FabSwingers.com forum: Has anyone encountered the school bully

By *he love cats OP Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

since leaving school? How did you encounter them and had they changed much?

Have a lovely evening all.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Yes he ended up a homeless smackhead last i saw him

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I think I married one.

His younger brother was in my year and the bully.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

yes, when I was a teacher, the deputy head bullied me and others. Was horrible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yip not shour how his life turned out

But had the pleasure off turning down a offer from him

Could have made things worse for him sins he had a girlfriend as he told me so

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

Not the bully, but one of the "in" crowd that used to be disparaging towards me. He tried the whole "old school mate" thing to get in when I was doing door at a university gig. I told him to get in line like everyone else. He later came up to me when I was with a couple of other old school friends I'd bumped into and said one day someone was going to smack me. So I got in his face and told him if he thought it was going to be him he could go ahead right now and try so I could fuck him up. He left. Prick!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

No. He died pretty young.

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

Yep. When they say karma is a bitch.

Was 19 and shop manager. She came in with her screaming brat shits.

Trolley full of food and wanted to pay by cheque.

Sorry we don't accept cheques.

Oh come on. You know me.

Yes I do, and that's why we don't.

Felt sorry for the kids, but never enjoyed putting stuff back on a shelf so much.

I'm not a bad person. Really I'm not. X

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

Each school bully ive had ive hurt badly when ive had enough of them.

Yes they bullied me for a long while until then.

Then they would leave me alone for a long while and then try by 2 onto one.

Ive met them later in life and they spoke civil with me with no threats or bullying from them.

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By *ust a little bit moreWoman
over a year ago

kendal

Yeah, she definately peaked in secondary school!

She's an absolute train wreck now!

Which I guess is just karma doing its thing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes he ended up a homeless smackhead last i saw him "

Pretty much this but telling me he was going to turn his life around

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By *arialoueWoman
over a year ago

bradford

I used to work with 1 of my school bullies, he used to chat to all my Co workers but not me, think he must have felt guilty or something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't met him since school but worked with his sister. Turns out she doesn't like him either and she told me he was still living with their parents without a job doing live streams on YouTube.

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By *ackDorianMan
over a year ago

ashford

This hits hard because I’d known our school bully our entire life and although he had repercussions and everyone thought he had changed; it turns out he was just bullying younger or more vulnerable people instead. Fast forward 5 years and he’d died. Puts a pretty permanent stop to any “We might be able to reconcile things in a few years” motion.

Didn’t go to the funeral as I felt it wasn’t the place for someone who knew him but didn’t get on with him. I hear a ridiculous amount turned up and quite a few didn’t even know him

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Yes he ended up a homeless smackhead last i saw him

Pretty much this but telling me he was going to turn his life around "

Thirded!! Same here , saw him in Wellingborough years back begging , just goes to show really

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

One I and others had problems with are now figures of fun on social media. Karma.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Being a novelty coming from overseas in our lovely little market town I had just about enough status to be left alone.

The one who was a notorious bully to many is now a very successful chef with the odd stint on TV. Although he is no Gordon Ramsay

Before his move to London I bumped into him one day after someone had knocked seven bells out of him and helped try and preserve a tooth for him. Not sure Guiness worked but he was grateful for the attempt and was very open about how he was once a cock. I wished him all the best.

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

Karma seems to be having thier way in life.

Just goes to show.

Treat others as you would like to be treated yourself. Xxx

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Honestly, I don't think my school had a bully at least for the 5 years I was there. None that I knew of or made it obvious.

Yeah, there were standard pocket instances of name calling among different kids, and while it is a form of bullying it was more hazing than actual targeting and singling out.

There was a kid in my year at high school, that during our 2nd year, hung himself.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Seems it's only my school bully who changed and did well for himself.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Yes I met him in a petrol station - working behind a counter. He was on a heroin recovery programme with his key worker.

Seemed to be turning his life around. His step dad used to beat the shit out of him.

We were laughing about the fight we had on the rec. after school so the teachers couldn't break it up.

He thanked me for letting him up when he crying for me to stop. He said I don't think I would have done that. Then he said you only won cos you kicked me in the balls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not the bully, but one of the "in" crowd that used to be disparaging towards me. He tried the whole "old school mate" thing to get in when I was doing door at a university gig. I told him to get in line like everyone else. He later came up to me when I was with a couple of other old school friends I'd bumped into and said one day someone was going to smack me. So I got in his face and told him if he thought it was going to be him he could go ahead right now and try so I could fuck him up. He left. Prick!"

Well thats not very lady like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I did.

And on sight of one I had one of the most bitchy thoughts I've ever had and felt bad for it despite the satisfaction I got at the same time.

Another I vowed I would take my revenge on and bumped into her at a mother and toddler group with her mum. So wouldn't have been able to if I had the balls anyway. But my god would I love to do to her what she did to me..but I wouldn't miss.

But that's just my anger and feeling of injustice talking. I know I wouldn't actually do it.

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

I don’t really remember the school having a bully as such at least not at high school.

The worst bully on our street was a lad a few years older than us he picked on one lad in particular from our group all the time the odd time he had some money for some sweets or wrestling cards if he seen the bully he would beat him up and take whatever he had off him. One time my Jack Russell who went everywhere with us tore his pants leg to shreds after he raised his fist to him to give him another unprovoked hiding.

Once a certain age he just stopped growing and when we were all grown men he wasn’t much bigger than a child still he couldn’t pick on anyone then. He killed himself a few years ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never really had any bullies maybe coming from a pit village we delt with things with fists also having a harder bigger sister she was a skinhead I was left alone but again I could handle myself.but was one guy later in life that used to pick on young ones when out drinking I no a few who he'd beaten up fast forward about 20 yrs he was found beaten nearly to death he's in a wheelchair now no one ever been charged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She is in jail and her kids are with the grandma.

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

There were a couple although they never bothered me,they knew I'd shoot them,both became addicts and served lengthy jail terms for beating people up and class A offences.There were a couple of teachers though,One teacher turned her ring into the palm of her hand and smacked me across the face,cut the bridge of my nose open,so I put her on her backside and left school permanently.The one and only time I've laid a finger on a female.She ended up in court on an assault charge,just dodged it but never worked permanent after only supply.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

Well thats not very lady like"

It isn't, is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 02/07/23 19:57:22]"

I realised this is a bit grim for fab. Apologies.

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock

"Not a school bully but someone who lived near me used to steal my money. He was 5 years older than me. Someone bludgeoned him to death a few years ago."

Obviously you had an alibi

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By *he love cats OP Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

"[Removed by poster at 02/07/23 19:57:22]

I realised this is a bit grim for fab. Apologies."

No need for apologies.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

When I was at school I was a y little thing and shy. I was a soft target for a lot of the school bullies but mostly stayed away from them.

Thinking back, there are one or two whose injustices against me I would love to resolve the old fashioned way, but I mostly feel sorry for them.

The majority were from scummy families and the only role models they had were scummy parents and siblings. It’s no surprise they learned to live life like that, their only recourse being to get angry and throw punches. The really sad thing is they will have had at least 3-4 children of their own who will be brought up in the same fashion. It’s a cyclic societal problem and will never change.

So, our decent kids and every generation thereafter will be forced to endure scum who don’t know any better than to bully.

#brokenbritain!! I should work for the daily mail.

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

The theme seems to be all the bullies coming to grief

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went on a couple of dates a few years ago with a girl that was one that ripped me to shreds daily as a kid.

She was lovely, we all behaved in ways we can’t explain as teens.

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

"The theme seems to be all the bullies coming to grief"

Definitely mate seems their personality type seems to cause them trouble down the line

Another example of this I was assaulted down the woods when I was 13 by two 19 year old lads for no other reason than one of their girlfriends (who were about my age so can add noncing to their list of misdeeds) playfully stole my cap a while earlier. Within days my dad found out where one of them lived and went to his door the lad answered and when my dad asked if he was “insert name here” and if he hit someone down the woods the other day he answered yes and my dad chased him through the house and cornered him in the kitchen had him by throat about to pound him senseless and he actually started crying by this time his parents had came to the kitchen and his mother pleaded with my dad not to hit him he thought better and left. Anyway that bits regardless just wanted to include that to show the cowardice. within several years both had died through heroin

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

Irrelevant not regardless fuck knows how auto correct got that

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By *r.SJMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

I've two examples and went throughout my school years being the easy target and picked on.

Initially I went to a private boys school and was their on merit and academic achievement and although my parents worked for the NHS we were still bottom of the social classes within those circles and I was badly bullied for this.

From their (and because of the bullying) I went to a state school. Were I was obviously gay and a posh twat because of my previous school. For nearly two years, I was physically and mentally bullied. (Only rest bite being when I'd taken my Swiss army knife into school and cut the lead bullies finger to the bone, I had my knife confiscated and he a week off with stitches but came back and shook my hand).

In later years, I've heard of both bullies. The latter committed suicide.

But the former messaged me a few years ago with a very sincere and apologetic message, explaining how it had stuck with him and he wanted to hold his hand out and apologise. One day I might reply.

The issue being isn't just how it affected them and how they've turned out but the lasting damage it can cause to the recipient as well.

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By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

Yes.

Saw her on a train several years ago.

She looked fucking awful.

Made my day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. She seemed to think I'd want to be nice to her.

I was polite but that's as far as it went

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She never bullied me, but I bumped into a girl who terrorised lots of people at school as an adult. She had two black eyes courtesy of her boyfriend and got quite teary saying she couldn't believe what she'd put other people through. I felt pretty sorry for her, but there'll be a lot of people she traumatised that won't ever know she regrets it so badly.

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By *tooveMan
over a year ago

belfast

Was walking through town and saw him. He wasn't as hard without his mates.

Wrecked my trainers though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, she turned up at a school reunion and wished she hadn't, no one spoke or gave her a second glance and after 10 minutes she sheepishly left.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interviewed him for a job about 15 years after we left school.

He smashed the interview, I gave him the job and he ruined the chance afforded him, I did get pleasure from terminating his employment.

Turns out he was a dick when he was 15 and when he was 30

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
over a year ago

Beverley

We didn't really have one. We were all generally pretty good as a group at putting someone in their place who was being out of order

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes years back he moved in across the road from me! I did remind him felt I should! He actually apologised to me! But later added me on f book he had not changed deleted him from there eventually! X

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofiaWoman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston

Nope but I was bullied by my headteacher, deputy head and HR woman as they were all best friends, covered each others backs and guaranteed to be the bullies when they themselves were at school. It changed my life and how much tolerance I have for people and also made me want to change my career...haven't stepped foot in a school since. Bullies are the only people that should go and hang themselves...and yes I absolutely mean it, absolutely vile animals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My bully from primary school. He messaged me 6 years ago on social media. He wrote really long message with apology of what he had put me through.

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

"Nope but I was bullied by my headteacher, deputy head and HR woman as they were all best friends, covered each others backs and guaranteed to be the bullies when they themselves were at school. It changed my life and how much tolerance I have for people and also made me want to change my career...haven't stepped foot in a school since. Bullies are the only people that should go and hang themselves...and yes I absolutely mean it, absolutely vile animals."

A few teacher bullies at school.They tended to stay clear of me and a few others.Met each of them within a couple of years of leaving,one walked into the local and left as soon as I saw him and started to walk towards him,another got off the train a stop early when they saw me,and the third,I've never seen anyone run so fast in a tight skirt.Bastards each one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one approach me in a bar years after we’d left school, to my surprise he bought me a drink and apologised for being an asshole at the time

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

I did/have, it was my brother.

All my childhood and even into young adulthood. It stopped when I left home and stopped seeing my brother when I was in my earlier 20s.

He was a bully too lots people at school.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Honestly all the people who were offy or thought I was weird at school have been nice as pie in the years afterwards....even had one guy try to get me involved with him and his missus

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By *ubikslongswordMan
over a year ago

Rubiksville

Mine tried adding me on faceache but I blocked him, I don't live where I grew up anymore so likely not going to see him again

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofiaWoman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston

They are bastards indeed, I should have been clearer, these were all colleagues of mine that made my work life hell, at school!

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

They are bastards indeed, I should have been clearer, these were all colleagues of mine that made my work life hell, at school!"

It's a mentality many teachers develop,they are the only adults in the world everyone else is a child to be bullied

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By *ade crossTV/TS
over a year ago

chiselhurst

Bumped into in the pub a few years after leaving. Became quite good mates.

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By *ee04Man
over a year ago

Essex

I was bullied at senior school for 18 months. My dad told me I had two options fight back or take the shit.

Eventually I fought back after that I was left alone. I had no reputation to uphold they did.

We had several who bullied others. I saw one about 30 years ago he came into a pub I was working in smacked out his skull. Tried to get a free beer off me told him to jog on, he gave it the big one so I got him on hold (arm up his back) and esc0rted him out. Think he’s dead now.

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

School bully polishes my car now

He asked where he went wrong?

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By *ainbows_can_be_metal_tooCouple
over a year ago

Darlington

One bully took his own life because the mother of his kids took them away from his behaviour and the other las t I saw him he tried to cause me of over charging him for drinks in a pub I managed. Told him no and he asked why the students were getting drinks cheaper, told him we had a student discount offer, told me to give him a student discount.

Are you a student?

No.

Then no.

Fucking trying to rip me off?

No, this isn't school, we aren't teens anymore, either accept the drinks prices or leave.

Felt amazing since he made my life absolute hell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He died in a public toilet with a needle hanging out his arm.

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

In the intervening years I was able to tell the next generations of kids all the embarrassing stories that the teachers would rather forget,the piss taking lived on.Like the guy who went out pillion on his mates bike,had two pints,nicked the bike while his mate was in the chippy,ride it so badly the cops followed him,ditched it and hid in the park,in comes the dog team,out of a bush jumps the teacher and says "ahaaa nice dog you've got there officer".All read out in court when they nailed his hat on for everything they could think of.

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

(Above) was the same guy who stood up in court defending the teacher who cut the bridge if my nose open,he confiscated my catapult so I confiscated his briefcase, retrieved the catapult and threw the rest in the river.Happy days.

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By *rowsing86Man
over a year ago

North west

Oh 100%, used to get bullied in school by a lad, big time back in school. He got with a girl in the same year as us, they have kids and still together, she was soooo fit and still is. But I ended up shagging his Mrs everytime he was working away which would be most weekends.

She was soooo naughty and filthy. Had to bring an end to it after 5 years of fucking her as he's stopped working away.

Still see them both every now and again.

Always give her a cheeky smile and a nod to him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The theme seems to be all the bullies coming to grief"

And whilst not defending bullies, it does seem to go someway to prove the theory the bullies are deeply unhappy/troubled people to have become bullies in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The theme seems to be all the bullies coming to grief

And whilst not defending bullies, it does seem to go someway to prove the theory the bullies are deeply unhappy/troubled people to have become bullies in the first place. "

It's pretty sad though, would be nice to see a story where maybe both people grew up and matured and found to be on good terms

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By *leasurer77Man
over a year ago

Athlone

Confronted him about it when we were both in our 30s. No apology forthcoming. Felt good to see him squirm though. He moved to Aus after ripping off a few local builders and hardware shops.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

Never had trouble - even when I asked two of them to leave someone alone who they decided was a soft target - It was known that I was ok at martial arts - so they just backed off. I hate bullying of any kind. Still do.

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

I met one of the school bullies many years later.

He’d completely changed since leaving home at a young age, and we actually had a long conversation.

Turns out his Dad used to beat the hell out of him all through his childhood, so violence was the only way he knew to solve problems or to have any sort of voice.

When he escaped the abuse and got to see that not everyone was out to hurt him, he started to regret his actions and hate himself, which ultimately lead to him attempting to take his own life.

Thankfully he failed, sought therapy and ended up being a really nice person.

Not everyone who was a bully was a bad person, a lot probably had an extremely hard upbringing and took control in the only way they knew or felt they could.

Everyone is entitled to be judged on current actions rather than their distant past

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By *r.SJMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

"The theme seems to be all the bullies coming to grief

And whilst not defending bullies, it does seem to go someway to prove the theory the bullies are deeply unhappy/troubled people to have become bullies in the first place. "

Possibly... although I think society and acceptance can also play a part.

The worst examples all point to those from a trouble part, but as in my post above, in one case that was far from it. The bullies and ring leader as such, came from a pampered and well to do background and wanted for nothing (emotional or material) but it was lack of acceptance that gave them good reason.

The one difference in my two examples though, is that life apparently never changed in the rough end of the spectrum and that bully met his demise. Where as the bully from my private school, saw the error of his ways, was troubled by it and reached out for forgiveness with genuine remorse for his actions.

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

"Never had trouble - even when I asked two of them to leave someone alone who they decided was a soft target - It was known that I was ok at martial arts - so they just backed off. I hate bullying of any kind. Still do. "

Likewise,thankfully,still hate bullies,makes me grow horns and get into stuff I perhaps shouldn't,like the traffic warden shouting at a girl no more than 20,thin as a pencil,parked outside her own shop unloading a small box of stock,she was shaking and nearly in tears.So was the warden afterwards.She gave me a box of sweets!

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