FabSwingers.com forum: How long into you're marriage did you fall out of love with your wife?

By *ottom4topx OP Man
over a year ago

Derry

Do you remember the moment it happened? Of course you still love your wife but if you are on here you ain't inlove with her.

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By *ottom4topx OP Man
over a year ago

Derry

I know it's "your" for all you English teachers. I made a typo

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Very presumptuous of you to assume that everyone has fallen "out of love"

We are on here together and still very much in love.

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By *ottom4topx OP Man
over a year ago

Derry

I mean the ones who cheat. If you cheat on your wife you are not inlove with her. You love her but if you are truly inlove you would not cheat

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By *ottom4topx OP Man
over a year ago

Derry

"Very presumptuous of you to assume that everyone has fallen "out of love"

We are on here together and still very much in love."

Also if it doesn't apply to you I'm not talking to you.

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By *unarWolfMan
over a year ago

Hinckley

I'm still very much in love with my wife its just circumastances with our life is the I am on here.

We both agree that this os the best thing for us as a couple.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

My being on here is no disrespect to my partners, nor is it a statement about how I feel about them.

There are plenty of cheaters everywhere. But there's still some excellent people on here who are better than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does the same apply to gay lovers?

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I never did fall out of love with her and we were on here together for over a decade.

She did have a scowl and ferocity of something summoned by ritual sacrifice, but in all honesty I just found that sexy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very presumptuous of you to assume that everyone has fallen "out of love"

We are on here together and still very much in love.

Also if it doesn't apply to you I'm not talking to you. "

I'd soon fall out of love with you with that attitude too tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway... 13 years on... each day our love gets stronger.

There is no doubt at all to us that we will live our days out together.

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

Never fallen out of love. Just approaching our 28th anniversary and still as happy as we were when we got together

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Of course you still love your wife but if you are on here you ain't inlove with her. "

Don’t think being ‘inlove’ is a real thing, it’s just the phase when it’s all new and shiny, you either love someone by your actions, or you don’t.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

What's the difference between loving someone and being 'in love'?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Of course you still love your wife but if you are on here you ain't inlove with her.

Don’t think being ‘inlove’ is a real thing, it’s just the phase when it’s all new and shiny, you either love someone by your actions, or you don’t. "

Yes I think you're right

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Also love means different things to different people

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"What's the difference between loving someone and being 'in love'? "

Depends on the individuals. For me in love is a nesting partner I want to share my life with. Consummate love

Love is a deeply intimate emotional connection.

Commitment is the determining factor for me. A la Sternberg's triangular theory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it's not "new and shiny" to us.... our "honeymoon period" has never ended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very much still in love with my fiancé after 8 years

And don’t believe in the “honeymoon phase” either.. I still get butterflies around him, my heart jumps when he texts me, and I can’t keep my hands off him. Just like when we first met lol

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"Very much still in love with my fiancé after 8 years

And don’t believe in the “honeymoon phase” either.. I still get butterflies around him, my heart jumps when he texts me, and I can’t keep my hands off him. Just like when we first met lol"

Same, I still find Shogun sexy, smile when I see he's sent me a message and I'm happy when he walks through the door

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I didn't till after she left me. I loved her and was dedicated to her, our young family and our marriage. However I always felt in the back of my mind that something wasn't quite right, I wasn't my fully myself and certain things didn't add up. After she left I come to understand the true extent of how she gas lighted and manipulated me for all them years. How she prevented me from being my self. How she seemed to have little regard for my feelings over hers. How she mistaken my desire to work things out as an indication she could keep me and our family dangling on a string as a plan B in case it didn't work out with the other guy (she miscalculated me on that one). Basically when I truly saw her for her and how she was no good.

However (bath tub effect here) finding My Girl on here and being wiser I've been able to taste the difference. With My Girl I am truly myself. We completely open with each other. She is my best mate, drinking buddy, closest confidant, wrestling partner, tag team mate, pulling wigman, lover and soul mate all wrapped in one. I feel something more, something bigger and something I don't quite have the words to articulate with her. Something I have never had with anyone and quite frankly didn't feel was possible, just the stuff of fairy tales. I can't wait she is my wife.

So this fairy tale does have a happy ending after all. We have both been through a lot of shit with our respective ex spouces (and still do) but it's the path that has brought us together where we need to be.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I've never fallen out of love with the Mr, I've wanted to kick him a few times but he's my person.

He's my safe space, my best friend, my everything!

I still think he's fit, he has the most amazing cock I'm absolutely obsessed with, I still get butterflies when he smiles that certain way or I catch him having a little look at me and he's all smiley.

I don't believe in all this falling in and out of love because you aren't getting your leg over crap, your either willing to work and communicate or you aren't, if it's the latter then surely it's always best to end things rather than lie and hurt.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I loved my ex-wife up to the point where she rejected me and said I was never ‘the one’.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you remember the moment it happened? Of course you still love your wife but if you are on here you ain't inlove with her. "

Oh for fucks sake.

Did you read that in a Lads Bible meme?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm it had started to cool before the wedding but then picked up for while until we both decided enough was enough.

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"Do you remember the moment it happened? Of course you still love your wife but if you are on here you ain't inlove with her. "

Is this a serious question?

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By *host1100Man
over a year ago

Near Falkirk

As I signed the Register pmsl

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Do you remember the moment it happened? Of course you still love your wife but if you are on here you ain't inlove with her. "

How remarkably narrow minded of you. I wonder whether this thread is borne of bitter experience.

And this English teacher thanks you for picking up on your own typo but feels compelled to point out you misspelled haven’t. And in love. But congratulations on the rest of it.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

It's not happened yet, we've been together 19yrs

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Of course you still love your wife but if you are on here you ain't inlove with her.

Don’t think being ‘inlove’ is a real thing, it’s just the phase when it’s all new and shiny, you either love someone by your actions, or you don’t. "

Yep... Being 'in love' is a chemical reaction in your brain...

Choosing to foster love, affection and companionship through the bad times, that is truly being in love.

I love my husband, still do. That's not going to change, because we both make the choice to love each other every day.

I do exactly the same with my boyfriend.

I hope I stay 'in love with them' till we are older and greyer than we are now.

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By *ottom4topx OP Man
over a year ago

Derry

There's always one lol

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By *m A FuckerMan
over a year ago

kingswood,surrey/leysdown kent

Bout half hour

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By *ottom4topx OP Man
over a year ago

Derry

Sorry if I offended some people. I noticed my mum and dad argue alot and I can tell they aren't inlove anymore and it does break my heart. They were married 50 years so that got me curious as when is the average time for married couples to fall out of love.

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By *he_13th_ghostWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

"I mean the ones who cheat. If you cheat on your wife you are not inlove with her. You love her but if you are truly inlove you would not cheat "

First of all love and cheating aren't black or white. I loved my ex bit he was abusive emotionally distant and a pos but I couldn't do anything about it and I cheated to feel some sort of comfort.

Cheating is a number of things that don't mean you don't love someone. Its complex

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By *ablo200Man
over a year ago

sevenoaks

Still love her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love is a beautiful thing and comes in many forms.

I know from experience you can be in love with someone and still see other people.

I'm also somewhat of an expert in unrequited love.

I know many very happy and loved up couples who invite others into their relationship, it works because they are in love with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well it's not "new and shiny" to us.... our "honeymoon period" has never ended.

Compleatley agree. We still crazy in love. We just like some naughty fun.

I would never be without my wife.

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

Oh crumbs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course you still love your wife but if you are on here you ain't inlove with her.

Don’t think being ‘inlove’ is a real thing, it’s just the phase when it’s all new and shiny, you either love someone by your actions, or you don’t. "

Love mixed with infatuation?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Cheaters have feelings ya know

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’m the end the only thing I had in common with my ex Mrs was we both got married on the same day.

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By *eardedwonder999Man
over a year ago

Worcester

Looking back at it there was too many to list .. but you always end up putting a sticky plaster over the cracks ... I think the defining moment was when poured a bottle of milk over the kitchen floor and screamed at my daughters face ...at that point i knew there was no going back

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

We never should have got married, all the warning signs were there but I thought it will be different when were married.

I had checked out maybe 3 years before I left. Stopped trying to make it work and just worked every hour I could. Sex became intermittent and transactional. Not a good time.

So 13 years later I don't regret leaving. Honestly think I would be dead by now had I not left.

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