FabSwingers.com forum: Breakup before or after holiday

By *os19 OP Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

Two dates in and I don’t feel comfortable with the way things are going.My thinking is I should let her go away and enjoy her holiday and then breakup.What would others do how would they play it would anyone end it before someone went on their holiday in the sun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell yeah then she can have fun in the sun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it’s only two dates in, I would imagine there’s not much in the way of investment yet. Personally I’d say let her know as soon you know it’s not going anywhere. Why drag it out and who knows, she might find herself someone fun to be with on holiday

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I don’t think she’d be devastated after two dates. Tell her before, if she finds someone on holiday then she’s a single lady and can go with it

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

Holidays can bring strain in all kind of relationships sometimes unfortunatelly. You can only decide what is best for your situation I am afraid. Sorry to hear it's not gone well though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I doubt you’ll ruin her holiday telling her. You’ve only had 2 dates, I can’t imagine she will be overly invested in the relationship just yet. I’d tell her before she goes so she can enjoy herself.

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Tell her before she goes. Easier for both to move on as the other isn't around for a few weeks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Two dates in and I don’t feel comfortable with the way things are going.My thinking is I should let her go away and enjoy her holiday and then breakup.What would others do how would they play it would anyone end it before someone went on their holiday in the sun."

I did smile..........

As mentioned before after two dates I doubt if the relationship is fully developed? Tell her before she goes and she can fill her boots with sen, sea and sex. If she has any sense she might send you a few action pictures!

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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago

Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston

If it’s only two dates in, Neither of you were fully invested yet. So tell her before she goes. The sooner the better.

Red

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

If she's falling in love after two dates you'll probably want to get rid of her as quickly as possibly.

She can have a little holiday romance to get over you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So that’s 9 for 9 so far. Tell her…. or is that not the answer you wanted to hear

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By *om114Man
over a year ago

Belfast

You've met twice, can you even call that a breakup?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's really a break up, I doubt you've had a relationship conversation as yet. It's more of a nice meeting you, take care kind of talk.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Has she given you any indication that she sees your relationship as more than casual?

I think if you don't feel you know her well enough to judge her reaction then telling her before she goes will be fine.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two dates!!!!!! Nearly every male and female at two dates in just ghosts its the pretty standard not interested method

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Just tell her asap. No need to drag things out.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

the holiday is irrelevant. you had 2 dates. you are not feeling it so.just tell her. she will be fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The earlier you tell her, earlier she can get on with her dating

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I don’t think she’d be devastated after two dates. Tell her before, if she finds someone on holiday then she’s a single lady and can go with it

This

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

It's only been 2 dates

Tell her so then she can have a really good time.

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By *bw44DDWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Is 2 dates classed as a relationship now??? Oh Jesus, I think I’m in too many relationships

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

And also, if she is on here she might just tell you now

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Is 2 dates classed as a relationship now??? Oh Jesus, I think I’m in too many relationships "

I think older people go about things differently. If we were dating someone we did used to consider that we were 'going out' with them and that we wouldn't be dating anyone else. Times change of course and so does the definition of dating but if someone asked me to date them I'd also expect them to tell me they no longer wanted to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Break what up?

All you've done is had a couple of dates with someone, I'm sure the holiday wont be impacted either way

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

"Hell yeah then she can have fun in the sun! "

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her before. She can enjoy her holiday being single rather than knocking Stavros back because she has a boyfriend.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

pffftt. don't overthink this one. it's two dates.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Yep, let her know. Give her the freedom to enjoy some holiday romance.

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By *S-cardiffiansCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

Tell her then she will have more fun on her holiday I’m sure x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When’s her birthday? Do it then ! Save some money.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

with out doubt you should tell her,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell her before. She can enjoy her holiday being single rather than knocking Stavros back because she has a boyfriend."

I was going to post something deep and meaningful, but actually geordie pretty much summed it up nicely here! Yup! What they said!

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

2 dates? She probably can't remember your name! Dump her now x

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By *rs D.Woman
over a year ago

Tyne And Wear

If you don't feel comfortable 2 dates in, tell the lady in question. If the situation was reversed, what would you want? You might then be able to answer your own question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 dates really isn’t that sinfict she probably still considers her self single

I would say before you not ruin her holiday she probably use the holidays to cut loose have some fun have a couple off mindless sexual incounters and be ready to jump back in to the dateing as soon as she comes back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it even a relationship after 2 dates !

Put your big boy pants on and tell her your not feeling it , chances are she won't be either !

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By *os19 OP Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

Thanks for all the comments.With hindsight breakup is probably the wrong choice of word but I really don’t know what word to use.I did say to her I wasn’t comfortable with everything between us and potential problems further down the line that it may not be a good idea to continue seeing each other.It was she who suggested that we meet and talk face to face after her holiday.It was her who was more excited and then left disappointed when I cancelled two dates prior to yesterday.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thanks for all the comments.With hindsight breakup is probably the wrong choice of word but I really don’t know what word to use.I did say to her I wasn’t comfortable with everything between us and potential problems further down the line that it may not be a good idea to continue seeing each other.It was she who suggested that we meet and talk face to face after her holiday.It was her who was more excited and then left disappointed when I cancelled two dates prior to yesterday."

In my opinion it's probably better that you make it unambiguously clear now that you won't be meeting again, even to talk about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion it's probably better that you make it unambiguously clear now that you won't be meeting again, even to talk about it"

This !!

There is no point giving her false hope , cut it off now , make it clear and don't give any mixed signals .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her before she goes on holiday. She'll then be able to let her hair down and go wild as much as she likes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's 2 dates in tell her immediately if not sooner. It'll give her the chance to have a holiday romance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She might be thinking exactly the same do I dump him before or after my holiday ..

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

After the holiday!

You might get a fridge magnet out of it.

Priorities, man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be totally honest the OP was bored and posted some utter nonsense and it’s wasted time and effort.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Be honest and care for her, as you'd assume most would appreciate being treated. Let her holiday for herself

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By *os19 OP Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

Thanks for all the advice.When we met Saturday I wanted to actually end it then.My way of ending it was by explaining all the potential problems we face.She actually asked me do you want to break up with me and I said I think it would be easier for both of us especially me.It was she who suggested to speak face to face after her holiday.Since Saturday evening she has not messaged me nor have I messaged her. I don’t think I will message her this week unless she messages me first and if I message back it will be to wish her a nice holiday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for all the advice.When we met Saturday I wanted to actually end it then.My way of ending it was by explaining all the potential problems we face.She actually asked me do you want to break up with me and I said I think it would be easier for both of us especially me.It was she who suggested to speak face to face after her holiday.Since Saturday evening she has not messaged me nor have I messaged her. I don’t think I will message her this week unless she messages me first and if I message back it will be to wish her a nice holiday."

Seems to me that your the one dragging it out .. get in touch with her and put an end too it .. otherwise it's just cruel dragging it out .. but in reality 2 dates doesn't constitute a relationship and if you were into her there wouldn't even be a question . Kindest thing all round is brutal honesty not going around the houses .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give her the freedom she deserves on her holiday.

As you've already decided, let her know now.

It's only two dates but she may want to honour what has began, then to be told it was a waste of her time.

Don't be a time waster, OP, we all know they're frowned upon.

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By *phialtesMan
over a year ago

Beyond the Wall

Ghosting is the new break up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ghosting is the new break up, for the weak."

I fixed that for you.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Just delete and block. No need for all this faff.

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

She’s not messaging as she’s too busy sucking cock and getting her cunt eaten, she’s getting match fit for her holiday, when I say holiday I of course mean fuck fest !

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

2 dates and you’re talking like it’s more serious than it is…were the dates a week long each

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

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