FabSwingers.com forum: Does earnings matter

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Here's one that caught me off gaurd yesterday.

I took my chances with a lovely young woman and dropped a message. To my surprise, she replied and a bit of back and forth conversation began.

I took the chance to be a bit cheeky and asked "so, what chance do I have to get to meet you for a social sometime?"

Her reply left me a bit shocked and admittedly peeved off. "Depends, do you earn 6 figures?"

Needless to say 1. I don't. 2. What does it matter what I earn?

I politely ended the conversation and left if at that, but it did make me wonder if its really a deal breaker? And 6 figures?! Roughly 4 times the average salary. I'm guessing that puts somebody in the top 5% earners. Is Fab full of them is it?

I post this to you, Forum of Fab.

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

Should have said yes, strung it along for a while...then at some point reveal the 6 figures are £1253.76 per year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That could have been tongue and cheek to be fair but anyone who seriously is requiring that, stay well clear. Entitlement is not attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That could have been tongue and cheek to be fair but anyone who seriously is requiring that, stay well clear. Entitlement is not attractive."

She was being deadly serious about it I'm afraid. I agree completely with you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'd suggest that it was either a joke or she was leading up to asking you for money.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd suggest that it was either a joke or she was leading up to asking you for money."

I thought that at first and tried to joke it off with a "not quite unfortunately haha"

Her response was a "there's your answer"

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It's never been a factor in me meeting anyone and I'd never ask about what they earn .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let me guess....younger and seriously hot.

The first clue was she replied.

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By *zael ElohimMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

Possibly a joke, but the internet dating discord is bleeding into the real world with more exposure with mainstream. The young female preference of 666.

For the purposes of swinging I am not sure it is such a big issue and you are correct. Millionaires have their own spaces to play and unlikely to be swimming in these waters. She may be disappointed.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Never have I asked or been asked my earnings it's totally irrelevant, if anyone asked I'd be telling them to piss off.

Mrs

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

We would say no earnings have got nothing to do with it although we have encountered it the other way.

We got chatting to a localish couple to us and even got to the point of sorting out a meet. when we said lets meet local to us in a bar so we can come to ours if we all click they said we dont wanna meet you cos the place you live is full of 4x4 posh wankers lol. We do not own a 4x4 and are deffo not posh

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I would have strung her along after that for a while before saying I'd decided I didn't actually want to meet her because she's about money and those type of people aren't my people

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Is fab full of them? There's probably a good few putting materialistic values high on the list as there is anywhere, but also a good few who couldn't care less.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Some need other people to fund their lifestyles, and generous people unfortunately don't find out, until a considerable amount of money has been spent on them

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

I can see it now. A new filter added to searches for salary above or below six figures (no decimal points allowed)

And whilst at it, might as well add one for above or below 8" as it is a very common factor in the decission making process for many. I do of course mean the size of the cake tin.

Perhaps another one also for own car, house and villa in the sun might be useful.

I am sure, I could think for a few more but will leave that to others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Early 30s and attractive to me. I tend not to dip my toes in the late teens pool haha

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I'm really sorry to hear this OP. Quite the scoffing attitude in her response to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let me guess....younger and seriously hot.

The first clue was she replied.

Insta generation, where they spend YOUR money. Lots of simps / incels out there will comply, sadly, which is why they can get away with it.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

I don't think "Fab is full of them" - certainly I've never been asked, but you're right it's obviously irrelevant, OP. Good swerve.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"I don't think "Fab is full of them" - certainly I've never been asked, but you're right it's obviously irrelevant, OP. Good swerve."

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That's because your smile, charm and physique are worth more than a king's ransom, YOLO.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Should have said yes, strung it along for a while...then at some point reveal the 6 figures are £1253.76 per year

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Frankly distasteful and irrelevant!

We have met some clearly very wealthy folk and those not so flush in the lifestyle and it is never discussed!

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Response should have been "Why do you?" Big ol' flag there

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"I don't think "Fab is full of them" - certainly I've never been asked, but you're right it's obviously irrelevant, OP. Good swerve.

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That's because your smile, charm and physique are worth more than a king's ransom, YOLO.

Cheers, Nero. Bank transfer complete: what's the use of a six-figure salary if you can't bribe those with power and influence...

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

What a shame, OP. I don’t find that an attractive attitude in anyone. Money doesn’t do good things to many people - I hate the implication they are better than me. There are a great many chavs in this country who prove the notion that money cannot buy class.

However, each to their own. We are becoming better as a race in being tolerant and inclusive of so many different aspects of life, I suppose wealth and how that is pursued by anyone is another addition.

It’s a shame it became divisive between you, not least that she used it as a reason to decline your advance. But maybe it’s one of life’s choices we have to accept in some.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Some need other people to fund their lifestyles, and generous people unfortunately don't find out, until a considerable amount of money has been spent on them

You would be surprised , often people with a lot of money aren’t all stupid, they have a lot of choices and often prefer these types of girls. It’s not for me , I get approached , more so in Dubai than uk and if I was lonely, it might appeal. I know people who exclusively date these types of girls, some of my friends and they would find it so hard to get out and date a regular girl now, that lifestyle can be near impossible to come back from

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

if they can at least pay their way it makes things easier but otherwise couldn't give a shit how much they earn. I have met millionaires and people in.entry positions and who the person is matters more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You ever spent six figures and stared at bae like, "Look what you made me do"?

This is what the rap game is going to us. It’s an evil world

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Here's one that caught me off gaurd yesterday.

I took my chances with a lovely young woman and dropped a message. To my surprise, she replied and a bit of back and forth conversation began.

I took the chance to be a bit cheeky and asked "so, what chance do I have to get to meet you for a social sometime?"

Her reply left me a bit shocked and admittedly peeved off. "Depends, do you earn 6 figures?"

Needless to say 1. I don't. 2. What does it matter what I earn?

I post this to you, Forum of Fab."

Sounds like a bit of banter to me, did you have a witty retort....like I PIP and got a mobility car

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

Haha at just coming right out with it. I’d be like you if someone even asked in a serious way what I earn is tell them to fuck off. I don’t recall ever in my life asking what anyone earns my dad always taught me asking another man what he earns is grounds for a punch in the mouth.

When it comes to a potential partner Just to be working or funding their life with their own money is enough beyond that what does it matter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been relevant to me on here although in real life I wouldn't date someone who didn't earn a nice amount of money

I earn alot so would want someone to either match or earn more

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

"Never been relevant to me on here although in real life I wouldn't date someone who didn't earn a nice amount of money

I earn alot so would want someone to either match or earn more "

Well, everyone is different.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Never been relevant to me on here although in real life I wouldn't date someone who didn't earn a nice amount of money

I earn alot so would want someone to either match or earn more "

That's sad to read that someone could be perfect in every way for you apart from their bank balance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never been relevant to me on here although in real life I wouldn't date someone who didn't earn a nice amount of money

I earn alot so would want someone to either match or earn more

That's sad to read that someone could be perfect in every way for you apart from their bank balance

Not sad for me

I only attract my type so

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

"Here's one that caught me off gaurd yesterday.

I took my chances with a lovely young woman and dropped a message. To my surprise, she replied and a bit of back and forth conversation began.

I took the chance to be a bit cheeky and asked "so, what chance do I have to get to meet you for a social sometime?"

Her reply left me a bit shocked and admittedly peeved off. "Depends, do you earn 6 figures?"

Needless to say 1. I don't. 2. What does it matter what I earn?

I post this to you, Forum of Fab."

Did you ask how much she earns?

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Never been relevant to me on here although in real life I wouldn't date someone who didn't earn a nice amount of money

I earn alot so would want someone to either match or earn more

That's sad to read that someone could be perfect in every way for you apart from their bank balance

If it's with potential to form a relationship with someone, I don’t think it's sad at all. More a practical consideration

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

I'd have strung it along for a while, see what the end result would be

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By *apidaryMan
over a year ago

Chipping Norton

Odd to fixate on any figure, & agree that OP has had a lucky escape.

Asking if someone is successful in life would be a more interesting question. So many different ways to be successful, for one thing, and also so many attractive people who are alluring both despite and often because of the bits of their life that haven't gone smoothly.

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
over a year ago

M20

I’m on match too, I just noticed a woman on there who earns £25,000 to £35,00pa who is looking for a man on £35,000 to £45,000.

What do you make of this? She got a swift no from me.

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

At least she's being realistic. Tbf, she may be looking for some in a similar social setting. Might not want rich guys

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By *phialtesMan
over a year ago

Beyond the Wall

It shouldn’t but it does to some.

If people are only after you for your money they aren’t worth your time.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

No earnings don't matter to me. But in saying that I pay my share when I meet someone off here or in life outside of here and I expect anyone else to do the same. Apart from that I couldn't care what someone earns.

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

"I’m on match too, I just noticed a woman on there who earns £25,000 to £35,00pa who is looking for a man on £35,000 to £45,000.

What do you make of this? She got a swift no from me."

Looking at promotion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never been relevant to me on here although in real life I wouldn't date someone who didn't earn a nice amount of money

I earn alot so would want someone to either match or earn more

That's sad to read that someone could be perfect in every way for you apart from their bank balance

If it's with potential to form a relationship with someone, I don’t think it's sad at all. More a practical consideration "

My thoughts exactly

Like I said on here it doesn't matter to me in the slightest

But if it's someone I'm going to potentionally be in a relationship with then yes it matters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m on match too, I just noticed a woman on there who earns £25,000 to £35,00pa who is looking for a man on £35,000 to £45,000.

What do you make of this? She got a swift no from me."

Tbf it depends on her reasons

She's obviously not a gold digger or she would want someone who earned more than 45k lol

Maybe she has just got out of a relationship where she was the main bread winner and doesn't want to be in that situation anymore

You never know

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

"Never been relevant to me on here although in real life I wouldn't date someone who didn't earn a nice amount of money

I earn alot so would want someone to either match or earn more

That's sad to read that someone could be perfect in every way for you apart from their bank balance

If it's with potential to form a relationship with someone, I don’t think it's sad at all. More a practical consideration

My thoughts exactly

Like I said on here it doesn't matter to me in the slightest

But if it's someone I'm going to potentionally be in a relationship with then yes it matters "

Perhaps somr thought it was said in an imperious way? 'I earn a lot of money....' etc. Though good for you to be so clear about important criteria from the start as money has been the downfall of many relationships and marriages. Best to know from the start rather than divorce your husband because he lost his job or worse he divorces you because you fell on hard times. Life is very unpredictable.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

Never came up here but in dating world, I always interpret the 'and what do you do' question as the earnings yardstick.

Tiresome but /shrugs

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Never been relevant to me on here although in real life I wouldn't date someone who didn't earn a nice amount of money

I earn alot so would want someone to either match or earn more

That's sad to read that someone could be perfect in every way for you apart from their bank balance

If it's with potential to form a relationship with someone, I don’t think it's sad at all. More a practical consideration

My thoughts exactly

Like I said on here it doesn't matter to me in the slightest

But if it's someone I'm going to potentionally be in a relationship with then yes it matters

Those would seem very flimsy reasons for divorce

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

I could not care less what anyone else earns, I'm perfectly capable of buying the coffee. I don't see what relevance someones bank balance has to attraction personally and would steer clear if it was a thing for the other person.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I need to start uploading my P60 instead of dick pics.

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

"Never been relevant to me on here although in real life I wouldn't date someone who didn't earn a nice amount of money

I earn alot so would want someone to either match or earn more

That's sad to read that someone could be perfect in every way for you apart from their bank balance

If it's with potential to form a relationship with someone, I don’t think it's sad at all. More a practical consideration

My thoughts exactly

Like I said on here it doesn't matter to me in the slightest

But if it's someone I'm going to potentionally be in a relationship with then yes it matters

Those would seem very flimsy reasons for divorce "

Of course they are. I agree.

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

It might just have been a convenient way of giving you the brush off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never been relevant to me on here although in real life I wouldn't date someone who didn't earn a nice amount of money

I earn alot so would want someone to either match or earn more

That's sad to read that someone could be perfect in every way for you apart from their bank balance

If it's with potential to form a relationship with someone, I don’t think it's sad at all. More a practical consideration

My thoughts exactly

Like I said on here it doesn't matter to me in the slightest

But if it's someone I'm going to potentionally be in a relationship with then yes it matters

Who ever read that as being imperious should probably look at their own insecurities and wonder why they thought of a simple statement like that when it obviously wasn't meant in that way.

Alot is subjective so what is "alot" to me may not be alot to someone else

And those kind of things could happen to anyone, should we all put our preferences to one side just because something may or may not happen in the future?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never been relevant to me on here although in real life I wouldn't date someone who didn't earn a nice amount of money

I earn alot so would want someone to either match or earn more

That's sad to read that someone could be perfect in every way for you apart from their bank balance

If it's with potential to form a relationship with someone, I don’t think it's sad at all. More a practical consideration

My thoughts exactly

Like I said on here it doesn't matter to me in the slightest

But if it's someone I'm going to potentionally be in a relationship with then yes it matters

Those would seem very flimsy reasons for divorce "

And also very unrealistic reasons but nice to know that a complete stranger has forseen the downfall of my hypothetical marriage before it as actually happened lmao

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

"Never been relevant to me on here although in real life I wouldn't date someone who didn't earn a nice amount of money

I earn alot so would want someone to either match or earn more

That's sad to read that someone could be perfect in every way for you apart from their bank balance

If it's with potential to form a relationship with someone, I don’t think it's sad at all. More a practical consideration

My thoughts exactly

Like I said on here it doesn't matter to me in the slightest

But if it's someone I'm going to potentionally be in a relationship with then yes it matters

Those would seem very flimsy reasons for divorce

And also very unrealistic reasons but nice to know that a complete stranger has forseen the downfall of my hypothetical marriage before it as actually happened lmao "

Last comment I will make and I am out as I jave observed how these escalate. I was actually agreeing with you that if it is important consideration it is better to be out in the open early enough rather than late. Have a wonderful peaceful day.

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

That's terrible...sorry you had this OP.... it doesn't matter ro me what people earn and wouldn't expect people to want to know what my income was either..

Can't believe people ask this...would have shocked me too and also annoyed me..

I got abuse for saying I "was skint" (we all get that way at times) as he wanted me to meet him and I only had money for my children.. but he gave me abuse about what kind of parent I was because I wouldn't spend my children's money on going to him to because he was horny!!! Baffles me it really does.. Best of luck for your next convo..

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

You should have asked if she earned 6 figures.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Never came up here but in dating world, I always interpret the 'and what do you do' question as the earnings yardstick.

Tiresome but /shrugs"

I like to know if I can make use of his employee discount

Imagine cheap Greggs

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By *apybarasCouple
over a year ago

High Lighthouse!

I can't understand the difference it would make for meeting someone on here.

I sort of get it in the dating world. It's just the same as being attracted to someone because they have a great body.

If someone doesn't look for more than either of those initial things, that's where there may be an issue.

Power, wealth, looks. None of these are the person, just the things that some people are first attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never came up here but in dating world, I always interpret the 'and what do you do' question as the earnings yardstick.

Tiresome but /shrugs

I like to know if I can make use of his employee discount

Imagine cheap Greggs

I used to in Greggs, they get a 50% discount

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"Never came up here but in dating world, I always interpret the 'and what do you do' question as the earnings yardstick.

Tiresome but /shrugs

I like to know if I can make use of his employee discount

Imagine cheap Greggs

There's your hunting ground

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By *apybarasCouple
over a year ago

High Lighthouse!

"Never came up here but in dating world, I always interpret the 'and what do you do' question as the earnings yardstick.

Tiresome but /shrugs

I like to know if I can make use of his employee discount

Imagine cheap Greggs

I used to in Greggs, they get a 50% discount

Now we're talking. Love a sausage roll.

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By *itty Kat ABWoman
over a year ago

North Somerset

It's not something I have ever asked anyone, and definately not on here. Gosh, stay clear. Kx

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I actually find extreme wealth to be a turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Her reply left me a bit shocked and admittedly peeved off. "Depends, do you earn 6 figures?""

She didn't specify a currency

1GBP is more than 50,000 Iranian Rial

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I would have said yes and then with further questioning stated that discussing money and wealth is naff and suggests lack of class. A coffee costs the same no matter what you earn. If she was after a sneaky quid pro quo situation (know what I means?) I’d tell her to do one.

Bloody soap dodger!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd suggest that it was either a joke or she was leading up to asking you for money.

I thought that at first and tried to joke it off with a "not quite unfortunately haha"

Her response was a "there's your answer""

You should have told her, that if your looking for a sugar daddy, to put it on her profile.

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By *azza72Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I honestly read that as “does earrings matter?” I think I need a lie down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I honestly read that as “does earrings matter?” I think I need a lie down

Me too! Every ime I see it I go to reply " yes, yes they do!". Then I remember.

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