FabSwingers.com forum: An overshare

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How does oversharing make you feel?

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I'm so used to doing it, it really doesn't bother me. The only caveat is if it bothers the person I'm telling then I will feel bad.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I'm so used to doing it, it really doesn't bother me. The only caveat is if it bothers the person I'm telling then I will feel bad. "

That

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm so used to doing it, it really doesn't bother me. The only caveat is if it bothers the person I'm telling then I will feel bad. "

Thirded

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I'm so used to doing it, it really doesn't bother me. The only caveat is if it bothers the person I'm telling then I will feel bad.

That"

Also this.

Jo.Xx

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I think we all overshare here, don’t we? It’s kind of built in to being a heavy forum user.

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london

"I'm so used to doing it, it really doesn't bother me. The only caveat is if it bothers the person I'm telling then I will feel bad. "

Pretty much this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I overshare.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm so used to doing it, it really doesn't bother me. The only caveat is if it bothers the person I'm telling then I will feel bad. "

I think I don’t overshare a lot because when people do it often makes me uncomfortable. Not always but often. I was raised in a culture where not everyone should know your business.

Also Frida the new pic is noice. Makes me want to reload my face down ass up thread.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"I don't think I overshare. "

And yet we all know the filthy, degrading things you do with Hula Hoops.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think we all overshare here, don’t we? It’s kind of built in to being a heavy forum user."

On here yes. Although I think the lesson of this place is you can talk about something personal to you and deep and a load of people will invalidate that experience and say it’s made up. So we should not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think I overshare. "

I don’t think you do on here. Do you in person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How does it make me feel? Shudder - even the accidental one.

I don't believe I do.

I'll happily listen but I open up to a very few.

Tones

If you mean oversharing in another sense such as - I got my period today and its so heavy... that I am guilty of

ps. Don't worry I didn't.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I am not sure I fully agree with the concept.

I need more context.

Like people have said, I don't wish to upset anyone. Beyond that I tend to want the gritty core stuff and so I am inclined to do the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's only oversharing if it makes others uncomfortable, and how would you know?

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

I dunno i dont share

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think I overshare.

I don’t think you do on here. Do you in person?"

No not really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think I overshare.

And yet we all know the filthy, degrading things you do with Hula Hoops."

But not with cocks.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I am not sure I fully agree with the concept.

I need more context.

Like people have said, I don't wish to upset anyone. Beyond that I tend to want the gritty core stuff and so I am inclined to do the same."

Pffft. You can't handle the grit

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think I overshare.

I don’t think you do on here. Do you in person?

No not really"

You live life properly

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"But not with cocks."

Eww, no. Horrible things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m quite good at picking out what I’m meant to be hearing and letting the overshare go. Sone people are just like that, for others it’s a need to say stuff. Can’t judge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think I overshare.

I don’t think you do on here. Do you in person?

No not really

You live life properly"

Not according to the world of fab!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How does it make me feel? Shudder - even the accidental one.

I don't believe I do.

I'll happily listen but I open up to a very few.

Tones

If you mean oversharing in another sense such as - I got my period today and its so heavy... that I am guilty of

ps. Don't worry I didn't. "

period talk is not an overshare with me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think I overshare.

I don’t think you do on here. Do you in person?

No not really

You live life properly

Not according to the world of fab!"

Literally who gives a fuck about fabbers?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m quite good at picking out what I’m meant to be hearing and letting the overshare go. Sone people are just like that, for others it’s a need to say stuff. Can’t judge. "

This us real. That’s really a good perspective

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am not sure I fully agree with the concept.

I need more context.

Like people have said, I don't wish to upset anyone. Beyond that I tend to want the gritty core stuff and so I am inclined to do the same."

I hear you. Oversharerers could make us share more maybe?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's only oversharing if it makes others uncomfortable, and how would you know?"

real

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's okay until I catch myself and then a pang of selfguilt followed by restraint... Until it's forgotten and we repeat the cycle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In life I overshare my experiences, but on fab I don't. I value directness over vagueness in interactions though.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I’m well known as an oversharer. I just don’t have a filter. People who know me well understand it’s a part of how my ADHD brain works and are ok with it (mostly) but I understand why it can be uncomfortable for others.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"I'm so used to doing it, it really doesn't bother me. The only caveat is if it bothers the person I'm telling then I will feel bad.

I think I don’t overshare a lot because when people do it often makes me uncomfortable. Not always but often. I was raised in a culture where not everyone should know your business.

Also Frida the new pic is noice. Makes me want to reload my face down ass up thread. "

I was raised in that kind of environment. Meant people used that kind of culture against me. So they knew I wouldn't discuss the abuse I was enduring. I used to be quite secretive about it, but as I've gotten older. I find that people actually aren't as uncomfortable as I thought, if anything it's allowed people to open up about the abuse they've suffered.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm so used to doing it, it really doesn't bother me. The only caveat is if it bothers the person I'm telling then I will feel bad.

I think I don’t overshare a lot because when people do it often makes me uncomfortable. Not always but often. I was raised in a culture where not everyone should know your business.

Also Frida the new pic is noice. Makes me want to reload my face down ass up thread.

Frida

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the person. If I like them, I have a habit of trying to recommend fixes when they probably just need to talk but like to think I'd lend an ear if they needed to talk. If I didn't like them that much, I'd try to find ways to remove myself from the conversation so I don't talk to them longer than I need to.

I don't really tend to overshare unless I know someone and feel comfortable knowing they wouldn't judge

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"How does oversharing make you feel? "

Free liberated and less burdened

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

It's not something I do

And it's not something I enjoy others doing

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

Pretty much every conversation with my friends would be classed as oversharing by NT types from what I can work out.

Thankfully, all my friends are also ND so 'oversharing' just ends up being conversation

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I overshare because I like to chat to people pure and simple, I wouldn't be sharing anything, that I'm not happy being repeated though

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"I am not sure I fully agree with the concept.

I need more context.

Like people have said, I don't wish to upset anyone. Beyond that I tend to want the gritty core stuff and so I am inclined to do the same.

Pffft. You can't handle the grit

I eat grits for breakfast ma'am

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

Over sharing is never a good thing. There are lots of nasty people who would use it against a person or throw it in their face

Usually when they don't get what they want instead of just allowing others to have their choice like we all would like ours xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the context I guess?

If it’s someone over sharing something they have going on in their personal life, then I don’t mind. They clearly needed to get it off their chest somehow

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I don’t overshare, I fact I hardly talk about myself at all, I’m more of a listener to the over sharers

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I'm so used to doing it, it really doesn't bother me. The only caveat is if it bothers the person I'm telling then I will feel bad.

That"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind at all. I like when people are open. I don't tend to get uncomfortable, and do my best to listen and respond in the most supportive way I can.

I've definitely overshared to the wrong people and seen the look of discomfort slowly take over their entire body.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I don't mind at all. I like when people are open. I don't tend to get uncomfortable, and do my best to listen and respond in the most supportive way I can.

I've definitely overshared to the wrong people and seen the look of discomfort slowly take over their entire body.

People shouldn't ask questions that they don't want the answer to.

If someone (often a random stranger) is going to ask me "why are you in a wheelchair", I'm gonna damn well tell them. Not many people actually want to know what I have to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to stop myself from over sharing sometimes because I know it can make people uncomfortable. It’s usually not anything that I mind people knowing anyway but still.

I don’t mind it at all though. I like that they feel comfortable enough to be open with me and I try to listen and be supportive when I can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I can be a bit of an over sharer at times, yet at others I can be quite guarded. I think it's just the nature of being on here.

There are times I've said things and felt a little vulnerable as a result but people are generally supportive here and it's heart warming to see that happen when people open up.

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