FabSwingers.com forum: Again?

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

It's a rare short one from me...

So, you've had sex with someone. What makes you want to see them again? What makes you think "nah, I'm good?".

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

"It's a rare short one from me...

So, you've had sex with someone. What makes you want to see them again? What makes you think "nah, I'm good?"."

great sex = yea baby. I wanna do it again.

crap sex = mehh.nahhh I'm good

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"It's a rare short one from me...

So, you've had sex with someone. What makes you want to see them again? What makes you think "nah, I'm good?"."

With regard to the second question, probably personality or lifestyle. As to the first maybe a sense that the second time might be better again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gut feeling afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good sex obviously but also being comfortable in each others company before and after. If we can’t have a normal conversation and a laugh, then I’m probably not going to want to see them again.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

How they react afterwards. If they look all smiles and content it's a yes from me.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Good sex obviously but also being comfortable in each others company before and after. If we can’t have a normal conversation and a laugh, then I’m probably not going to want to see them again. "

Mostly this. It can be about more than just the sex.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"It's a rare short one from me...

So, you've had sex with someone. What makes you want to see them again? What makes you think "nah, I'm good?"."

See them again? Because they're awesome, you had great sex and they're funny as fuck as well as great in bed.

"Nah, I'm good"? There's actually nothing wrong with that. Just because you had a good time doesn't necessitate a repeat. Some one offs are great because you both know it was a one time thing. Maybe distance between you, a chance encounter and a fleeting opportunity made it possible just that once, but a repeat would be a major ballache for you both.

Or maybe it didn't pan out as planned, was 'meh' OK sex but not inspiring (not necessarily anyone's fault - some people just aren't compatible in bed) and you've chalked it up to experience and moved on.

It's not always because it was a crap shag/they wanted different things/they insisted on wearing their mother in laws best frock and singing Disney tunes whilst shagging..........

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Being able to relax in their presence, laugh, have good conversation and obviously the sex but general 1st time ok ish sex I wouldn't rule out another meet if all the rest was there, sometimes it can just take some time getting to know each others bodies.

Mrs

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Because I left something at their place and I want to get it back.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Because I left something at their place and I want to get it back. "

This is why some men leave their socks on, I'm sure......

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Usually, even if the sex is just okay the first time I might want to see someone again because there was good chemistry, the conversation was easy, we had things in common and I enjoyed spending time with them in general around the sex part. Sex can always improve as times goes on. But if you can't have a decent conversation after the fucking then nah, not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's all down to the connection and natural flow of everything involved.

The friendship first, the sex latter. How much we can talk and be in each others company where it all flows naturally.

If it doesn't flow naturally yes I'd think meh, but then I probably wouldn't have got naked with them anyway.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

If i love them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The sex doesn't determine it for me.

Its all about the spark and the chemistry and the kissing. That's my deal breaker. That's why if a social doesn't leave me wanting more, I wouldn't even get to the sex part and I hope they wouldn't either.

If I feel relaxed around them, if we get on well and if that fizz is there, the butterflies and flutters when we kiss , then I'd want to see them again.

Sexual comparability is important and if that wasn't there then it would put me off but sex being eipic is down to connection. I'm also wise enough to know that sometimes sex won't always be mind blowing, people lead busy lives, sometimes they can't or I can't go all day or night.That doesn't make it bad either. Sometimes we might not want to and that is OK too. Finding someone who I can have fun with doing other things as well as sex is the ideal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they tick more than 75% of my sexual boxes I’m gonna be asking for another meet

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"If they tick more than 75% of my sexual boxes I’m gonna be asking for another meet

Pre and post meet surveys?

I like your style.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"If they tick more than 75% of my sexual boxes I’m gonna be asking for another meet

(Grabs his clipboard)

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

For me its about would they let me again x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally the sex doesn't have to be completely mind blowing. Granted, we should have good sexual chemistry but we should also get along as people and find them funny, easy to talk to, and hopefully I can easily be myself around them.

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

All depends if it was worth all the effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they tick more than 75% of my sexual boxes I’m gonna be asking for another meet

Pre and post meet surveys?

I like your style.

Has to be a practical exam too, talking the talk but not backing it up by also walking the walk will result in expulsion!

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Because I left something at their place and I want to get it back.

This is why some men leave their socks on, I'm sure......

True story. Less risk of having to go back for a lost sock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they tick more than 75% of my sexual boxes I’m gonna be asking for another meet

Pre and post meet surveys?

I like your style.

Has to be a practical exam too, talking the talk but not backing it up by also walking the walk will result in expulsion! "

I like this idea! Not sure I could handle getting a bad report though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if they look like the person in their pictures......and not look like they'd been found in a pyramid.

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

"It's a rare short one from me...

So, you've had sex with someone. What makes you want to see them again? What makes you think "nah, I'm good?"."

It would be if I felt comfortable with them…

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

"If they tick more than 75% of my sexual boxes I’m gonna be asking for another meet

If they met 74% would you meet again to reevaluate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they tick more than 75% of my sexual boxes I’m gonna be asking for another meet

Pre and post meet surveys?

I like your style.

Has to be a practical exam too, talking the talk but not backing it up by also walking the walk will result in expulsion! "

I thought the idea of sex was that it ends in an expulsion

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By *ister-mischiefMan
over a year ago

Trafford

Being able to have a connection both physically and mentally. I love to chill afterwords maybe have a cuddle , eat some snacks and have a laugh and someone that is comfortable with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends if they look like the person in their pictures......and not look like they'd been found in a pyramid."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they tick more than 75% of my sexual boxes I’m gonna be asking for another meet

If they met 74% would you meet again to reevaluate?"

If the mental connection was there then yes

room for improvement after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they tick more than 75% of my sexual boxes I’m gonna be asking for another meet

Pre and post meet surveys?

I like your style.

Has to be a practical exam too, talking the talk but not backing it up by also walking the walk will result in expulsion!

I thought the idea of sex was that it ends in an expulsion

Not that kind

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By *anae21Woman
over a year ago

Nearer than you think

If there was great conversation, fabulous sex and he was hot as hell, I'd say "how soon?!"

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

The fundamental draw for me at least, as regards to wanting to see a person repeatedly, is a good connection.

There has to be a chemistry.

This may manifest in a myriad of ways; good conversation, humour, warmth, closeness and tactility etc.

With compatible chemistry as a groundwork, great sex will invariably follow

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"The sex doesn't determine it for me.

If I feel relaxed around them, if we get on well and if that fizz is there, the butterflies and flutters when we kiss , then I'd want to see them again.

It's like you took my thoughts and wrote them down more coherently

This, this, this! The chemistry is key.

Mrs TMN x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Again: she said I was good

Nah: she lied

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Energy mostly. One offs are usually a purely chemistry attraction thing where you just wanna rip their clothes off in the moment. To see someone more than once, they have to have more to offer than just being pretty and genuinely vibe with them as people.

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By *phialtesMan
over a year ago

Beyond the Wall

Want to meet again:

Did I enjoy their company and want to spend more time with them?

Did they enjoy themsleves and want to spend more time with me?

Do we share similar interests of a sexual nature?

As for not wanting to meet again:

Did they appear bored, disinterested or spend the entire time talking smack about other people (on or off fab)?

Where they preoccupied with themself?

Did the entire ordeal feel like a chore?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Effort. If she puts in the effort in different positions. Asks how to pleasure me. Tries as much as I do.

If she doesn’t communicate well, doesn’t ask me what I like and just assumes, doesn’t make effort to pleasure me and relies on penetration to pleasure me then we won’t do it again. I hate lovers that don’t communicate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did I still have that tingle in my tummy as I drove home and thought about the encounter.

If so.. bring it on again please

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

The attraction, the chemistry… the way things flowed before, during and after sex.

A man who wants to get straight into it - turnoff for me. A guy who wants to know me, asks me what I like, and starts seducing me from the first moment he sets eyes on me- yes please.

Afterwards is important too. Some guys (especially married ones, lol) are scared of cuddling - if there is no cuddling it’s a never again for me. Chatting, and going for another round, or two or three…

In some cases, the meet - I don’t say “the sex”, as it is not the only thing I am looking for … is satisfactory and I leave feeling good, but there is something missing. Those are the times when I think “nah, I’m good, I don’t want to meet again”.

But, if I go back home with an orgasm headache, with my legs turned to jelly, AKA Bambi legs, breathless from the whole experience, that is when I think “oh yes please!” Been lucky to have felt like that with several people, sadly not in a long while though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did I still have that tingle in my tummy as I drove home and thought about the encounter.

If so.. bring it on again please

Curry tummy

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Chemistry, connection, personality,these were the major factors, sexual compatibility is also important, to fuck someone, I have to fancy them.

If all those boxes are ticked, all is good

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

When I walk away and a smile comes to my face from the weekend, I want to do it again, but sometimes life just gets in the way

When I look back and end up counting all the red flags, it's not to be repeated. I try not to be a glutton for punishment, but sometimes it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I leave my cuff links behind

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

If it's there then the question doesn't need to be asked.

It's more when than if.

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By *weetkitten65Woman
over a year ago

Halifax

Connection, chemistry,humour..

Sadly doesn't happen much...

But here's hoping

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By *weetkitten65Woman
over a year ago

Halifax

"The attraction, the chemistry… the way things flowed before, during and after sex.

A man who wants to get straight into it - turnoff for me. A guy who wants to know me, asks me what I like, and starts seducing me from the first moment he sets eyes on me- yes please.

Totally this ^^

Mmmmmmmmmmm seduction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did I still have that tingle in my tummy as I drove home and thought about the encounter.

If so.. bring it on again please

Curry tummy

yes, much the same!!

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By *ister_ee_1981Man
over a year ago

Sunniest Exeter...

I normally get blocked afterward, so it's not really a point I have had to consider...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a rare short one from me...

So, you've had sex with someone. What makes you want to see them again? What makes you think "nah, I'm good?"."

Looks a 10. Body a 10. Personality 10. Overall vibe 10. (Even if they say they’re not, if I think it!!) they turn into 100% hell yeh!! I want to see them again, and again and maybe multiple times.

Less than that and I might want to see them again, but I wouldn’t push for it if that makes sense.

If there’s no connection in a personality level, it’s a drift off and we both go out seperate ways. The gmfunny thing is, you know when they feel no connection, even if you do feel attracted, and that’s still a reason not to push to meet again too.

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
over a year ago

Beverley

In non-fab life, the real fun in in the dating, flirting and getting to know each other. Unless it's an organised shag, then the same rules apply I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any sex with a woman would be nice

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

cum that tastes really bad can definitely put me off a person. or if they proved to be an asshat. luckily I have only encountered this on very rare occasions.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I might be alone here but even if the first time wasn’t great , or even bad, if I was really into the person I’d persist on an adventure to make it great.

If I don’t like something about their personality it doesn’t matter how great the sex was, I’m done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait, people meet more than once??

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Wait, people meet more than once??

Oh this thread! I'd forgotten about it and fuck am I glad some people aren't on the fora.

FORA. On. The. Fora.

I might try and reply to some posts because it's really interesting reading the myriad of viewpoints.

But yes Lilith. Yes, people do meet people more than once. Sometimes they're surprisingly keen to and you want to kick your feet in glee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wait, people meet more than once??

Oh this thread! I'd forgotten about it and fuck am I glad some people aren't on the fora.

FORA. On. The. Fora.

I might try and reply to some posts because it's really interesting reading the myriad of viewpoints.

But yes Lilith. Yes, people do meet people more than once. Sometimes they're surprisingly keen to and you want to kick your feet in glee. "

I've yet to meet anyone keen to meet me again. I maybe shouldn't broadcast this....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"….

But yes Lilith. Yes, people do meet people more than once. Sometimes they're surprisingly keen to and you want to kick your feet in glee. "

What does it mean if someone wants to meet MORE than twice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I can still walk to the front door to see them off then "nah, I'm good"

If I can barely walk to the bedroom door then " worth another meet"

If I can't get off the bed then " when are coming back"

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

If the sex was good and the interaction outside the bedroom was fun and easygoing, odds are I'd like a repeat.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

To dispose of the evidence

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