let's compete to give and receive joy and compete if we happen to be playing the Aussies at cricket - the rest of the time, to hell with it!

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I don't hugely think about it, because it really comes down to how we feel together.

But I will as it's you Meli

Less experience can be fun as there's more room for experimentation. A bit hesitant around them knowing their limits.

More experience can be good as they have an idea about what they want and desire.

More active. Can be an issue if they are very active as I prefer regular partners and if I am honest I just go off the boil, if there's too little contact.

The word slut comes into play if they want to be a slut for me. I will want to see how far that goes."

Because it'll be rather churlish to not reply seeing as you did this for me.

I like the way you've framed your reply - the benefits of each way of being.

Yes, the active thing is a bit of a thing for me for similar reasons. I can quite quickly lose interest if there's not reciprocated desire, if that makes sense? My support animal says I'm fickle. I'm not sure it's fickleness it's more, I like that desire to remain in some small way and with very little or no energy I just... okay, maybe I'm fickle.

Anyway, thank you. It gave me some things to think on.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"would you be happy to meet me?

That's not the real question, don't answer that. I'm just bringing the snazziness.

Anyway; when it comes to meeting people on Fab, are you happy to meet those who are more/less sexually active/experienced than you? Does it matter to you? "

It doesn’t matter in the slightest, unless they bang on about it (either experience or lack of) to the point of discomfort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"would you be happy to meet me?

That's not the real question, don't answer that. I'm just bringing the snazziness.

Anyway; when it comes to meeting people on Fab, are you happy to meet those who are more/less sexually active/experienced than you? Does it matter to you? "

To us less is better... though we certainly aren't less sexualoy active haha

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

It doesn’t really matter.

It really truly comes down to a sense of connection and attraction. Everything else if those two come together can be a nice little adventure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All that matters to us is a connection...if we click then we will all feel comfortable communicating about what we all like, and what we'd like to try. Open-mindedness and a connection are the most important things for us

Mrs

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Honestly the main thing that matters for us is an attraction and a connection/compatibility then we'll happily meet with them.

Tinder x

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"I don't hugely think about it, because it really comes down to how we feel together.

But I will as it's you Meli

Less experience can be fun as there's more room for experimentation. A bit hesitant around them knowing their limits.

More experience can be good as they have an idea about what they want and desire.

More active. Can be an issue if they are very active as I prefer regular partners and if I am honest I just go off the boil, if there's too little contact.

The word slut comes into play if they want to be a slut for me. I will want to see how far that goes.

Because it'll be rather churlish to not reply seeing as you did this for me.

I like the way you've framed your reply - the benefits of each way of being.

Anyway, thank you. It gave me some things to think on.

Oh it was given freely, nothing expected in return. The sentiment is appreciated though.

Yes it does indeed make sense, I am quite similar in that regard.

Fickle... I would say it's more that you get out what you put in with me.

I quite enjoy putting the effort in, if the desire to do so is there and reciprocated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would only want to meet somebody experienced, but equally I'd be sh*t scared that i would be be inadequate and they would be too experienced

Soo errr.. Make of that what you will

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By *ablo200Man
over a year ago

sevenoaks

You won't struggle!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"would you be happy to meet me?

That's not the real question, don't answer that. I'm just bringing the snazziness.

Anyway; when it comes to meeting people on Fab, are you happy to meet those who are more/less sexually active/experienced than you? Does it matter to you? "

Activity and experience are no substitute for natural talent and intuition.

Met those with high body counts, those with low.

Active, and slow.

One doesn't necessarily indicate anything, other than how often they get to the dance floor.

Not if they can even dance.

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

I really don't care. I am looking for humour, personality, intelligence, authenticity, a bit of geekiness and compatibility with me. If that has meant they have slept with hardly anyone or they have shagged loads I don't really care. I have been with both ends of the scale and it really says little about how good they are in bed just how good they think they are sometimes.

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

Activity and experience are no substitute for natural talent and intuition.

Met those with high body counts, those with low.

Active, and slow.

One doesn't necessarily indicate anything, other than how often they get to the dance floor.

Not if they can even dance."

More than one snog in an evening = a tart though right?

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Never was on the list of things bothered me too much but now i dunno different story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Activity and experience are no substitute for natural talent and intuition.

Met those with high body counts, those with low.

Active, and slow.

One doesn't necessarily indicate anything, other than how often they get to the dance floor.

Not if they can even dance.

More than one snog in an evening = a tart though right?"

Absolutely.

Basically a petri dish of a woman by then.

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By *ocoaTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

Women sometimes say to me that they are concorned that I'd see them as too inexperienced.

However I'm only focused on good chemistry and an her having an open mind that is ready for new and naughty adventures.

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

For me I don’t think it matters at all . I enjoy exploring people whatever their sexual experiences in the past have been

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

Oh yeah, this thread....

It's safe to say that my relative inexperience doesn't put people off. Thank **** for eternal curiosity. :D

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Probably the one thing I never actually consider , but then am not really a swinger.

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By *umalotagainMan
over a year ago

a town called malice

"would you be happy to meet me?

That's not the real question, don't answer that. I'm just bringing the snazziness.

Anyway; when it comes to meeting people on Fab, are you happy to meet those who are more/less sexually active/experienced than you? Does it matter to you? "

Happy to meet someone who I am attracted to /is attracted to me ( dam it’s a struggle on here though) as for their experience, well as long as we are playing safe you can be as big a slut as you want, or a shy retiring type, either way if we are going to have fun we are going to make sure it is fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont care about how sexually experienced they're but I do care about having a moral compass, dignity and respect.

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

Essex

It really doesn’t matter. As long as there’s a connection/chemistry/attraction, and they’re decent and respectful we’ll have lots of fun.

If you fit the bill, feel free to slide into our DMs

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