FabSwingers.com forum: Do you crave the act

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Or the person?

Before anyone starts banging on about connections and all that jizz, we know that already, that's not what I mean.

Are you horny even when you don't have anyone in your life you like? Do you just get horny then go looking for someone to do "it" with?

Or do you hardly think about sex until someone you crave comes into your life?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I'm always horny, it's just the way I am

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By *hinstrapMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

I'm always horny ....all the time m..like a coiled spring

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Unless I know sex is imminently available, I rarely get the horn

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

I crave the act, but if I'm then around someone I fancy the desire is almost painful.

So, both, I guess.

- Jack

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I crave the act to a certain extent. But with a person I have a 'word that shall not be mentioned' - I crave them but also the act goes along with it usually. More so recently, I am craving a lot, like an itch that cannot be scratched!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m rarely ever just horny. It’s usually something the other person does or says that turns me on. I could quite happily go without sex for a long period of time if I never had someone.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Oh I love this question Lilith! Really interesting.

So, my libido goes through stages - generally it's high most of the time, I'm just quite skilled at hiding it/trying to ignore it.

What does happen though is I find myself thinking more about particular types of sex, things I'd like to explore more when someone ignites that spark in me. I don't really have standalone fantasies as such, it's more a person has brought that idea into my mind.

So, I guess I'm horny most of the time but people influence how that's expressed/how I want to express it. Hope that makes sense!

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I crave the act, but only up to a point. In the same way I crave an immediate random morsel of food from the fridge that will sate my immediate pangs of hunger.

Otherwise – my 'default mode'– I would wait for the person in the same way I would cook the perfect meal for the ultimate pleasure and satisfaction.

Clear as mud.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Tough question, this one.

A little from column A, a little from column B. I think I feel a bit of both, at different times.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

I get horny before the act, and increasingly get hornier thr more sex i have

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I'm rarely if ever horny and don't think about sex unless I'm engaged in it.

One of the joys of having anhedonia.

No anticipation of any event including sex but always present during.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

both. I tend to get very horny in the run up to a meet.

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

The latter

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

I dont think about it loads but little things be it intended acts or subtle looks or words can inspire a bit of a nonesensical lustbomb dosnt mean i have to act mind you id likely just save for a wank later

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By *antricSeeker60Man
over a year ago

Durham

Natural urges still run around my body however to be really horny it’s all about the attraction to the other person(s)

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By *uv2kissMan
over a year ago

fenland

If I have had a meet I'm not horny for a couple of days after sometimes I don't even come on fab.

Then I start needing company, its not an urge for sex although that would be good, it's an urge for a meet even a public social would satisfy that

The only time I'm horny is when I am seeing someone and we are planning a meet it's the anticipation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh it depends when I'm single it's the act, when I'm starting to like someone or in a relationship its the person

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Probably more, crave the act. I often get horny and then go searching.

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London

"both. I tend to get very horny in the run up to a meet."

I agree with that. it can often be the anticipation that is really horny. Sometimes the actual act less so but when do all talked about before very horny

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

I think both! For example.

Not horny round Lilith equals - horny. It would just emerge like a silent ninja in the presence.

But yes I can also get horny wherever and whenever and would fuck anyone attractive enough. Yes it's ideal if you know they are q pleasant enough person through some exchanges before but I think most men would be lying here if they said they'd turn down a fuck with a really hot woman who offered it with no previous exchange (JUST MY OPINION)

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By *phialtesMan
over a year ago

Beyond the Wall

I’ve done enough of the meaningless pump and dumps that I no longer get excited unless there is someone involved that makes me feel a certain way.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"I think both! For example.

Not horny round Lilith equals - horny. It would just emerge like a silent ninja in the presence.

Not only would I say it but I've done it numerous times. Self respect is an admirable trait.

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By *ryingitout19Man
over a year ago

Wales

I’m often horny, but sometimes there’ll be that ‘got to have you’ person who will be focus of that horniness. When you just want to do things to them

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

It's for the person for me.

I don't crave sex with just anyone.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

"It's for the person for me.

I don't crave sex with just anyone. "
,, this

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I don't feel horny very often; which I'm grateful for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am horny most of the time my wife didn’t touch me for 8 months and she left me 9 months ago so that’s 17 months since a woman has touched me so I am really horny

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

Yes a bit, to question one. No to question two. And to question three, small fires become forest fires

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The act.

But…

Because I’m a bit older and a bit wiser, I’ve realised the act just doesn’t cut it unless I’m with the right person.

When I think about my fantasies…things I’ve done and things I’ve yet to do…I get very horny. Like riding on a bus, sitting on the seat over the rear wheels, aged 16 horny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People get me horny.

Sorry to sound blunt, but I’ll ‘knock one off’

just to get rid of sexua desires/frustration etc if there’s no-one I fancy. Just do I can on with my life. But when I fancy someone, or have a connection (because it does matter and it is part of all this) I get horny/turned on because of them. Not the act. I crave them.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Roughly 45% horny. I just don't go looking for an outlet for it.

If I'm horny and nobody I'm interested in is an option at the time, I'll just have a wank. Problem solved, it's not quite the same as with somebody else but it certainly gets things back on track. Zero effort required. A crude and quick fix.

That said though, If there is somebody then the horn raises greatly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always about the person that gets me excited, I just don't get that turned on unless I'm really into someone

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"People get me horny.

Sorry to sound blunt, but I’ll ‘knock one off’

That too

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Definitely the person, the act with the wrong person does absolutely nothing for me I just wouldn't bother, with the right person though it is amazing.

Mrs

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

It's primarily the person.

I don't really get horny and then try to find someone to fuck. Just doesn't happen. If there's no one in my life I want to have sex with, I don't tend to get horny often. Just a passing mood like any other.

It almost always emerges from intimacy for me. Avoiding the c word for you. But that is how it works for me.

If that's there I can get hornier than hell. If I am nesting with a partner we usually fuck several times a day. Otherwise it ebbs and flows between us.

Getting me horny through pure lust. It is very rare and it's not something I seek, for that reason.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Very rarely think about sex unless I know it’s going to happen.

It’s always about the person for me never just to get my rocks off with anyone.

Marc

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"It's primarily the person.

It almost always emerges from intimacy for me. Avoiding the c word for you. But that is how it works for me.

If that's there I can get hornier than hell. If I am nesting with a partner we usually fuck several times a day. Otherwise it ebbs and flows between us.

Getting me horny through pure lust. It is very rare and it's not something I seek, for that reason."

Stop stealing thoughts from my brain.

Because that's my answer. Damn you.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Both, but I think more when there's that someone, because you just want them, all of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both. I definitely have times when I just want a Fuck with nobody in particular. I’m just craving sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Both. I definitely have times when I just want a Fuck with nobody in particular. I’m just craving sex. "

Nobody in particular doesn’t mean *anybody*.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not horny that often, it's usually in the moment or comes on randomly when watching songs of praise or something like that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So, if it's the person and not the act.

Do you still wank off even if you have no one to wank off to?

Can you do it without thinking of anyone in particular?

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"It's primarily the person.

It almost always emerges from intimacy for me. Avoiding the c word for you. But that is how it works for me.

If that's there I can get hornier than hell. If I am nesting with a partner we usually fuck several times a day. Otherwise it ebbs and flows between us.

Getting me horny through pure lust. It is very rare and it's not something I seek, for that reason.

Stop stealing thoughts from my brain.

Because that's my answer. Damn you."

Maybe we should put our heads together and see if we can come up with an even better one.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"So, if it's the person and not the act.

Do you still wank off even if you have no one to wank off to?

Can you do it without thinking of anyone in particular? "

I get memories of times I've had sex if I wank. Which sometimes leaves me feeling pretty broken afterwards, so I try not to go there.

I never envied that ability to go oh look there's .Lilith she's fit I'll wank over her pics. I do now though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the act is craved before the person. But once you properly know the person, It's the person and not the act.

I have a pretty wild imagination and can spend most of the day horny. But when it comes to some self loving, it's usually the act I'm fantasising about and the actors are headless, soul-less individuals, who bare no resemblance of anyone I fantasise over

they're all basically primark manikins...

Clothes shopping can be challenging

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By *elisandre300Woman
over a year ago

dontbefuckingnosey

Mainly the person.

If he’s not around and I catch the horn I have many, many toys that will keep me sated until he’s here

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Always the person ...

Perhaps if I crave a particular scenario at a given time I'd imagine it being with a particular someone that I liked but was also into the same thing ..

If that makes sense

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"Or the person?

Before anyone starts banging on about connections and all that jizz, we know that already, that's not what I mean.

Are you horny even when you don't have anyone in your life you like? Do you just get horny then go looking for someone to do "it" with?

Or do you hardly think about sex until someone you crave comes into your life?

Before i met john i had not had sex for 2yrs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always horny, but it still takes the right woman…

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By *anderingArtistMan
over a year ago

an abstract world

I do crave the act but generally a wank sorts that out. I'm not about rearranging just anyone's guts so I can fulfill that urge.

If I'm craving a person though then a wank won't do. I need to touch, taste, feel them... If it doesn't happen, depressive cry wanks are the only solution.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

"So, if it's the person and not the act.

Do you still wank off even if you have no one to wank off to?

Can you do it without thinking of anyone in particular? "
thats why i scour the internet for lookalike soundalike porns

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Definitely the person, how they touch you, how they know just what buttons to press, how they smell, I could go on. Only then am I then am i horny most of the time.

I have toys that do it for me in a matter of seconds/minutes if I've just got the odd horn that appears and needs fixing.

Tinder x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or the person?

Before anyone starts banging on about connections and all that jizz, we know that already, that's not what I mean.

Are you horny even when you don't have anyone in your life you like? Do you just get horny then go looking for someone to do "it" with?

Or do you hardly think about sex until someone you crave comes into your life?

I'm just always horny, and I love sex whether I'm with someone or not. But I won't fuck just anyone, I'm quite picky lol

Mrs

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By *541Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Definitely the person, how they touch you, how they know just what buttons to press, how they smell, I could go on. Only then am I then am i horny most of the time.

I have toys that do it for me in a matter of seconds/minutes if I've just got the odd horn that appears and needs fixing.

Tinder x"
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Couldn't agree more with this I'm exactly the same

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Everything on the list. Typical greedy Misty

I crave the act. I definitely have a high sex drive. I don’t find that I can scratch the itch with just anyone these days though. In fact id rather go without or “go solo”. Because the act is touch, smell, sound, kiss. Sharing the act with each other. Satisfying the craving together. Sex is at its best when you fuel each other.

I do also crave the person (or people). And the act with the person I crave. And when I get to sate that perfect storm of a craving it’s pure bliss. Electric even. When you’re both craving each other & want the same experiences- it’s intense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Horny all the time had no sex for 17 months ??

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