FabSwingers.com forum: Meet but no chat

By *arialoue OP Woman
over a year ago

bradford

I have a meet arranged for Saturday, the thing thats bothering me is that he's not been on here or chatted with me since we arranged it last weekend I've messaged him but he hasn't read any of my messages, should I just sent him 1 last message to cancel the meet n cut my losses

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If he hasn't been on by Friday evening he's probably not going to buy some people only check fab every four or five days. Give it until Friday I'd say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe 90% cut your loses......

10% change they've been busy with life things!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I'd cut and run now.

Was the chat sexual?

They tend to wank and ignore, which is why I don't give anyone anything to wank over.

He may surprise you and message on the day, but I wouldn't hold the day free if I were you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe 90% cut your loses......

10% change they've been busy with life things!"

Chance

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By *arialoue OP Woman
over a year ago

bradford

Thanks ppl, it actually hurts more coz it's the 1st meet I've said yes to in a long time due to lack of confidence and been let down too many times

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

If I'd a meet arranged I'd expect communication leading up to it. I would make other plans

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"If I'd a meet arranged I'd expect communication leading up to it. I would make other plans "

This

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I make it clear.to.anyone I am meeting that if I don't hear from.them before and on the day I wont turn up.

I think the odds of this guy turning up are slim.tbh

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

Have you any way of contacting him off Fab?

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By *arialoue OP Woman
over a year ago

bradford

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By *arialoue OP Woman
over a year ago

bradford

Yeah thats why I thort chat at some point in the week, but this is a reason why I don't normally plan anything coz it always doesn't go through

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By *arialoue OP Woman
over a year ago

bradford

"Have you any way of contacting him off Fab?

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I have no way of contacting him off here I stopped moving chat off sites until I knew it was going somewhere been blocked loads of times

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By *ery naughty but niceMan
over a year ago

castleford

No communication means he isn't bothered in my opinion, but I really hope I am wrong because its sad when this happens. Good lucky I have my fingers crossed for you

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By *astshagMan
over a year ago

Bexhill

Sorry to hear this. Some people can be real inconsiderate idiots. Think of it as a lucky escape and enjoy searching again.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Deffo confirm on the day of meet if no response cut yr losses x

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By *arialoue OP Woman
over a year ago

bradford

"No communication means he isn't bothered in my opinion, but I really hope I am wrong because its sad when this happens. Good lucky I have my fingers crossed for you

I'm beginning to think the same, I won't be arranging anything else in the nr future

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By *eally_RosieWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I would always expect somebody who’s arranged to meet me to keep in touch, or definitely to at least respond, out of courtesy, unless they’ve said they will be in contactable for a reason.

Very few people go for days without checking their phone, so it would scream ‘timewaster’ to me

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By *arialoue OP Woman
over a year ago

bradford

Will do thanks guys

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By *arialoue OP Woman
over a year ago

bradford

Even on work days I check this site 1st thing in a morning, maybe on break if I have time n on my way home, n on n off during my evenings

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By *awty nannaWoman
over a year ago

sheffield

"I have a meet arranged for Saturday, the thing thats bothering me is that he's not been on here or chatted with me since we arranged it last weekend I've messaged him but he hasn't read any of my messages, should I just sent him 1 last message to cancel the meet n cut my losses "

Guy I've met a couple of times is like that arrange a meet, then no communication until day before the meet,

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By *IZZ_69Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Is his profile verified as there's a lot of fakes on here

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By *arialoue OP Woman
over a year ago

bradford

Yes he was verifyied that's why verifications don't really mean anything anymore

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Is his profile verified as there's a lot of fakes on here"

fake in what way?

oP - make sure you have a plan B

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

Could be any number of reasons he hasn't been on OP, I'd wait till the day before the meet to see if you hear from him, if it was me and I hadn't heard from him by then at least he'd never hear from me again and I'd find something else to do on the day of the meet. Good luck tho I hope he gets in touch.

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By *arialoue OP Woman
over a year ago

bradford

I'm already planning a plan b disappear for the day, if I Don hear from him by the time I've finished what I need to do Friday, plan b will be put in motion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you any way of contacting him off Fab?

I have no way of contacting him off here I stopped moving chat off sites until I knew it was going somewhere been blocked loads of times "

Deep down your 6th sense is telling you the signs are not healthy nor good to this point. Silense says so much without words,esp putting so much faith into somebody over just some brief messages.

Go on youtube there are many vids on Ghosting,going cold,ignoreing etc!

Being strung and putting faith into something,or someone you dont know!

Is only an image you have of them on your mind of them that you have or many build of what could be of them what we would idealy like to have!

Tbh cut the thought off,once chance,and if not haveing spoken of fab. For me its a NO!! NO!!

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By *arialoue OP Woman
over a year ago

bradford

It's fine I won't be meeting anyone off here again, if he wasn't verified I'd give meeting another go but he was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's fine I won't be meeting anyone off here again, if he wasn't verified I'd give meeting another go but he was "

Many are Duped by an image of what we percieve of what we desire,wish or would like! Esp pics,vids,etc off the net!

In this day and age,pass people in real life,or fleating moments,number ec

Exchanged what do they really mean or have value or worth!!

Because there are way too many variables for many to be Distracted and Emotions to change at a flip of a coin,and mere words do not have value.mostly view and look at peoples actions and behaviour!

Sad times ahead real in reality.

Good luck on your journey ,what ever you are really seeking OP! Be safe out there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't let him put you off meeting anyone else OP,there are loads of genuine folks on fab,just cuts your losses and forgot about him

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Every guy I've met off Fab have kept communication going and checked we're still OK to meet the day before we're due to meet, most have checked on the day too.

Sorry it's not going so well for you. I hope it turns out OK but as others have said, have a Plan B and don't let it put you off.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I'd guess it's not happening. If they go quiet it's a good sign they're not going to turn up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would always expect somebody who’s arranged to meet me to keep in touch, or definitely to at least respond, out of courtesy, unless they’ve said they will be in contactable for a reason"

Exactly this!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'd maybe send one last message & say is the meet still on & that if I don't hear anything back I won't be turning up to meet.

It takes a couple of mins to reply to someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In our experience this usually means they won’t be meeting you. They’ll pop up in a few weeks time to try and waste your time again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block and move on.

A message takes only a minute or two.

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By *ayyune2000Man
over a year ago

yorks

Yeah I would say he is wasting Ur time he would have been chatting all week if he was up for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone wasn’t making an effort to chat to me in the days leading up to meeting, I’d think they weren’t interested anymore. Forget about it and move on.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

The second any meet is arranged with a specific time and place planned we swap numbers.

That way there's contact availability off site, it doesn't matter if you have no Internet access or if you can't log on for some unforseen reason. It also enables a last minute call or message an hour before to be made to check all is still good. If there's no response from that call or text we'd not even leave home.

Leaving all contact to being on Fab leaves you wide open to being ghosted, stood up or duped. Of course chatting off site does the same, but having a number that you can use to physically speak to someone cuts down the risks considerably. It also comes in handy for emergencies and break downs en route.

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By *age500Woman
over a year ago

ashton-under-lyne

I’d cut my losses, if he’s not done this before arranging the meet then I’d suspect he just wanted the ego boost if you agreeing.

Don’t let this knock your confidence, there are plenty of decent men on here who’s love to meet you, and make the effort beforehand

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Usually if they go quiet it means they aren't that interested in meeting. I had it once and I cancelled the night before when he stopped chatting to me for a few days.I wouldn't just not show. Funny thing was an hour after we had arranged to meet he messaged asking would I be still up for it. I had being suspicious that I may have been plan b for him so asked did the other meet not work out he admitted he had been ghosted by someone else and thought I might still drive an hour to meet him. I didn't.

That was the closest I ever got to a no show on here but I trusted my instincts and took control and cancelled the meet . OP don't get one gobshite ruin your fab experience there are plenty of decent men on here.

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By *ee04Man
over a year ago

Essex

"It's fine I won't be meeting anyone off here again, if he wasn't verified I'd give meeting another go but he was "

Some on here do like to mess ppl about and get a cheap frill but there are still a lot of genuine ppl out there.

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By *arialoue OP Woman
over a year ago

bradford

I've cut my losses n told him I've changed my mind due to the lack of communication this past week,, plan b it is for Saturday

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By *arialoue OP Woman
over a year ago

bradford

Thanks for all the advice everyone

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By *londebiguyMan
over a year ago

Southport

"Thanks ppl, it actually hurts more coz it's the 1st meet I've said yes to in a long time due to lack of confidence and been let down too many times "

Just think that it's not you that has messed this up but them.

You did nothing wrong here.

They have been at best thoughtless.

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By *londebiguyMan
over a year ago

Southport

"Usually if they go quiet it means they aren't that interested in meeting. I had it once and I cancelled the night before when he stopped chatting to me for a few days.I wouldn't just not show. Funny thing was an hour after we had arranged to meet he messaged asking would I be still up for it. I had being suspicious that I may have been plan b for him so asked did the other meet not work out he admitted he had been ghosted by someone else and thought I might still drive an hour to meet him. I didn't.

How disrespectful.

Although I guess he was honest, it's disgusting that he'd think that you would be interested just to suit his wishes.

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By *arialoue OP Woman
over a year ago

bradford

Worst thing is that he was verifyied so people that are verified means nothing to me now

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Worst thing is that he was verifyied so people that are verified means nothing to me now"

I stayed in a hotel once that had great reviews. I thought it was shit and wouldnt go back if you paid me.

The point being you can't label all verified people as being in any way negative due to one muppet. It doesn't work like that.

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

"Maybe 90% cut your loses......

10% change they've been busy with life things!"

Totally agree here. Go with your gut feeling if it was me (mrs) I would send a message to cancel due to lack of response

99% cut losses 1% busy life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some blokes get carried away, often married/spoke for by advertise as single. They are eager to meet and once this is arranged they get cold feet.

If it was me coming to see you (Harry) - I'd communicate at least every couple of days just say hi, looking forward to the meet etc.

Personally, I'd look for others as you must have guys falling over themselves to meet up

Either way, I hope it works out for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some blokes get carried away, often married/spoke for by advertise as single. They are eager to meet and once this is arranged they get cold feet.

If it was me coming to see you (Harry) - I'd communicate at least every couple of days just say hi, looking forward to the meet etc.

Personally, I'd look for others as you must have guys falling over themselves to meet up

Either way, I hope it works out for you."

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

Take it the guy never responded OP

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Yeah, lousy form if he didn't.

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
over a year ago

Bourne lincs

So many on here do that. All talk and no action. Plenty of cpls say they want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Terrible if he just didn’t turn up! Hate inconsiderate people like that. How hard is it to just message and make some shitty excuse and move on

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

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By *arialoue OP Woman
over a year ago

bradford

Never heard back from him,

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Never heard back from him,"
is it 2 hours to go yet?

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By *arialoue OP Woman
over a year ago

bradford

The meet should have happened yesterday, I did message him on Friday n never heard back from him

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