FabSwingers.com forum: Do you think

By *eeliciouschaos OP Woman
over a year ago

Wherever

having very little money to live on makes you less attractive in a Fab world?

Both in how does one feel about themselves and how others perceive them?

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I think having money worries in general, like most of us do in the current climate, makes us feel 'unattractive' inside and outside of Fab.

The attractiveness to our quality of life can be impeded with insufficient money for the basic things.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"having very little money to live on makes you less attractive in a Fab world?

Both in how does one feel about themselves and how others perceive them? "

Nope.

We never discuss bank balances with anyone else.

Our time (and finances!) are limited due to our off site life choices/work/day to day expenses but that has no bearing on how we interact on here.

We'd like to get out more but can't. We'd love to go clubbing every weekend. We'd love to book hotels regularly for all manner of shenanigans, given we don't accommodate.

But if someone made a judgement on us based on what we do for a living, the house we live in, the cars (heaps of shit that they are) we drive, the clothes we wear or anything related ro money? It would be a big enough turn off for us to lose any interest in a heartbeat.

We expect nothing from those we meet but good company and couldn't give a toss if they're millionaires or as skint as us.

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By *phialtesMan
over a year ago

Beyond the Wall

Snobbery exists, and so yes the wealth, or lack there of, can influence how someone views you as well as how you view and handle yourself.

There are plenty of horror stories of people being exploited and scammed in swinger circles for personal gain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who has very little money due to disability impeding my ability to work full time, I can't say it bothers me in relation to fab. It doesn't make me feel less attractive, and if someone finds me less attractive because of my low income then their values are simply not compatible with mine.

Nell

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Dunno if it's just me but I always assume everyone I talk to has more money than I do haha..

Probably not true but I guess it's human nature ..

P.S I don't care about anyones finances as long they are a decent human

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I don't discuss my finances with fab friends so wouldn't know.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No, I don't think I've ever or would ever discuss my income with any potential meets and I've zero idea how much the ones we've met earned.

Totally irrelevant.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not something I'd discuss with people on fab to be honest.

Some friends know more about me than others but it wouldn't bother me in the slightest if I get on with someone as to what house,car,job,money they have.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"having very little money to live on makes you less attractive in a Fab world?

Both in how does one feel about themselves and how others perceive them? "

I shouldn’t do because honestly most people really don’t care , and those that do are generally not that nice.

There’s a few that find it an issue with the types of activities / restaurants etc but not that many in my experience. Most people , if they like the person , the job, the money, the house, car - all irrelevant.

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By *eeliciouschaos OP Woman
over a year ago

Wherever

I have found recently too many people judging based on their own personal perception of “wealth”, luckily those are the people I don’t want to be around.

Great to see your responses so far, as I started to question myself on some point.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

If how much money I have etc makes me less attractive then those people aren't for me. If I was a millionaire I wouldn't not meet someone that struggles to get by.

I'm attracted to the person, it's about their personality and if I find their looks attractive, not what they have in the bank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t discuss how much we make with anyone of fab so they wouldn’t know anyway. I judge people based on my interactions with them not how much money they make or the things they own. I think a lot of people are in the same boat at the minute with money worries and being unable to do the things they enjoy.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"having very little money to live on makes you less attractive in a Fab world?

Both in how does one feel about themselves and how others perceive them? "

I don’t think (for the most part) it directly makes us unattractive to others. There may be some who judge us for the material possessions in our lives - houses, cars etc; and also the ability to travel, book hotels, have dinners out and so on. All the trappings of a well heeled life.

But I think the big effect is how we come across to others when we feel down about our own lives. If we’re feeling the pinch, we’re probably going to appear less enthusiastic and open to opportunities, purely down to stress.

Now is a good time to recognise that many people are seriously struggling and it may affect their responses and desire to interact.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Personally if the money I make had something to do with how attractive I was to someone it be an instant turn off x

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By *r.SJMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

Would never judge but almost expect to be judged, even if its not true but, when it hinders the possibilities of socials, club meets etc. It has a personal effect.

In the meanderings of my mind, it doesn't need to be discussed but can be apparent and cause insecurity and embarrassment.

Pretty sure it's not an issue for the majority of people on fab and we can all see beyond that, with personality and wit at the fore but it still takes personal effect when society as a whole casts judgement and holds wealth in higher regard than individuality.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I think money worries can affect our personal happiness. Our spirits, our self-confidence, and all of that. And our mood can affect our attractiveness. So there’s maybe an indirect link or two that way.

But worrying about money is separate from how much or how little of it we have (beyond the absolute breadline, anyway).

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By *ddkkk91Man
over a year ago

fife

I would never discuss money matters with anyone from Fab and would not ask anyone this.

However I understand where OP is coming from, people dont have to judge others by money but of what they were, what car they drive..

But if it is how they judge others, they are not for me.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I think if you don't have the disposal income that enables you to afford the practicalities of being able to meet others(travel, buying a drink, paying a share of a hotel for example) then it's probably a potential barrier

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By *eeliciouschaos OP Woman
over a year ago

Wherever

Putting money worries and stress aside, which undoubtedly affects our overall self, however it does make you feel less attractive if you need to choose between hairdresser and paying your gas bill.

I’m not talking discussing your bank balance with potential partners, I’m thinking sometimes you need more than relying on your inner beauty, if it makes sense.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I know some very wealthy people and some very poor people.

The common factor is that they are unconcerned by things like prestige and status. The ones who are wealthy most would never have a clue.

Money is not a factor for me in terms of liking people, getting on with people or attractiveness.

Those who make value judgements about people on that basis I struggle to relate to.

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By *ddkkk91Man
over a year ago

fife

"Putting money worries and stress aside, which undoubtedly affects our overall self, however it does make you feel less attractive if you need to choose between hairdresser and paying your gas bill.

I’m not talking discussing your bank balance with potential partners, I’m thinking sometimes you need more than relying on your inner beauty, if it makes sense. "

I get it but I would say it does not make me feel worse or less attractive and in my view no one should feel this way.

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By *eeliciouschaos OP Woman
over a year ago

Wherever

"I think if you don't have the disposal income that enables you to afford the practicalities of being able to meet others(travel, buying a drink, paying a share of a hotel for example) then it's probably a potential barrier "

That is exactly what I was referring to.

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London

"having very little money to live on makes you less attractive in a Fab world?

Both in how does one feel about themselves and how others perceive them? "

No, who you are is more important than what you have.

Some of the happiest people I have met have had very little.

If you are constantly worried that will not change how attractive you are, but may affect how sociable you feel.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I think it can hinder meets if you can't afford to pay for hotels if you can't accommodate.

And there are some on here who must spend a small fortune on shein for their photos. Not everyone can afford that and I can see how it would make you feel less attractive.

I know not having my hair cut can make me feel scruffy and unattractive. I can totally see how not being able to afford these things can have an impact on how you use fab

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

o like to have a mixture of poor and wealthy fwbs so I can spread the wealth. having money is not in itself a turn on but it is rather nice to be driven around in a fancy Porsche.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been treated like the lesser one and also been belittled for it. And to quite a degree as well.

One comment I received really angers me. I'd quite like to write it on a piece of paper and make him .....anyway.

I wouldn't have been bothered until that happened.

When naked in the bedroom your bank balance is not going to help either of us. So why should it matter at any other time.

To some it does, usually the ones that have the most, which are usually the ones that are arseholes about it. I hate those types with a passion.

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

"having very little money to live on makes you less attractive in a Fab world?

Both in how does one feel about themselves and how others perceive them? "

Not really as nobody would know….. if someone started asking about money on here it would be an instant red flag…

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By *eeliciouschaos OP Woman
over a year ago

Wherever

If you are constantly worried that will not change how attractive you are, but may affect how sociable you feel. "

I think you’re on point here but that’s also probably your understanding of what I mean goes beyond this very thread.

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By *essica FlabbitWoman
over a year ago

west midlands/shropshire

"As someone who has very little money due to disability impeding my ability to work full time, I can't say it bothers me in relation to fab. It doesn't make me feel less attractive, and if someone finds me less attractive because of my low income then their values are simply not compatible with mine.

Nell"

What this lady said

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By *lay 4 your plessureMan
over a year ago

Wigan

I can only speak for myself, I've been through multiple times where I've been struggling, where I've been comfortable and where I've felt reasonably well off. I've had a healthy sex life throughout each of those times. So no, finances don't affect me personally. Maybe for other it does though, I don't know.

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By *rgasmicChemistryCouple
over a year ago

east coast

"having very little money to live on makes you less attractive in a Fab world?

Both in how does one feel about themselves and how others perceive them?

Nope.

We never discuss bank balances with anyone else.

Our time (and finances!) are limited due to our off site life choices/work/day to day expenses but that has no bearing on how we interact on here.

We'd like to get out more but can't. We'd love to go clubbing every weekend. We'd love to book hotels regularly for all manner of shenanigans, given we don't accommodate.

We expect nothing from those we meet but good company and couldn't give a toss if they're millionaires or as skint as us.

A"
this is a awesome answer we don't do jogging people in or out of fab X J

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By *eeliciouschaos OP Woman
over a year ago

Wherever

"I think it can hinder meets if you can't afford to pay for hotels if you can't accommodate.

And there are some on here who must spend a small fortune on shein for their photos. Not everyone can afford that and I can see how it would make you feel less attractive.

I know not having my hair cut can make me feel scruffy and unattractive. I can totally see how not being able to afford these things can have an impact on how you use fab "

That’s exactly what I was thinking about asking this particular question.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

No…money doesn’t not make anyone more or less desirable.

We don’t discuss money - it’s not something that should come up. People’s class or status means nothing.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Money is private and should not even enter the equation.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

I don’t think money has anything to do with attractiveness either on fab or outside world

There are beautiful poor people & butt ugly rich folk

it’s just how you project yourself to the world.

I’ve found assertive, confident, charming people with good social skills come across more attractive. Physically they might not be what society deems a 10/10 but their personality and charisma is intoxicating and makes people dream to them ‘hence more attractive’

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By *eeliciouschaos OP Woman
over a year ago

Wherever

People are missing the point.

It’s not about discussing money, possessions, high paid jobs or bank balance with anyone.

It’s about how having money can make you feel and look more attractive and other way around.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

To some people I believe it matters.

I think they see poor people as lesser beings, and they don't want to be around those people.

I don't care, as long as there's a clean bed to use.

I've seen some single female and mf couple profiles asking to be wined and dined, and hinting at being treated to champagne and nice gifts.

If my financial situation puts people off it doesn't bother me. They wouldn't be getting my money anyway and I'm not here do expensive things before having sex.

I prefer to use my money for my family.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"People are missing the point.

It’s not about discussing money, possessions, high paid jobs or bank balance with anyone.

It’s about how having money can make you feel and look more attractive and other way around. "

The difference between a nice pair of brogues and a pair of tatty Adidas trainers.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I think how it affects the individuals self image is more to do with the individual than a result of the financial limitations.

Although I think it is fair to say lingerie is important to a lot of women, as is hair, makeup and nails. So I get that a lack of funds can impact womens opportunities to feel their best.

As club swingers we can see a lack of funds can impact opportunities to swing. Likewise as we are both single parents we understand not everyone can accommodate. But a lack of funds can limit your options to book alternative accommodation.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"It’s about how having money can make you feel and look more attractive and other way around. "

For me, I know money provides opportunities. Privilege. Access. Freedom. All of those things.

And yeah - those opportunities can include things like the option to make yourself look good. Nice clothes, fresh haircuts, all of that. Nice hotels when you want to use one, nice bars to meet in, all of that. And free time! And the ability to travel when you want to meet someone fab from the forums.

It’s be naive to pretend that those freedoms and opportunities don’t make a person feel good about themselves. They do. And I think feeling good about yourself is *always* attractive. Sexy, even. So long as it doesn’t tip over into arrogance.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Having meager financial means can limit your potential fab experience, as it can with most anything? Can that make you a less attractive / desirable option for someone? Potentially.

As stated, if you can't accommodate and can't afford weekends / nights away that lessens your chances of meeting people.

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

"People are missing the point.

It’s not about discussing money, possessions, high paid jobs or bank balance with anyone.

It’s about how having money can make you feel and look more attractive and other way around. "

Whhaaaattt!!! Why didn’t you say that at the beginning….

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By *ddkkk91Man
over a year ago

fife

"People are missing the point.

It’s not about discussing money, possessions, high paid jobs or bank balance with anyone.

It’s about how having money can make you feel and look more attractive and other way around. "

I think you are right, point is missed massively.

As it isnt about how big/small anyones bank balance is. And frankly people shouldnt know.

And some things like a nice haircut, nice aftershave can make you feel more attractive.

And if it at certain points, people cant have it.. it can affect their self concusiness

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

I think it has an impact in terms of a number of factors such as

Self esteem

Availability

Ability to host/co-host/share hosting costs

Travel to socials

I don’t think it makes much of a difference once the connection has been made though. As many have said I don’t think it comes up in conversation but it’s likely to be a factor in a number of areas.

Good thread Dee x

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By *eeliciouschaos OP Woman
over a year ago

Wherever

"To some people I believe it matters.

I think they see poor people as lesser beings, and they don't want to be around those people.

I don't care, as long as there's a clean bed to use.

I've seen some single female and mf couple profiles asking to be wined and dined, and hinting at being treated to champagne and nice gifts.

If my financial situation puts people off it doesn't bother me. They wouldn't be getting my money anyway and I'm not here do expensive things before having sex.

I prefer to use my money for my family.

Absolutely this ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh that's one thing I'm not worried about on here. My finances are nobody else's business

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Having meager financial means can limit your potential fab experience, as it can with most anything? Can that make you a less attractive / desirable option for someone? Potentially.

As stated, if you can't accommodate and can't afford weekends / nights away that lessens your chances of meeting people."

Very much this.

I do think you don't have to spend a lot of money to look good, you can find ways to attend things etc but it could be a factor. Money does afford you more opportunities to do things, however right or wrong that is.

I don't really care how much someone earns, if they have visible displays of wealth etc. It's more about if the other person feels confident in who they are, is happy to spend time with me.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

Money doesn't matter until it does. Having limited or money has an impact on your life and how you perceive both yourself and your relationship to others.

The current cost of living crisis and interest rates will put people under additional strain. Money doesn't buy happiness, but no money can make it harder to be happy.

I think this applies in general, not just planet fab.

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By *eeliciouschaos OP Woman
over a year ago

Wherever

"Having meager financial means can limit your potential fab experience, as it can with most anything? Can that make you a less attractive / desirable option for someone? Potentially.

As stated, if you can't accommodate and can't afford weekends / nights away that lessens your chances of meeting people."

Exactly this. And how often you can’t stand a chance with those who do.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Having meager financial means can limit your potential fab experience, as it can with most anything? Can that make you a less attractive / desirable option for someone? Potentially.

As stated, if you can't accommodate and can't afford weekends / nights away that lessens your chances of meeting people.

Exactly this. And how often you can’t stand a chance with those who do."

True. When I was meeting I spent a lot of money on travel as I reside in the channel islands. I met many people on fab because I had disposable income that enabled my hedonistic escapades. If I had been financially constrained, things would rarely have progressed beyond the online flirting.

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By *eeliciouschaos OP Woman
over a year ago

Wherever

"I think it has an impact in terms of a number of factors such as

Self esteem

Availability

Ability to host/co-host/share hosting costs

Travel to socials

Good thread Dee x"

How often though you’re not even given a chance to make a connection because you’re not able to bypass the above factors?

That’s a viscous circle.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"having very little money to live on makes you less attractive in a Fab world?

Both in how does one feel about themselves and how others perceive them? "
no how would they know?

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By *eeliciouschaos OP Woman
over a year ago

Wherever

"having very little money to live on makes you less attractive in a Fab world?

Both in how does one feel about themselves and how others perceive them? no how would they know?

Homemade shitty haircut being the prime example.

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

Yes it probably does…. hard getting meets and they say go to clubs… have you seen the prices!! (Probably should ask a single woman to join forces and get couple fee)

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I think it has an impact in terms of a number of factors such as

Self esteem

Availability

Ability to host/co-host/share hosting costs

Travel to socials

Good thread Dee x

How often though you’re not even given a chance to make a connection because you’re not able to bypass the above factors?

That’s a viscous circle. "

There will be people who only want to make a connection with those who are in a position to be able to meet

That's just fab life

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"having very little money to live on makes you less attractive in a Fab world?

Both in how does one feel about themselves and how others perceive them?

Nope.

We never discuss bank balances with anyone else.

Our time (and finances!) are limited due to our off site life choices/work/day to day expenses but that has no bearing on how we interact on here.

We'd like to get out more but can't. We'd love to go clubbing every weekend. We'd love to book hotels regularly for all manner of shenanigans, given we don't accommodate.

We expect nothing from those we meet but good company and couldn't give a toss if they're millionaires or as skint as us.

This

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By *ddkkk91Man
over a year ago

fife

"having very little money to live on makes you less attractive in a Fab world?

Both in how does one feel about themselves and how others perceive them? no how would they know?

Homemade shitty haircut being the prime example."

Everyone had them during the lockdown... or massive hair do's

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By *eeliciouschaos OP Woman
over a year ago

Wherever

There will be people who only want to make a connection with those who are in a position to be able to meet

That's just fab life "

I agree. And with those with financial ability to do so.

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By *eeliciouschaos OP Woman
over a year ago

Wherever

"having very little money to live on makes you less attractive in a Fab world?

Both in how does one feel about themselves and how others perceive them? no how would they know?

Homemade shitty haircut being the prime example.

Everyone had them during the lockdown... or massive hair do's"

There’s big difference between imposed limitation of getting out to get your hai done and not being able to afford one.

The lockdown is over but cost of living crisis is only about to take its toll.

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By *ddkkk91Man
over a year ago

fife

"having very little money to live on makes you less attractive in a Fab world?

Both in how does one feel about themselves and how others perceive them? no how would they know?

Homemade shitty haircut being the prime example.

Everyone had them during the lockdown... or massive hair do's

There’s big difference between imposed limitation of getting out to get your hai done and not being able to afford one.

The lockdown is over but cost of living crisis is only about to take its toll. "

I agree... sometimes limitation can affect everyone and you are right it can make everyone feel less attractive, it shouldnt but it can

Living crisis is hitting everyone in the pocket, especially lower earning bracket which is awful..

I get your point and can see what do you mean, especially when it comes to certain expenses like meals, hotels, even going for a social with a soft drink or getting other household bills paid or even spoiling yourself.

Either way it is shit that way

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By *lay 4 your plessureMan
over a year ago

Wigan

"People are missing the point.

It’s not about discussing money, possessions, high paid jobs or bank balance with anyone.

It’s about how having money can make you feel and look more attractive and other way around. "

The answer will vary from person to person depending on how positive their state of mind is or how superficial they are when they are in that position

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We’ve been the length and breadth of this country all in the name of this lifestyle - for socials and to meet up with friends.

We are travelling to stay in Anglesey next week for a few days soon. This weekend Nottingham.

We tend to combine our stays with vanilla stuff and we love seeing different parts of the country so it works well.

We’d be very restricted if we weren’t able to afford the trips as local people seem to be the hardest match for us.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Difficult one dee, very difficult to meet if you don't want to accommodate/can't afford half of a hotel, clubs/parties are the cheapest option for single ladies, if you want to go to them though

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By *eeliciouschaos OP Woman
over a year ago

Wherever

"Difficult one dee, very difficult to meet if you don't want to accommodate/can't afford half of a hotel, clubs/parties are the cheapest option for single ladies, if you want to go to them though"

I agree Comtessa, clubs being an option and also the safest.

A very rare treat indeed as I can’t help the guilty feeling I should’ve put money elsewhere.

So yes, it’s difficult.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I've yet to meet anyone on here who wants a weekend away, or even a meal in a half decent restaurant.

Not with me, anyway.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

You don't need a lot of money to look good. People may not wear designer clothes but that doesn't mean they are any less of a person for that. I certainly don't have anything designer even if I had the money to buy it I wouldn't anyhow. If people would look down on me for that they aren't the type of people I would want to know anyhow. I don't do snobbery.

The same for having to have expensive haircuts rather than 'shitty home ones' who am I to judge how others have their hair or what clothes they wear.As long as they are clean and a decent person that the main thing for me. Of course there are people who look down on others on here if they don't have lots of spare cash. But as I've said that says more about them than anyone else.

And yes if people are struggling financially they won't be travelling the country for fab meets and paying for hotels etc. But then I think for a lot of people fab is just a hobby and I know for me it's definitely not a priority.But if I decide to meet someone I has always paid my share of any bills that occurred.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"having very little money to live on makes you less attractive in a Fab world?

Both in how does one feel about themselves and how others perceive them? no how would they know?

Homemade shitty haircut being the prime example."
you cut your own hair?

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

I have never studied a dong and thought 'yep, that must be a £50k salary at least'.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I have never studied a dong and thought 'yep, that must be a £50k salary at least'.

Curiously.......

£50k currently equates to 1,490,219,694 Vietnamese Dongs.

That's a lot of dongs!!

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"I have never studied a dong and thought 'yep, that must be a £50k salary at least'.

Curiously.......

£50k currently equates to 1,490,219,694 Vietnamese Dongs.

That's a lot of dongs!!

...well for you, maybe.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Honestly, I read some of the posts and I really do think people are very different on the subject. I agree with the point that you need the basics covered, but even when that's stretched - I've been happy. And I can't relate to having things making me feel better about myself or more attractive.

I learnt this about myself a long time ago. I was sat at a black tie dinner on Park Lane. Having my arse kissed perpetually and I realised I can't stand this life, or the attention it attracts.

A year later I was sat on a couch in a council house, in Liverpool. Watching a girl on the floor in front of the corpy fire, ironing her hair on a towel. Chatting to me like it was nothing. Fuck straighteners who needs em. She says: 'how much we got?' as I count the slummy. I just show her and she says: 'fuck the leccy, there's nothing in the fridge anyway, we'll use candles, I'm nearly done, let's share fish and chips.' I am beaming at her in admiration. Her cheeks go pink and she says: 'what... I love you too soft-arse, go the chippy.'

I can honestly say I felt more free and happy then by multiple factors. Attractive I just don't see how it relates, other than the people I am attracted to don't give a shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't have anyone in my home so without having money to travel to meet people or occasionally book hotels I'd probably never have sex.

I certainly wouldn't discuss money with any one I meet though.

I don't think it alters how attractive or otherwise I might be to someone though, I genuinely believe where there is a will, there is a way and if there's a mutual desire to meet then it will happen.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I have never studied a dong and thought 'yep, that must be a £50k salary at least'.

Curiously.......

£50k currently equates to 1,490,219,694 Vietnamese Dongs.

That's a lot of dongs!!

...well for you, maybe.

Too many commas in that number for me..

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

I know some lovely wealthy people and one or two areseholes.I know some lovely people on low incomes/benefits and some aresholes.I know millionaires that look like tramps and people on low incomes who look like film stars.Personally,it matters not to me.Money is just a thing,it's the person with it or not that counts.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Having read most of the comments... It's kind of 50/50.

I can't work due to health issues, say I have little to no money to spend on luxuries. I don't get my hair and nails done, I do that myself, so I could probably look better, but that doesn't seem to stop people finding me attractive.

It would be great to have the freedom to travel a bit more, I'd like to see new places and meet more new people.

Most guys don't seem to have an issue doing the traveling though, only one recently made a fuss about getting his hair cut and the price of petrol for a social...

I've never expected to be taken out for dinner, have things bought for me, but I do get plenty of offers!

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"having very little money to live on makes you less attractive in a Fab world?

Both in how does one feel about themselves and how others perceive them? "

Yes, very clearly. If you can't afford to do the right things, look the right way, or be in the right places, you're not going to get anywhere.

Snobbery and classism is rife throughout British society as a whole, and Fab is no exception.

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