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By *oggone OP   Man
over a year ago

Derry

an ex said to me that they used me as a sex toy. The jury is still out whether that's an insult or compliment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She can say anything she wants to you buddy, but she simply can’t unsook your balls

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).


"an ex said to me that they used me as a sex toy. The jury is still out whether that's an insult or compliment."

I read that as Sex Tory.

No wonder you were worried.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Depends in what context but personally i find it an insult to be referred to inanimate object

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well they’re an ex so fuck them

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By *oggone OP   Man
over a year ago

Derry


"an ex said to me that they used me as a sex toy. The jury is still out whether that's an insult or compliment.

I read that as Sex Tory.

No wonder you were worried.

"

that one isn't open to interpretation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well they’re an ex so fuck them "

Or not...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I assume she was calling you a butt plug.

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By *oggone OP   Man
over a year ago

Derry


"Depends in what context but personally i find it an insult to be referred to inanimate object "

She would appear in my life for sex and then ignore me until she felt that way again. She said she meant it as a compliment but its 50-50 at best.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I think you got off lightly there.

An ex said to me:

You are a fucking dickhead, you were never serious about us. That's it I'm done.

(Because I didn't want to move in with her after 3 months)

5 minutes later

Maybe if you fucked me like you used to I wouldn't mind.

15 minutes later.

Are you coming over Friday?

. At least your ex was consistent.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8


"I think you got off lightly there.

An ex said to me:

You are a fucking dickhead, you were never serious about us. That's it I'm done.

(Because I didn't want to move in with her after 3 months)

5 minutes later

Maybe if you fucked me like you used to I wouldn't mind.

15 minutes later.

Are you coming over Friday?

. At least your ex was consistent."

Bloody hell, dude! Women - what a bunch of psychopaths

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8


"Depends in what context but personally i find it an insult to be referred to inanimate object

She would appear in my life for sex and then ignore me until she felt that way again. She said she meant it as a compliment but it’s 50-50 at best."

That bit of context makes me feel it’s an insult. If you both absolutely want a detached fwb type relationship, great. Then you really are just there for each other’s occasional pleasure.

But to treat a person like that when it’s not what you both want is rather demeaning.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

How did you take it?

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8


"How did you take it? "

Up the bum. She liked pegging.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Take it as a compliment. It infers that your machinery still works...more than adequately.

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By *oggone OP   Man
over a year ago

Derry


"How did you take it? "

I laughed. It's a bit stabby but ambiguous enough to deny it is an insult.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I think you got off lightly there.

An ex said to me:

You are a fucking dickhead, you were never serious about us. That's it I'm done.

(Because I didn't want to move in with her after 3 months)

5 minutes later

Maybe if you fucked me like you used to I wouldn't mind.

15 minutes later.

Are you coming over Friday?

. At least your ex was consistent."

Sorry.

I was on blob.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"How did you take it?

I laughed. It's a bit stabby but ambiguous enough to deny it is an insult."

Like the guy who said to me a few weeks ago

"I like your style. You must stick out like a sore thumb round here"

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By *oggone OP   Man
over a year ago

Derry


"How did you take it?

I laughed. It's a bit stabby but ambiguous enough to deny it is an insult.

Like the guy who said to me a few weeks ago

"I like your style. You must stick out like a sore thumb round here"

"

oh. thanks?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"How did you take it?

I laughed. It's a bit stabby but ambiguous enough to deny it is an insult.

Like the guy who said to me a few weeks ago

"I like your style. You must stick out like a sore thumb round here"

oh. thanks?"

I laughed. A woman sat next to me on the bus yesterday and proceeded to give me 'free' advice on losing weight. Then looked at me and said

"If I were you I wouldn't bother" before getting off .

I laughed at that too

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Compliment

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"How did you take it?

I laughed. It's a bit stabby but ambiguous enough to deny it is an insult.

Like the guy who said to me a few weeks ago

"I like your style. You must stick out like a sore thumb round here"

oh. thanks?

I laughed. A woman sat next to me on the bus yesterday and proceeded to give me 'free' advice on losing weight. Then looked at me and said

"If I were you I wouldn't bother" before getting off .

I laughed at that too "

The cheek of some people, and you look great.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A


"I think you got off lightly there.

An ex said to me:

You are a fucking dickhead, you were never serious about us. That's it I'm done.

(Because I didn't want to move in with her after 3 months)

5 minutes later

Maybe if you fucked me like you used to I wouldn't mind.

15 minutes later.

Are you coming over Friday?

. At least your ex was consistent.

Sorry.

I was on blob."

You have a sense of humour, I can work with that.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A


"

. At least your ex was consistent.

Bloody hell, dude! Women - what a bunch of psychopaths "

Come on let's not generalise. Some are only sociopaths

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I think you got off lightly there.

An ex said to me:

You are a fucking dickhead, you were never serious about us. That's it I'm done.

(Because I didn't want to move in with her after 3 months)

5 minutes later

Maybe if you fucked me like you used to I wouldn't mind.

15 minutes later.

Are you coming over Friday?

. At least your ex was consistent.

Sorry.

I was on blob.

You have a sense of humour, I can work with that. "

We already know I have a sense of humour... I'm friends with you

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Its true they use us too

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I've been used for sex by ex's after breaking up and we both knew it was just sex so the getting used goes both ways.

I absolutely hated all those booty calls

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

If you or they got off on objectification and were both aware, absolutely zero issue

My ex called me a "fucking wanker!"

Y, however encourages both wholeheartedly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the phrases such as "being used" or "toy with me" make you tingle then I guess yes.. complimentary comment.

If she knew they don't then it could feel like being put down, reduced to that.

It's all in your head in the end - depending how you feel about yourself too.

Let's not focus on her intention too much. It's what you will make of it. She is an ex after all.

T

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A


"

. At least your ex was consistent.

Sorry.

I was on blob.

You have a sense of humour, I can work with that.

We already know I have a sense of humour... I'm friends with you "

You say the sweetest things.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"How did you take it?

I laughed. It's a bit stabby but ambiguous enough to deny it is an insult.

Like the guy who said to me a few weeks ago

"I like your style. You must stick out like a sore thumb round here"

oh. thanks?

I laughed. A woman sat next to me on the bus yesterday and proceeded to give me 'free' advice on losing weight. Then looked at me and said

"If I were you I wouldn't bother" before getting off .

I laughed at that too

The cheek of some people, and you look great."

Thanks

I just found it funny. I love conversation like that on a sort of Victoria Wood comedy way.

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