FabSwingers.com forum: Do you call someone out when they lie?

By *ingdang OP TV/TS
over a year ago

manchester

I have been chatting to this guy for sometime, and he said "he is visiting Manchester yesterday". Then he sent me a message saying "his plan changed and he won't come this weekend". I thought fair enough. But when I checked his profile today, he changed his address to Manchester, and the phone app shows that he is just 2 miles away. He is "looking for a meet today".

Anyway, this doesn't shock me at all after been on this site for years. But it's still tempting to call him out. Would you do that?

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

Too pathetic to waste your time with.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

No, I'd just shrug my tits and either make a private note that they're unreliable or block. Life's too short

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I wouldn't no! Wouldn't give him another thought either x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't waste my energy. If they popped up again I'd just politely say I'm not down for playing games but take care. People lie all the time on here but it's up to us to choose if we accept that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t give him the satisfaction. He is close by, If he wanted to meet you he would have. Just forget about him and move on.

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

On here no, it’s not worth my time.

Real world i will definitely call out a liar

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By *ingdang OP TV/TS
over a year ago

manchester

advices accepted, I will just delete him and move on.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

In your example OP? No; I'd probably say fuck it and block him and move on. Never experienced it but I can't imagine I'll be too impressed.

In the real world? I'll ask them. You know, check I've not got it wrong. If there's evidence it was definitely a lie, it depends on how close I am to the person and how big a lie it was. Some things aren't worth burning bridges over and once I'm over my initial hurt, I move on from it.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I would just ask directly, without accusing them, I’d just say can you explain this as im confused. If you learn to ask directly without assuming anything you get answers or reactions. He may have a valid reason, or he may apologise, you never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been chatting to this guy for sometime, and he said "he is visiting Manchester yesterday". Then he sent me a message saying "his plan changed and he won't come this weekend". I thought fair enough. But when I checked his profile today, he changed his address to Manchester, and the phone app shows that he is just 2 miles away. He is "looking for a meet today".

Anyway, this doesn't shock me at all after been on this site for years. But it's still tempting to call him out. Would you do that?

Haven’t you just called home out with this thread.

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

"advices accepted, I will just delete him and move on."

No....message him and really rant and I mean really rant...then move on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn’t bother hun.. don’t waste your time , life is far too short

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find just ignoring these people works best.

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
over a year ago

Beverley

On here I couldn't give two fucks. In real life, yes, generally. But sometimes it's fun to wat h it unravel

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

"I wouldn't no! Wouldn't give him another thought either x"

Exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway, this doesn't shock me at all after been on this site for years. But it's still tempting to call him out. Would you do that?

Just block and move on

He obviously doesn't care about being caught lying since he wasn't discrete about it in the slightest

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By *ingdang OP TV/TS
over a year ago

manchester

To be honest it did make me angry in the beginning. Guess I am not very good with anger control. I felt much better after seeing all the advices here.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Rule one. The doctor lies!

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

If you have the time, wherewithal, patience and craftiness, play along with his scheme. Once he's back in touch breadcrumb him and lead him up the garden path, mess him about until you bore of him.

Then dispense of him forthwith.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Anyway, this doesn't shock me at all after been on this site for years. But it's still tempting to call him out. Would you do that?

Pick your battles. There's times to call out lies and times to just leave them. This seems like a leave it and move on situation to me.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

It would depend on my connection to the person. Someone I was just casually chatting to on here, I’d just consider them unreliable and forget about it. Somebody I knew in the real world, I’d probably dig a little deeper. I’d want to know why they felt the need to lie and why they couldn’t be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get plastic surgery to look like him, then meddle with his entire life until he is a broken, lonely, bankrupted mess of a human being, devoid of purpose and meaning in his life. Then when he is at his darkest hour jump out of a cupboard with a ta da and use google maps to demonstrate 2 miles and what it looks like in satellite view. You could feign a little compassion before withdrawing it, like taking that last sip of water away from the desert trekking fool.

Or block him. Whichever is easier really.

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

Never worth the effort to call anyone out on it to be honest, If it’s someone I know in real life I just make a mental note of it and know never to believe a word thst person says ever again

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

On here, yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not likely to bother in the case of the OP, as to me there's no point.

Seems they changed their mind and didn't have the nerve to say, confronting that is just that, confrontational and unlikely to bring any joy.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Get plastic surgery to look like him, then meddle with his entire life until he is a broken, lonely, bankrupted mess of a human being, devoid of purpose and meaning in his life. Then when he is at his darkest hour jump out of a cupboard with a ta da and use google maps to demonstrate 2 miles and what it looks like in satellite view. You could feign a little compassion before withdrawing it, like taking that last sip of water away from the desert trekking fool.

Or block him. Whichever is easier really. "

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Anyway, this doesn't shock me at all after been on this site for years. But it's still tempting to call him out. Would you do that?

Call him out for what ?

He said he had changed his plans and wouldn't come to see you.

End of.

I do understand what you mean and what it looks like to you but he didn't leave you hanging , he said he'd changed his plans - which is not a lie and like the rest of us .... he's a free agent.

Hope you find a meet that's worth it x

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By *untimes wantedMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

you said he planned to come at the weekend and then his plans changed.Today when you checked is monday.

without wanting to know details on here .only you know what you chatted about such as if you told him at some point you could only meet at weekends or any other variable that would make him think you might not be available during the week on days or times he would be.

You either move on and block him or send a him message but from what you wrote i can't see where he lied because its not the weekend today.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Anyway, this doesn't shock me at all after been on this site for years. But it's still tempting to call him out. Would you do that?

Nah, just block and forget. There's no investment on either side.

Mrs TMN x

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By *erry bull1Man
over a year ago

doncaster

Anyway, this doesn't shock me at all after been on this site for years. But it's still tempting to call him out. Would you do that?

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block and forget him, his loss

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"you said he planned to come at the weekend and then his plans changed.Today when you checked is monday.

You either move on and block him or send a him message but from what you wrote i can't see where he lied because its not the weekend today. "

I can't see the lie either.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Anyway, this doesn't shock me at all after been on this site for years. But it's still tempting to call him out. Would you do that?

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Nope if he wants to meet you he will some people don't want you to know where they live in fact the forums are a testament to that many women and couples don't show the town where they live

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I look at it this way.

I chat for ages to a bloke on here. I say to him I will be near his at the weekend.

I change my plans/mind and let them know.

I start to look for another meet and they call me 'out' call me a 'liar'.

I'd be backing right off. It's not up to anyone else who I meet or when or where.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Only if he asked me why I wasn't making anymore plans to see him, then he'd find out, otherwise no, I wouldn't be wasting anymore of my time on him...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take screenshots. Keep receipts. People like to gaslight you

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By *ingdang OP TV/TS
over a year ago

manchester

There was a time, and place to meet arranged, which he said he is no longer coming to this city. Yet a few hours later he changed his location to this city and is physically here. I hope you can see why I said he was lying. But anyway, I should have known not many people are reliable here

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I'd probably block and make a private note so I remembered why .

If they lie so easily about that's what else would they lie about?

Miss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway, this doesn't shock me at all after been on this site for years. But it's still tempting to call him out. Would you do that?

Their loss. Let’s hope he gets blue balled lol x

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

Anyway, this doesn't shock me at all after been on this site for years. But it's still tempting to call him out. Would you do that?

I would... that's just a blatant lie..why do that? Don't see the point in lying... just say "don't want to see you" it's not bloody hard is it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope just do one better rade his verified list that’s on show even if they don’t take your fancy it’s serveing a purpose message one off them and let them bang and leave you a verification and desplay it

Then put up new pictures and message asking if he likes your new picture so they go to your profile

They see you had a new meet click and then release its someone they know

If they ask just say yip they got what you could have had

No comment if I done this before

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Maybe he only has half an hour for a quick blow job and wants to spend more time with you.

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

Just leave it. He can change his mind about meeting if he wants.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I would just block him.

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

"I look at it this way.

I chat for ages to a bloke on here. I say to him I will be near his at the weekend.

I change my plans/mind and let them know.

I start to look for another meet and they call me 'out' call me a 'liar'.

I'd be backing right off. It's not up to anyone else who I meet or when or where.

This. Some of the replies here are shocking the guy hasn't done anything wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you have the time, wherewithal, patience and craftiness, play along with his scheme. Once he's back in touch breadcrumb him and lead him up the garden path, mess him about until you bore of him.

Then dispense of him forthwith."

I'd do this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I look at it this way.

I chat for ages to a bloke on here. I say to him I will be near his at the weekend.

I change my plans/mind and let them know.

I start to look for another meet and they call me 'out' call me a 'liar'.

I'd be backing right off. It's not up to anyone else who I meet or when or where.

This. Some of the replies here are shocking the guy hasn't done anything wrong "

So often, I'll see here someone complain that a woman or couple changed their mind, or even ghosted them.

The response is to get over it, nobody owes you anything.

It seems this guy has changed his mind and stated so, in a gentle way, and yet some of the reactions here. (Shrugs)

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

"I look at it this way.

I chat for ages to a bloke on here. I say to him I will be near his at the weekend.

I change my plans/mind and let them know.

I start to look for another meet and they call me 'out' call me a 'liar'.

I'd be backing right off. It's not up to anyone else who I meet or when or where.

This. Some of the replies here are shocking the guy hasn't done anything wrong

So often, I'll see here someone complain that a woman or couple changed their mind, or even ghosted them.

The response is to get over it, nobody owes you anything.

It seems this guy has changed his mind and stated so, in a gentle way, and yet some of the reactions here. (Shrugs)"

Yes would definitely be a whole different response if it was a woman changing her mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway, this doesn't shock me at all after been on this site for years. But it's still tempting to call him out. Would you do that?

Nope. People can change their minds

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