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Recognise from fab in a social setting etiquette

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By *romleyM41 OP   Man
over a year ago

orpington / surrounding

May be a stupid question but as a newbie I will ask anyway. If you found yourself in a social setting (with friends for example) and saw someone you recognised from their pics on here. Would you consider approaching them (obviously very situational so it would be when you are at the bar alone as are they for example to avoid any one they are with or you are with knowing what’s happening) or is that still a no no on any costs ?

Would you want someone to approach you if the ball was on the other foot ? Again only when you were alone.

If so what would one say ? “Good evening, I am sure I recognise you from somewhere ? Are you having a FABulous time?”

Clearly this scenario is very very situational and if it were me I would be ensuring that no one felt uncomfortable or freaked out but just curious.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"May be a stupid question but as a newbie I will ask anyway. If you found yourself in a social setting (with friends for example) and saw someone you recognised from their pics on here. Would you consider approaching them (obviously very situational so it would be when you are at the bar alone as are they for example to avoid any one they are with or you are with knowing what’s happening) or is that still a no no on any costs ?

Would you want someone to approach you if the ball was on the other foot ? Again only when you were alone.

If so what would one say ? “Good evening, I am sure I recognise you from somewhere ? Are you having a FABulous time?”

Clearly this scenario is very very situational and if it were me I would be ensuring that no one felt uncomfortable or freaked out but just curious.

"

Nope, fab and vanilla life are totally separate I wouldn't like it if anyon approached us while we were out.

Mrs

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Just don't do it.

And don't message on fab later and say "I saw you at xx"

Both have been done to me on several occasions and it is creepy regardless of whether I find the person attractive or not.

If you want to approach someone, approach them without mentioning fab, as you would anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"May be a stupid question but as a newbie I will ask anyway. If you found yourself in a social setting (with friends for example) and saw someone you recognised from their pics on here. Would you consider approaching them (obviously very situational so it would be when you are at the bar alone as are they for example to avoid any one they are with or you are with knowing what’s happening) or is that still a no no on any costs ?

Would you want someone to approach you if the ball was on the other foot ? Again only when you were alone.

If so what would one say ? “Good evening, I am sure I recognise you from somewhere ? Are you having a FABulous time?”

Clearly this scenario is very very situational and if it were me I would be ensuring that no one felt uncomfortable or freaked out but just curious.

"

Approaching and mentioning anything from here would just tell me you have no discretion

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By *ohnny4playMan
over a year ago

Kinross

I would not approach in public, but I might message on fab saying where you were when you think you saw them, always giving them the chance to deny if they prefer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, I would be pissed if someone did that to me. Our fab lives and real lives are completely seperate, the least we can offer each other is discreetness and respect.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"Nope, I would be pissed if someone did that to me. Our fab lives and real lives are completely seperate, the least we can offer each other is discreetness and respect."

^^what she said^^

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By *romleyM41 OP   Man
over a year ago

orpington / surrounding

Thank you for the replies, and confirmed what I thought. I appreciate that everyone is different and don’t doubt judging by some of the other threads and replies that there are a lot of guys who wouldn’t have the filter or discretion but the replies have confirmed my thinking.

Have a wonderful Saturday everyone

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"May be a stupid question but as a newbie I will ask anyway. If you found yourself in a social setting (with friends for example) and saw someone you recognised from their pics on here. Would you consider approaching them (obviously very situational so it would be when you are at the bar alone as are they for example to avoid any one they are with or you are with knowing what’s happening) or is that still a no no on any costs ?

Would you want someone to approach you if the ball was on the other foot ? Again only when you were alone.

If so what would one say ? “Good evening, I am sure I recognise you from somewhere ? Are you having a FABulous time?”

Clearly this scenario is very very situational and if it were me I would be ensuring that no one felt uncomfortable or freaked out but just curious.

"

No, keep things separate..

Tbh anyone using a line as you've supposed is only going to come across as a wrong un ..

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By *phialtesMan
over a year ago

Beyond the Wall

Unless you know them anyway, leave well alone.

Its creepy and a little inteusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really wouldn't mind at all

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

No I'd hate someone approaching me away from fab ,so I'd never do it to anyone else

Leave people be .

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By *inks_apeyCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

As everyone has said, would be a big no-no from us, if we 'know' you already and have met and got along then sure, say hi, but vanilla hi, not anything referencing here.

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By *romleyM41 OP   Man
over a year ago

orpington / surrounding

Completely understand and thank you for everyone’s input x

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

No, no and no again.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Be discreet. It’s classier. Be more Bond.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

Hi, OP. I agree with all the others above. The joy of the forums is that, despite now having the answer to your question, you can’t cease your own threads and you’ll now get another 160 posts with the same message.

Well, maybe 159 with one fucken idiot (and before one of you hilarious chuffers says it, that’s not me hahaha)

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By *romleyM41 OP   Man
over a year ago

orpington / surrounding

Unfortunately I have just discovered that very issue, fortunately I don’t get any notifications to replies to the thread so I shall just ignore it from now on. Thank you all again for the input.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do t even get recognised in a Fab social setting.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8


"I do t even get recognised in a Fab social setting. "

And you are…?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do t even get recognised in a Fab social setting.

And you are…?"

Exactly!!!

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I do t even get recognised in a Fab social setting.

And you are…?

Exactly!!! "

Nope. You don't ring a bell...

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Hi, OP. I agree with all the others above. The joy of the forums is that, despite now having the answer to your question, you can’t cease your own threads and you’ll now get another 160 posts with the same message.

Well, maybe 159 with one fucken idiot (and before one of you hilarious chuffers says it, that’s not me hahaha)"

It's me.

Hi.

I'm the problem, it's me.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8


"Hi, OP. I agree with all the others above. The joy of the forums is that, despite now having the answer to your question, you can’t cease your own threads and you’ll now get another 160 posts with the same message.

Well, maybe 159 with one fucken idiot (and before one of you hilarious chuffers says it, that’s not me hahaha)

It's me.

Hi.

I'm the problem, it's me."

Noooooooo.

Well, hardly ever these days.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Not just no but hell no. Do not approach, do not message later, do not pass go, do not collect $200.

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple
over a year ago

Preston


"May be a stupid question but as a newbie I will ask anyway. If you found yourself in a social setting (with friends for example) and saw someone you recognised from their pics on here. Would you consider approaching them (obviously very situational so it would be when you are at the bar alone as are they for example to avoid any one they are with or you are with knowing what’s happening) or is that still a no no on any costs ?

Would you want someone to approach you if the ball was on the other foot ? Again only when you were alone.

If so what would one say ? “Good evening, I am sure I recognise you from somewhere ? Are you having a FABulous time?”

Clearly this scenario is very very situational and if it were me I would be ensuring that no one felt uncomfortable or freaked out but just curious.

"

As an example, since you have no public pics on here, I'd say you shouldn't broach that subject with anyone in a social setting. It's just flat out stalker.

If there's been some interaction on here, you each know what the other looks like and you could say hi without embarrassing them, why not.

A silhouette profile stranger we'd never spoken to coming over and saying they recognised us from here would get a straight right in the kisser.

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple
over a year ago

Preston


"Hi, OP. I agree with all the others above. The joy of the forums is that, despite now having the answer to your question, you can’t cease your own threads and you’ll now get another 160 posts with the same message.

Well, maybe 159 with one fucken idiot (and before one of you hilarious chuffers says it, that’s not me hahaha)

It's me.

Hi.

I'm the problem, it's me."

Taaaaaaaaylor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do t even get recognised in a Fab social setting.

And you are…?

Exactly!!!

Nope. You don't ring a bell... "

I ring someone’s bell.

What are we talking about again?

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Hi, OP. I agree with all the others above. The joy of the forums is that, despite now having the answer to your question, you can’t cease your own threads and you’ll now get another 160 posts with the same message.

Well, maybe 159 with one fucken idiot (and before one of you hilarious chuffers says it, that’s not me hahaha)

It's me.

Hi.

I'm the problem, it's me.

Taaaaaaaaylor "

Hello

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I do t even get recognised in a Fab social setting.

And you are…?

Exactly!!!

Nope. You don't ring a bell...

I ring someone’s bell.

What are we talking about again? "

Ring my bell, Woody baby. Ring it good.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Warning to all any and all public hellos or questionings or i recognise bla bla will be treated with ignorance and a pissed off look maybe even a hostile fuck off

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I sometimes get recognised it clubs (god knows how), but not outside. It would be awkward

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

I wouldn’t want anyone to approach me in any situation. If I’m logged off fab then fab is not part of my life away from it.

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By *smCouple
over a year ago

Liskeard


"Warning to all any and all public hellos or questionings or i recognise bla bla will be treated with ignorance and a pissed off look maybe even a hostile fuck off"

Pretty much this

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Hi, OP. I agree with all the others above. The joy of the forums is that, despite now having the answer to your question, you can’t cease your own threads and you’ll now get another 130ish posts with the same message.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a special part of my life that must always be kept separate from ‘reality’ for various reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do t even get recognised in a Fab social setting.

And you are…?

Exactly!!!

Nope. You don't ring a bell...

I ring someone’s bell.

What are we talking about again?

Ring my bell, Woody baby. Ring it good."

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8


"Hi, OP. I agree with all the others above. The joy of the forums is that, despite now having the answer to your question, you can’t cease your own threads and you’ll now get another 130ish posts with the same message.

A"

Deja vu!!!!

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Ive more chance of winning the lottery than that happening, So It wouldn't bother me when I'm out and about alone, I've had many a cuppa social with newbies and I don't have explicit pics on my profile. Do it when I have company and I'm gonna get cross...

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