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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do you deal with it?

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Loneliness is a passing emotion.

Almost like a craving for cigarette.

It comes and goes.

Stay positive, things might not be great... but that doesn't mean you can't be.

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

Probably not best advice but personally I normally end up in someone's bed,

whatever you do pal don't deal with it using the bottle took me years learn that alcohol wasn't the way deal with empty or loneliness

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

"How do you deal with it?"

Im used to it now just rely on myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Working night shift with very few people, of which I don't care to speak to I get very lonely

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By *eliciousDiva69Woman
over a year ago

Schitts Creek

"How do you deal with it?"

Depends on the reason for feeling lonely.

I can feel my most lonely in a crowd. I have different coping mechanisms depending on the reason - sometimes I just embrace it by going on long walks, other times I’ll reach out to friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just occupy myself with things to do really.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Do things you enjoy, be creative , fill you time with things you enjoy.

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By *unnyman84Man
over a year ago

maidstone

I normally tug myself about

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

Find things to occupy your mind,if it occupies your body too,bonus.

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

I came to the conclusion that most people are annoying cunts...so being on my own is a plus..

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By *9XAYNOR69Man
over a year ago

Centralised he/him/his From the land of haribos

It's a difficult one and one that it's difficult to talk about.

For me since lockdown and yes I worked through it.

At times its like I'm still in lockdown.

Still working full time and a mix of shifts doesn't help.

Family friends I think are in the same position.

If I don't make contact with them, it could be months before I hear anything from them. And when I do hear from them normally something has happened.

As for dealing with it. I get on with it

I'm alone, but am I lonely? Honestly it's 50/50.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

I just remind myself that our time on this planet is very short,even when you are lonely your never really alone there's life all around us in different forms we can choose to ignore it or seek beauty and life, appreciate everything.

I've been lonely my entire life even though I have a ,wife and children, now I am comfortable with solitude and actually prefer my own company to the company of others.

Luckily my wife is my best friend

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By *neakypeaky30Man
over a year ago

Midlands

Distraction! Find something else to occupy your mind so you don't think about it. It does pass

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I've never ever felt lonely until this last week! Lost my very loyal dog a week ago today! He was constantly by my side at home! X

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"I've never ever felt lonely until this last week! Lost my very loyal dog a week ago today! He was constantly by my side at home! X"

My sympathies, it's not easy. You've experienced a loss of a constant companion. It's only natural you'll feel their absence. I've been there.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"How do you deal with it?"

Back when I was single, my strategy was always to be proactive. I would go out and do things rather than just sitting about at home. Just being around others gives more opportunity for interaction.

Cal

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
over a year ago

In the clouds

Whats your definition of lonely?

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By *929Man
over a year ago

newcastle

Having The dog is a massive help love lying with him at night chilling watching telly once everything done. A dog is always happy and excited to see you when you come home and it really does make a difference. I literally can’t put into words how much I love my dog haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try find things to pass the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you deal with it?"

I don’t. I ignore it now. Thanks for the reminder.

I fill that void of company with things. Fab, for my social media for conversation . Gardening/plants for some kind of connection. Music for lifting my soul… and other stuff. But it’s the silence and thoughts that will kill my vibe.

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By *hin_chillinWoman
over a year ago

secret location Cork

"Having The dog is a massive help love lying with him at night chilling watching telly once everything done. A dog is always happy and excited to see you when you come home and it really does make a difference. I literally can’t put into words how much I love my dog haha

Absolutely agree with you.... I’ve got 2 dogs and they genuinely are the best company. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel a distinction between being alone and feeling lonely. One is switching the light off, knowing where the light is. The other feels like fading light and soon it’s night while you were still making day plans.

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

"I came to the conclusion that most people are annoying cunts...so being on my own is a plus..

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Its very difficult to deal with loneliness, there's no instant solution. There are things you can do to work towards feeling less lonely though. Find a way to meet people e.g. hobby clubs, volunteering, getting a second job in a bar etc look for social groups on Facebook and give those a try. The chances are that at first you'll feel more lonely until you establish one or two friendships.

Hope you find a resolution op.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

I have come to accept that there periods every month that I am going to be lonely or choose to be alone it is what it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Invest in yourself, loneliness is a craving for company yet you cannot explain it, so put some time into you, discover who you are, read books, exercise that brain, learn new skills, go for walks in the countryside, far too much negativity about being on your own, they will tell you that you are lonely, they will tell you that you need to be with someone, horseshit is what that theory is, you are fully able to cope with being on your own, you just don’t know it, good luck OP go out and discover you, failing that ….. have a good wank and get to the pub, there’s people there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never ever felt lonely until this last week! Lost my very loyal dog a week ago today! He was constantly by my side at home! X"

Sorry for your loss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to identify why i am lonely or why i feel lonely. Then address the issue as best i can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find activities i can do on my own - walking, reading, gym, hiking, listening to music etc. I'm also joining hiking clubs - seems like a good way to meet new people.

I like audio books as they feel like company and you can lose yourself for a little while... I try to listen to them whilst walking, so I'm not staring at the 4 walls all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Oh yeah. Still sometimes 4 years on.

There's never really been a solution other than take the pain.

It's just not as gut-wrenchingly harrowing now. I can never work out whether that's because it's lessened or I am just used to it.

Maybe it's both.

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By *phialtesMan
over a year ago

Beyond the Wall

Copious amounts of bad food

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

I spend time editing two of myself into photos so I have a friend

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By *ohndom2023Man
over a year ago

Hastings/Greenwich

"I've never ever felt lonely until this last week! Lost my very loyal dog a week ago today! He was constantly by my side at home! X"

There is nothing anyone can say or do to fill the void that has opened in your heart.

You have my condolences and be assured it will get better.

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By *ush12345Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

Work through it, you will come out the other side a better person!.

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By *ush12345Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

"I've never ever felt lonely until this last week! Lost my very loyal dog a week ago today! He was constantly by my side at home! X That's so sad!.

There is nothing anyone can say or do to fill the void that has opened in your heart.

You have my condolences and be assured it will get better."
....... That's so sad!. That's sounds like grief to me!.take care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a passing emotion for me, it never stays.

When I get the chance to be alone I absolutely relish indulging in self care, a book or movie.

Some days though I do genuinely miss someone but only ever for a while.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

there are so many social activities you could do. book clubs, classes, meetups. best of luck and happy to chat if it would help.

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By *essica FlabbitWoman
over a year ago

west midlands/shropshire

I listen to my favourite music x

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"I've never ever felt lonely until this last week! Lost my very loyal dog a week ago today! He was constantly by my side at home! X

My sympathies, it's not easy. You've experienced a loss of a constant companion. It's only natural you'll feel their absence. I've been there. "

Ty x

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"I've never ever felt lonely until this last week! Lost my very loyal dog a week ago today! He was constantly by my side at home! X

Sorry for your loss!"

Ty x

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"I've never ever felt lonely until this last week! Lost my very loyal dog a week ago today! He was constantly by my side at home! X

There is nothing anyone can say or do to fill the void that has opened in your heart.

You have my condolences and be assured it will get better."

Ty x

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"I've never ever felt lonely until this last week! Lost my very loyal dog a week ago today! He was constantly by my side at home! X That's so sad!.

There is nothing anyone can say or do to fill the void that has opened in your heart.

You have my condolences and be assured it will get better........ That's so sad!. That's sounds like grief to me!.take care

Ty x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go out and do a bit of retail therapy or book a trip somewhere.

I used to be tempted to seek out some company via meets but those just served to remind me why I choose to be alone.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Never feel it. I like peace and quiet with no drama so comfortable in my own company.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Genuinely didn’t expect so many replies. Thank you everyone

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

I find someone to fuck.

And then after a while I get bored of their company and remember why I enjoy being single.

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

"Invest in yourself, loneliness is a craving for company yet you cannot explain it, so put some time into you, discover who you are, read books, exercise that brain, learn new skills, go for walks in the countryside, far too much negativity about being on your own, they will tell you that you are lonely, they will tell you that you need to be with someone, horseshit is what that theory is, you are fully able to cope with being on your own, you just don’t know it, good luck OP go out and discover you, failing that ….. have a good wank and get to the pub, there’s people there "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never feel it. I like peace and quiet with no drama so comfortable in my own company."

Same here

I close the door and that’s me..totally chilled

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By *eliciousDiva69Woman
over a year ago

Schitts Creek

"Genuinely didn’t expect so many replies. Thank you everyone "

I think this is testimony that you’re not alone, but the feeling of loneliness is something you need to work through and determine the cause. My inbox is always open for people who are struggling and need someone to listen

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

At this point I'm convinced that my loneliness is mostly down to my own doing. My own loneliness, nobody else's lonely situation.

It is the vicious cycle of being lonely causing a lack of motivation, but despising the loneliness.

When it hits I just roll with it. Sit on it and wait for it to pass in my own ways.

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

I like being alone but not sure of the loneliness….two can be a crowd and I’m sure I can start an argument in a room with just me…..

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

For me I get waves of loneliness.When it first started I didn't know what to do.But I have learnt that actually being alone & being with it has actually helped me.And I now don't feel so unhappy about this.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

It’s the great mystery isn’t it, you can still feel lonely in the most fulfilling relationship and with a huge circle of friends and activities. Something is missing and it can be hard to figure what it is. If you’re lucky you just need to get laid regularly

I think I was probably the least lonely when I was in church community in my twenties focussed on fixing the world!

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By *J2020Man
over a year ago

somewhere

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By *J2020Man
over a year ago

somewhere

I broke up with my X of over 20 years , some time ago , never got used to it , have some good friends and work mates , but there is an empty void left , and that is what gets me .. the habits of living with someone , company and someone to talk to , even just to chat total nonsense .

I’ve mullered most streaming services , read books , listened to music until my ears bleed , and it helps in the moment , but never fills the hole .

When I was ready to start dating again , I tried dating apps but it’s bland to say the least and a minefield of fakery .There is no easy answer , it’s just one of those things that sucks but just love in hope that someday I’ll find someone to share time with .

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By *arialoueWoman
over a year ago

bradford

I've gotten used to the loneliness now don't bother me as much as it used to the onlt time I really spend time with people is at work n that's enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kind of used to it now after over a decade alone since divorce. No friends to call on so I guess I've just accepted that I'll be alone for the rest of my life.

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