FabSwingers.com forum: What happens to sex toys after a break up?

By *etPanties88 OP Man
over a year ago

Taunton

So, I've recently been seeing someone but never became official, and in that time I'd bought a lot of BDSM stuff and toys. What should I do with that stuff now?

Also, when it comes to a new relationship, should I get rid of all or some of the toys?

I bought a very expensive Bluetooth controlled wearable vibrator that I don't want to get rid of!

Any advice or comments from people here please.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Get rid. Sex toys aren't for sharing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Odd there a second hand market for these?

Does ‘used only once’ cut it?

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By *etPanties88 OP Man
over a year ago

Taunton

What about rope, restraints, tape, bars etc.?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Take what you want, leave what you don’t want.

Simples.

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By *etPanties88 OP Man
over a year ago

Taunton

"Take what you want, leave what you don’t want.

Simples."

And use with someone else? Thoughts?

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By *etPanties88 OP Man
over a year ago

Taunton

"Odd there a second hand market for these?

Does ‘used only once’ cut it?

I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Odd there a second hand market for these?

Does ‘used only once’ cut it?

I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else..."

Lovely ....

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Odd there a second hand market for these?

Does ‘used only once’ cut it?

Oddly enough....there is!

As to the question of what happens to toys after a break up - I suspect some will get used a lot more.

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By *etPanties88 OP Man
over a year ago

Taunton

"Odd there a second hand market for these?

Does ‘used only once’ cut it?

I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else...

Lovely ...."

Sarcasm?

My sarcasm radar isn't working today! Haha

Honestly though, really just want people's thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Odd there a second hand market for these?

Does ‘used only once’ cut it?

I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else...

Lovely ...."

This is why I won’t have a McFlurry.

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By *etPanties88 OP Man
over a year ago

Taunton

"Odd there a second hand market for these?

Does ‘used only once’ cut it?

Oddly enough....there is!

As to the question of what happens to toys after a break up - I suspect some will get used a lot more.

The question is more about whether I should get rid of them or keep them for the future with someone else?

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Odd there a second hand market for these?

Does ‘used only once’ cut it?

“Nearly new, still looks and runs great, been up hardly any arses”

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"Take what you want, leave what you don’t want.

Simples.

And use with someone else? Thoughts? "

No. Not if the item you took had been used. Use it for solo fun. If the item is still in the box and unused, then yeah, crack on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Odd there a second hand market for these?

Does ‘used only once’ cut it?

Oddly enough....there is!

…

No way??

So this is obviously a personal opinion. Nobody could clean that thing (whatever I thought of buying) enough.

Also, it just feels personal. I kept nothing from my ex wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Odd there a second hand market for these?

Does ‘used only once’ cut it?

I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else...

Lovely ....

Sarcasm?

My sarcasm radar isn't working today! Haha

Honestly though, really just want people's thoughts. "

Sarcasm? Never.

My thoughts, I'd be creeped out and 100% put off any guy that had vibrators and such they wanted to use with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could make a really XRated version of Toy Story, if toys come alive at night as I’ve been led to believe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Odd there a second hand market for these?

Does ‘used only once’ cut it?

“Nearly new, still looks and runs great, been up hardly any arses”"

Only 3 previous owners.

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By *etPanties88 OP Man
over a year ago

Taunton

"Odd there a second hand market for these?

Does ‘used only once’ cut it?

I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else...

Lovely ....

Sarcasm?

My sarcasm radar isn't working today! Haha

Honestly though, really just want people's thoughts.

Sarcasm? Never.

My thoughts, I'd be creeped out and 100% put off any guy that had vibrators and such they wanted to use with me.

Ok, thanks. I've got a wand with a male attachment so could potentially get around that one that way. I've got two dildos that are for my anal fun and then some specific ones for her. The rest is BDSM gear more than anything else.

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By *dy-ukTV/TS
over a year ago

Alcester

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

"Odd there a second hand market for these?

Does ‘used only once’ cut it?

I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else..."

If it has been used at all then this is very bad form.

Use it yourself,bin it or let her keep it,those are your choices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Odd there a second hand market for these?

Does ‘used only once’ cut it?

“Nearly new, still looks and runs great, been up hardly any arses”

Only 3 previous owners. "

Given there’s a thriving work knickers market, might sell if you said never washes

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By *etPanties88 OP Man
over a year ago

Taunton

"Odd there a second hand market for these?

Does ‘used only once’ cut it?

I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else...

If it has been used at all then this is very bad form.

Use it yourself,bin it or let her keep it,those are your choices.

Em"

I hate the thought of her using it without me as it's something we'd spoken about together and I bought it for us. Similarly, the thought of someone else using it with her hurts!

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By *dy-ukTV/TS
over a year ago

Alcester

"Odd there a second hand market for these?

Does ‘used only once’ cut it?

Not odd at all.

There's a definite market for used items of all sorts.

The biggest being used knickers, with used toys being close behind (pun intended).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quick question, I wouldn't know as I don't have sex toys but is that why condoms are used for dildos or wands so they can be used for multiple partners?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Odd there a second hand market for these?

Does ‘used only once’ cut it?

“Nearly new, still looks and runs great, been up hardly any arses”

Only 3 previous owners.

Given there’s a thriving work knickers market, might sell if you said never washes

This is a good point actually. Target the kinky ones.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I'd only ever buy new toys together with a partner, and bin all the old

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

There is a stall at the BBB that sells used sex toys

so there is a market for them but if I found out someone had used a previously used toy on me without consent (you know that thing we are really keen on in the BDSM community...) I'd be furious.

As for non intimate toys, make sure they are clean and cared for properly (especially on anything that could have come into contact with broken skin).

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Quick question, I wouldn't know as I don't have sex toys but is that why condoms are used for dildos or wands so they can be used for multiple partners?"

Being poly it's one reason why I often use them...

But also it's far easier to clean up sometimes

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

"Odd there a second hand market for these?

Does ‘used only once’ cut it?

I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else...

If it has been used at all then this is very bad form.

Use it yourself,bin it or let her keep it,those are your choices.

I hate the thought of her using it without me as it's something we'd spoken about together and I bought it for us. Similarly, the thought of someone else using it with her hurts! "

Use it yourself or cut your losses and get rid.

If it been inside an orifice it shouldn't be used without a new partner's knowledge.

As for cuffs,bars,rope should be fine but don't try to pass off anything as new with another partner as that's unfair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Quick question, I wouldn't know as I don't have sex toys but is that why condoms are used for dildos or wands so they can be used for multiple partners?

Being poly it's one reason why I often use them...

But also it's far easier to clean up sometimes

Ahhh interesting, I guess if you thought you'd only have one partner I can see why you wouldn't but I suppose you should see the toys as a write off before purchasing them no matter how clean you think you can get it

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By *ohndom2023Man
over a year ago

Hastings/Greenwich

Give your ex the toys and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything that can be sterilised properly like glass, silicon etc you could probably keep. Vibrators and the like can’t be sterilised and shouldn’t be used on anyone else. If you’re going to keep anything I’d be honest with them about it and let them make the decision on whether they are ok with it or not.

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

If it is going in you keep it for you. If it is inserted in to someone else bin it.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
over a year ago

your head

The insertables should stay with the person they've been used on unless they are glass. Things like restraints are fine to use again, just clean them properly.

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

I binned them all. Didnt want the association.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Odd there a second hand market for these?

Does ‘used only once’ cut it?

Oddly enough....there is!

…

No way??

So this is obviously a personal opinion. Nobody could clean that thing (whatever I thought of buying) enough.

Also, it just feels personal. I kept nothing from my ex wife. "

I'll explain all on Friday over a drink.

Let's just say there's some sick puppies out there and there's a market for anything and everything on the good old t'internet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bin them! Someone I'd met on here some years ago returned my toys but I could tell he'd used them on someone else. Dirty bastard! They went straight in the bin

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Ebay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Odd there a second hand market for these?

Does ‘used only once’ cut it?

I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else...

Lovely ....

Sarcasm?

My sarcasm radar isn't working today! Haha

Honestly though, really just want people's thoughts. "

My thoughts are that I'd not let anyone near me with toys he had lying around. Only ones I'd use would be my own or ones we had bought together.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

If they're intimate/internal, give them to the person who used them.

Anything else, sterilise and keep.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Odd there a second hand market for these?

Does ‘used only once’ cut it?

I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else...

If it has been used at all then this is very bad form.

Use it yourself,bin it or let her keep it,those are your choices.

I hate the thought of her using it without me as it's something we'd spoken about together and I bought it for us. Similarly, the thought of someone else using it with her hurts! "

But it's ok for you to do it?

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By *etPanties88 OP Man
over a year ago

Taunton

"Odd there a second hand market for these?

Does ‘used only once’ cut it?

I've still got the box for the expensive remote control one, could make it appear it was 'brand new' with someone else...

If it has been used at all then this is very bad form.

Use it yourself,bin it or let her keep it,those are your choices.

I hate the thought of her using it without me as it's something we'd spoken about together and I bought it for us. Similarly, the thought of someone else using it with her hurts!

But it's ok for you to do it?

Never said it was ok, just looking for people's thoughts and opinions as I'm not sure what to do...

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By *he Kat 666Woman
over a year ago

Salisbury

Gawd no! Give them back if they're not for use on yourself, or dispose of. I'd be physically sick, if someone suggested using their toys on me. My toys or none at all

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

just bin the unusable toys.

as goes for wearable bondage gear up to you what you do with them.

though you can sell them.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

They rot in the cupboard

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Get rid. Sex toys aren't for sharing."

Why is it so many woman don’t like the idea of a toy in her if it’s been in another woman but they are ok with the cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the past I've put stuff I no longer want up for grabs on here.

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By *otlips322020Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Defo out with the old ones and hopefully the new partner will buy some more for you ha ha ha

X x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t be a cheapskate

New woman, new toys.

Imagine if a new lady wanted you to wear a cock sleeve and gave you one her previous BF used to wear that she’d given a good wash.

Same with a dildo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And this is why I have my own kit. It only gets used on me.

The amount of guys that carry around a case/bag of kit and don't realise we would be mortified at how many women it's been used on.

Not just toys... restraints and collar etc included.

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By *ts the taking part thatMan
over a year ago

southampton

Off Subject a little but many years ago in the very late 80's I delivered kerb stones to a council depot and got invited into the yard mess room for a cuppa.

There was a pin board covered in polaroids of housewives the dustys had recovered from bins. Safe to say you can imagine the type of pictures.

At the time I loved it, as I grew older I really felt for the people who luckily had no idea they were found.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever you want to keep, keep, simple really.

I've never kept toys from realtionships, always started afresh.

Though anything I have now from being single I wouldn't chuck away if I was to get into a realtionship.

They are more expensive and better quality though.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"Get rid. Sex toys aren't for sharing.

Why is it so many woman don’t like the idea of a toy in her if it’s been in another woman but they are ok with the cock "

Because unfortunately you can't replace male cocks, so it's not like we have a choice. Toys however you can replace.

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

Take it to a charity shop just to see their faces…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please throw it in the bin. I'd be disgusted if someone used some sex toys with me that they had shared with previous partners. Sweet lord.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"So, I've recently been seeing someone but never became official, and in that time I'd bought a lot of BDSM stuff and toys. What should I do with that stuff now?

Also, when it comes to a new relationship, should I get rid of all or some of the toys?

I bought a very expensive Bluetooth controlled wearable vibrator that I don't want to get rid of!

Any advice or comments from people here please. "

clean them properly and keep them. you bought them they are yours.

Unless you gave them any as gifts, in which case, those belong to them.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

There's a weapon disposal bin by my coop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many couples stay together just for the sake of the sex toys.

This is wrong. The sex toys are not stupid. They pick up on these things.

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

Do whatever you want to do...as simple as that

they are your toys

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

"Many couples stay together just for the sake of the sex toys.

This is wrong. The sex toys are not stupid. They pick up on these things."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many couples stay together just for the sake of the sex toys.

This is wrong. The sex toys are not stupid. They pick up on these things."

This did make me chuckle!

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