FabSwingers.com forum: Single male problems

By *ornyHard29 OP Man
over a year ago

Kent

Kinda new to all this can someone please shed some light on why so many women refuse to meet single men? I get it's a swinging site but I'm not the only one with this problem. Also there are many time wasters & fakes which give us genuine men a bad name is there anything anyone can do to stop this?

Any women or couples reading this in the Kent area who is happy to meet single men fill free to message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a sex site but they’re in denial

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I answered you on your previous thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They only like married ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I answered you on your previous thread."
oh that’s who you were talking to

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By *phialtesMan
over a year ago

Beyond the Wall

You haven’t asked for profile advice, so none can be offered.

However, ask yourself do you think your profile is really doing you any favours?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I refuse to meet single men as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't speak for all women, but we do like single men.

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"I refuse to meet single men as well "

Same here mate…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile says nothing about you. Maybe revisit it.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Lots of women and couples meet single men op,

They have to like them and be attracted to them though.

There's not much on your profile to attract anyone at the min though.

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By *ornyHard29 OP Man
over a year ago

Kent

"I answered you on your previous thread."

Yeah sorry bro previous thread was deleted for some unknown reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because....... the majority of them drop unsolicited dick pics into DMs without reading or regarding the profile they're sending them too, and then turning nasty when they get told "no thanks" like they're gods gift because they've got a dick.

Thus tarring almost every single male on here with the same brush.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Only you can give yourself a bad name.

Blaming others is lazy.

Most women are happy to meet single men but they don't expect to have to do all the work.

They like to know what's on the table rather than have to ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, maybe you could meet single men also.

For balance.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Women don't like penises anymore unless it's their husbands or boyfriends. They like toys.

It's not their fault, it's your man meats down there and the fact you don't have a woman they can actually want to meet solo but will allow you to sit in the corner and watch.

So look down now at him, and say, you single sad sausage. C'mon now. It's ok you're not alone.

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

I like some single men, just not all single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like some single men, just not all single men."
i like you too, Daizy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because....... the majority of them drop unsolicited dick pics into DMs without reading or regarding the profile they're sending them too, and then turning nasty when they get told "no thanks" like they're gods gift because they've got a dick.

Thus tarring almost every single male on here with the same brush."

I never get dick pics!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thus tarring almost every single male on here with the same brush.

I never get dick pics!!!!"

You can have some that get sent to me!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

OP - Many single ladies on here are looking to meet single men. Many single men very successfully meet those women.

Don't blame others for your lack of success. Change what you're doing.

Are you selling yourself as best you can and only messaging those ladies whose criteria you meet? Are those messages good ones?

Nita

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

They don't refuse to meet single men though do they.

Just some single men.

Like some men refuse to meet some women and some couples refuse to meet some single men and some single women and some men and women refuse to meet some couples.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They do meet single men

Doesn’t mean they have to meet every man who sends them a message.

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By *uster72Man
over a year ago

Watford

It's a numbers game, just look at the figures, I estimated that at one time men outnumbered women by 12 to 1 in this site.

So you have to be more attractive in every sense of the word than the next 11 guys.

Remember men like what they see, women like what they hear, so you need to be saying the right things.

Finally and this is no fault of your own but a lot of men do/say stupid things which means women need to keep their guard up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one has to meet anyone if they don’t want to. Just coz you’re on here doesn’t meet people will want to meet you

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By *inks_apeyCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Echo what others say, also remember everyone has their own preferences, and will meet/do what they are into and wanting. Can't force anyone to change what they want just because it doesn't fit into your views or wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women do meet single men but most are looking for women, couples are looking for mostly looking for women also. Men are easy to get so they focus on women and couples.

We actually meet more single guys but most don’t bother to read profile or accept they are not what we are looking for and still message, so they get blocked.

I would say if single guys were to not focus on their dick and read profiles and respect the content, they might do better. We block 95% of guys because they can’t read.

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By *uchislife66Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Best to be yourself and never pushy

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By *aidForSharingWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"Kinda new to all this can someone please shed some light on why so many women refuse to meet single men? I get it's a swinging site but I'm not the only one with this problem. Also there are many time wasters & fakes which give us genuine men a bad name is there anything anyone can do to stop this?

Any women or couples reading this in the Kent area who is happy to meet single men fill free to message "

Maybe they don't find you attractive

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Strange a lot of our single female freinds are always on the look out for single guys. In fact I would say a majority on here. We know a lot of single women who avoid couples and single ladies nights at clubs because they seek single men not so much (or at all) couples and single women.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"I like some single men, just not all single men."

Big fan of me though I hear!

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By *ornyHard29 OP Man
over a year ago

Kent

"Women do meet single men but most are looking for women, couples are looking for mostly looking for women also. Men are easy to get so they focus on women and couples.

We actually meet more single guys but most don’t bother to read profile or accept they are not what we are looking for and still message, so they get blocked.

I would say if single guys were to not focus on their dick and read profiles and respect the content, they might do better. We block 95% of guys because they can’t read."

I always read profiles , I rarely send dick pics unless requested to. My messages are always polite I get people can't be attracted to everyone I was on here a few years back and met many but it seems the site has changed its full of people which need sectioning. It's more the fact of the time wasters & fake accounts on here I'm sure I'm not the only one.

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By *ornyHard29 OP Man
over a year ago

Kent

"Best to be yourself and never pushy "

Hate pushy people

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By *ornyHard29 OP Man
over a year ago

Kent

Any women or couples reading this in the Kent area who is happy to meet single men fill free to message

Maybe they don't find you attractive"

We can't all be as Attractive as you

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

"I like some single men, just not all single men.

i like you too, Daizy. "

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Women do meet single men but most are looking for women, couples are looking for mostly looking for women also. Men are easy to get so they focus on women and couples.

We actually meet more single guys but most don’t bother to read profile or accept they are not what we are looking for and still message, so they get blocked.

I would say if single guys were to not focus on their dick and read profiles and respect the content, they might do better. We block 95% of guys because they can’t read.

" full of people which need sectioning" Such a nice turn of phrase !?!

If you're having problems with lots of fakes amd time wasters, you probably need to rethink your selection methodology.

Nita

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple
over a year ago

Preston

Any women or couples reading this in the Kent area who is happy to meet single men fill free to message "

Do searched within 20miles of your postcode. Note the number of F, MF, FF, MM and TV/TS profiles. Which number is highest.

Imagine even half of them message the available F in your area. What makes your profile/message/pics stand out as more attractive/sexier/more compatible than the others?

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

"I like some single men, just not all single men.

Big fan of me though I hear!

Yuge fan Brucey!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They do meet single men

Doesn’t mean they have to meet every man who sends them a message."

They aren't genuine Swingers then!

Fakes

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By *rMonkeyMan
over a year ago

Somewhere

Stop blaming the actions of others for your failure on here.

The only person influencing your ability to meet is you.

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

Thus tarring almost every single male on here with the same brush.

I never get dick pics!!!!"

That’s because I’m not 91

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I like single men I am attracted to. I'm not a vag for all...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yawn……

Did you mention you were straight enough times and is that fab straight?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am really horny would love to try outdoor sex and cuming inside a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am really horny would love to try outdoor sex and cuming inside a woman "

Random

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"I am really horny would love to try outdoor sex and cuming inside a woman

Random "

The man knows what he wants ok!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of women and couples meet single men op,

They have to like them and be attracted to them though.

There's not much on your profile to attract anyone at the min though."

Agreed, appreciate OP hasn't asked for profile advice, but based on what's currently there it would be a no from us

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any women or couples reading this in the Kent area who is happy to meet single men fill free to message "

Maybe you are messaging women that think its a swingers site and not a sex site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They do meet single men

Doesn’t mean they have to meet every man who sends them a message.

They aren't genuine Swingers then!

Fakes

Well, yeah obviously. Only genuine swingers are ready to shag anyone that offers

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By *ornyHard29 OP Man
over a year ago

Kent

Any women or couples reading this in the Kent area who is happy to meet single men fill free to message

Maybe you are messaging women that think its a swingers site and not a sex site?"

Hmmm I'm not sure about that as I've messaged a fair few I was on here a few years back and met people never had any time wasters either it seems to have changed alot x

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By *aidForSharingWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

Any women or couples reading this in the Kent area who is happy to meet single men fill free to message

Maybe they don't find you attractive

We can't all be as Attractive as you

I thought you asked for responses? I suggested that maybe people didn't find you attractive. It's nothing to do with MY looks, so drop the defensive sarcasm maybe?

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By *ornyHard29 OP Man
over a year ago

Kent

Any women or couples reading this in the Kent area who is happy to meet single men fill free to message

Maybe they don't find you attractive

We can't all be as Attractive as you

I thought you asked for responses? I suggested that maybe people didn't find you attractive. It's nothing to do with MY looks, so drop the defensive sarcasm maybe?"

I knew what you meant I was bantering sorry for any upset caused ??

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley

"They don't refuse to meet single men though do they.

Just some single men.

Like some men refuse to meet some women and some couples refuse to meet some single men and some single women and some men and women refuse to meet some couples.........

Girls who are boys

Who like boys to be girls

Who do boys like they're girls

Who do girls like they're boys

Always should be someone you really love

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

We do meet single guys.They are normally very respectful genuine and patient.Not pushy or sending one liners and dick pictures.Also there are single guys in abundance so you need to really make an effort and stand out.

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley

Also it appears from other post on here that there are more men on here than women, which means that - as the post above says - you really need to stand out.

I tend to just use the forums these days for chat, but if you're looking to meet, then you'll really need to pull the stops out and make an effort.

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By *ornyHard29 OP Man
over a year ago

Kent

"We do meet single guys.They are normally very respectful genuine and patient.Not pushy or sending one liners and dick pictures.Also there are single guys in abundance so you need to really make an effort and stand out."

I was on here a few years back and had meets and didn't have any time wasters in every communication I'm polite respectful and don't send dick pics I understand not everyone can be phycially attracted to everyone and women have hundreds of messages a day!!

It's more the time wasters and fakes on here which is the issue don't get me wrong there's genuine people on here but it seems many many women are put of meeting single men due to previous messages they have been sent given us genuine men a bad name

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"No one has to meet anyone if they don’t want to. Just coz you’re on here doesn’t meet people will want to meet you

I can vouch for this.

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Best to be yourself and never pushy "

This approach certainly hasn't worked for me.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Thus tarring almost every single male on here with the same brush."
You have made me laugh that's hilarious and true! Unless you are Tom Hard i wouldn't mind the DM with dick or a Dicking hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Kinda new to all this can someone please shed some light on why so many women refuse to meet single men? …. "

Yeh, I wish they’d stop refusing and decide to choose not to based on personal choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a numbers game, just look at the figures, I estimated that at one time men outnumbered women by 12 to 1 in this site.

So you have to be more attractive in every sense of the word than the next 11 guys.

Remember men like what they see, women like what they hear, so you need to be saying the right things.

Finally and this is no fault of your own but a lot of men do/say stupid things which means women need to keep their guard up.

Buster pretty much said what I was thinking!

Op you have to sell yourself. Have a read of your profile again, does it sound positive and inviting to you? Also no pics will mean your messages have to be really good, otherwise your invisible!

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also it appears from other post on here that there are more men on here than women, which means that - as the post above says - you really need to stand out.

I tend to just use the forums these days for chat, but if you're looking to meet, then you'll really need to pull the stops out and make an effort."

100%

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

"Understand this is a sex site but I'm not here to sleep around with everyone am looking to form a connection and see where it goes"

Errm pretty much said it yourself you wouldn't sleep with everyone and anyone. Well same goes for people you are messaging

Also I have been on fab about a year and not one guy has met me off here they always flake. So I don't bother arranging meets anymore so you are not alone and it's not a male problem it's people in general

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Understand this is a sex site but I'm not here to sleep around with everyone am looking to form a connection and see where it goes"

Errm pretty much said it yourself you wouldn't sleep with everyone and anyone. Well same goes for people you are messaging

*cries.

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

""Understand this is a sex site but I'm not here to sleep around with everyone am looking to form a connection and see where it goes"

Errm pretty much said it yourself you wouldn't sleep with everyone and anyone. Well same goes for people you are messaging

*cries. "

I know I am crying too no one loves me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Understand this is a sex site but I'm not here to sleep around with everyone am looking to form a connection and see where it goes"

Errm pretty much said it yourself you wouldn't sleep with everyone and anyone. Well same goes for people you are messaging

*cries.

I know I am crying too no one loves me

Whoaaa!!! Love?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a numbers game, just look at the figures, I estimated that at one time men outnumbered women by 12 to 1 in this site.

So you have to be more attractive in every sense of the word than the next 11 guys.

Remember men like what they see, women like what they hear, so you need to be saying the right things.

Finally and this is no fault of your own but a lot of men do/say stupid things which means women need to keep their guard up.

Buster pretty much said what I was thinking!

Op you have to sell yourself. Have a read of your profile again, does it sound positive and inviting to you? Also no pics will mean your messages have to be really good, otherwise your invisible!

Good luck

All of this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s a sex site but they’re in denial"

Walk like an Egyptian- The Bangles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's how you advertise yourself as well sell yourselve better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Girls don’t like boys, girls like cars and money.

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

You know what I mean Woody haha

You know its not even a fab specific thing either. I can't stomach dating sites anymore either or even chatting online generally it rarely leads to a meet. I'm only speaking for myself there are of course tons of successful meeters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s a sex site but they’re in denial

Walk like an Egyptian- The Bangles"

I don’t remember those lyrics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Girls don’t like boys, girls like cars and money."

Show me the money!!!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

You're probably messaging men pretending to be women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You know what I mean Woody haha

Fancy a coffee? *not flaky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Girls don’t like boys, girls like cars and money."

Guys will laugh at girls when they’re NOT funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Girls don’t like boys, girls like cars and money.

Show me the money!!!"

This is why girls don’t like me. I have no money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Girls don’t like boys, girls like cars and money.

Show me the money!!!

This is why girls don’t like me. I have no money

Meh, life's a bitch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Girls don’t like boys, girls like cars and money.

Guys will laugh at girls when they’re NOT funny

Woody gets it

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

"You know what I mean Woody haha

Fancy a coffee? *not flaky.

Only if you bring it to my bed now haha otherwise you are such a fake and also with a spoon I love a good spoon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Girls don’t like boys, girls like cars and money.

Guys will laugh at girls when they’re NOT funny

Woody gets it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Girls don’t like boys, girls like cars and money.

Guys will laugh at girls when they’re NOT funny

Woody gets it

Can I watch?

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
over a year ago

Bourne lincs

Why so many fake cpls on here not good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You know what I mean Woody haha

Fancy a coffee? *not flaky.

Only if you bring it to my bed now haha otherwise you are such a fake and also with a spoon I love a good spoon

*quickly turns in the dishwasher.

I’ll be a while… (I wish I’d keep on top of cleaning my cutlery.

I offered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Girls don’t like boys, girls like cars and money.

Guys will laugh at girls when they’re NOT funny

Woody gets it

Can I watch?"

Haha. That’s my line!!!!

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley

""Understand this is a sex site but I'm not here to sleep around with everyone am looking to form a connection and see where it goes"

Errm pretty much said it yourself you wouldn't sleep with everyone and anyone. Well same goes for people you are messaging

*cries.

I know I am crying too no one loves me

Aww I share your pain. I think a lot of us on here do

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Why so many fake cpls on here not good. "

Men pretending to be couples.

See the pattern here?

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

op treat fab as a social club for chat and making friends online. Many more men than women here.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Cmon ladies he's 29 horny and hard and ready to go give him a break he's probably handsome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women do meet single men but most are looking for women, couples are looking for mostly looking for women also. Men are easy to get so they focus on women and couples.

We actually meet more single guys but most don’t bother to read profile or accept they are not what we are looking for and still message, so they get blocked.

I would say if single guys were to not focus on their dick and read profiles and respect the content, they might do better. We block 95% of guys because they can’t read.

You have no public pictures so probably blocked by most on message filters

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By *ornyHard29 OP Man
over a year ago

Kent

"Women do meet single men but most are looking for women, couples are looking for mostly looking for women also. Men are easy to get so they focus on women and couples.

We actually meet more single guys but most don’t bother to read profile or accept they are not what we are looking for and still message, so they get blocked.

I would say if single guys were to not focus on their dick and read profiles and respect the content, they might do better. We block 95% of guys because they can’t read.

You have no public pictures so probably blocked by most on message filters"

Someone stole it hence it's private but changed a few things on here and seem to be doing alright now

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