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Cheating? Would u leave ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

By Wellwhoknows1981 OP Find posts by Wellwhoknows1981 Man

13 minutes ago

Wellington

Please need as much advice as I can .

I have 2 kids with my gf 16 15 .

I have been with my gf since school.

Found man under a womens name on snap now she has admitted to send g and receiving and send nudes to him .

She would also see him at weekends as he was a bouncer at our bar.

She has admitted to meeting him in 2012 . She also admits to have got 2 lifts home ...1 of which he kissed her 2016 apparently . But I only found it in her phone boxing day 2022 . She has since the got very defensive when I bring all this up .

Like I don't remeber how we exchanged numbers and I don't know why I didn't block him yet she see him at a bar in 2018 or 2019 but didn't know he was there even know it was out of town .her last message was on snapchat to him hahaha no filter ....what would u do ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

her last visible message I can see to him is 2019. But it was nothing ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm a little confused. Are you still in a relationship with the mother of your children? If so have a proper chat with her and try to get to the bottom of this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am but bery vague and struggling to accept

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By *he Kat 666Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury

Does she know you're on here?

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath


"Does she know you're on here?"

Oh dame beat me to it I'm thinking no singles account

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Hate to say this, but you are upset about your partner chatting with another man, whilst you as a man have setup an account on a swingers site. Irony dies here today.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"I am but bery vague and struggling to accept "

Odd because you profile says you are just out of a relationship.

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By *tevieg3222Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"I am but bery vague and struggling to accept

Odd because you profile says you are just out of a relationship. "
I have to say that you're pussy looks very nice and tasty xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does she know you're on here?"

To give THIS particular question some weight let me just say this. I was on here, single. Met a girl, all was great, but kept my account. Only to look at pictures, gods honest truth. But one day she found it, purely by accident. The relationship ended soon after. I was gutted. Call it what you want but it was deceitful and dishonest.

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath


"I am but bery vague and struggling to accept

Odd because you profile says you are just out of a relationship. I have to say that you're pussy looks very nice and tasty xx "

Wow that was out the blue ish lol

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Wrong section methinks

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Personally my ex wife was cheating, I found out. Likewise with a family, 2 kids, one of them only a couple months old. I loved my wife at the time and very aware the world is not a black and white place and we are all human. Im perfectly able to forgive, to understand and to make things better. It wasn't the idea she was having sex with someone that bothered me. It was the lies, underhandedness and total disrespect for me and our family I hated. I wanted to talk things through find a path forward and make things better for both of us. However she continued to gas light, be deceitful and (despite her words) continue to disrespect me and our family after it had all come to light and we said we'd work on things. I tried really hard but digging through her continuous deceit it was clear she wasn't reciprocating the effort. And thus it was clear to me the respect and value she had for me and our relationship despite insisting she wanted to work it out too. You have to understand when someone will not change and/or in truth doesn't want to change. I think more accurately she wanted to keep me and the kids on a string as plan B. It was that realisation that changed everything for me and I realised there's nothing more I could do and I decided to divorce her. So for me it's not so much the cheating it's more their willingness and behaviour going forward that would be the deciding factor. So I think you need to talk it through with her as adults.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does she know you're on here?

To give THIS particular question some weight let me just say this. I was on here, single. Met a girl, all was great, but kept my account. Only to look at pictures, gods honest truth. But one day she found it, purely by accident. The relationship ended soon after. I was gutted. Call it what you want but it was deceitful and dishonest. "

Only to look at the pictures....

Yeah this is what my ex said too, I mean you can't find naked pictures of women elsewhere can you other than a swinging site??

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee


"Does she know you're on here?

To give THIS particular question some weight let me just say this. I was on here, single. Met a girl, all was great, but kept my account. Only to look at pictures, gods honest truth. But one day she found it, purely by accident. The relationship ended soon after. I was gutted. Call it what you want but it was deceitful and dishonest.

Only to look at the pictures....

Yeah this is what my ex said too, I mean you can't find naked pictures of women elsewhere can you other than a swinging site??

"

Some excuse, lol.

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By *allmeDavidMan
over a year ago

london

Just to say that I have a single profile as my OH doesn't want to be involved on here due to her profession (Yes I know its as safe as one wants to be but its her decision and who am I to change her mind).

We go to various clubs in the UK and beyond and play like the rest. She knows I'm on here and even reads the messages just doesn't want to be a part of it herself.

In fact if anyone is off to OP4F next Friday shout me/us up.

Doesn't mean you are single because you have a single Bio is all I'm saying.

That's my tuppence anyway

Dave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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By Wellwhoknows1981 OP Find posts by Wellwhoknows1981 Man

13 minutes ago

Wellington

Please need as much advice as I can .

I have 2 kids with my gf 16 15 .

I have been with my gf since school.

Found man under a womens name on snap now she has admitted to send g and receiving and send nudes to him .

She would also see him at weekends as he was a bouncer at our bar.

She has admitted to meeting him in 2012 . She also admits to have got 2 lifts home ...1 of which he kissed her 2016 apparently . But I only found it in her phone boxing day 2022 . She has since the got very defensive when I bring all this up .

Like I don't remeber how we exchanged numbers and I don't know why I didn't block him yet she see him at a bar in 2018 or 2019 but didn't know he was there even know it was out of town .her last message was on snapchat to him hahaha no filter ....what would u do ?

"

I would….Not deal with it in a swinging site or the internet.

I’d deal with it with my wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does she know you're on here?

To give THIS particular question some weight let me just say this. I was on here, single. Met a girl, all was great, but kept my account. Only to look at pictures, gods honest truth. But one day she found it, purely by accident. The relationship ended soon after. I was gutted. Call it what you want but it was deceitful and dishonest. "

Jeez...that happens,tbh if l was lucky to find my soulmate like you say you did ..as in you were gutted ..l wouldn't be here. Pictures or your soulmate ??? No contest tbh ..it's not any easy but l hope you're doing ok

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

So you've found out she's shared texts and a kiss then thought I'll join fab and cheat on her too.

You said your still in the relationship further up but your profile says newly out of a relationship.

Break up for the sake of both your sanity and the kids.

Neither of you are in the right.

Mrs

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Leave her its obviously affected you so much you've came here to do the same to her, it will be very difficult at first but for the best, two wrongs don't make a right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you've found out she's shared texts and a kiss then thought I'll join fab and cheat on her too.

You said your still in the relationship further up but your profile says newly out of a relationship.

Break up for the sake of both your sanity and the kids.

Neither of you are in the right.

Mrs "

Exactly this. Leave before this drags out and gets super messy

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean you can't find naked pictures of women elsewhere can you other than a swinging site??

"

Hang on. Are there naked pictures on this site? I thought there was only chat in The Lounge. I think I may have been missing out, might need to explore more.

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By *ndy man 200Man
over a year ago

hereford


"Does she know you're on here?"
agree ,does she know you are on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean you can't find naked pictures of women elsewhere can you other than a swinging site??

Hang on. Are there naked pictures on this site? I thought there was only chat in The Lounge. I think I may have been missing out, might need to explore more."

So I've heard.

Though apparently you can only see boobs on a Tuesday.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Have a chat with her OP and you know how much trust you can to give to her, whether you can get over the cheating remains to be seen, but deep down you know what you want to do

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

What kind of advice do you want ?

How to divorce ? How to get her back ? How to leave FAB ? How to split the house ?

1. What are you doing going through her phone ?

2. It was 11 years ago , I wouldn't remember either.

3. She got a lift home and a kiss - i've no idea if this was a peck or a pash.

4. You've been on here for 3 months.

5. She admitted to sending nudes - I'm assuming they were of her and that's not good unless she did it after you split.

One of your children is old enough to get married and leave home.

The other is not far off that.

It can only be sorted between you and your partner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes she does we only look and message

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